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I keep seeing this take all over twitter. Why are people saying this?? I really don’t understand where this coming from or the basis of this discussion. I keep seeing people bringing up a vague “history” of the word and saying it’s been an only black word but I have literally never seen any basis for it. And no one seems to have actual facts they just keep saying “Google it” but google Doesn’t even corroborate that.

I dont understand what the point of this really is or what benefit we get out of getting white lesbians to stop saying dyke.

Have any of y’all ever hooked up with a couple? Especially wanna know if you hooked up with a couple with your partner?

My gf made me watch that new episode of Hacks and it was fucking hilarious but also really hot.

If you have smashed a couple show me your ways. My girlfriend and I don’t have many lesbian couple friends and the ones we do have are just friends. What can we do to find more couples who are into that? Are there signs or do we just gotta hit on them and see what happens? Where do fun lesbian couples hang out? Or are they all at home 😭?

Everytime my girl and I get into it, she calls her mom. We have alot of small spats, most of it is misunderstandings but every single disagreement or argument or miscommunication we have, she calls her mom about it.

I’m no contact with my own mother so at first, I was like maybe they’re just that close and it’s uncomfortable for me? Me and this girl have been together for a year and they’re **not** just that close. It’s lowkey codependent as hell. Thereve been fights she called her mom about where her mom told her to leave me. When we were on vacation, had an argument and she called her mom, her mom told her to leave and let me figure out my own way home. Her mom has never acted different toward me based on what my girlfriend tells her though.

When I say fights, I mean disagreements. Someone catches an attitude and we argue. It’s never gotten physically or verbally abusive, we don’t even raise our voices at each other during serious conversation.

Regardless, it’s not okay with me. I don’t like people in my business and unless it’s unsafe, I don’t see why she needs to bring her mom into our shit. I understand needing to vent but every single disagreement is being reported to her mom and they’re essentially just talking shit the entire time. My closest and only friend lives across the country so I vent to her or ask advice, or journal, or do self therapy, or just get over it because I’ve accepted being this close with someone all the time means there’s gonna be some friction and not every disagreement is that deep.

I’ve told her this before and she admitted that her mom gets very defensive about her (naturally, I’m a mom too), and that she needs some friends of her own but GIIIIRLLUHHH!!! She’s on the phone with her right now venting about a miscommunication we had. Am I the asshole here?

I live in a predominantly white town and go to a pwi so 95% of the dating pool is white.

I don’t want to spend my 20s lonely so I’ve been dating white women and to no surprise there’s usually some kind of micro aggression or fetishization and it makes me realize how i’m seen as black before anything

My most recent “talking stage” left me feeling absolutely horrible. Things were going really well until she randomly told me she had always dreamt of marrying a black woman after her last “ex situation-ship” and said “ once you go black, you never go back”

I felt odd and just told her i hoped she didn’t mean it in a fetish way and she said she didn’t. THEN i don’t know if it was out of guilt but she told me to be patient with her if she ever says anything unintentionally racist in the future and i was like ???

She proceeded to give me an example. 2 years ago she saw a really dark person for the first time and thought it was a person dressed up as a monkey because she didn’t know “we could be that dark” then she told me she cried after if that makes me feel better

I tried to not react harshly and told her it was good she recognized that was wrong but she needs to educate herself and she said she would like for someone to show her what to do

I ended up ending things and explained to her that I can’t teach her how to date a black person and she begged me to give her another chance and that she would read books and do research but I don’t know if i should give her a chance?? idk man

I recently went on a date that I thought went super well, I thought we really clicked and had great chemistry, but then she hit me with the “i just wanna be friends” text the next day. I feel so confused and conflicted, because on the one hand I get it, sometimes you’re just not feeling somebody even if the date was nice. On the other, I can’t stop replaying how the date went and if I should’ve been more flirty/forward or done something different. Ultimately and logically I know there’s nothing I can do to change the past so it’s no use harping on it. But idk I guess I’m in a bit of an overthinking mindset right now that I’m trying to break out of. Just needed to get this off my chest. I’m gonna just let myself feel sad for a little bit, then do something fun. Idk what yet! Suggestions to get me out of this overthinking spiral are very welcome :)

My crush that I met in ATL back when I went for my birthday is flying in this week and I’m so excited/nervous! This is the first time someone has done this! She’s so cute and wonderful in so many ways I can’t wait to see her!!!

I have situational anorgasmia. For me, this means I have never orgasmed with a partner but, have no problem managing it on my own.

It has always bothered me because I’m able to get my partners off no problem—multiple orgasms in a session and, not tooting my own horn, but they tell me that they’ve “never met anyone like me”. It’s nice for the ego, but the blow comes when it’s my turn and it just won’t happen.

I give instruction and they follow it to a T. They pleasure me for hours and nothing happens. It’s just a steady pleasurable sensation with occasional jumps in intensity but… largely staying on the same frequency (in terms of how my body registers what they’re doing).

There’s no mounting pleasure. It’s just steady.

I know it must be a psychological block but, I just don’t know what to do. Sex therapists aren’t covered by insurance and out of pocket costs often start at $200 for a 45-min session. Ugh, way out of my price range.

Anybody else experience this? Were you able to fix it? If so, how?

Sincerely,
Miss Clit Clot

This is my first time at this particular doctor and I was doing basic intake. He asked what my orientation was.

I did lied because of personal reasons, mainly I don’t want to get discriminated against. But I am used to them asking about my marital status and pregnancy.

Is this something others feel comfortable disclosing, or has this become a routine part of medical intake these days?

**He was kind and explained that it is relevant to my care.

Drop your current read or a favorite in the comments and let’s swap recommendations.

Sooo me and a chick was enjoying a grown and sexy converstation that lead to me giving her a live strip tease dance on zoom...."She lives out of state". All in all she had certain desires that her last 2 gfs were to afraid to make happen, so I did it. I'm not the shy type. I'm very comfortable with my body and its capabilities. So live on zoom I did the dance for her and yes music, outfit, candles were included.

So it was her turn to step up to the plate and !!!!baybay!!!!!......🤦🏾‍♀️ ummm again this generation feels soo foreign to me because ole girl busts out this exercise machine🤷🏾‍♀️ We are live in zoom and she has the light deemed and I'm like bet here we go and she brings out this obviously heavy and awkward excercise machine and proceeds to use the machine and turns around and do these....I guess she thought they were sexy/desirable expressions and all the while besides me looking in clear shock and fighting from busting out laughing. I was like WTH part of the sexy game is this?!

Yeaaaaa I come from the age where we did sexy and relaxing gestures for our women like warm oil full-body massages, sexy surprise candle lit dinners. Exotic fruits with whipped cream & chocolate. I even put on something sexy while I feed my lady delectable desserts in bed and the rest of that statement is rated R but you get my drift tho. But all in all what happened to passionate and yes sexy gestures? Or has that become half a$$ed and boring now too?

Hey I posted her about a week ago about how terrible my dating experiences have been, and soo many kind women commented nice and funny things lol so I thought. Since dating apps kinda suck why don't I try my luck here ?? Maybe??

Im 24 fem . I am originally from the states but I haven't been back since 2019. I have lived in Mexico for 5 years most recently Rwanda going on 3, but plan to return back to Mexico soon, maybe permanently. I have a full time job, I own a couple of business and I am currently in school to get my ACCA (accounting). I sound super busy , I am but I am very good at time management so I will always have time to call or message.

I'm a very down to earth person in my opinion. I love nature and animals. I enjoy anime and movies. Ive recently taken up reading (horror is my fav genre) , pottery, gardening and painting. I think I'm kinda funny but more unintentionally lmao so , it comes off awkward. I also adore my family. We are close and a calm family that genuinely just enjoys a good time. I'm a no drama person and so are they.

I'm 5'9 , athletic build and I recently got micro-locs which honestly still just like like my normal afro. Also a feature I often forget about it I have a front tooth gap. Oh .. imma Aries 🐏 . I can share a picture of myself if you message me. So you don't have to use your imagination for to long.

I'm looking for a fem or stem. We don't have to be the same at all but I would love for you to have morals , kind , and some goals in life . Even if they are small. 22-28 yrs old in my preference, I can go a bit higher though.

Also , I'm sorry I'm extremely allergic to cats. I feel like that a deal breaker for some women.. understandable. Please argue with God and genetics about it for me

Put insta down below.!!

After removing several posts in this sub (and another) and seeing them pop up in *multiple* queer subs, age gap posts can no longer be posted here. There is a recurring pattern with posters: their language, not replying to any responses spamming subs with weird and random age gap posts. So we ain’t doing them here anymore.

Being that it's the first feature film by a Black lesbian and still one of the few major films about us, The Watermelon Woman is treated like the canonical Black lesbian film, having a lot of institutional and cultural recognition. However, I cannot stand this movie, and I think the director has some issues around Black women she needs to work out. People complain about the interracial aspect (and it is telling nearly all of the director’s films are about that) but my main issue is that I found the portrayal of most of the Black women in the film to be pretty offensive. I could give examples if need be, but I want to know from those who have seen it: what do you think of this very acclaimed "black lesbian love story" as described by the director 👀

Recently, I had a conversation with someone I’ve known for a while, and somehow the topic shifted to religion. They told me they believe being queer is wrong based on their religious beliefs. I’m not extremely religious myself — I’d describe myself as more spiritual — but I grew up in a very Christian and traditional environment where many people were closed-minded and hyper-fixated on homosexuality as being “unacceptable.”

From a young age, I noticed what felt like a major inconsistency within Christianity: people will shame someone for being attracted to who they’re attracted to, yet overlook other so-called “sins.” A pastor can cheat on his wife and still be respected. There are countless stories of men in the church behaving inappropriately toward women, religious leaders sexually harassing women while married, and many of these actions are excused or ignored entirely. Meanwhile, queer people are often singled out and judged more harshly.

So it made me think: how do you approach conversations with people who don’t accept you being gay or queer because of their beliefs? And when people in your life reveal themselves to be homophobic, how do you handle those situations?