u/Ill_Sprinkles7691

AIO I’m a 24F three months ago, I downloaded Bumble and met a guy there. From the beginning, he seemed very desperate to meet me, and after a lot of convincing from his side, I finally agreed. Surprisingly, I actually liked him and enjoyed spending time with him, so we met again. Later, he asked me to come over to his place for drinks, and I said yes. This started happening regularly, and somewhere along the way, I began developing feelings for him.
One day, he randomly asked me if I was serious about him and whether ‘we were something.’ I told him that I had wanted to ask him the same thing, but I was scared I might freak him out. After that conversation, we spent three entire days together — not nights, but whole days — and everything felt really good.
But then he joined a gym, and from the day he started going there, he completely changed. He began ignoring me, avoiding conversations, and replying only after a day or two. Whenever I asked where he had been, he would casually say he was busy. I tend to get attached very quickly, and his behavior started hurting me a lot. I told him multiple times that I didn’t like how he was treating me and that it was affecting me emotionally, but he barely tried to comfort or reassure me. For one day, he would act normal again, and then the next day, the same cycle of distance and avoidance would repeat. We had this conversation at least three times, but nothing changed.
At some point, I started feeling that maybe he just didn’t want me anymore, and I thought I should quietly leave his life. But I was too anxious and emotionally attached to actually do that. Instead, I ended up calling him one night. He usually told me he slept by 10 PM, but that night he was apparently out at 12. He picked up my call and sounded completely normal. I once again told him how hurt and confused I felt and asked why he was behaving this way. In the middle of the conversation, he suddenly said his mother was calling and cut the call.
That night, I stared at my phone for two hours, hoping he would call me back, but he never did. Without saying anything else, I blocked him.
Did I do the right thing?

I’m 24F, and my boyfriend (now ex), 25M, broke up with me four months ago. It started after I had an argument with someone in front of him, and he didn’t say a word to support or defend me. Instead, he told me I shouldn’t expect that from him, and if I did, I should find someone else—because he couldn’t be with me. I understood that he was probably looking for a reason to end things, so instead of creating a bigger issue like I used to, I let him go.
Now, since we work in the same office, things have become really difficult. My office best friend (also now an ex-friend) suddenly stopped talking to me and started spending time with him. The two of them ignore me completely and act very close, almost like a couple, right in front of me. I don’t even know if they’re actually together, but I can sense hostility from both of them.
What hurts the most is that they’ve been speaking badly about me and sharing personal things about my life that I had only trusted my ex with. They’ve even been telling people at the office that I cheated on him, which is completely false. It feels like they made up this story to protect his image so people wouldn’t see him as the one at fault.
I hate the situation, but I don’t know how to handle it. The environment has become extremely toxic for me.