Notice a pattern from BM in my family
A man in my family got with a WW. They’ve known each other for like 10 years and they have two kids together. This man in my family used to have a lot of self‑hate about himself and his skin color. He hung out almost only with white people and would sometimes make racist jokes about Black women and Africans. They moved into a very white neighborhood, the kind they describe as “not ghetto.”
But I don’t know what happened in his head, for the past few years he’s really become aware of his identity and his Blackness. He started reading books by Black sociologists, learning about our culture, and he even wants to visit our home country. He even started growing locs, when he used to shave his head completely all the time.
I recently found out he’s no longer with his wife, and even though they both gave different explanations, I think she didn’t like the fact that he was reconnecting with his culture, especially since it started becoming more present than hers. I’m not gonna lie, whenever I talked to her, I always felt like she had some conservative ideas and she’d make little comments that I felt like I was the only one picking up on :/
There’s also another guy, my cousin told me about him. He also started reconnecting with his culture, he’s almost got a Dr. Umar mindset now, and he argues with his wife all the time because of it. What really makes me sad in all of this is the kids…