u/Terrible-Client-3098

TLDR: My Gym Crush never looked at me until now. Why is it that when you are no longer interested in someone, they're suddenly interested in you?

Story time:
So I had a crush on him ever since the first time I saw him at the gym (January). He looks like the younger version of Dohoon from TWS, but with glasses. Fell for him because he was cute and soft spoken and chill, just teaching his friend proper form.

I see him once a week or once every 2 weeks, so not very frequent, but I know we go to the gym around the same time. Over time, I forgot about him as my crush... Until one day in April, when we were going into the gym at the same time, and he held the door open for me. I KNOW! It's ridiculous that my heart skipped a beat, and it triggered my crush feelings for him all over again just because he opened the door for me. (TBF, it wasn't just opening the door for me that made my heart flutter, but it's the fact that he recognised me as a gym regular).

Since I am a very shy and socially awkward person, I decided instead of cold approaching him during his workout (because he usually wears headphones), I would buy a bag of Easter eggs so I could give it to him and his friend group at the lobby when I catch them. Just a friendly casual "oh my friend gave these to me for Easter, but I'm not going to eat them all" way.

Plot twist. Two weeks passed, and I never saw him. NOT EVEN ONCE. I gave up and ate all my chocolate since Easter was over. I then decided to try to make eye contact so I could smile at him or give him a little wave. I. TRIED. SO. MANY. TIMES. Instead of making eye contact with him, I was making eye contact with all his friends by accident. It's like somehow his eyes just skip past my head every single time.

Fast forward to now (May), seeing him at the gym no longer makes my heart race because of the amount of time that has passed. The lover girl in me was defeated, I guess. I just took it as I'm not his type, and he wasn't interested (every guy I accidentally looked at would make eye contact with me at the gym).

TELL ME WHY when I used to struggle SOOOO hard to catch his eyes, now it was so easy??? When I didn't like him anymore? Like either I catch him looking at me first, or we make eye contact when we walk past each other, or I accidentally look at him, and he would immediately see me, even if I was behind a machine or on the other side of the room. GURL, I used to be like 10 steps away, and he couldn't see me.

Honestly, just curious about why the sudden behaviour change?

Recently got Hinge and new to dating in general.

What are some interesting texts I can send first (19F) to guys when I like their profile???

So I would consider myself to be conventionally attractive, maybe not every guys ideal type but definitely pretty in my own way. I’ve gotten compliments about being pretty my whole life.

I’m not boring, I’ve got a lot of hobbies and interests and things I like to do. I dress well in public. I go to the gym consistently and eat healthy.

You’d think someone like this must have dating “easy” but I’ve literally never had a SINGLE EXPERIENCE.

Apparently if you’re too “put together” men would just assume you’re already taken.

I know I shouldn’t live off of male validation or whatever, but sometimes when everyone tells you you’re pretty and beautiful but no men actually approach you makes me wonder if I’m actually attractive sometimes.

I saw a reel that was like “when the girl makes the first move” and the comments were all saying that it works and “don’t wait for the guy to approach you first”

So it got me wondering if it actually works? Has anyone ever made a first move on you as a guy?