The fatphobia bothers me
I really don't get how a lot of people with restrictive disorders, or disorder eating are so fatphobic. And it just bothers me.
From my perspective, I can't understand why people are like that.
like for a lot of us, the reason we wanna lose weight is because we want more positive interactions with people, that we think we can get from altering our appearance.
And maybe this is just my personal experience, but also being scared that people would find you undesirable for your weight or what you would look like naked.
So then why don't we see other fat people and at the very least pity or sympathize with them. like they probably deal with a lot of the shame we have, and doesn't that make you want to protect them?
the same way how girls will ask for advice on not so healthy ways to lose weight and a lot of us might try to advize them "hey that's not gonna help you dont wanna go that route" (although a lot of y'all need to be nicer with how you say it.) How come in the same way we don't try to protect fat people from hating themselves because of some subjective standard. Why do we encourage it When we know the same things would literally tear us apart? Why would we want someone to hurt the way we do, and be the cause of the insecurities we have.
I really hate the beauty standard, and maybe that's just me, and still I'm going to reach for it. And it *does* make me competitive, but it's just so messed up how a lot of people with literally push their own demons onto others. A lot of us are just bad people.