r/AskONLYWomenOver30

Hey everyone, I'm 20 and doing medicine (India) and honestly it's a bit too much with all the exams. So I want to know how is the work-life balance of a female doctor, before and after marriage.

I have been with my boyfriend for a few years now, recently moved in together last fall and recently I’ve noticed that he has very little to no patience with me. It was his house that I moved into so from the beginning I wanted to be considerate and learn how he likes to live while also at the same time trying to make it feel like my home too and I’ve yet to finally get to a point to where I feel completely safe and comfortable existing in his space if that makes sense.

I think he definitely deals with a little OCD/anxiety related emotions, which I understand but it’s really taking a toll on my peace of mind. For example, he tends to find fault with how I do things and will continually make snappy comments. Last night it was with how I closed his car door (saying it was too hard), the other day I left the remote for the ceiling fan on the bed instead of the nightstand, or when I put his towel away he was annoyed it was facing one side and not the other. He even commented the other day about what burner I was using on the stove and there are plenty other situations so I’m feeling a bit beat down. I try hard to adapt to his way of living but there’s always something else that he seems annoyed that I don’t already do. I want to bring it up to him (which I have a little already) more in depth, but I’m afraid that I’m being too dramatic about it all. But at the same time I do feel like I’m walking on eggshells afraid to fully exist thinking he’s gonna find something else I’m doing wrong. Another part of me is feeling super insecure because my brain is telling me that he’s just not into me anymore which leads to him having less patience and more annoyance with me?

TLDR: my boyfriend always finds things I’m doing wrong and approaches me with frustration even over small problems, leaving me feeling slightly controlled and like I have to walk on eggshells at home

I am slim, tall and have always looked younger than my age. I have a job where I don’t have to dress up much- it’s more casual. I’d like to dress more womanly or make myself look more girly/feminine. My whole life I’ve always considered myself more of a ‘tom boy’ because of playing sports. I have small breasts which I’m comfortable with (I used to model so being slim was in my favor), and most clothing looks great on me.

I don’t know if it’s hairstyle, clothing style, makeup, but no matter how I dress even if dressing up i find I still look like a child. I don’t wear a lot of makeup (live in hot climate) and when I do get ready to go out in the evening I still feel like I look young compared to my peers. I find people don’t take me seriously because of my look.

What are some staples you do to take care of yourself to feel more adult or more womanly? More classic feminine?

Where do you shop? Do my other small breast/slim woman feel like this?

Does anyone else feel like this who doesn’t wear heavy makeup/ Botox/ etc? #feelingplainjane

Me and my partner both have our own car. To be fair, we split it 50/50. Half the time I drive my car, the other half he drives his when we travel.

Sometimes when I try to overtake another car, they accelerate to prevent me, sometimes causing very dangerous situations.

But over time, I've noticed that it always happens when I try to overtake a car driven by a man. I've also noticed that these situations seem to occur less often when my partner is driving.

Just this morning, I was on the highway. The car in front of me is slow. So I let the car already in the fast lane next to me pass and then I switch lane to overtake the slow dude. He let the first car pass, but as soon as he saw me he started accelerating. So much I had to go back behind him. Then he braked in my face and went back to being slow.

I was wondering if I'm imagining things, if it's just a coincidence, or if you've experienced the same thing?

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