Why Can’t I Change My Behaviour?
Short excerpt from the article...
"You will have to live with the consequences of what you are and pay the price. You cannot be selective about pain and pleasure. Your patterns give you pleasure, and you don’t complain. But when those same patterns bring pain, you say, 'I want to get rid of my pain.' Teachers offering miraculous solutions only numb the pain. True change in behaviour comes from bearing the pain, not resisting it. Your entire training is to resist it. Don’t resist it. Take it. Let it come."
Acharya Prashant offers a radical critique of the "Behavioral Modification" industry, arguing that trying to change a habit without changing the "Habit-Maker" is an exercise in futility.
He uses the metaphor of a shadow to explain that our actions are merely the visible projections of our internal identity. If the "Actor" remains small, fearful, and unexamined, the behavior will inevitably reflect that state, regardless of how much willpower is applied.
He suggests that the only lasting way to change is to find a "Great Purpose" that demands a new version of the self, effectively making the old behaviors obsolete.
Can a person truly "improve" without first undergoing a total internal revolution?
Full article:
https://acharyaprashant.org/en/articles/how-to-change-behaviour-1\_7eba64e