Am I overthinking? What do u guys think? Overthink or not ?
I want to know if I’m overthinking this.
A girl messaged my boyfriend saying “Happy Mother’s Day,” and then, in the exact same minute, followed it with: “Oops, sorry :).”
Here’s why it feels weird to me:
They both have iPhones, and on iPhone you can unsend a message within two minutes. She never unsent it. Instead, she immediately tried to play it off. By saying “ shit my bad😁” and then my bf said “who is this” and she said her name, then asked if he called her - which he didn’t. And he said “no, *her name, who*? Asking for her last name, she said from “ur high school, wowwww *his name*” (like her being upset he didn’t remember), and then he said which *her name*, like what last name again cuz she ignored it before, and he asked why did u msg me happy Mother’s Day, then she said “oh I meant to text my aunt, and must’ve clicked ur contact and realized after I sent it”, then said “her name and last name”, and then said, “You me and *his friends name* would go to lunch in highschool. We have gone to the bar together many times. A girls house. Ringing a bell?” .. then again proceeds to text, “this is … my bfs name, right?” So, *they have texted before so I know she’s not texting her aunt talking about smoking together… she can see the chats before sending it*
Also, this is a girl my boyfriend knew from high school, but they hadn’t talked in months. She claimed she meant to text her aunt, but my boyfriend’s name and her aunt’s name are not spelled similarly at all, only the first and last letters are the same.
In my opinion, when people accidentally text the wrong person, it’s usually because that person is already in their recent messages or they’re actively talking to multiple people at once. But my boyfriend realistically would not have been in her recent texts because they hadn’t spoken in a long time. She likely would have had to search his name or manually type it in to even message him.
Another thing that made it feel intentional; a week or two before this happened, she tried to add him on LinkedIn. He is very low-key online, so LinkedIn is basically the only place he could’ve found him.
And what really made me question everything is that after she “accidentally” texted my boyfriend, she apparently went out of her way to message my boyfriend’s best friend to confirm that the number she texted was actually my boyfriend’s number. That part especially does not feel accidental to me.
When my boyfriend responded asking who it was, she gave her first name. When he still didn’t recognize her, she started bringing up old high school memories to remind him who she was. Then after saying her last name, she immediately continued the conversation and asked, “This is [boyfriend’s name], right?”
That’s why I’m wondering if this was actually an accident, or if it was calculated. Am I overthinking this?
TLDR:
A girl my boyfriend knew from high school randomly texted him “Happy Mother’s Day,” then immediately said “Oops, sorry :).” She claimed she meant to text her aunt, even though the names are not really similar and they hadn’t talked in months, meaning he probably wouldn’t have been in her recent messages. She also recently tried to add him on LinkedIn, and after texting him, she contacted his best friend to confirm the number belonged to him. She then kept the conversation going by bringing up old memories and confirming it was him. Was this genuinely accidental, or intentional?