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This sounds minor but it is genuinely affecting my life and I do not know what else to try.

Every morning without exception I wake up between thirty and forty minutes before my alarm goes off. Not because of noise. Not because of light. My body just decides that it is done sleeping at that exact window and wakes me up completely. Not groggy, not half asleep. Wide awake, staring at the ceiling, fully conscious, with exactly not enough time to fall back asleep before the alarm goes off anyway.

So I lie there. Every morning. For thirty minutes. Doing nothing. Thinking about everything. My brain in that window goes through my entire to do list, several conversations I had years ago that I could have handled better, a rough financial review, and at least one completely irrational worry that feels extremely rational at five forty seven in the morning and embarrassing by nine.

I have tried going to bed earlier. I wake up earlier. I have tried going to bed later. I wake up at the same time anyway, just with less sleep behind it. I have tried blackout curtains, no screens before bed, magnesium, no caffeine after noon, sleeping in a colder room, white noise, a different pillow. I have read approximately everything written about sleep hygiene on the internet. I have been down every rabbit hole. One night I was so deep into researching sleep and nighttime routines that I somehow ended up on a completely random website that had nothing to do with sleep at all and spent forty minutes reading it before realising I had completely lost the thread of what I was originally looking for, which is probably its own problem honestly.

The thirty minutes themselves are not the worst part. The worst part is that I spend those thirty minutes trying to decide whether to get up and do something useful or stay in bed and attempt sleep that is not coming. I always stay in bed. I never fall back asleep. I get up when the alarm goes off feeling like I made the wrong choice twice.

Has anyone actually fixed this and if so what worked because I have run out of things to try on my own.

Our 43 year old daughter is so disrespectful to us it makes us want to cry. I’m am 66 and hubbie is 61. Our two granddaughter, 5 and 6, are untidy and allowed to do whatever they want. They came to our house Easter Monday and ran into every room, climbed over the furniture, got food everywhere and the parents dont like us setting boundaries. The parents never clean the girls mess up, nor do they set any boundaries, they tend to make us, the grandparents the villains. We are so tired, it’s not much better when we visit them. They jump all over us, walk on the coffee table and make a mess everywhere, nothing is said. Mealtimes with them is awful because they are allowed to get up and down whenever they want. This is really getting us down. Our daughter says me and her dad used to argue all the time when she was growing up and we were too authoritarian. I can assure you we didn’t argue all the time and we set clear boundaries to keep them safe. My daughter and our other child, son, both have very good careers so we obvious did something right! The children always look scruffy , their hair never brushed and my daughters house is very untidy and unclean, even though they have a cleaner. My husband says I am frightened to stand up to her. I tried this last year and it upset me a lot. I took such pride in my daughter’s appearance when she was younger, she always looked clean and tidy. Our son said he doesn’t recall bad treatment when he was younger and he wants no contact with his sister or son in law because of the way they are. We are at the end of our tether and don’t know what to do about this. Any advice would be very welcome.

So for some context I 32f am 29w2d pregnant by my -idk what to call him anymore - 34m. We have been together for a little over a year. This pregnancy was an "oops" as my birth control failed as it was out of date- I had the Nexplanon implant in my arm. I had my first son in July of 2013 and moved to Tennessee from Maryland December of 2013 and have lived there since the beginning of this year when I moved back home to Maryland to live with my mom because of financial reasons. Me and the man I'm currently pregnant by have never lived together.

Now for my "issue"

I made the decision to move back home to Maryland mainly for financial reasons as my mom and stepdad said I could live with them rent free for a year to help get myself back on my feet and also I really just missed my mom. Shes my best friend and biggest supporter. I also have plans to go back to school after the baby is born (due in June school starts mid July) Anyways, after moving I noticed a shift in my partner. It went from constant calls and texts all day everyday to just a few texts a day and no phone calls. We both have it set to when either of us orders an Uber or lyft the other gets a text notification. Mainly for safety reasons as I would leave his house late at night and he wanted to be able to track the ride to make sure I made it home safely. He would typically text me when he was heading to work and coming home because more often than not he had a coworker giving him rides to and from, but then he started lying about what time he got home. I had confirmation texts from Uber that showed me his arrival and departure times, but he would tell me that he got home an hour or sometimes two hours later than what he really was. I know this is small and trivial, but he would also lie about where he was saying he was at a meeting but instead he was out somewhere else, not sure with who though, because we started sharing locations after I moved. Which I would very rarely check because I trusted him. Why would I constantly need to check to see if he was where he said he was? I had no reason to, but after him lying about what time he got home I started occasionally checking. After I caught him in his lies multiple times he stopped sharing his location.

Idk if it's the pregnancy hormones or what, but these little lies just keep building and building and it has really hurt me. Now it feels like the relationship is strained and I haven't really been replying to him as much because honestly I'm hurt. I've tried asking him who he was with and why he lied and his only explanation was he was being prideful and didn't want to tell me when he got sent home early from work. No explanation about lying about being at a meeting when he was somewhere else. So I ended up telling him that I needed space to think and to try to rebuild trust, but if I'm being honest it's not working. I'm at a complete loss as to what to do or tell him to do to try to rebuild and get back to where we were before all of this. But I genuinely don't know if I even want to anymore. It's not like I want this baby to grow up without a dad, I've seen what that has done to my first and I genuinely don't want that. It's just a constant battle in my head with what to do. Do I just let it go and suck it up or do I leave the relationship for good and just co-parent long distance. As of right now we still have the plan for him to move up here so he can be with me and the two boys, but I just genuinely don't know what to do. Help!

Sorry this was so long!

Brief summary - I kicked my bf out the house last year because I reached a dark place. I was depressed, lost my job and wasn’t financially able to keep up the bills. He had also no income at the time to support me and our family. At the time, I was depleted and overwhelmed and felt unsupported plus additional years of hurt stored inside of me from our relationship.

Months later, he came around and asked for us to work things out which we have been doing for the last 5 months but he refuses to come back home. He associates the house with shame and humiliation while I’m longing for our little family to become whole again. He’s gone to the extent of saying he will NEVER go back in the home.

Now he is house hopping from friends and family while I’m home with our little one and seeing him in between. When I bring the topic of coming back, it triggers everything in him. Is it bad that I feel like I made a mistake but want my family back? He admits that he knows I love him but he said he can’t afford to be humiliated again. Thoughts? Do I keep fighting?

Everyone around him has told him to go back home but he continues to hold the hurt and says he needs to heal the part of him that I humiliated.

I want to make new friends cuz I basically have none rn.. the problem is idk where to make friends and it’s not helping that sometimes I just don’t talk to anyone because I don’t feel motivated or wanna be alone. It’s like I’m avoidant (I think is the word). Sometimes I wanna talk to someone but other times I don’t and I don’t want to make a friend by being like this, like talking to them suddenly and enthusiastically then ghosting them for awhile and being dry, I don’t want to hurt their feelings but I really, really, really, also want someone to talk to!! I don’t know what to do! (Also sorry if this is confusing English isn’t my first language)

Lately, I’ve been finding it really hard to stay motivated at work. Even when I plan my tasks or set small goals, I feel drained and distracted after just a couple of hours.

It’s starting to affect my productivity and mood, and I feel frustrated with myself for not being able to keep up. I don’t have any major health issues, but this constant fatigue is wearing me down.

Has anyone else gone through this? What strategies or routines helped you regain focus and energy during the workday?

Hello po, Baka po may sirang laptop kayo at wala na po kayong balak ipaayos or naka tambak po na laptop. Ako na po mag papaayos or kung pede ko po mabili sa murang halaga, may 3k po ako na budget at willing po ako mag down every month if papayag po kayo na hulugan, hirap po pala talaga kapag IT yung course tapos nanunuod lang habang nag ccode sa mga kaklase ko.

Si papa lang po kasi nag papaaral sa akin, sinubukan ko na po talaga kapalan yung mukha ko sa mga kamag anak namin. Wala po talaga, kahit si mama hindi ako nirereplyan kahit pang baon lang kasi nag sshort po ako sa baon, napupunta po kasi sa bayarin sa school at pamasahe ko yung 500 na allowance ko kada week. Tatlong sakay po ako papuntang school at minsan po ay may mga kailangan bayaran. 2nd year na po ako and nag aaral po ako sa SLSU

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Ayer mi profesor de educación física nos pidió recortar la parte baja de una garrafa (la contraria al tapón) para una actividad.

Podemos decorar la garrafa con tema libre, pero yo no sé cómo puedo decorarla. Tengo distintos tipos de papeles (cartulinas, brillantes, muy finos... y de colores), rotuladores, hammas, palillos, pegatinas (de gatos jajaja), un maletín con lápices y témperas, un poco de lana, unos pocos rotuladores tipo Posca, algunas piedritas de las que van en las pulseras... un poco de todo (también lo básico tipo hojas en blanco, a cuadros, regla... y lo necesario). Tengo cinta y cinta aislante, pero no sé cómo puedo decorar la garrafa porque es gran parte de la nota!!!

La garrafa la voy a reforzar con cinta americana para que quede más dura y no sé qué puedo hacerle fuera.

Me da igual la temática pero para que el profesor la valore como "buena" debe estar bien decorada (relieves y chula), entonces si alguien me puede dar alguna idea lo agradecería un montón.

Gracias!

like nothing extreme, just something slightly off

and you can’t tell if you’re overreacting or if your gut is trying to tell you something but then you keep thinking about it later and it starts bothering you more than it should idk if it’s intuition or just overthinking at this point

how do you usually tell the difference?