Disrespectful 43 year old daughter and unruly granddaughters
Our 43 year old daughter is so disrespectful to us it makes us want to cry. I’m am 66 and hubbie is 61. Our two granddaughter, 5 and 6, are untidy and allowed to do whatever they want. They came to our house Easter Monday and ran into every room, climbed over the furniture, got food everywhere and the parents dont like us setting boundaries. The parents never clean the girls mess up, nor do they set any boundaries, they tend to make us, the grandparents the villains. We are so tired, it’s not much better when we visit them. They jump all over us, walk on the coffee table and make a mess everywhere, nothing is said. Mealtimes with them is awful because they are allowed to get up and down whenever they want. This is really getting us down. Our daughter says me and her dad used to argue all the time when she was growing up and we were too authoritarian. I can assure you we didn’t argue all the time and we set clear boundaries to keep them safe. My daughter and our other child, son, both have very good careers so we obvious did something right! The children always look scruffy , their hair never brushed and my daughters house is very untidy and unclean, even though they have a cleaner. My husband says I am frightened to stand up to her. I tried this last year and it upset me a lot. I took such pride in my daughter’s appearance when she was younger, she always looked clean and tidy. Our son said he doesn’t recall bad treatment when he was younger and he wants no contact with his sister or son in law because of the way they are. We are at the end of our tether and don’t know what to do about this. Any advice would be very welcome.