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Image 1 — It's OK to leave that TOXIC environment and find your Happiness. [Story]

Image 2 — It's OK to leave that TOXIC environment and find your Happiness. [Story]

It's OK to leave that TOXIC environment and find your Happiness. [Story]

I was in a very toxic "environment" before I met my now AMAZING wife. It was so bad that I started having hair loss on my jawline, I would break out in hives, and wake up screaming from nightmares from the insane amounts of stress. I never talked to my family or friends about how I was suffering for years. Sometimes I wonder if the people that were hurting me even knew how much they were hurting me. I would just suck it up and stuff all my feelings and try to push forward. It got to a point where I finally broke. I was thinking suicide was the only way out, the only way to get away. That's when I knew that I had stayed too long.

I grew up in a Christian culture and always though that Divorce was not an option and was told that if I prayed enough, God will fix it. I prayed, I went to therapy (multiple therapists), I tried everything. It took me a long time to realize that no amount of praying, therapy, meditation, exercise, or anti-depressants can fix a toxic environment. People have free will and we cannot change how they act no matter how hard we try to make things better. No matter how well you treat others, that does not mean they will treat you well back.

I'm here to tell you. It's OK to leave! (whether it's a relationship, job, friendship, or any toxic environment.)

It's not your fault, you are not a failure. And for the Christians out there, God will not love you any less if you leave.

I made this post because I wish somebody would have told me this sooner. I thought that because I was going to have to start over at 40 years old, that there was no hope for me to ever be happy again. Let me tell you that 40 is still so young and I found the love of my life at 40 years old. Because my amazing wife has created such a safe space for me to heal and has loved me more than I could ever imagine, my hair has grown back. I haven't had any hives break out and I found my smile again. I didn't genuinely smile in pictures for years. Life itself has not gotten any less hard (finances, job, etc.) but having a partner that supports you and loves you and creates a good environment makes all the difference. I get emotional and practically cry every time I look at her face, because I know when I am with her, I am home. She is my home.

u/imRickdiculous — 3 hours ago

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[Image] Your Future Is Built By What You Do Today

u/AccurateFondant2077 — 3 hours ago

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[discussion] How to be stronger then your thoughts and feelings?

it's pretty shameful that I'm not feeling like I'm in control of my own life and feels like someone else is controlling me like outside opinions or the things I read and watch online. then mainly I guess it's the feelings and thoughts I have about myself. it's always this irritating nagging negative voice in my head that says your nobody. you can't do it. and it's just harmful that it's controlling my life even my entire day just completely living in comfort even when I'm realizing it's just poisonous to my life. sitting in comfort zone and isolation isn't going to improve my life. nor will it increase my confidence and the resilency to face life.

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u/Lemonade2250 — 16 hours ago

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Why Most People Resiste To Change [Article]

Most people live on autopilot. They like predictability and certainty in life.

Sometimes, we need to change, especially if our current life is not satisfying for us or causes huge suffering. The biggest villain to change is resistance to change.

Change is an essential part of life, but if you can’t change when you need to, you are not free. You'll be stuck in most periods of your life.

They Are Afraid Of Change- This is the biggest fear in the life of most people.
They Don’t Like Uncertainty- Most people avoid anything uncertain.
They Don’t Like The Unknown- When the outcome is unknown, it is unpleasant.
They Can’t Let Go- They can’t let go previous lifestyle to live a new one.
They Don’t Want To Exchange Comfort For Change- Comfort kills your spirit.
They Assume Change Will Not Satisfy Them- Negative people see negative outcomes.
They Don’t Want To Risk Safety- Safety for them is a life they don’t like, but they are afraid they can lose it.
It Is Easier To Resist Change Than To Change- They resist change even if that is counterproductive.
They Want To Live On Autopilot- They don’t live lives, they barely exist.

How did you push through your resistance to change?

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u/gorskivuk33 — 23 hours ago

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[Text] You people don’t actually know how to study

We’ve been taught that studying = sitting down for hours, re-reading notes, highlighting pages, and trying to force information into our heads. But that’s not learning. That’s just memorizing temporarily and hoping it sticks long enough for the exam.

Real learning is different. It’s slower at the start, but way faster long-term. It’s when you break something down until it actually makes sense. When you can explain it in your own words. When you can apply it without looking at the answer. That’s when it sticks.

the crazy part is most people never get taught this. so they think they’re “bad at studying,” when in reality they’ve just been using the wrong method the whole time.

If you’ve ever spent 3 hours on a chapter and still didn’t get it… that’s not a discipline problem. That’s a system problem.

So I’m curious whats something you spent hours “studying” but never actually understood so I can Explain it to you in under 10 min right it in the commets and will reply to you

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u/Narrow_Detective9864 — 2 hours ago

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