r/Crushes

Okay so i (15f) and the guy ive been "talking to" (16m) have set up lunch together tomorrow, the issue is... wve never talked in real life, like maybe a hi but thats it.

Weve been talking on insta for a few weeks and both said were too shy and we gotta just deal w it and talk to eachother so now were going to talk during lunch period.
Any advice on how to not be awkward/terified? i genuinely feel like im gonna throw up i get so scared by this guy lol.
Were both super quiet and im just scared itll be super awkward

We are both in Highschool and in the same grade. There's this boy, 'A'. I've been very good friends with him for a year. We talk everyday and he often stays up late to talk to me even when his bedtime is 11pm.
So this is why I think he likes me:

• He notices my reactions instantly and remembers small details about me (sometimes he forgets but yeah)
• If we have a fight, he usually apologizes first.
• He said our connection “matters to him a lot” ?
• He’s very gentle/patient with me during arguments instead of rude or egoistic (very crazy for a teenager boy)
• He smiles around me but he also smiles at everyone so it's not that crazy.
• He keeps diy gifts from me to him safe and carries them with him if he can.
• Crocheted me a flower keychain.

But he has never gotten jealous or even been bothered if I mention any guy around him. And when I asked him if he liked anyone, he said "nah"
So I wonder if I'm thinking too much about this and he's just friendly or he actually likes me?

There are 2 people who I really like but I don't know what to do.

My brain just keeps switching between who i have a preference for and its driving me nuts because like I'll just be sitting there happily thinking about Person X and then I'll be like "yeah, but remember this about person Y?" And then it changes and it's really annoying.

I'm closer with X, and know them better, but evertime I interact with Y I just feel like there's more of a... like a connection?? But because i know X better and because they know me better I assume I stand a better chance with them but I don't know......... And I like them both pretty much equally, it's just I don't know Y as well, and we don't see each other as much.

It's just been driving me crazy for like a month and i honestly don't think I'm ever going to confess to either of them, so I'm just gonna be stuck and sad like this for a while :')

And I wouldn't want to confess to both of them because that might just come off as weird, especially if they both like or don't like me back

Ah well i guess that's just how it works sometimes.

Thank's for reading my ramblings lol I hope you have better luck than me

Also if anyone has any advice it would be appreciated, but also I don't really think there's much to say..

I’ll update but basically two of my friends went up to him last week and asked him if he was interested in anyone. He said he wasn’t at the moment.
But my friends said that someone has a crush on him and they wanted to know (btw I kinda didn’t know they were gonna do that)
But he started asking stuff and messaged one of them asking if he could at least know what classes he has with them and I have my friend the ok yestarday to tell him. Lowk tho we only had one same class last semester🥹

So uh now imma confess to him today over text cuz I don’t wanna leave him trying to figure out who it is😭 I honestly know he probebly just sees me as a friend but I’m still a little scared he’s gonna be disappointed it’s me…🫠🫠 like he was expecting someone prettier or like idk better

Anyways here’s what imma send to him:
Hey so I figured I should be the one to tell you I’m the one who has a crush on you.
I’m not expecting anything from telling you this, I just wanted to be honest before school ends.  And I hope this doesn’t make things awkward because I’ve genuinely enjoyed being friends with you. 

Idk if I should edit it or not

ILL IPDATE WHEN HE RESPONDS
I’m so scared😭

I’ve only liked him for like maybe 4-5 weeks but tomorrow is the last day of school so I’m just shoot my shot. He is REALLLLLLLLLLLLYYYYYYYYY smart but he’s kinda shorter than me (who isn’t though?? lol) and he’s Vietnamese and wears glasses... hehehe I’m scraedddd wish me luck!!

Heres my game plan:

I told my friend (let’s call her X) that I like him because X is the type of girl to tell your crush that you like them whether you still like them or not. Because of this, she is going to tell him tomorrow. however I told her that I don’t care if you tell him as long as you do it at the very end of the day like before we leave.

Upvote for an update!!

So I just confessed that I have a crush on them (and mentionted it's just a happy crush). He has a girlfriend btw. And so I don't have any intention on pursuing him, I just wanted to be honest and let him know. But is it a big deal? confessing to a guy who has a gf? Cos ik for sure that I'm NOT a threat lol. And I've never crossed boundaries either. So why result to him not answering my simple question with even just a "yes" or "no"?

Hi all.

I have had a crush for a year or two now. I think about them constantly, and I am afraid it might be some form of dopamine addiction.

I don't want tob pursue this crush(I'm in a monogamous relationship).

I don't mind having crushes, but this one is borderline infatuation. Imagining all sorts of fake scenarios with them, interpreting little things they do(like stroking their watch, etc) as romantic.

I have been going through some traumatic things in my life and my relationship has been on the rocks(in fact we are currently separated), so thinking about this person has been very pleasurable and I'm afraid it might be some sort of psychological escape/coping mechanism.

How do you all deal with this type of thing? I do think the feelings thst I feel for this person are real, but maybe my sense of romanticism is overblown.

I have a huge crush on a guy and I'm not able to get over him even if I have tried multiple time as he's exactly my type. It's been a year since we met, we had only 4-5 interactions, talked a little he seemed a little interested in me when we met but also he just might be friendly like that. But he didn't do anything about it. Then I moved to a different city and never saw him again. After 6 months I stalked him on Instagram and found his id and sent a request. I deleted the request after 3 days as he didn't do anything about it. Maybe he didn't saw it or recognize me as he only knew my 1st name. And here I am after more than a year still not able to move on and not able to like anyone else after him. So my question is that should I send him a request again 6 months after I sent it first? Just to get my closure and to move on!

Since I started taking classes at the university there’s this guy that drives me crazy, every time I see him I blush and can’t conjure any words to say to him. The problem is this guy is that he’s the complete opposite of me. He’s really lazy, doesn’t pay attention in class, and barely passes the tests we have. I have talked to him 2 times but he always talks to me on exam days, what can I do to make him like me?
To add to this he’s three years older than me and so much cooler. I don’t know what to do about it because I already talked to my friends but non of them get that I literally freeze every time he’s near me and I just stand there looking like an idiot with a crush.

a bit different than the usual happy posts here. i fell for my first love back in 2022 and switched schools to forget him.

tell me why it's 2:31 a.m rn and i genuinely felt my heart sink.. i realized that i always choose takoyaki flavor when we're eating unlimited wings, and my friends make fun of me for it (in a loving way).

AND FUCK I JS REMEMBERED THAT TAKOYAKI WAS HIS FAV FOOD (i used to write everything abt him in my notes, such as his favorites..)

OMD YALL FUCK MY LIFE IT DOESN'T GET BETTER IT'S 2026 AND I'M THINKING OF HIM STILL, EVEN AFTER LIKING OTHER PEOPLE.

TLDR: My Gym Crush never looked at me until now. Why is it that when you are no longer interested in someone, they're suddenly interested in you?

Story time:
So I had a crush on him ever since the first time I saw him at the gym (January). He looks like the younger version of Dohoon from TWS, but with glasses. Fell for him because he was cute and soft spoken and chill, just teaching his friend proper form.

I see him once a week or once every 2 weeks, so not very frequent, but I know we go to the gym around the same time. Over time, I forgot about him as my crush... Until one day in April, when we were going into the gym at the same time, and he held the door open for me. I KNOW! It's ridiculous that my heart skipped a beat, and it triggered my crush feelings for him all over again just because he opened the door for me. (TBF, it wasn't just opening the door for me that made my heart flutter, but it's the fact that he recognised me as a gym regular).

Since I am a very shy and socially awkward person, I decided instead of cold approaching him during his workout (because he usually wears headphones), I would buy a bag of Easter eggs so I could give it to him and his friend group at the lobby when I catch them. Just a friendly casual "oh my friend gave these to me for Easter, but I'm not going to eat them all" way.

Plot twist. Two weeks passed, and I never saw him. NOT EVEN ONCE. I gave up and ate all my chocolate since Easter was over. I then decided to try to make eye contact so I could smile at him or give him a little wave. I. TRIED. SO. MANY. TIMES. Instead of making eye contact with him, I was making eye contact with all his friends by accident. It's like somehow his eyes just skip past my head every single time.

Fast forward to now (May), seeing him at the gym no longer makes my heart race because of the amount of time that has passed. The lover girl in me was defeated, I guess. I just took it as I'm not his type, and he wasn't interested (every guy I accidentally looked at would make eye contact with me at the gym).

TELL ME WHY when I used to struggle SOOOO hard to catch his eyes, now it was so easy??? When I didn't like him anymore? Like either I catch him looking at me first, or we make eye contact when we walk past each other, or I accidentally look at him, and he would immediately see me, even if I was behind a machine or on the other side of the room. GURL, I used to be like 10 steps away, and he couldn't see me.

Honestly, just curious about why the sudden behaviour change?

Hi guys, I (18F) have a crush on my classmate (18F) - Stella (fake name). We’re classmates for 3 years and next year is our last year together. I started to like her about 2 years ago and it was just small crush, but recently it has started to affect me more than I want to, so I want to do something with that. She’s bi so orientation shouldn’t be a problem.

Unfortunately, we’re not even friends and I’m really bad at making friends. I’m usually kinda awkward from the beginning and I don’t know how to start conversations etc.

I recently became friends with one of her friend - Linda. She is also our classmate. I told her I can’t stop thinking about Stella and she told me that she too. So that’s a little complication haha.

But Linda isn’t sure about her and Stella, they are flirting but I don’t think they would date. Linda also has crushes on different guys so I don’t think it’s something serious between them. I thought that Linda could help me with Stella, but she doesn’t seem like she would do that. I didn’t ask her, but I feel like she doesn’t take my crush on Stella seriously.

I’m thinking about asking her out, but I think I would have a bigger chance if we were friends first. Asking her out now would be probably very surprising for her. Once I’m friends with someone, I don’t have a problem with flirting etc. so I wouldn’t be awkward but I’m not sure if I have a time for that.

I would appreciate any tips how to become friends with her or some cute ways how to ask her out.

Thank you!

One person recently mentioned she just walked away mid conversation

I have been texting her for a month and have known her for 3 years and liked her for about 2.5 years. After texting daily fir 2 weeks I was finaly thinking I had a chance. I probly dont after reading our over 100 messages I relised I always text first and if I dont text we usually just dont talk. She sometimes doesn't even respond to my texts. I at first hoped this just meant she was not seeing me as close as I wished but I have since relised it probly means she has no feelings beyond friends 💔.

I now really have 3 choices in my mind

A. Stay as friends and ignore my feelings

B. Confess to her and try to stay friends through it.

C. Confess to her but block her after so I can move on easier.

I need advice from someone with more experience then me.

Yes, let's lay naked, skin to skin, feeling each other's warm breath on our cheeks. Kissing your neck, you gently bite my earlobe. I gasp, you laugh. I lay my head down on your chest. You rest your arm acros back and softly squeeze me tighter. I sigh like settling in to heaven. Your breath slows, you relax. My eyes close, I listen to your heartbeat as I drift away to sleep. 🩷

So there's a cute guy in my church. I took a picture of him as he walked past, and when I turned back, I spotted his parents seated behind me. help

Hi yall 👋 so i have a crush on a cashier at one of my local stores and im planning on asking for his instagram.

Here’s some backstory: so we first interacted because i was wearing a dragon ball z top lol and he had just asked me where i had gotten it from and i told him I didn’t remember and that was that. Weeks go by and I don’t see him anytime i go into the store so id believed he had probably quit. So again i put on my errand top(the dragon ball z one lol ) and of cause he was there 🤦‍♀️ he again lights up at the top and we start having conversations about anime and goes to show me his wallpaper and some pictures in his gallery of some of his favorites. The chemistry felt intense And we just got into some fun banter over anime. He ended up recommending one of his favorites for me to watch. After going back in I told him my thoughts on the show but it was a really busy day in his store that day so we barely had a full conversation I was stuttering all over the place but the banter remained and the eye contact gosh I swear he was looking into my soul 😭😭 he checked me out and that was that. Our last interaction I went in looking all good but he was talking to another female customer very friendly so in that moment I was just like I’m being delusional and his just friendly with everyone then he saw me and kinda lit up “Hey Anime, I’d been hoping to see you again ” first thing he say. “I wanted to redeem myself so I have a new movie for you to watch” he told me the name of it and was like “this one is so much better than the first one. You should come back in and let me know if you like this one” a customer came behind me cutting the conversation short so I grabbed my stufff and let him know I’d check it out.

Okay that’s kinda the summarised version. Sorry for the grammar 😭😂😂 but now I’m like is he just really into anime and just happy he got someone to talk to!?like is this just regular customer interaction for him Or is it safe to assume he might be even the slightest interested. I really don’t want to make a foul out of myself and ask for an Instagram while his at work and get rejected 😭

Thanks in advance for your help🤗🤗🤗

So we’ve been like texting nonstop everyday for the past week and lately he’s been slipping in “ma’am” in his responses a lot, like “yes maam“ and stuff. I can’t tell if he’s flirting or just being silly cuz we’re in the same grade and like 90% of our conversations is us joking around, so I’m really clueless what to make of this…

I love letting off thoughts here. There's no worry. There's no target. There's no stress. It's open, mind, and open book even if you do see this. It's not a bad thing it's just a free space to let the weight off my shoulders. and yes, of course I would say everything to your face. When our times are right, i hope you don't have to ever second-guess my love it's been yours. You may not be my first love, but I know I have no other energy. to share and express everything we shared with no other person. Therefore, you're definitely my last love.

crazy you

just curious tbh