AITA?
Everytime my girl and I get into it, she calls her mom. We have alot of small spats, most of it is misunderstandings but every single disagreement or argument or miscommunication we have, she calls her mom about it.
I’m no contact with my own mother so at first, I was like maybe they’re just that close and it’s uncomfortable for me? Me and this girl have been together for a year and they’re **not** just that close. It’s lowkey codependent as hell. Thereve been fights she called her mom about where her mom told her to leave me. When we were on vacation, had an argument and she called her mom, her mom told her to leave and let me figure out my own way home. Her mom has never acted different toward me based on what my girlfriend tells her though.
When I say fights, I mean disagreements. Someone catches an attitude and we argue. It’s never gotten physically or verbally abusive, we don’t even raise our voices at each other during serious conversation.
Regardless, it’s not okay with me. I don’t like people in my business and unless it’s unsafe, I don’t see why she needs to bring her mom into our shit. I understand needing to vent but every single disagreement is being reported to her mom and they’re essentially just talking shit the entire time. My closest and only friend lives across the country so I vent to her or ask advice, or journal, or do self therapy, or just get over it because I’ve accepted being this close with someone all the time means there’s gonna be some friction and not every disagreement is that deep.
I’ve told her this before and she admitted that her mom gets very defensive about her (naturally, I’m a mom too), and that she needs some friends of her own but GIIIIRLLUHHH!!! She’s on the phone with her right now venting about a miscommunication we had. Am I the asshole here?