u/Dekae12

So I was hired with epilepsy- have always worked this position with epilepsy. About 1 month ago I had an eeg done due to some slight issues (spells of confusion/dizziness, could just tell something wasn’t right but whatever). I found out I was having absence seizures every 20 minutes, have since changed medications and have been doing “alright”. Immediately after the EEG things felt weird at my workplace, I had obviously taken time at work off for it so they knew that and asked me about the results, I had a conversation with my manager and direct report (both of whom I have spent time with outside of work and considered friends) about how difficult losing my driving would be, and asked them for a little grace during the transition with the medication- mood changes, confusion, etc.
1 week after that my manager asked me for a letter from my neuro saying I could do my job. I was upset about this and asked if we were having any issues and she denied this but basically “benched me” until I provided the letter. My neuro let me know it was unfair of them to ask for that as they hired me with epilepsy and I would always have epilepsy, but he provided me with a letter regardless.
They have hired two new people in our small crew of typically only 8 people since this change, both of which I have been responsible for training and neither of which I was made aware of starting and we never had a conversation about.
Last week I had my yearly review and I received a worse review than last year and was called “distracted and disorganized”, and “short”. I cried and asked my manager if she felt like this could be due to my medication, seeing as I have never had these issues at work before and really love my job, and she basically told me upper management writes the reviews and it has nothing to do with her. I am feeling so sad and frustrated as maybe I gave them more information than I should have, being I thought we were friends. I don’t want to lose a job I loved a month ago over my epilepsy, but I also am so angry to feel like I’m being pushed out over it?? Or could all of this just be me being a little bit sensitive from the new meds.

I know there are lots of posts about eye contact here- today I was helping a coworker with a question she had about something; another coworker came to my room for something and we locked eyes and both couldn’t look away. He didn’t even ask whatever he came to my room for and I couldn’t say anything either. We both just stared at each other. We are both the kind of people who usually have a joke ready to go and it was like we were both frozen just staring at each other until he walked away. Neither of us brought it up the rest of the day and neither did the other coworker who was in the room. Is it possible I am the only one who felt it?? Am I making mountains out of molehills?

28 y/of, my coworker is in his 40s. I have posted this in another group. I am close with his family-I am a different sect of Christian than they are but we all bonded initially over our faith. He recently invited me to a 3 day silent retreat where all Christian’s are welcome and I hesitated before accepting the offer as his wife is not going (she will be watching their children and dog.) I did speak with her about it today and she told me she has done it before and is sad to miss out but happy for me to experience it. She doesn’t seem worried at all. Obviously I am a little concerned about going alone with my superior. I would like to imagine his intentions are genuine, but what would you all think about the situation? Basically we will be focused on prayer and mediation the entire trip and there will be little time for speaking or interaction. We will have separate sleeping arrangements. He is also paying for the trip. TIA

I am 28f , my coworker is 40sm. I am close with his family- have been to multiple events with his wife, etc. I am a different sect of Christian than they are but we all bonded initially over our faith. He recently invited me to a 3 day silent retreat where all Christian’s are welcome and it does seem beautiful and I have never done anything like this before! I hesitated before accepting the offer as his wife is not going (she will be watching their children and dog.) I did speak with her about it today and she told me she has done it before and is sad to miss out but happy for me to experience it. She doesn’t seem worried at all. Obviously I am a little concerned about going alone with my superior. I would like to imagine his intentions are genuine, but what would you all think about the situation? I can’t post the itinerary as pictures are not allowed- but basically we will be focused on prayer and mediation the entire trip and there will be little time for speaking or interaction. We will have separate sleeping arrangements. He is also paying for the trip. TIA