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As of late, I’ve been noticing a trend where ppl are referring to dark-skinned monoracial black girls as Eurocentric. I’ve started to realize that these girls are leveling this towards a variety of women with a variety of facial features.

Initially, I saw it used against women like Chelly & Olandria from LI, Ryan Destiny, Justine Skye, Doechii, SZA, and Anok Yai, ESPECIALLY. The thing is those who are claiming these fully black women are Eurocentric and appealing to the white beauty standard will still simultaneously constantly uplift, pedestalize, and idolize racially ambiguous (literally HALF EUROPEAN ppl, mind you!) biracial women like Zendaya, Chase Infiniti, Latto, Pink Pantheress, Manon, and Tyla far more than these Eurocentric black women. They’ll fight you tooth & nail that these biracial women are just as black as they are, and that “blackness can come in all shades and sizes”.

It’s a misuse of the word, there’s a conversation to be had about featurism & colorism within the community without a doubt but this particular discourse feels a bit disingenuous to me. It’s unintentionally making the beauty of unambiguouslyblack women synonymous with whiteness, which honestly seems anti-black within itself.

listen, I don’t hate being black. I could never imagine myself being another race. But being on the Internet as a black teenage girl is exhausting sometimes

you either got men pretending to like you because their views are down, or men going into whole entire tirades as to why they wouldn’t want to date you. the self-hating black girls that say “the white girls always win” when you are feeling attractive even for one second. those posts that say “everything is better in black except girls.” we are somehow on everybody’s minds rent free and we don’t do shit to anybody.

I am not sure if anyone experienced this but being the only black person in band sucks, especially in a predominantly non-black school. For context, I am 1st chair and the only black person in the best band in school and I enjoy concert(sitting down) band a lot, but I have always hated marching band ever since I joined it freshmen year.

After experiencing marching band for 3 yrs so far, I noticed it doesn’t get better. My section keeps on saying the n-word, makes racist jokes around me knowing how it makes me feel. And I somehow get put as the “butt of the joke” when I’m talking to a group of people, it is annoying. For example, I could talk to one individual and it could be the smoothest, nicest convo, then all of the sudden their friend(s) join the convo and I am somehow a joke in some shape or form. So now I barely have anyone to talk to bc 1. I know how they view me 2. I stop talking to them/become extremely dry towards them—-which results in me talking to no one and being by myself during football games or lunch. Ultimately, I just look like a loser junior—upcoming senior-- with no friends, what underclassmen would look up to that?

Because of all of those factors listed above, I am thinking about quitting marching band. But my problem is that I’m not sure if I’m overreacting and that I might get fomo. Additionally how would I explain to my all white directors the racism?? I just felt like I needed to let this out.

To anyone reading this and relates to this, you heard.

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In particular those of you who work in healthcare.

I start a job tomorrow at a rehabilitation facility and from going there on my interview and orientation I am the only black person that works there.

How do y’all deal with the micro and macro aggression from them(residents and coworkers)?

I’m just trying to save money and apply to a program at the college nearby and I don’t want to let prejudice trash stop me from my goals but I also prioritize my mental, emotional,and physical health and wouldn’t stay at a place where they were impacted.

Ugh I never knew how good I had it living in a diverse city. Can’t wait to be done with schooling and leave.

I remember reading “who am I without him?” By Sharon G flake and it impacted me in so many ways. It definitely shaped the way I think about sex and my virtue as a young black girl living in the south. The stories were so real to me because I knew a girl it woman who behaved this way about the men in their lives.

i know yall really hate this topic but tbh I really don’t like seeing young black girls with wigs in general but when it’s a blonde wig it especially makes me cringe. I’ve been noticing a lot of these girls with blonde wigs glued to their head and it makes me sad because it’s almost like saying “I wish I was a white woman with blonde hair” without actually saying. not to mention, it also looks ridiculous because black people obviously cant grow blonde hair out of their heads naturally.

it saddens me that some black mothers are genuinely buying these wigs for their daughters and putting it into them that the features of other women are better than theirs.

It’s never the Margo Robbie’s of the world or actual beautiful white women. It’s always some 5/10 mid or overweight in the white community who will cosplay us.

Hang around us because they get their self asteem from colorism / racism. They fully understand the dynamics of the black community and they cosplay us to take advantage of that.

The very weak pedestal they stand on is one that deems black as inferior to white and they know this. And one of the biggest lies they will say is that they “love” black men. Be serious.

When the real truth is no one “loves” black men more than a woman who doesn’t fit the beauty standard in her community.

Why is our community a dumping ground for ugly rejects of their own race? I hate them so much.

And they always have this dumb pout “stush” look on their face with their jelled “sticky bangs” attached to their foreheads.

I know they get their karma always because that pedastal is a bunch of lies and triangulation and we all see the results they get.

I don’t understand why black women even hang around them.

We are so imitated and copied and I’m so sick of it. I know it’s wrong but even if I detect a non black women acts like is I don’t even want to engage. Racist MF’s

Am I the only one who has picked up on the slight uptick of divestors on this sub... I know it's them because they have a certain way of voicing their opinion (demeaning and belittling black women)

It's packaged as this sort of tough love to black women but it's very clear they're just rewording red pill talking points...

Growing up I wanted to go to an Hbcu and be an AKA or Delta but plans changed I ended up going to a trade school. When I was younger I was around people who were in sororities so it was a common thing, but then we moved and it wasn’t as big a deal and I lost that drive to want to join. I didn’t really care much or I told myself I didn’t care, but now that I’m helping my younger cousin get into college and we’re looking at different sororities and going to events I kind of miss the sisterhood I could have had.

I don’t regret a lot but this is one thing I wish I would have done and I’ve actually been looking into how to pledge outside of college. I know the route is a bit different but I think I’d like to try.

Anyone in a sorority and what’s it like? If Not, would you like to have been?

So, I recently started working as a cashier at a higher-end grocery store that focuses on organic and specialty products. It’s definitely on the pricier side, and I’m still getting used to the environment.

I mostly try to have very little interactions with my coworkers , I try to do my job and go home. Work besties = drama for me almost every time. Anyways , one of my coworkers is an older Black guy…. Maybe mid 50’s Idk, idc.

So today , I’m on my register and this heavy set Asian woman comes up to my register and says “Baby you must be new” “I’m the manager for ___ department”. So I said oh okay nice to meet you…. Very cringed though because All I hear is blaccent, blaccent , blaccent being thrown at me. Then my coworker the Black guy comes up next to her and she’s all calling him husband every 3 seconds. “Husband you finna buy these cookies for me” husband this and husband that, mind you he said no because “ he always buys her cookies” . So embarrassing. Anyways, so one of the cookies rung up the wrong price . Then she states “That’s rung up wrong, that has the wrong barcode !” Which it did and I found the right price for it. I then followed up with a joke saying how expensive the store is and how I didn’t notice the price because everything is pricey. She’s immediately goes “Baby don’t say the store is price when customers are around “ yeah don’t do that “ while her husband is just looking. Like get a grip I’m new and didn’t know I couldn’t say certain things.

I think she was showing out and the whole interaction was weird asf. Idc your husband is black . I’m not throwing at you my bf is White or Asian. It’s unnecessary when other women use a blaccent just because they are with a Black guy. It’s very much so weird and classless. No one wants your man and it’s unnecessary husband or not. Anyways I just wanted to vent about these weird interactions I have with other women who date black guys.

April has been a brutal and horrendous month of violence against Black women by their partners and in one case by her son.

We need to have this conversation about the safety of our sisters and the harm that comes from the Black men in their lives.

NBC Washington provided more context

-m*rder-suicide happens 11X/week

- There are 800-1000 victims annually

- 2/3 are romantic partners

- 92% 𝙢𝙖𝙡𝙚 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙥𝙚𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙨

- > 70% white male

- 86% gun violence

* Sources: NBC Washington, who used Columbia University School of Public Health & the Violence Policy Center in DC.

My sisters ❣️😭

Dr. Cerina Fairfax, a mother to two children and a dentist serving Fairfax County, was shot and k*lled by her husband, former Virginia Lt. Gov. Justin Fairfax, according to police. He then turned the gun on himself.

Pastor Tammy McCollum was shot and k*lled by her husband Eddie McCollum. He stated that he fatally shot her during an argument inside their North Carolina home. (They were married for more than 30 years)

Florida Vice Mayor Nancy Metayer Brown was k*lled by her husband, Stephen Bowen. He has been charged with premeditated murder in what police have called a “domestic violence incident."

Content influencer Ashly Robinson (aka Ashlee Jenae) died in Zanzibar under mysterious circumstances. She was visiting there with her new fiancée Joe McCann, an American crypto trader. During the trip, the couple had moved into separate villas because of “domestic conflicts.” McCann is being questioned by the police and they are holding his passport.

Detroit rapper Qualeshia “Saditty” Barnes was shot and k*lled in Atlanta in her Range Rover. She was 14 weeks pregnant. It has been reported that she was allegedly shot by her boyfriend who did not want her to keep the baby as he feared it would end his marriage.

Davonta Curtis, a trans woman from Chicago, was beaten to death in her apartment by her boyfriend Deandre Bell, her on-again, off-again boyfriend. According to reports, Bell allegedly googled “how to kill someone with a hammer” and “if a person gets hit in the head with a hammer while sleeping what happens” before murdering Curtis.

Barbara Deer, a licensed speech pathologist who worked almost two decades with Chicago Public Schools, was shot and k*lled by her son who then turned the gun on himself. She was committed to carrying on the legacy of her late husband, Cook County Commissioner Dennis Deer.

We need to speak their names and uplift their stories

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Let me just start off by saying this is not a fetish post I have plenty of interaction with black girls IRL and online I'm not looking for engagement.

and not just blacks so my burning question is do we like race play?, is it common for men to text you specifically white men with that whole power dynamic and do any of you fetishize white men being tall strong nice facial structure etc? just a question hi again.

turned 20 the other week been into it since I was younger, any questions I'm all ears.

So I’m still a supporter of VP Harris to a fault and numerous other Black Democratic Politicians. Yet I’m seriously over how people use black women for there agenda and disrespect us so frequently and regularly. Especially White Liberals, Immigrants, Palestinians, & etc. The Democratic Party doesn’t prioritize Black Women or push for anything that specifically benefits us and doesn’t even want us to be the leaders of the coalition. Black Women benefit the least from voting democrat yet Jewish People, Immigrants, Ukrainians, Palestinians, & etc reap the benefits of our labor. This consistent disrespect makes me want to leave the coalition. Then to see the racist disrespect that Jasmine Crockett, Stacey Abrams, Kamala Harris have received especially when they put other communities above themselves. Something I’ve learned from 2024 is to be selfish and at this point I don’t really care about issues unless they directly impact me. I have this conversation with my friends and family in my daily life and I wondered if this is something that many have felt or been feeling as of late.

I am never enough of one group, I am constantly confused with what group I am. What is going on? 😭

I am half white, and half Nigerian. Born and raised in America, my mother was born in Nigeria, raised in America.

But what am I, African American or Nigerian American I cannot ever tell.

As my family didn't come here during the Trans-Atlantic slave trade I am told I cannot be African American. But at the same time, It is very hard to learn about Nigerian culture with my mother being raised in America because she rarely brings it up. And my grandmother is of course in Nigeria, and there is this feeling of shame in having to ask about my own culture. I am not Nigerian enough. On top of being half white.

I don't look like the stereotypical mixed girl either. All of my cousins who are also mixed have loser curls and lighter complexions, skinnier too. Meanwhile I tan deep and have 4b hair, which I think is pretty neat. It's good for braids

And of course I am not always 100% accepted into black spaces because growing up mixed with a 1st generation parent is different than mixed with an "African American" parent. I am learning a lot of black culture which I feel like I connect to more than I "should." But I think that's also partially because a lot of black culture has its similarities in Nigerian culture imo.

On top of all that, it is on me as the oldest woman in my generation of the family to at least learn some traditions before it dies out, or at least the food. The food is sooo good. And I'm gonna learn more African American recipes aswell.

I just feel like my hand is in every pie, Nigerian, African American, white, but belong to none.

I’m trying to do a research paper on black women stereotypes (jezebel, mammy, and sapphire) and I’m looking for more modern/2000s examples for this paper. If you can list some examples from Tyler Perry movies or movies where these stereotypes are present please that would be helpful 🙏🏾. I don’t know if I’m alone on this but I heavily dislike his movies but I don’t mind examples that aren’t from them, thank you!

I work in a beauty department- and my managers want everyone to present a “Ted Talk” style product demo in front of customers and employees tomorrow. I literally am shaking so bad right now ya’l 😩. Now I love working with customers and building client relationships but I hate speaking in front of crowds ! I’m 27 and haven’t had to do a presentation since like high school lol.

I’m not the only one who is really nervous about this and I just feel like my managers are doing the most ya’l 😭😭. What do you think ?

A man in my family got with a WW. They’ve known each other for like 10 years and they have two kids together. This man in my family used to have a lot of self‑hate about himself and his skin color. He hung out almost only with white people and would sometimes make racist jokes about Black women and Africans. They moved into a very white neighborhood, the kind they describe as “not ghetto.”

But I don’t know what happened in his head, for the past few years he’s really become aware of his identity and his Blackness. He started reading books by Black sociologists, learning about our culture, and he even wants to visit our home country. He even started growing locs, when he used to shave his head completely all the time.

I recently found out he’s no longer with his wife, and even though they both gave different explanations, I think she didn’t like the fact that he was reconnecting with his culture, especially since it started becoming more present than hers. I’m not gonna lie, whenever I talked to her, I always felt like she had some conservative ideas and she’d make little comments that I felt like I was the only one picking up on :/

There’s also another guy, my cousin told me about him. He also started reconnecting with his culture, he’s almost got a Dr. Umar mindset now, and he argues with his wife all the time because of it. What really makes me sad in all of this is the kids…

What are some things you switched up or added to your lifestyle once you hit a certain level of stability? Could be a service, a habit, a standard you set — anything.

I'll go first: I made sure all my healthcare providers are Black. Doctor, dentist, therapist — all of it. Absolute game changer for how comfortable and heard I feel.

I also have an “investment” budget. I set money aside to invest in myself in different ways. For example, I want to learn golf so I used funds to buy lessons.