I have a crush on my friend and I told him I liked him a few months ago and he said he didn’t feel the same way but that was in December. We’re still friends and I’m a bit iffy about physical touch and whether he’s gonna not like it. I am a pretty touchy person though but I still like him and I ache for his touch too T-T
There's this guy I like in uni, I'm sure he likes me too cause that's how I noticed him, but we haven't talked yet. I'm starting to think it's my fault cause maybe I'm not giving him enough signs so I guess the only solution is to go and talk to him.
Problem is I'm really shy and I'm gonna need a lot of courage to talk first but I can't wait anymore. I'm not gonna see him for another two weeks so I've got plenty of time to think about it. I don't know his name, his social media, nothing. He's quiet like me and I really wanna meet him.
Was thinking about telling him good morning and then I have no idea how I'd keep the conversation going, I know for a fact I'm gonna be hella awkward and my heart is gonna be running and I'll be probably trembling and I don't know how to face that. We sit in the same row so I feel it's gonna be awkward if the convo stops and we just sit beside one another...
Do guys generally like it when a girl makes the first move? I can't believe I'm even considering this but I feel like it's the only way to stop overthinking it. I just need to get my head around it and convince myself to do it but I'm worried when the time comes I still won't do it.
Any tips? Was anyone ever in my position and how did you manage the anxiety?
Please help me, I’m so confused. There’s this guy, and we both had a crush on each other for a long time. Eventually, we followed each other on social media, but there was no actual contact. Then break started, and neither of us made a move. However, he followed my friend—I felt okay about it, though, thinking it’s just typical social media stuff.
Later, I started feeling like he might want my friend, even though he hasn't done anything toward her except liking her story once. But in real life? He can’t take his eyes off me. Whenever I’m gone all day and show up at the end of the shift, he looks at me as if he’d been searching for me. Sometimes, if he sees me wearing a certain color, he’ll disappear and come back halfway through the day having changed into the same color I’m wearing.
Once, he suddenly came and sat with me and my group of friends to get to know us. The whole time, he was staring at me; he wouldn't take his eyes off me even when someone else spoke to him—he’d answer them while giving me a shy smile. He even asked about me once when I was off. But because he hasn’t made a formal move toward me or my friend, I got scared of getting hurt or finding out he actually wants her, so I started ignoring him and acting uninterested. After that, he started ignoring my presence sometimes, while the rest of the time he just stares at me with a look like he’s planning something in his head
Please help me, I feel lost. Sometimes I feel fine and just ignore how he acts, but other times I feel like there’s definitely something going on. I’m afraid of getting my feelings hurt. What should I do?
I do this a lot at night. I like to hug my pillow pretending that it’s my crush.
Today I also watched romantic movie scenes on YouTube and pretend that the characters in the movies were me & my crush. Lol 😂
Am I the only one who does this?
My gaydar is so bad it turns out he’s straight but he does have a gf already, idk maybe that’s why he was distant because he felt the vibe that I was interested in him?… but if he did then maybe he would’ve told me. Anyway the reason I thought he was gay was because he wore makeup which I know is stupid a lot of straight/bi guys would. Also I’m studying a subject with if there’s guys they’re mostly gay. This is kind of embarrassing, I asked him for his number and kept talking with him and this turns out to be the case. Maybe I also wanted to think he was gay because I didn’t want to get my hopes up. I don’t think we’re compatible personality wise either tho, it’s not that big of a deal.
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Hey all, roughly a month ago I made this post asking for advice on what felt like a slowburn with a shy guy.: https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/1rrbspv/advice_for_a_shy_girl_stuck_in_a_slow_burn_with_a/
Thank you to everyone who offered advice or their thoughts on the situation. I know this isn't the update most people want to hear but unfortunately our connection essentially faded. We rarely interact anymore in person, and no longer interact online.
My friends called it a situationship, I lean more towards "failed talking stage." We never progressed to getting to know each other on more than a surface level and avoided deep conversations. Most importantly we avoided addressing our own relationship and how we saw each other. There was never a confession fro neither of us or clarity as to if we would move forward.
I told myself repeatedly that if I waited a little bit, an opportunity would open up, and we would both be ready. That never happened. Towards the end, I felt as if I was ready. I didn't think he was. Then I felt my feelings for him were fading. I wanted him to step up to a greater level of commitment, and he didn't. Maybe he didn't get the hint, maybe I wasn't clear enough, but we never progressed.
I'm leaving the door ajar in case something happens in the future. People can change, people can mature. I hope I mature enough to be fully confident and ready. I hope the same of him, but I'm done pursuing him, at least for now. I've made the conscious choice to move on. In the meantime I've put my energy and time into other things. Listening to music, for example. I think Conan Gray sums up our connection best in the song Astronomy.
>We've traveled the seas, we've ridden the stars; we've seen everything from Saturn to Mars. As much as it seems like you own my heart, it's astronomy, we're two worlds apart.
I doubt he'll ever see this post, but if he does, I wish him the best.
LIKE WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
I think i need help as soon as possible. My heart feels so weak i end up developing a crush almost every week. Now i am catching myself constantly checking up on like 12 guys almost like an obsessed ex and it honestly feels pathetic
How do you know the difference? I’m really struggling
So there’s this person I really like, and I have no idea how to tell them without turning into a complete mess. I’ve been crushing on them for a while, and every time I see them, my brain just… shuts down.
I don’t want to make things awkward, and I definitely don’t want to embarrass myself. I’ve thought about just telling them directly, maybe writing something, or even trying some subtle hints, but I honestly have no clue what works.
Has anyone successfully confessed to their crush without it ending badly? Or even if it did end badly, what did you learn from it? Any tips on timing, words, or gestures would be appreciated. I just want to do this right and not ruin my chances… or our friendship if it’s important.
I’m so obsessed with this guy.Like I mean it isn’t like I wanna see him every day and talk to him stage it’s on I wanna have him like really really HAVE HIM. Like I want him to think about me get obsessed with me like I am to him.i can’t stop thinking about him and I am so out of his league. All of his friends are litterly obsessed with me and their friend groups main subject is me.But he is not like them.He doesnt give a fuck about me.I tried every way to catch his attention.And let me tell you how we met.We are in the same school same grade.This guy was in the same class with the two of my closest friends.I would all ways go in and out to that class last year.Everyone knew me in that class.But Iwas never had heard of him.He would always attend to MUN conferences (they are kind of big events in my town) and apparently he is a great delegate and a successful one in MUNs.Whatever one day I was out with two of my friends.One of them is the one that my friend that’s also in his class.One of them was a boy that’s in my class they met in MUNs.Anyways we were hanging out and we were like let’s prank call someone. And the boy in my class said let’s call him.I had never really heard of him or something till that moment.I did just have heard that he and his brother were really successful at MUNS.Whatever they called him the girl one was like I can’t talk he knows my voice the other one said the same and I was like okey I can talk.We started to talking. He was like who are you and I was joking and kinda teasing him we kinda like kinda flirted and while we were talking our boy mutual friend took a video of us talking on the phone and send it to their group. Their group chat litterly exploded.They were like dude how did you get this girl to talk to you like things like that.I was flettered but didn’t really cared.Days passed two weeks later our mutual friend called me again I answered and in the background there were voices like he loves you like they were messing with him and I didn’t care again.After one month school started and his friends would always shout his name when we would run into him each other at school.they did that for a week and that week he would always change his way around when he sees me.I was kinda pissed.Like I’m already ignoring you you can’t ignore me??? Our mutual friend is was like he rejected you hard.I slowly stared to obsess over him but there were nothing serious.after a few weeks later his friends stop calling his name when they see me .it kinda upset me cause I was enjoying the attention.Whatever the days passed after a few weeks later I stared to have a little crush on him.He stared to look cuter .And there was a MUN conference that our mutual friend was arranging and he was like should I add you to his brothers committee I was like yes duh and I hoped that I would catch his attention.He wasn’t even looking at me like while whole guys in the school was on the knees for me I didn’t even excited to him back then.There was one week till the conference and I was really liking him like REALLY I would shop our photos together and then that week one of my dumbass friends texted him like would you like me to introduce you to a girl and he was like nah I’m in a talking stage.i was devastated.How?I thought he wasn’t interested to me cause he wasn’t interested in girls at all.BUT THERE WAS A GIRL HE WAS TALKING TO.SO HE LIKED GIRLS AND WAS ABLE TO TALK TO THEM.so why wasn’t he like me then.Was I not enough.The weeks passed I stoped acting like I was trying to get his attention I stoped going to their class I stoped everything.there wasn’t anything between us beside like tiny stares.And weeks later like one month later we were at a mall with my friend and we runed into two close friends of our and him. My mind blowed .I was obsessed with him that while he to him back then so anyways they came near to us to say hi. We started to talk to our close friends and he tried to talk to us but I rolled my eyes whenever he talks and one of our boy friends was mentioned so I said say hi to him from me and our mutual friend pointed him and said should I say hi to him to mess with us but I said no the other one to make him jealous and we sat to Starbucks five of us we sat opposite om a small table while we were talking our shoes were thouching I could feel the butterflies and after some minutes he showed a GIRL PICTURE he was like how is she I was talking to her but it was boring so I’m thinking to set her up with a friend of mine I was devastated that cute gentleman boy dissapared litter ly then after hearing that I leaves after a few minutes but even after that I couldn’t stoped liking him I just couldn’t he was still the cutest boy but after that I would always catch him staring at Me he would always enter our class things like that but still he hasn’t made a proper move three monts passed and two weeks ago our mutual friend posted me at his story and he liked it that’s it and i dont know what should i do i really eeally really like him I WANT HIM TO BE MINE what should i do I’m even considering to putt a spell on him or something I’m okey for every way from now on.İm open for all of your suggestions
does it mean he likes me?
so me and this girl (shes a masc lesbian) have been flirting for about 2 years now. idk, if its anything major. i mean she calls me her wife, holds my hand, touches me all the time, sometimes calls me sweetheart over message and plays with my hair, and called me her hear me out and calls me cute. we were also playing truth or dare recently and she asked me who I liked and said she wasn't convinced when I said "no one". this same hangout she was sat with her arm wrapped around me at one point, and moved closer when one of our friends mentioned it.
idk if she likes me though, since whenever she's drunk or high, she starts talking about her ex. she starts talking about how much she loves her and misses her and how she's her safe person, and honestly I do get a bit jealous but I do remain supportive and give her honest advice based off the situation.
I, myself don't know if I like her though. i constantly find myself craving her attention and wanting to hold her hand, but im not sure. up to recently, I thought of this as just friendly flirting until my friends started saying things like "just kiss already" or "just get together already" which made me think that maybe there was more to it. idk, can somebody give me their thoughts on this??
I have been talking to this guy from Tinder at least everyday now for two weeks so far. We have some stuff in common. He asks me questions about myself which is quite refreshing and makes me feel he’s attentive. I started sending him funny reels that I thought he would like and he now sends me some reels in return.
I’m not used to a guy being genuinely interested in me to be honest, so at times, it’s hard to pin point.
He asked me if I’d like to hang and have pizza one evening. I came over and we were watching a movie. It was nice and fun. I showed him a movie I thought he would like that I’ve been talking to him about. I felt a vibe, we kept smiling at each other very cute and somewhat awkward in silence and I asked him during talking if it would be okay if I kiss him. He said “yes” which we made out. We went to his room, made some art, listened to music, talked about ourselves and we ended up kissing again which led to more. He asked me if I wanted to spend the night. I declined because I don’t feel comfortable sleeping in other people’s houses but I was tempted. He told me also that he thought I was really pretty and didn’t know if I would be into him (ironically I thought the same about him).
We bond over art and music. We act somewhat increasingly silly together the more we talk by saying random stuff and doing silly voices at times. I’m an awkward person but I enjoy making people laugh with silliness. He now sends me a reel every other morning and we chat from there. He doesn’t text me anything s*xual unless brought up. We talked about our fantasies and what we like in the bedroom.
When we hung out again, we made out and he started trying to take off my jacket but I didn’t feel comfortable removing it and just wanted to kiss with clothes on. I’m a bit confused honestly because kissing grosses me out at times, I’m not that s*xual of a person yet I’m somewhat attracted to him that I like being around him and he’s so cute and I like being silly with him.
I thought I was graysexual or just low libido from medication. I get turned on sometimes. I can’t stop thinking about him. I don’t want our relationship to be only about sex. I want to connect more with him emotionally.
I have moments where it’s hard to believe a guy would be genuinely interested in me rather than for sex. I’m also bad at social cues.
I felt confused, overstimulated during makeout sesh and told him to his face that I’m not ready to be doing all of this. I am going through a transition and going through a lot of personal stuff. I said I would just like to be friends. He said he wasn’t looking for a relationship tho.
Idk what he wants with me and i don’t know what I really want with him.
I keep wanting to be around him. But, don’t want to lead him on in anyway. I think about doing cute stuff with him and being silly with him. I always look forward to our conversations. It makes me smile when he texts me.
The next day after telling him that night I wanted to be friends, I assumed he’d stop talking to me for some reason but he still sent me a reel which we ended up chatting.
So basically im kind of a guy who is really open and loud with everyone in class and girls for some reason are open to me back and like tease and interact with me (and me to not lead anybody on I just give friendly teasing back , I DONT flirt) and I guess im really confused when a girl like you actually? Because theres no way almost every girl in my class has had or has a crush on me. I mean you cant even make this up. Teasing, sometimes subtle touching, attention, laughing from ur corny jokes and acting open and maybe I dont know when a girl I have a crush on genuinely likes me anymore . Can anybody explain whats going on?
so yeah, I'm 17 and a girl. and like all seventeen year old girls, i develop a new crush every other week. not with this one. it's been 3 months(according to him, 2 to me), and i don't know what to do.
we've been talking on a regular basis for all that time. and I've developed strong feelings. thing is, guy is low effort and nonchalant while I AM THE EXACT OPPOSITE. i know I should leave because the guy doesn't know what he wants cause he's in an on and off relationship with someone. and im not being met emotionally.
I try to withdraw, but he's always there starting a conversation mostly out of boredom cause i don't think he likes me like that. but then, during my withdrawal episodes, he once asked me to help me find him a girlfriend. and you can imagine at the time i was happy. cause you know the tikotok thing, if he asks you to find him a girlfriend, he's talking about you. but then, at the time, i said comment reserved. and later on, when i was out of mind, i thought of telling him that i finally have suggestions for the new gf. but i asked if he's out of the relationship, and he said, "Not exactly."
for clearer context, he's the whole reason for this whole thing. was walking around, and he threw an ice cube at me . When I got home, I got a text from him apologizing. not exactly apologizing because he blamed gravity and energy for like 95% of the whole thing. but yeah, that's how it started.
i really don't know what to do. hence I came here. if you were in my shoes, what would you have done?
About five months ago, I started developing feelings for a girl. We only had fairly long periods of eye contact, and she kept looking at me, but nothing more. Then, two months ago, I started dating another girl who was desperate to be with me, so I said yes, but without having any real feelings for her. A week ago, I broke up with her because I couldn't lie to her indefinitely. During that time, the first girl kept looking at me, but I couldn't bring myself to talk to her. After the breakup, I don't know if I should talk to her again. She probably noticed I was in a relationship, so there were no more opportunities. But now there are, since I've always found her really beautiful. So what should I do?
So.. I started having a small crush on a senior in my office last year. Not sure why - maybe because we were working on a project together and he's smart, looked up to by everyone, and a nice guy in general.
1-2 month into this I noticed him looking at me. A lot. Everytime my eyes would land on him in the office, when we were all in the cafeteria together - he was always looking at me and would quickly look away as I looked back. This is maybe where my madness started.. I started having dreams about him everyday, and for the first time ever I felt like I had found the guy I could marry- had high morals, disciplined, intelligent, and kind.
But I was in the process of a really, really messy breakup so I knew it was bad timing. Plus I'm a shy, awkward person who doesn't know how to flirt or look back, plus he was my mentor hence it was anyway kind of wrong.
Some small moments happened between us where I was sure he was lowkey flirting with me (he's also shy and awkward). But then 5-6 months later, obviously he stopped (maybe thought I'm not interested). He became aloof from the team too (this is purely for career reasons I am sure) and eventually switched teams.
Recently I switched my team as well, and now I sit in a different building, I don't see him at all anymore. But this is making me crazy. I can feel it. Everyday I stalk his calendar, wonder if he'll be in the cafeteria, or here, or there. I couldn't believe someone can go this far for a glimpse of someone. This is maddening.
Last week my old team called me for a party, I didn't want to go- but just knowing he'll be there I did. He tried talking to me too, but I was so so nervous. I can see he doesn't even spare me a glance anymore like that, but I am slowly going crazy. He's all that's on my mind. I've started having dreams about him again.
I'd thought seeing him would finally help me get over him, but it made me even more sure that he's all I want, he's the man I want to marry. We were alone in the car for like 3-4 mins when he was dropping us off, and he asked me questions and I did too, and in that moment I felt like confessing to him and making everything weird. I believe he's completely over it but what do I do? Now I'm getting this itch to see him again and just tell him everything.
I'm genuinely lost on how they feel about me, I don't wanna end up running our friendship or making anything super awkward.
I need some outside perspective because I feel really confused and honestly a bit stupid.
So me and this guy have been friends for around 2 years, but he has liked me for about 3 years. From the very beginning, he was very intense. Constant texts, messages, like he was genuinely obsessed with me. It used to confuse me a lot because instead of me setting boundaries or telling him to slow down, he just kept chasing harder.
But then I asked him last year and he said he wants to marry me, made a lot of promises, and slowly I started believing him. At that time, I wasn’t even fully sure about my feelings, but his consistency and effort made me trust him.
When I finally got clear about him and started taking things seriously, he told me that before moving abroad, he would talk to his family about our engagement. That meant a lot to me. But when the time actually came, we had a random fight (honestly just bad timing more than anything serious), and suddenly he said he’s leaving and that he thinks we are not a perfect match. It completely shocked me!!!!!!
I asked him to try again and not end things like that. As we invested time basically I wasted my time and suddenly he said we were exploring like?????
After a day, he agreed. I cried a lot during that time, but we fixed things and even met in person after that. Everything felt normal again.
Then he moved abroad, and within a week, he ghosted me again after a random difficult chat
Now it’s been 2 weeks.
The worst part is this isn’t even new. He has a pattern of disappearing, and 3–4 times before this, I was the one who reached out first even after he said he would. But never these many days. He always overpromised, said he would change, and then did the same thing again.
This time I decided I won’t text him first.
But I just don’t understand how someone who chased me for years, talked about marriage, and made me believe all of that, when I genuinely had trust issues can just disappear like this.
Was any of it even real? Or did I just fall for words?