r/AmIOverthinking

First I work retail. And I despise 'small talk' like 'how was your day' because *edit* It's none of their business and I don't want to engage. So, the overreaction. Our neighbor is a mowing service, we don't see them, but have a pretty good relationship with the owner... the other morning I let the dog in our gate and one of their workers who I never met before was bringing in our garbage (we have the same company, runs on the same day) I wave, he waves and says something and I say: oh hi, go grab the can to bring it in the rest the way.. and he says: I said how are you? (a zillion responses run through my head quickly) and I say good, I'm good.

And I keep wondering, why he felt the need to reiterate what he asked,.. like, why was a friendly hi hello, not enough, that he pointedly 'I said how are you?' All I come up with is negatives, pushy, arrogant, some domineering alpha move?... (I'm a good 10 years older than he so it's not like he was an oldman addressing a younger person) so AIO?

tl:dr neighbor guy insists on answer to his question how are you?

So there are 4 people involved in this story, me, and my 3 friends who I am going to call Tori, Cindy and Baker (not real names) (all f 26/27).

When I was younger I moved schools a lot as we moved house several times due to my parents' jobs. At the first school I went to I made friends with a girl named Cindy a few months later I moved and changed schools again and became friends with two girls (well four though two are irrelevant to the story) named Tori and Baker. I didn’t see Cindy much but we hadn't moved too far so when I had birthday parties or slumber parties I would invite Cindy to join and so she met Tori and Baker. As time went on her and Baker got along really well and the two of them became best friends. We were still a group of friends but there was a clear divide between the two of them and me and Tori, they would often meet up without us which honestly didn't bother me at the time but I know did bother Tori a little.

When we went to high school Baker, Cindy and I all got into the same school while Tori went to another one. We were sad not to see her every day but we still invited her when we hung out outside of school.

At high school we met another girl (let's call her Mary) and the four of us became friends. Tori knew her as they had previously lived in the same town. Throughout high school me, Baker and Cindy would often fight as Mary tried to pit us against each other and would tell Cindy and Baker that me and Tori had said and done things we hadn't leading to Cindy forcing the others to exclude me.

Mary was genuinely insane to summarise her most ridiculous actions: she convinced Tori to fake having a boyfriend to prank us all, outed both me and Tori to our parents, briefly dated Baker and then broke up with her three days later because she decided she didn't actually like her because the fish Baker had won her at the carnival died, told Tori that she should stop being so dramatic for being worried that her cousin lived in the path of Hurricane Irma "as people die every day", would regularly try and make me pay for her lunch at school (her parents were loaded and gave her money so idk why she did this), read Stucky smut outloud on the bus to school and moaned very loudly while doing it, claimed that her dad was a dangerous alcoholic that CPS were investigating (we have it on good authority that this was a complete lie).

I didn't know that Mary had been lying to Baker and Cindy until very recently (about two months ago during a conversation with Baker and Tori when Tori literally showed me text receipts) from my perspective I just thought Cindy and Baker hated me but apparently Mary had been lying to them. At the time my family life had been super complicated and I had started to get quite seriously ill and so I hadn't really thought much about it I just thought my friends hated me and ended up meeting other people through classes that I got closer too.

To make a long story short we stopped talking to Mary after she did something truly heinous that I will not go into the details of and none of us have seen her in a good 10 years at this point. Me, Baker and Cindy made up as much as we could and just kind of ignored everything that had happened with Mary. I got closer to my other friends who I had made in high school and though we saw each other still, things were never really the same between me, Tori, Baker and Cindy.

When we all graduated high school I stayed in our hometown and so did Baker and Tori but Cindy moved a little ways away to go to college. We would still see each other some times at holidays but not much as we all got busy with adult life. Due to some health related things on both our parts me and Tori lost touch shortly after high school as neither of us were very able to leave our houses without help (and having to have your parents sit with you in a coffee shop so you can see your friend as an adult is lowkey awkward lol). Cindy and Baker also stopped messaging Tori when she got ill though I'm not entirely sure why. None of them have said anything bad happened but to be fair to them of them, Baker and Cindy didn't tend to meet up with Tori unless I was around especially after our fall out with Mary, unlike me. Gradually we all drifted away from each other but occasionally Cindy or Baker would message me and I would see one of them for coffee though it got less and less frequent and more complicated as the pandemic hit and I got more unwell. Baker and Cindy stayed friends though and were still closer than the rest of us.

A few years ago Cindy went travelling. She said she would be gone 6 months but that kept getting extended. When she left she pretty much stopped messaging any of us.

While she was away my health started to get a bit better and I got back in touch with Tori on a whim and we got really close. We pretty much talk everyday now and are really good friends. I also started to see Baker more often as I was able to get out on my own finally!

One day Tori messaged me and asked if I would be interested in setting up a dnd group with her as she knew I ran another one online. I said of course and asked if she knew anyone here in our hometown who would be interested in joining. She said she didn't so I messaged Baker along with a friend who I met online a little while ago after high school who had moved close by and they both said yes. We started our group and since we did we have both been talking to/meeting up with Baker a lot more often. We all still get on great and Baker is a lovely person.

A few days ago Baker got a message from Cindy saying she was back and asking for help getting a job. No "how are you?" no "do you wanna meet up?" just "can you get me a job where you work?" Baker told me and Tori when we bumped into her the other day at the grocery store and we both thought it was a little odd as she hasn't contacted any of us in several years now and none of us even knew she had come back. It also seemed odd she didn't seem interested in at least being pleasant to Baker who was her closest friend of all of us.

Yesterday I sent a message to the group chat we have for dnd to ask about planning the next session and Baker replied asking if we should invite Cindy to join our party seeing as she's back. I wouldn't mind it too much but I know that it would make Tori uncomfortable as Cindy was pretty shitty to her at some points (and me too tbh but I just can't be bothered to hold a grudge) and she pretty much ghosted both of us when things got complicated. Dnd can be something that requires a certain level of trust and pre-existing relationships and so I don't know if that would be complicated as all of us have a complicated history with Cindy and we haven't talked in literal years. I also genuinely don't know if Cindy would be into dnd or if she has played before and we are in the middle of a campaign so idk if it would make sense to have her join right now from a practical point of view. She has also never been "nerdy" in the same way that me, Tori and Baker have she was always more popular and into sports (etc.) while the three of us were band kids who were into sci-fi and video games. Part of me feels that if I ask she might feel obligated to join and then it might make things awkward as she doesn't actually want to be there and she feels odd being back in a dynamic that is now over ten years old and then our dnd group might slowly die as everyone feels awkward. On the other hand it might go great I just don't think that it's super likely to and I don't want to end up losing Baker and Tori as we all fall into stupid high school roles from a literal decade ago. There is also our fourth party member to consider as they have never met Cindy and don't know the full story of the complicated past that the rest of us have had as me, Baker and Tori agreed to just forget everything.

I genuinely don't know if I'm just being petty or overthinking this because to be honest I feel a little bit like I am acting like a high schooler again rn but would I be the asshole if I said no to Cindy joining our party?

I want to know if I’m overthinking this.

A girl messaged my boyfriend saying “Happy Mother’s Day,” and then, in the exact same minute, followed it with: “Oops, sorry :).”

Here’s why it feels weird to me:

They both have iPhones, and on iPhone you can unsend a message within two minutes. She never unsent it. Instead, she immediately tried to play it off. By saying “ shit my bad😁” and then my bf said “who is this” and she said her name, then asked if he called her - which he didn’t. And he said “no, *her name, who*? Asking for her last name, she said from “ur high school, wowwww *his name*” (like her being upset he didn’t remember), and then he said which *her name*, like what last name again cuz she ignored it before, and he asked why did u msg me happy Mother’s Day, then she said “oh I meant to text my aunt, and must’ve clicked ur contact and realized after I sent it”, then said “her name and last name”, and then said, “You me and *his friends name* would go to lunch in highschool. We have gone to the bar together many times. A girls house. Ringing a bell?” .. then again proceeds to text, “this is … my bfs name, right?” So, *they have texted before so I know she’s not texting her aunt talking about smoking together… she can see the chats before sending it*

Also, this is a girl my boyfriend knew from high school, but they hadn’t talked in months. She claimed she meant to text her aunt, but my boyfriend’s name and her aunt’s name are not spelled similarly at all, only the first and last letters are the same.

In my opinion, when people accidentally text the wrong person, it’s usually because that person is already in their recent messages or they’re actively talking to multiple people at once. But my boyfriend realistically would not have been in her recent texts because they hadn’t spoken in a long time. She likely would have had to search his name or manually type it in to even message him.

Another thing that made it feel intentional; a week or two before this happened, she tried to add him on LinkedIn. He is very low-key online, so LinkedIn is basically the only place he could’ve found him.

And what really made me question everything is that after she “accidentally” texted my boyfriend, she apparently went out of her way to message my boyfriend’s best friend to confirm that the number she texted was actually my boyfriend’s number. That part especially does not feel accidental to me.

When my boyfriend responded asking who it was, she gave her first name. When he still didn’t recognize her, she started bringing up old high school memories to remind him who she was. Then after saying her last name, she immediately continued the conversation and asked, “This is [boyfriend’s name], right?”

That’s why I’m wondering if this was actually an accident, or if it was calculated. Am I overthinking this?

TLDR:
A girl my boyfriend knew from high school randomly texted him “Happy Mother’s Day,” then immediately said “Oops, sorry :).” She claimed she meant to text her aunt, even though the names are not really similar and they hadn’t talked in months, meaning he probably wouldn’t have been in her recent messages. She also recently tried to add him on LinkedIn, and after texting him, she contacted his best friend to confirm the number belonged to him. She then kept the conversation going by bringing up old memories and confirming it was him. Was this genuinely accidental, or intentional?

I am a social media manager and went on a shoot with a guy of a different nationality, i felt a connection. Out of the whole crew i was vibing with him, i felt something from his end too, coming too close and talking, joking, flirting etc, there were moments when he was so close while talking that i just wanted to kiss him.
He even clarified about a misunderstanding during the shoot asking me not to take it personally.

There’s a 4 year age gap between him and me where he is younger.

He added me on insta and when after some time i hadn’t accepted it he came and told that i have added you why didn’t you add back.

Later when i was stalking him he recently has a gf made
And he even added another girl from the shoot but i didnt see them getting cozy up like he and i did.

Idk what to think about it.

Any advice would be helpful

So for context and transparency, I’m a man and she’s a woman, and we became online fandom friends. For months, we talked multiple times a day sharing memes, videos, random thoughts, daily life stuff, all of it. She genuinely became one of the most important people in my life.

Around Christmas, though, something changed, and I’ve been trying to figure out ever since whether I’m overthinking things or whether this dynamic has actually become unhealthy.

Part of why I blame myself is because around that time I told her I had landed a photography internship in her city. I asked her if she knew any good comic book stores there because I’m into comics, and the conversation went completely normally. At one point I casually said:

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She didn’t react negatively at all. She kept asking questions about the internship, congratulated me, and the conversation stayed friendly and upbeat. Things even continued normally for another couple of days afterward. But then suddenly, she became distant.

Before this, we talked constantly. Afterward, it turned into her mostly sending me one thing a day usually a meme, video, or random post but barely engaging beyond that. It’s now been like five months of this weird half friendship.

What confuses me is that she never fully leaves. She keeps the connection alive just enough that I don’t know how I’m supposed to interpret it. It feels like I’m being both pushed away and kept around at the same time.

About two months into this, I even tried to give her an easy out. I told her directly that if she didn’t want to talk anymore, or didn’t want me sending her things anymore, that it was completely okay and I wouldn’t be upset. I genuinely meant it because I didn’t want her to feel trapped or obligated. But she never took the out. She still sends me something every single day.

At this point, I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. Part of me wonders if inviting her to hang out in person made things weird for her. Another part of me wonders if I’m massively overanalyzing normal behavior because I got emotionally attached.

The thing is, if she just told me directly that she wanted space or didn’t want to continue the friendship, I would respect it completely. It would hurt, but at least it would be clear. What’s really messing with me is the ambiguity.

And before anyone asks: no, I did not move to her city because of her. I was already going through background checks and paperwork for this internship before I even realized she lived there. I came here because it’s an incredible opportunity for my photography career.

What makes all of this harder is that she did genuinely help me through an extremely dark period in my life (unknowingly) at one point, so there’s a lot of emotional attachment and gratitude tied up in this friendship.

But honestly, this situation has started affecting my mental health. The constant uncertainty and mixed signals have slowly been eating at me, and I can feel myself getting more depressed the longer it continues. So I guess my question is: Am I overthinking this, or does this actually sound emotionally unhealthy/toxic?

Because I genuinely can’t tell anymore whether this is just a fading friendship I’m struggling to let go of, or whether this dynamic itself has become damaging.

TL;DR:
Online woman friend and I used to talk constantly for months. After I mentioned I’d be interning in her city and casually suggested hanging out sometime, she suddenly became emotionally distant. For the past five months, she barely talks to me but still sends me one thing every day. I even gave her an easy out and told her she didn’t have to keep talking to me if she didn’t want to, but she never took it. The mixed signals and uncertainty are starting to seriously affect my mental health, and I can’t tell if I’m overthinking or if this dynamic has become toxic/unhealthy.

I was frustrated by seeing the "oomf" used by several twitter users it feels like they use it to look cool. So i replied to one of the tweets of a stranger by saying ur grammar is wrong and u are just writing "oomf" for the sake of looking cool. He later on quote retweeted with a "i dont give a fuck" meme template and his followers made fun of me in the replies saying i was hating on anything and i tried to look smart but failed like that.

I deleted my reply and didnt reply to any comments but i still feel the embarrassment after 2 days. Also he was a complete stranger and there are some 5-10 friends who i know follow me there. So im thinking like did they also see my embarrassing moment and what would they think of me after that? I feel embarrassed. Am i overthinking?

AIO? There is this guy who is a year senior to me in clg. He confessed about his feelings after his farewell and before exams, last year. And I said NO. Now, when we were done with our farewell and our exams weren't align on same days, we never met in clg after his confession. After he graduated he maintained his distance from me on socials, like zero contact [Expected and Appreciated]. But from last two to three months he started sending me reels and I just saw them but never respond. After his confession, things became awkward for me. Now I feel a sort of discomfort. We have mutual friends and they always met with each other and him also, always ask me to come but I always avoid. In this situation I don't know about talking to him again, although he never initiate genuine conversations just sent me reels, like my stories, that's it.

28 y/of, my coworker is in his 40s. I have posted this in another group. I am close with his family-I am a different sect of Christian than they are but we all bonded initially over our faith. He recently invited me to a 3 day silent retreat where all Christian’s are welcome and I hesitated before accepting the offer as his wife is not going (she will be watching their children and dog.) I did speak with her about it today and she told me she has done it before and is sad to miss out but happy for me to experience it. She doesn’t seem worried at all. Obviously I am a little concerned about going alone with my superior. I would like to imagine his intentions are genuine, but what would you all think about the situation? Basically we will be focused on prayer and mediation the entire trip and there will be little time for speaking or interaction. We will have separate sleeping arrangements. He is also paying for the trip. TIA

My brother in law has never been overly touchy with me. He will do kisses on the cheek for greeting and hugs, but that's it. I have never felt uncomfortable with him before.

Today, twice, he touched my waist while walking by me. The first time, he placed his hand right at the curve of my waist. It startled me but I didnt react. The second time, he placed his land lower where my waist and hip meet. Again, startled, but he walked away before I processed it. Neither was a passing brush or a harsh grab, they were full, firm, hand placement.

We were not in a crowd or drinking, this was middle of the day, sober, walking past me in my open driveway.

Idk it felt weird because the only person who touches my body like that is my husband and it felt intimate. I have known him for a decade, so we are very familiar. But it felt weird. AIO?

Tldr: brother in law suddenly being more handsy than usual and it weirded me out, but Idk if I am overthinking and it was innocent?

I’ve been talking to this guy that I met on Hinge for a while now and recently we switched to texting. He sent me two pictures this week of himself, and I noticed that when you go to see the information details on the photo- both say screenshot. His Hinge was “verified” and nothing has been weird or off with our conversations. Am I just overthinking or why would he screenshot his own selfies and send them? I know people can remove their location and adjust times/location- but the screenshot thing was weird to me.

TLDR; Got fired from a graphic design job last year after only two months despite constantly asking for feedback and trying to improve, which left me really anxious about jobs and probation periods.

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Now I’m almost three months into a hotel receptionist job I genuinely enjoy, but every mistake makes me spiral into thinking I’ll get fired again. A colleague double-checking my work today and reacting oddly to a joke I made about my probation period triggered that anxiety hard, even though my boss has said I’m doing well overall aside from small mistakes.

To give some context, I had a rough year employment-wise. I landed a well-paid graphic design job, but it fell apart after only two months. I made mistakes, but I constantly asked for feedback and ways to improve. I even requested a performance sheet after my first month so I could fix issues early, but instead, they used that same sheet to fire me a month later.

Another thing that messed with me mentally was that another designer and I were hired at the same time, and I always felt like we were silently being compared or put into some kind of internal competition. Since then, I’ve become really anxious about jobs and probation periods.

Now I’m about two months into a hotel receptionist job, and overall I genuinely enjoy it. It’s my first time doing this kind of work, and I feel like things have been going fairly well. Still, every time I make a mistake, I spiral into thoughts about getting fired or needing to job hunt again.

Today, a colleague was double-checking some of my work, and after I joked about my probation period coming up, she shrugged it off in a way that left me with an odd feeling. It instantly triggered my anxiety.

At the same time, I do know what mistakes I need to fix, and my boss has told me I’m doing well overall aside from small hiccups. Rationally, I know that if I were truly doing badly, they probably would’ve already let me go. But I still can’t stop overthinking everything...

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Hey!!

Hoping to get some honest opinions/thoughts. I will try to keep this as short as possible.

So I (27, F) have been at my retail job for the past 3 years 9 months. Overall it's been pretty good especially compared to other retail jobs. We've had some management changes in this time (fired, quit, etc).

I think some context/backstreet is helpful. "E" was the store manager. "K" was my department manager. "E" wasn't liked very well and "K" wasn't on the sales floor often. I suppose though I had built trust with both and "K" taught me how to order a certain product for the department. That started in 2023ish. Both "E" and "K" drilled into me that doing this order for the product was a big deal and that not everyone gets to do it. "K" even got a raise for me for doing this. Months go by doing it without problem. I made a mistake with applying to a different position at a different store. I was told it showed how "inexperienced" I was and was reminded of the raise i had received and that I was ordering the product for the department and the big deal. I will admit I could have handled the applying better, but being able to do the order felt fragile.

Fast forward to "now"... "H" is now the store manager and "A" is my department manager. Neither "H" or "A" have seemed to have a problem with me continuing to do the order. If they've given feedback or asked me to order more/less I do what is asked. Trust seemed to be "solid".

We changed our point of sale a month ago and changed our way of ordering products and fulfilling online orders. And for the past month ive still been able to learn and continue to do the order I have been doing. Even helping "A" when they get confused or don't remember how to do something.

Today, however, I found out that I will no longer be able to / allowed to do this order. The "higher ups" supposedly want to have consistency across the stores. (We are a small company. Maybe 500 ish people). I was told I hadn't done anything wrong but that the manager needed to do it. But that "A" needed help with expiration dates. (Which i already periodically check) . I felt like with the way I had been talked to previously , this could've been a step to move up, and I felt almost accomplished and responsible. And it feels like im being torn down to expiration dates. I dont have a title other than sales associate.

It stung that I can't and feel like im almost being "pushed out". I have wanted to cry and even look at other jobs. Other coworkers who know seem to side with management and seem to take their side saying "it makes sense" . One said it was a blessing and now i dont have to deal with "C" ("c" being someone who checks stuff in). Or that im taking it too personally. Am I? Am I over thinking?

I (28F) work in. A place with man people. I've started chatting to a few including Bob(not real name) a 19 year old guy. We got to talking and it ended up with us meeting and. Having sex. That's all it was meant to be. But. We've hit it off. Ans know. Feelings are developing for us both. We turn 29 and 20 at the end of the month. But he's admitted to having feelings for me. And honestly I've got a crush myself. It should be noted I've also been chatting to a guy my age. But he loves 6hoirs drive away from me but we both really get along and want to persue it. We've( me and bob)agreed to be friends as we do get along. The legal age in my country is 16. But it's a large gap and I fear what other people will think. Am I overthinking this. Or should I have just gone for it

Note : I still live with my mother as housing is a joke and cosy a fortune plus saving for a house hopefully. And she's very judgemental.

I recently reconnected with a man (30s) I dated a year ago. We agreed the chemistry is still there and have started texting almost every day. Well yesterday I vented to him in detail about a new & difficult financial family situation that was just dropped on me & it's not going away any time soon.

He replied: This'll pass tho

Theres some back n forth where he reassures me I dont have to be embarrassed sharing things with him.

He then asks me how my mental health is otherwise.

I say not good bc I am very sad and frustrated.

Him: Im sorry. I wish I could say something to make you feel better.

Well I'm sorry bc his responses feel....not enough? It feels dismissive lowkey. AIO??

I (30, F) went to a new physiotherapist (40ish, M) tonight who was recommended by my fiancé. About 20 minutes into the appointment, we started having a really deep/intellectually stimulating conversation about how interconnected the body and mind are, and how your mental state can influence physical reactions and pain.

He’s definitely a bit nerdy, but also clearly extremely passionate and knowledgeable about what he does. Around 30 minutes in while explaining examples of mind/body connection, he started talking about pain and pleasure, said there’s “no such thing as a G spot,” and mentioned that climaxes can be influenced by emotional connection to a partner. It was probably a whole minute of him talking about it. There was also a one off joke at another point about getting kicked in the balls.

Now I’m overthinking whether the sexual references were unprofessional/weird, or whether this is genuinely just how some healthcare professionals talk when they’re very science/anatomy-minded. Years ago I followed a nurse on Instagram who talked about how healthcare workers often don’t see bodies or anatomy in a sexual way because it’s just clinical/scientific to them.

The actual treatment was totally fine. He did dry needling on my lower back and I never felt uncomfortable or like he was pushing any boundaries.

TLDR: New physiotherapist made some comments about pain + pleasure, climaxes, and anatomy while discussing mind-body connection. Felt strange in the moment but not sure if this is just normal for healthcare workers.

AIO I’m a 24F three months ago, I downloaded Bumble and met a guy there. From the beginning, he seemed very desperate to meet me, and after a lot of convincing from his side, I finally agreed. Surprisingly, I actually liked him and enjoyed spending time with him, so we met again. Later, he asked me to come over to his place for drinks, and I said yes. This started happening regularly, and somewhere along the way, I began developing feelings for him.
One day, he randomly asked me if I was serious about him and whether ‘we were something.’ I told him that I had wanted to ask him the same thing, but I was scared I might freak him out. After that conversation, we spent three entire days together — not nights, but whole days — and everything felt really good.
But then he joined a gym, and from the day he started going there, he completely changed. He began ignoring me, avoiding conversations, and replying only after a day or two. Whenever I asked where he had been, he would casually say he was busy. I tend to get attached very quickly, and his behavior started hurting me a lot. I told him multiple times that I didn’t like how he was treating me and that it was affecting me emotionally, but he barely tried to comfort or reassure me. For one day, he would act normal again, and then the next day, the same cycle of distance and avoidance would repeat. We had this conversation at least three times, but nothing changed.
At some point, I started feeling that maybe he just didn’t want me anymore, and I thought I should quietly leave his life. But I was too anxious and emotionally attached to actually do that. Instead, I ended up calling him one night. He usually told me he slept by 10 PM, but that night he was apparently out at 12. He picked up my call and sounded completely normal. I once again told him how hurt and confused I felt and asked why he was behaving this way. In the middle of the conversation, he suddenly said his mother was calling and cut the call.
That night, I stared at my phone for two hours, hoping he would call me back, but he never did. Without saying anything else, I blocked him.
Did I do the right thing?

TLDR:
My BF (31M) and I (26F) recently started dating after a rocky two-year history. He recently admitted he lied about past intimacy with his female best friend (who is also his sister's roommate). Now, I am struggling with severe jealousy over her close ties to his family and got mad that he received a hospital update about her. AIO?

Long story for those who care:
Me f(26) and current BF(31)first met 2 years ago, after him not being ready to commit we ended things but I was heartbroken. On and off communication and flings now we are dating and in love for a month.

A week ago he says that his best friend and him (who is his sisters roommate and he’s said in the past she’s considered family) were in a toxic relationship in high school and have been intimate. He lied when I first asked him if their friendship had ever been anything more since I had a suspicion. After everything, I was ok with it and can understand that people grow up.
1: AIO for hoping they haven’t been intimate since high school?
2:AIO for telling him today that I don’t care that she’s in the hospital? Apparently she goes to the hospital often which he’s told me before but his sister keeps him updated about her going every time apparently. The best friend also used to call him all the time.
3:AIO about getting mad about him even getting the update at all?
4:AIO for saying I am worried the gf role in his family is filled by her?
5:AIO about feeling jealous of her and his sisters friendship?