r/gayyoungold

I’m 22 and have no experience with guys at all. I’d describe myself as straight curious. When thinking about trying stuff with guys, my mind usually goes to older guys. I couldn’t tell you why, it’s just what happens. Are older guys a good way to experience guys for the first time or am I better off starting with guys my age then trying older guys once I have some experience? Are older guys usually willing to take it very slow?

I’m currently seeing a super cute sensual daddy and he’s recently been waking me up during the middle of the night gently rubbing his head around my lips whilst I’m asleep. But what I’m finding super funny even in my sleepy state my natural reaction is to slowly start sucking it like a pacifier I only wake up when he starts to put it in a little deeper and I’m like suppperrr turned on! I get upset now when he doesn’t do it lol

Would you date someone younger who has a mild disability/medical condition?

I (27) have something called essential tremor, which makes my hands a bit shaky. Some days are better, some worse. Usually its manageable, but sometimes I drop or spill things, and it makes me feel awkward and embarrassed. Im still trying to find the right medication with my neurologist.

I also been accused of being an alcoholic way too many times, even though I dont drink at all. That honestly destroyed a lot of my confidence and sometimes makes me feel useless.

One of my biggest worries is that it could progress in the future and that I wouldnt be able to properly help or take care of an older partner if needed.

Just wondering how older guys would honestly feel about this.

Older guys usually look better with a softer, more balanced facial appearance instead of an overly sharp or chiseled one, fuller cheeks and face makes them cute. A naturally rounder face already helps, but even angular faces can look softer with a well maintained beard. The key is not letting the beard make the face look too long or narrow if it does, trimming it shorter or shaving it a bit usually looks better. For the head, shiny bald or crew cut or short trimmed hairs tend to look betta than long hairs. Overall, balance and softness (e.g. Russell Crowe) tend to look better than an overly chiseled look (e.g. Hernan Drago).

AND PLZ, if you can keep your hair/beard color as natural as possible (gray, golden, white, brown whatever) rather than dying it monthly to hide your age, DON’T.

One more thing would be your Moustache, usually I like them trimmed as the same length as the beard but sometimes if they are slightly longer and curved not like handle bars but minor curve then its hot too.

‘Big Guys’ but even if you’re not, A softer, fuller body type usually appears better too. Not obese or heavily overweight, just solid and balanced proportions like a stocky build, broad back, big arms, slight protruding belly, light chest hair, that kind of look. More “strong and comfy” than ultra shredded. It feels more natural and masculine than constantly grinding in the gym for a lean, super defined physique. Just staying healthy, eating well, and doing some light workouts is enough for that build.

How a guy acts matters too. Even if he has all those features, it’s personally a turn off for me if he acts overly feminine or too zesty/fruity. I’m more attracted to guys who come across as masculine, mature, calm, grounded, and comfortable in themselves. Even as a younger verse myself, I naturally act masc, so that energy is just what I connect with more.

And lastly the clothing -> flamboyant or shiny or anything that resembles feminine clothes, gross (kidding but you get my point).

Wear classic clothes, neutral colours, simple designs, tailored suits, Cotton T’s, tucked in shirts comboed with Jeans, Chinos or Dress Pants. A nice leather belt (not flashy, just simple). About piercings and jewelry, please keep it minimal. Act and dress classy.
Btw, A tailored suit with a tucked in shirt which shows the already protruding belly and a simple belt with a classic buckle is sooooooo fkn sexy.

As you might’ve noticed the pattern here: Natural, Balanced, Masculine, Classic and Simple >> Artificial, Over/under, Zesty/Fruity, Flashy. In my honest opinion.

That’s fully upto you though, since there will always be a category of people that’ll find you attractive.

If I find someone that fulfills 90% of these, which is possible, then I’m gonna spend a 1000 years no, an eternity with them 😉

I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks now and we really connect and get along really well. I've been single for a few years now and have never found a guy like him who checks all my boxes.

The only challenge I have is the age gap and its mostly me feeling guilty for dating a younger guy. I feel I'm wasting his time and worry about getting old on him. He's been in a LT relationship with an older guy my age before and is used to the age gap. He likes older guys.

His age doesn't bother me other than the guilt feelings. He's smart, mature, independent and has a great career. I can see a future with him.

I also have kids a few years younger than him. He's not concerned about that and I not either. It may be awkward for my kids at first but I think they'd be ok with it.

How do I deal with these guilty feelings? Should I even be pursuing this? Any other couples deal with this and make it work? Thoughts and advice appreciated.

Hello,

I started to be curios about old man since I was very young but never had the courage to meet someone, just internet pics and looking at man in the beaches.

I started to meet online old man around the age of 19 and met the first old man around 60 at 25. After that I was always looking to meet old man, the married ones exited me the most. Met this married one who was fucking me very good after his office job, met the one who was retired and invited to his home when his wife was out, a lot of other old man, most of them were very nice with me, almost 90% of man who I met were very nice, respecful and caring. Now I'm in relationship with a 76 year old and he's the most nicest person I met ever, he loves me and worries about me all the time. We meet once or twice per week.

I noticed that when you cross the thirties you get less attention from old man and I'm worried I couldn't find anyone after or it will be difficult.

What are your experiences?

So I am a 25 years old, nerdy, introverted and shy. People around me find me calm, mature and sometimes serious. I am a attracted so much to older guys and find maturity attractive. I find most of those guys are more into more fun and spontaneous guys my age which I am not, I don't even drink, smoke or party. I am finding myself trying to find security and warmth instead of sex alone. On top of that , I am a top so I find this combo making it hard to find someone who likes me. Also whenever I find a match, they end up losing interest because I am far as well and it sounds crazy but I am willing to work for relocating even though it's tough. Should I change something to be more attractive to such guys?

I’m 41, and I was married to a woman for years. I always knew I was gay, but my parents were very religious. In high school and college, I was always attracted to guys my age. As I’ve gotten older, my attraction stayed toward the 18-25 range. I wonder if it’s because I didn’t get to be my true self then?

Anyway, I’ve been divorced for a couple years. I’ve been on all the apps, posted on here, etc. with zero luck. If someone does meet up, it’s a one-and-done type thing.

I’m finding myself incredibly lonely. I have kids and they are with me every other week, but it’s hard for me to stay motivated to do anything.

I stay busy with work and some hobbies, but my area is pretty conservative and not a lot of options to meet gay guys.

What do you all do when you feel hopeless, like you’re going to be alone forever?

Mine (19m verse) are Nick Offerman and Russell Crowe.
Current Nick Offerman I’ll sleep with him all day any day.
Please someone find me his duplicate 😩✌️

And I always thought I was going to get married and have kids someday but I always had a lingering desire for the same sex deep down…

My first crush was my high school best friend and ever since then, I’ve been stuck in that cacoon and over the last 10 years I’ve noticed a perplexing natural phenomenon that is now piquing my curiosity. Younger guys show a lot of interest in me, and for years I’ve been closeted and dealing with my own homophobia until I fell in love with one of these guys in 2024.

His name was Enzo, from Brazil. It became a long distant love connection but there was 2,600 miles between him and I… and it didn’t work out because of this.

But he raised the bar for me. I don’t sleep around and I’m only interested in the right one and won’t settle…

Nate

Last Saturday I was in the gay bar and it was... ass.

My ex (41) and his friends were there as usual and he tried to cheer me up, gave me a lot of attention and we caught up but I find myself physically unable to join him on the dance floor. Instead I just... gazed at shoes. Yeah.

Then there was the local creep who kept harassing me and I just decided it was time to go home. I called my boyfriend. He's been abroad for exactly a month, and coming home soon. It was a huge damper in our relationship.

And he picked up.

And I said the unthinkable - "I was here looking for new connections but all I can think about is how better it would be with you." Which is exactly where I met him.

And just like that we're okay again, today he sent me a song that I listened to on my commute home from work.

Am I... slowing down? I used to have a 100% success rate of finding an older man to go home with at the bar. I don't know. I feel less fun. And my idea of a romantic date is accompanying him to the dentist appointment. Which we did.

I'm only 27. My ex haunts the dance floor almost every week lol.

James , i miss you so much, i.didnt know.it was even possible to feel this much , its been two months , since I lost you, I feel frozen in time , nothing is the same as it was, its like all the color left my world when you did , what we had was so invigorating, so real, and I would have taken a bullet for you 1000 times, you taught me that i can be loved , you worked so hard to get me to open my heart up , at first I refused , i knew better, life had taught me that opening your heart was a good way to get fucked up real quick. I was like "nah bro" , but you were patient and consistent, and one day , it hit me.,.i knew I loved you, you took me to my first gay club, first hotel room ,taught me that it was ok to be gay and i should be proud, I lost my parents this last year, father in June and my mother in March, and then life took you from me in the beginning of.april ,. Ive never felt so alone , when i hear a song we used to listen to together its everything i can do to not break down . i can close my eyes and remember the way you looked at me , and i would just smile . Id give anything for one more day with you .one more minute of looking into those beautiful crystal blue eyes . , i still have dreams about you touching me.,.hugging me .the way it felt to hold your hand , how i felt so safe and loved when you would kiss my forehead . When I wake up for a few seconds I forget youre gone. Then it hits me like a ton of bricks. Everything reminds me of you . but now that your gone, the world has dull and Grey. I feel lifeless , like a statue in someone's forgotten garden stuck, lost to time , cold and frozen.while the rest of the world carries on . It feels wrong . I came across our photo album yesterday in a box , as any reading this can probably imagine, seeing that drove that knife in a little deeper . I miss you James , there was so much left for you to teach me , we never got to go to the beach , or a football game. If heaven is real, if there is something more than this life ,.something after all this , I promise and i swear ill find you in the next one no matter how long it takes , ill never stop looking until we are reunited again. I love you Bear 💔💖 and ill never forget you.

The law of the land: very few younger guys are looking for older bottoms. And for the twink tribe, even more of those are bottoms to begin with. What so frustrating, is that many of those bottoms are so cute.

But nothing is written in stone, is it? Would it be totally impossible for a younger bottom to do the journey to become a top, or at least a versatile guy, if he was in a relationship with a guy he really liked? Maybe the boy of my dreams is out there, but initially a bottom. If I encountered mutual attraction with someone who was bottom only, I would eventually succumb to the desire for dick, and that wouldn’t work as a long term solution.

Sometimes, I can get tempted to pretend that I’m top, just to go on a date with a beautiful boy, even if he is bottom. But that would be dishonest. And those few times I actually did that, I felt miserable and unsatisfied afterwards, so that approach is not leading anywhere.

So, my question to you: has anyone made the journey, of going from a younger bottom to a younger top, if they were in a relationship or dating someone? Stories from both sides are appreciated.

I'm inexperienced and in my mid 20s and my partner is in their 60s and has been having gay sex since they were a teenager We only do side stuff do to his ED but I feel like he is bored and I want to wear things or try new things or do something to keep him intrigued and excited about sex. However, whenever I ask about things they like or think are hot or even if I try doing things I observed they Woof at in media or the street they are not super interested in it. They say they are kind of over all of the kink stuff, clothing, lingerie or whatever.

Besides the age gap.. how do you deal with Financial gab?

I somehow most of the guys i meet are rich and not just rich but extremely unreasonably Rich ( i live in an area with lots of businesses).. they are usually business men here for business or just having a vacation.. last guy i met was just visiting for business and we met 4 times in just a week and even after he left my country he still in contact daily.. most of the time I’m like a trophy for these guys to show around i know that so this is why i always keep a distance and just enjoy the company with no feelings

But this guy is different i feel like we could have something but we live a very very different kind of life and i will never be like him, he’s already talking about showing me Italy and private tours etc. my gut is telling me its all wrong and won’t have a good ending.. so what do you guys think? Have anyone had such a relationship before when one was extremely rich and the other is just a student?

(Pardon my bad English its my third language)

I've been hushing my satyriasis for older men for quite awhile. And now, I'm coming to terms with it. Men younger than I am (25) have been such a pain to deal with and I love to relish the maturity that comes with an older gentleman. But I do have this inner fear inside of me, that persists. There's a significant tradeoff with respect to cultural connectivity, relatable things and other stuff, when you're seeing an older man. But I just feel like most of it is just unadulterated fear.

I live in a culture where most older men are married to women and I don't wish to be someone's side or l'objet de jouissance. So, by default there's less number of dudes who are in my vicinity. I am open to anyone from a different place, which isn't an issue.

One of my dear friends knows of my dating fails and has asked me, if I am comfortable with my own self, to which the obvious answer is no. I'm filled with dread when I think of getting into another relationship.

To conclude I love older men, I'm scared, time's running out, I don't know what to do and I feel hungry right now.

19M bottom/verse here and I can’t lie but whenever I see a guy in a tailored suit, that covers his protruding belly and showcases his nice bulge, butt and belly. I fall to my knees and want to suck them dry.

And when they sit and slightly open their legs a bit, WOOF, all of that pant fabric over that bulge. 😩

Two years ago I started having my first sexual encounters and was just experimenting a bit. Then I found this older gentleman, let's call him Ralph, who was in a open relationship and was super hot. Over the course of many months something super weird developed where we met each other almost once a week, for over a year straight. Just to have good sex, sometimes cook dinner and talk - almost every time around the same time at my place. Sometimes we even went for a walk and after having sex he stayed for a while and we cuddled until we fell asleep on the sofa. We also messaged each other the whole day when we didn't see each other. He was basically a big part of my life.

As I said, this went on for a long time and of course, I somehow developed feelings for him. He was just the most caring person ever and the sex was extremely good. But I knew that this had no future - he had a bf and I was trying to find someone to share my life with - not just once a week in my apartment. We talked often about it and he also wasn't sure how to label our special relationship. It was somehow more than a FWB, we were like soul mates. At one point when we were having dinner together I even started crying because I was so overwhelmed of my feelings, not sure where things are going and how my future will look like.

Then in the middle of last year I started dating someone, I will call him Tom here. He was a lot different than Ralph but over the months we fell in love and I knew he is someone I can have a future with. The thing with Tom is that our sex isn't that great and he doesn't want to have sex as often as I do. This is something I can live with because I love spending time with him, I love his character, his silliness. But every now and then I am thinking of the evenings I had with Ralph. Which make me feel extremely heartbroken, sad and nostalgic.

And I know it's stupid because now I found someone to spend the rest of my life is but my brain keeps bringing back these old memories I had with Ralph. I just hope that with time it will be better.

So imagine we are at a scene of a car crash that goes on for 50 miles. You can't stop saying holy shit. Perfect now let me share my story.

(I would've had a husband by now if I lived in tribal times thousands of years ago but alas those days are long gone).

I AM NOT AMBITIOUS. I dont have motivation to learn how to drive even though live in LA.

I haven't finished highschool. My parents dont speak English well and were neglectful so I fell or (slided) through the cracks. I am white and so most of community/pro-education promoting immigrant programs were not targetted at me.

I tried a online school at the time in 2017 gave up, tried one you go to once a week didnt work, I tried getting my GED, I ran out of motivation.

I really do the bare minimum to survive and just numb myself with things like cannabis. An life feels okay.

But on paper it's not italian pasta. I've shared the major red flags about myself to others and they're like how could it be this bad?

Majority of my work experience is things you cannot find on a background check. So I only have 2 years in retail at 26 years old.

An yet it unfolded this way and I spoke to a therapist before couple times they were like you have to just lock in.

An im like lock in? The lock has unlocked and been thrown into the sky flying far far away to other continents.

Im not 100% horrible of a person thats completely irredeemable, BUT I WISH I could become more attractive on the inside and my life externally...

Someone people would want to date because besides internal traits I'd also have my shit together. Apparently getting it together just doesnt happen easily for some people but im tired of that...

Been together 10 years,
I woke up extremely hard me and my husband both sleep naked so I rolled onto him and whispered in his ear. If he wanted some daddy dick it took all but 5 seconds for him to wake up and say yes lol he never turns it down, so he spread open his legs. I lubed him and myself up and went to town. He was morning so loud I’m sure the neighbors heard lol I know our temporarily roommate definitely heard lol oh well our house lol
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