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I have been with my boyfriend for a few years now, recently moved in together last fall and recently I’ve noticed that he has very little to no patience with me. It was his house that I moved into so from the beginning I wanted to be considerate and learn how he likes to live while also at the same time trying to make it feel like my home too and I’ve yet to finally get to a point to where I feel completely safe and comfortable existing in his space if that makes sense.

I think he definitely deals with a little OCD/anxiety related emotions, which I understand but it’s really taking a toll on my peace of mind. For example, he tends to find fault with how I do things and will continually make snappy comments. Last night it was with how I closed his car door (saying it was too hard), the other day I left the remote for the ceiling fan on the bed instead of the nightstand, or when I put his towel away he was annoyed it was facing one side and not the other. He even commented the other day about what burner I was using on the stove and there are plenty other situations so I’m feeling a bit beat down. I try hard to adapt to his way of living but there’s always something else that he seems annoyed that I don’t already do. I want to bring it up to him (which I have a little already) more in depth, but I’m afraid that I’m being too dramatic about it all. But at the same time I do feel like I’m walking on eggshells afraid to fully exist thinking he’s gonna find something else I’m doing wrong. Another part of me is feeling super insecure because my brain is telling me that he’s just not into me anymore which leads to him having less patience and more annoyance with me?

TLDR: my boyfriend always finds things I’m doing wrong and approaches me with frustration even over small problems, leaving me feeling slightly controlled and like I have to walk on eggshells at home

I have been with my boyfriend for a few years now, recently moved in together last fall and recently I’ve noticed that he has very little to no patience with me. It was his house that I moved into so from the beginning I wanted to be considerate and learn how he likes to live while also at the same time trying to make it feel like my home too and I’ve yet to finally get to a point to where I feel completely safe and comfortable existing in his space if that makes sense.

I think he definitely deals with a little OCD/anxiety related emotions, which I understand but it’s really taking a toll on my peace of mind. For example, he tends to find fault with how I do things and will continually make snappy comments. Last night it was with how I closed his car door (saying it was too hard), the other day I left the remote for the ceiling fan on the bed instead of the nightstand, or when I put his towel away he was annoyed it was facing one side and not the other. He even commented the other day about what burner I was using on the stove and there are plenty other situations so I’m feeling a bit beat down. I try hard to adapt to his way of living but there’s always something else that he seems annoyed that I don’t already do. I want to bring it up to him (which I have a little already) more in depth, but I’m afraid that I’m being too dramatic about it all. But at the same time I do feel like I’m walking on eggshells afraid to fully exist thinking he’s gonna find something else I’m doing wrong. Another part of me is feeling super insecure because my brain is telling me that he’s just not into me anymore which leads to him having less patience and more annoyance with me?

TLDR: my boyfriend always finds things I’m doing wrong and approaches me with frustration even over small problems, leaving me feeling slightly controlled and like I have to walk on eggshells at home

I have been with my boyfriend for a few years now, recently moved in together last fall and recently I’ve noticed that he has very little to no patience with me. It was his house that I moved into so from the beginning I wanted to be considerate and learn how he likes to live while also at the same time trying to make it feel like my home too and I’ve yet to finally get to a point to where I feel completely safe and comfortable existing in his space if that makes sense.

I think he definitely deals with a little OCD/anxiety related emotions, which I understand but it’s really taking a toll on my peace of mind. For example, he tends to find fault with how I do things and will continually make snappy comments. Last night it was with how I closed his car door (saying it was too hard), the other day I left the remote for the ceiling fan on the bed instead of the nightstand, or when I put his towel away he was annoyed it was facing one side and not the other. He even commented the other day about what burner I was using on the stove and there are plenty other situations so I’m feeling a bit beat down. I try hard to adapt to his way of living but there’s always something else that he seems annoyed that I don’t already do. I want to bring it up to him (which I have a little already) more in depth, but I’m afraid that I’m being too dramatic about it all. But at the same time I do feel like I’m walking on eggshells afraid to fully exist thinking he’s gonna find something else I’m doing wrong. Another part of me is feeling super insecure because my brain is telling me that he’s just not into me anymore which leads to him having less patience and more annoyance with me?

TLDR: my boyfriend always finds things I’m doing wrong and approaches me with frustration even over small problems, leaving me feeling slightly controlled and like I have to walk on eggshells at home

I have been with my boyfriend for a few years now, recently moved in together last fall and recently I’ve noticed that he has very little to no patience with me. It was his house that I moved into so from the beginning I wanted to be considerate and learn how he likes to live while also at the same time trying to make it feel like my home too and I’ve yet to finally get to a point to where I feel completely safe and comfortable existing in his space if that makes sense.

I think he definitely deals with a little OCD/anxiety related emotions, which I understand but it’s really taking a toll on my peace of mind. For example, he tends to find fault with how I do things and will continually make snappy comments. Last night it was with how I closed his car door (saying it was too hard), the other day I left the remote for the ceiling fan on the bed instead of the nightstand, or when I put his towel away he was annoyed it was facing one side and not the other. He even commented the other day about what burner I was using on the stove and there are plenty other situations so I’m feeling a bit beat down. I try hard to adapt to his way of living but there’s always something else that he seems annoyed that I don’t already do. I want to bring it up to him (which I have a little already) more in depth, but I’m afraid that I’m being too dramatic about it all. But at the same time I do feel like I’m walking on eggshells afraid to fully exist thinking he’s gonna find something else I’m doing wrong. Another part of me is feeling super insecure because my brain is telling me that he’s just not into me anymore which leads to him having less patience and more annoyance with me?

TLDR: my boyfriend always finds things I’m doing wrong and approaches me with frustration even over small problems, leaving me feeling slightly controlled and like I have to walk on eggshells at home

I have been with my boyfriend for a few years now, recently moved in together last fall and recently I’ve noticed that he has very little to no patience with me. It was his house that I moved into so from the beginning I wanted to be considerate and learn how he likes to live while also at the same time trying to make it feel like my home too and I’ve yet to finally get to a point to where I feel completely safe and comfortable existing in his space if that makes sense.

I think he definitely deals with a little OCD/anxiety related emotions, which I understand but it’s really taking a toll on my peace of mind. For example, he tends to find fault with how I do things and will continually make snappy comments. Last night it was with how I closed his car door (saying it was too hard), the other day I left the remote for the ceiling fan on the bed instead of the nightstand, or when I put his towel away he was annoyed it was facing one side and not the other. He even commented the other day about what burner I was using on the stove and there are plenty other situations so I’m feeling a bit beat down. I try hard to adapt to his way of living but there’s always something else that he seems annoyed that I don’t already do. I want to bring it up to him (which I have a little already) more in depth, but I’m afraid that I’m being too dramatic about it all. But at the same time I do feel like I’m walking on eggshells afraid to fully exist thinking he’s gonna find something else I’m doing wrong. Another part of me is feeling super insecure because my brain is telling me that he’s just not into me anymore which leads to him having less patience and more annoyance with me?

TLDR: my boyfriend always finds things I’m doing wrong and approaches me with frustration even over small problems, leaving me feeling slightly controlled and like I have to walk on eggshells at home

I have been with my boyfriend for a few years now, recently moved in together last fall and recently I’ve noticed that he has very little to no patience with me. It was his house that I moved into so from the beginning I wanted to be considerate and learn how he likes to live while also at the same time trying to make it feel like my home too and I’ve yet to finally get to a point to where I feel completely safe and comfortable existing in his space if that makes sense.

I think he definitely deals with a little OCD/anxiety related emotions, which I understand but it’s really taking a toll on my peace of mind. For example, he tends to find fault with how I do things and will continually make snappy comments. Last night it was with how I closed his car door (saying it was too hard), the other day I left the remote for the ceiling fan on the bed instead of the nightstand, or when I put his towel away he was annoyed it was facing one side and not the other. He even commented the other day about what burner I was using on the stove and there are plenty other situations so I’m feeling a bit beat down. I try hard to adapt to his way of living but there’s always something else that he seems annoyed that I don’t already do. I want to bring it up to him (which I have a little already) more in depth, but I’m afraid that I’m being too dramatic about it all. But at the same time I do feel like I’m walking on eggshells afraid to fully exist thinking he’s gonna find something else I’m doing wrong. Another part of me is feeling super insecure because my brain is telling me that he’s just not into me anymore which leads to him having less patience and more annoyance with me?

TLDR: my boyfriend always finds things I’m doing wrong and approaches me with frustration even over small problems, leaving me feeling slightly controlled and like I have to walk on eggshells at home

I have been with my boyfriend for a few years now, recently moved in together last fall and recently I’ve noticed that he has very little to no patience with me. It was his house that I moved into so from the beginning I wanted to be considerate and learn how he likes to live while also at the same time trying to make it feel like my home too and I’ve yet to finally get to a point to where I feel completely safe and comfortable existing in his space if that makes sense.

I think he definitely deals with a little OCD/anxiety related emotions, which I understand but it’s really taking a toll on my peace of mind. For example, he tends to find fault with how I do things and will continually make snappy comments. Last night it was with how I closed his door (saying it was too hard), the other day I left the remote for the ceiling fan on the bed instead of the nightstand, or when I put his towel away he was annoyed it was facing one side and not the other. He even commented the other day about what burner I was using on the stove and there are plenty other situations so I’m feeling a bit beat down. I try hard to adapt to his way of living but there’s always something else that he seems annoyed that I don’t already do. I want to bring it up to him (which I have a little already) more in depth, but I’m afraid that I’m being too dramatic about it all. But at the same time I do feel like I’m walking on eggshells afraid to fully exist thinking he’s gonna find something else I’m doing wrong. Another part of me is feeling super insecure because my brain is telling me that he’s just not into me anymore which leads to him having less patience and more annoyance with me?