r/ThirtiesIndia

‎I lost my job after being diagnosed with epilepsy and I don’t know what to do next.

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‎A few weeks ago, I was at work when everything suddenly went black. After a few minutes, I regained consciousness and my colleagues told me I had a seizure. I went to a neurologist with my friend. All my test results came back normal, and the doctor gave me medication and told me to return if it happened again.

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‎The very next day at work, it happened again. My manager told me to go home and see the doctor. When I visited the doctor and was talking to him, I had another seizure right in front of him. After that, he confirmed it was epilepsy. I told him about My uncle who has epilepsy so its genetical he says so he prescribed daily medication and explained the precautions I needed to follow.

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‎I took five days off to rest and see if the medicine helped. Nothing happened during those five days, so I went back to work feeling hopeful. But then I had another seizure at work again. The doctor told me to avoid stress and stay relaxed, but honestly, how is that possible when this keeps happening at your workplace?

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‎I kept trying to continue working for about a month. Then one day my manager called me, asked about my health, came to meet me, and told me they were letting me go because of my condition.

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‎It’s already very hard to find a job right now. I don’t even know if I’ll be able to work normally anymore or if I’ll just keep struggling with seizures.

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‎Now I keep thinking about everything at once. I don’t have a job anymore. My family depends on me. My sister’s marriage is coming up. My future feels uncertain. I even worry whether anyone will want to marry me after this.

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‎The doctor told me to stay calm and avoid stress, but that feels impossible right now.

My uncle's Son is of my age he is fully fine and enjoying his life, smoking, alcohol etc. Why it selected me? dirty genetics,

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‎I honestly feel lost.

I think I messed up.

Recently I changed my barber(1 month or so). The barber I used to go to for years still lives in my society and he has no idea that I'm getting a haircut from someone else.

I was his first customer when he inaugurated his saloon. He would always boast in front of other customers about how loyal I have been. He would say things like, this guy doesn't even get a haircut if I'm out of town.

I'm worried that any day now, we will cross paths in society & come face to face and he will immediately notice my freshly cut fade. Things are going to be very awkward. How will I even look him in the eyes?

In my defence he never gave the same haircut twice, every visit something was different. And whenever I tried to explain my preference, he would just shut me off and say, I already know what you want, I've been cutting your hair for years now. I guess listening & being consistent are not his strengths.

Now I am stuck between guilt and relief. Am I overthinking this?

Not talking about being ultra rich. Just that feeling where you’re not stressed about money every month or say losing your job?!

Was it a certain savings number?

Being debt-free?

Having investments sorted?

A side hustle?

Curious how others here think about it. If you have achieved it, how did you do it in your 30s?

PS: I make 25-40 range. Have a home loan (EMI could be the reason to not feeling there yet)

I’m 26 and have been in a government job for the past 3 years. The pay is decent, I have excellent job security, all the usual govt benefits, and soon the 8th CPC revision is going to give my salary a solid bump. On paper, it looks safe and comfortable.

But the reality is killing me slowly:

The work is not challenging at all.

Almost all my colleagues are 20–30 years older than me and have completely given up on learning or growth.

The only conversations are politics and gossip.

I feel like I’m becoming average just by being around them.

I keep thinking about switching to the private IT sector for much higher pay and actual growth. But I’m also terrified because of everything I keep hearing:

Massive layoffs are happening right now (even Oracle did huge rounds recently)

Constant work pressure, burnout, toxic environments, and corporate politics

People in private literally telling me “don’t come here, try to get a govt job instead”

I’m not planning to resign blindly — I’ll only switch once I have an offer. But I need to decide right now whether I should start preparing seriously for private jobs (LeetCode, system design, etc.) or just accept the govt life and focus on internal growth/promotions.

I don’t need to figure out my entire life today, but I have to pick one path and commit so I don’t waste the next few years oscillating and then regret it when I’m 30+ with more responsibilities.

Real question for people who have actually worked in private IT (especially those who switched from govt or have been in product/service companies):

Is the private sector really as bad as people describe right now (layoffs + toxicity + burnout)?

If you were in my position at 26, what would you do?

Did you ever regret leaving a stable govt job? Or did you regret not leaving earlier?

Any long-term perspective on work-life balance, money vs peace, and future job security in private vs govt?

I just don’t want to make a decision I’ll regret for the rest of my life. Would really appreciate honest, experienced takes — especially from people currently in the industry or who have lived both worlds.

from u/kakashioftheleaf29

I’m planning to get married in the near future in AM setup and I want to prepare myself mentally and emotionally before taking that step.

For those who are married (or divorced), what are the things you wish you truly understood before marriage?

Not just the obvious stuff, but real things like: emotional challenges, expectations vs reality, communication issues, physical/sexual compatibility , finances and responsibilities

What mistakes did you make, or what would you do differently if you could go back?

Also, what are some green flags and red flags people often ignore before marriage?

Would really appreciate honest advice from both men and women.