He wants to schedule a follow up and feedback session, which I really don't want to do. Do I have the right to request my full report? I did pay in full at the beginning, so there is no money owed.
I've been married for seventeen years. I was officially diagnosed with ASD this year. Needless to say I'm not good at communicating, but I do try. I work part-time as an adjunct college professor and am a PhD Psychology student.
I'm beginning to see a pattern in my marriage where my husband deliberately (I believe) triggers emotional stress, arguments and meltdowns so that when it happens, he'll say "Please let me help you" when he's the one who caused it in the first place. It is starting to feel like he wants me to be dependent on him so that I won't leave or feel like I can. He did something similar two years ago. We were hiking in Malibu and I became very sick in the heat and almost passed out. I begged him to call paramedics for me and he refused, saying it was quicker just to walk to the car. I ended up with severe heat exhaustion. When I bring it up, he gets mad and says I need to "let it go" and that he thought he was doing the right thing.
I'm not sure what to do because he makes more money than I do and our health insurance is through him. I can't afford to live on my own and it would be difficult for me to do anyways.
First time posting here and just looking for advice. Thanks.
Frannie is so proud of her big girl toofs that just came in; she wanted to show them off n ❤️🐶
Someone mentioned different types of goldens to me and I wondered about ours. We were told she looks like a field golden, but I wanted to post a few pics here and get opinions from here.
Frannie is dark and she’s lean. She’s five and a half months old and weighs 42 lbs.
I don’t know the difference between the different types and I’m a first-time golden owner. Thank you!
Frannie is our 42lb golden retriever puppy (five months old) and this is how she bonds with our eleven year old, 12 lb Shih-tzu, by gently putting her paw over to cover him and snuggle….and then grin at me like she just won the Nobel 😂😂
Frannie is our five and a half month old, 42 lb baby and Moki is her brother (10 yo Shih-tzu). This is how she bonds with him, but placing her paw and gently (she’s never aggressive with him) leaning over him. This is her happy smile! 😊 he just lays there happily playing with his toys 😂😂
We both work full time and I'm a Ph.D student in addition to that. I take care of 99% of the house. I do the laundry, cleaning, errands, bill-paying, taking care of our three dogs etc...once in a while, he'll do a load of dishes or a load of laundry but he hardly ever picks up after himself. I mean, he can't even remember to shut the cupboard doors, throw his soda cans away or turn lights off. He constantly takes things out and never puts them away. He starts multiple projects and leaves stuff everywhere. He blames his ADHD. He's completely disconnected from household responsibility and the stress that comes along with it. Occasionally he'll ask me if I'm "ok." Seriously? No, I'm not. I'm handling everything myself and and completely stressed!
We've had tons of arguments about this and he lashes out because I don't cheer for him every time he does a tiny little thing around the house. Even a load of dishes...if I don't mention it, he'll lash out that I didn't say thank you. He says I'm disrespectful and unappreciative. He then tells me that his dad and stepdad never helped around the house. I don't care if they didn't! He lives here too and does next to nothing.
I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm sick of living with a man-child who can't even manage to put his dirty clothes into a laundry hamper.
tl;dr...how should I handle this situation in my marriage?
For context, we both work full time. I teach at university and am a Ph.D student. He's employed in hospitality. We live in a 2500 sq home that we rent, and we have three dogs (including a golden retriever puppy who is being trained as a service dog for me).
My husband does not even do the bare minimum in this marriage. No matter how many times I have tried talking to him, it just goes in one ear and out the other. He can't shut a cupboard door, he can't put the dog food away, he leaves half empty soda cans on the table, he leaves every light in the house on etc...he blames his ADHD and says that his memory is bad. He has anger issues and lashes out whenever his anxiety gets the better of him. And listen, I have to make his appointments, remind him to take his medication (and he refuses to take his ADHD meds because he says they slow him down too much) I have to remind him to do everything.
I take care of the house, the laundry, the dogs, the bills and everything else 99% by myself...on top of my full time doctoral program and my full time job. Every now and then, he'll do a load of dishes or take the trash out and then he expects accolades and acknowledgement for every little thing he does and if he doesn't get it, he lashes out and says I'm disrespectful and unappreciative.
He doesn't pay his credit cards (expects me to do it and then when they're maxed out, he comes to me, outraged, and expects me to handle it) and he doesn't even pay his own car payment. I do everything.
Tonight, I just broke. I told him how stressed out and overwhelmed I am, as well as being really overstimulated (I have ASD, autism spectrum disorder). He just sat there in his chair, on his phone and casually says "What can I do?" and no, he doesn't care. He just wants to say the right thing.
Right now, I am in the bathroom, almost in tears, exhausted and dreading the thought of dealing with him again.
Just wanted to vent. Thank you if you took the time to read.
As you’re on your way to the vet for your monthly weigh-in 😂😂😂 our golden is wondering what she got herself into! Puppy weigh in time!
Let’s hear your funniest captions for Frannie Beane!
My husband and I applied for an apartment in Oklahoma City. The manager told me they require a certification for my service dog (and she is a service dog, not an ESA), along with a letter from my doctor detailing why I need her.
Admittedly, I'm not super familiar with the laws as she just got done with service dog training, so I'm wondering but isn't this a violation of the fair housing, not to mention HIPPA? She wanted to know why my service dog is needed in a letter from my doctor.
Thank you in advance.
I'm so upset right now. I have an EEG with contrast in the morning to monitor my Epilepsy after which I was advised to not drive as they want me mildly sleep deprived and the hospital is an hour away.
Tonight, he got upset because I asked him to do the dishes and lashed out with "I rearranged my schedule tomorrow just so I could take you to this appointment." He does this all the time. He resents having his schedule interrupted because he's a complete control freak at work. He's the general boss so it's not as if he has to get permission. His staff can manage things for a few hours. I told him I would drive myself and I'm going to. I'll be damned if I'd have him drive me now.
If this were the only incident where he was an a**hole, I could overlook it, but I feel like he doesn't like me anymore. At all. I can feel something big is missing. He took me hiking once and made me walk two miles back to the car even though I was having heat exhaustion and almost passed out.
I have autism and epilepsy. I have poor executive functioning and need help with some things. He hardly ever does anything and even if he does, he expects accolades for even the smallest thing. I feel like he doesn't even do the bare minimum and when I mention this, he tells me it's how he grew up and that his dad and step dad never did anything around the house either.
Am I just making too much of this or do I need to be concerned about it?
I'm an adjunct English professor and want to obtain my doctorate in order to get a tenure-track, full-time professor position. I'm interested in Pepperdine.
I have completed most of the application requirements except the personal statement. I am an autistic woman, and I'm wondering if it this is something I should mention in the statement. I'm not sure if it's relevant other than being a personal challenge I have worked hard to overcome.
Any thoughts welcome. Thank you.
I'm autistic and my husband is not. He's always had problems with his hygiene, but it's gotten so much worse over the last two years. Now, he's got an abscess in his gum that he won't make an appointment for to get fixed because he doesn't want to take time off work. He doesn't get regular dental cleanings and has terrible breath. He doesn't shower often enough and has body odor. He also has skin rashes/eczema and he doesn't treat them with the medication he's given and I'm not sure why, but his clothes smell even though I wash them all the time.
We no longer share a bed or a bedroom because being near him causes sensory overload. I don't want him touching me and I won't be intimate with him even though we've never been super intimate because I don't like the sense and feel of sex. I don't like being touched in general, but his lack of hygiene is making me crazy. I'm not sure what to do. We've talked but he doesn't seem to care.
He has ADHD and loves chaos and noise and I can't stand that. I need it quiet. He's messy and disorganized and I like things clean and in their place. I'm not sure if our marriage can survive this.
What is the purpose of the frog story test, the toothbrushing explanation, and the test where I had to repeat back to him verbatim what he said? I feel like I did terribly, especially on the spatial reasoning and the "this is to that as this is to what?" questions. I felt like the assessment was juvenile and didn't make any sense.
I could not repeat anything verbatim except the first couple of words, the frog story I just stated what I saw and I went into probably excrutiating detail about my toothbrushing, although I didn't use hand gestures because I just don't ever do that with anything.
Is this the typical testing? What is the purpose with these? First time posting so thank you in advance.