So I am newly single, first time in 12 years & I’ve always had these threesome fantasies or girl on girl fantasies and others. Where would I go to explore these? I have been in a really sheltered relationship so even knowing where or how to explore is so foreign to me.
My wife wants to have a threesome with me and another guy and i immediately said no but finally agreed to do one but then after I agreed she was saying she also wants me to do things with the guy which I have never done anything with a man before or even thought of it! What are some pros and cons do doing this with her and another guy
So I know this is for gay guys but I’m kinda gay like 60% 🤣 and today at 24 I told my parent “ I’m bi and I want you to know that I sleep with women and men”. Exactly like this
It was a nice experience for the most part. My brother kinda ignored that and went to his house but my parents said that whatever makes you happy and stuff like that. They were a little afraid about STDs as only with guys I can catch them but for the most part they were very nice and thoughtful.
After that I went for a walk and when I came back my mother asked me if it’s their fault that I did not tell them sooner and if I had someone to help me with the bad stuff when I was younger and closeted. It was very nice thought and I just want to tell you guys.
I fell like it was the most freeing thing in the world but at the same time I feel like I don’t have anything only mine because after 15 years that I know, I told them too.
I am à women, and when I have a bf I said I am bi and when I have a gf I prefer to say that I am a lesbian.
Bi question
My wife and I recently started having conversations about bringing more people into our bedroom for the first time. This is largely because I (m34) am bi and really craving that kind of sexual experience. As we talk this through this we’ve discussed bringing in a guy for us to share an experience with, and that brings her some anxiety. She described an ideal situation where we meet another bisexual couple and swap, where she has some fun with the woman and me with the man. I’m excited by the idea, but I just don’t know how common a mutually bi couple is within the lifestyle. We are communicating a ton and are planning to go to an event and mingle to dip our toes, so that’s great, but does anyone have any experience with mutually bi couples or have any insight to what we are looking for? Is this a needle in the haystack kind of situation?
I (F22) have been seeing this discourse ALL over TikTok recently and I genuinely want to understand people’s perspectives on it because I feel like there’s so much nuance getting lost.
I think it started because of an interview with Victoria Monét where she talked about her experiences with women, and now people are debating whether a woman can actually call herself bisexual if she’s attracted to women sexually/romantically but only sees herself marrying or seriously dating a man.
A lot of people in these discussions are saying that if a woman says “I’d sleep with a woman but I’d only marry a man,” it’s inherently misogynistic because it reduces women to sexual experiences instead of serious life partners. And I’m trying to understand that perspective, but I also feel conflicted about it.
For context, I’m 22 and I’ve considered myself bisexual for years. I kind of discovered my attraction to women through exposure to gay culture and honestly even through adult content growing up. Even when I watched heterosexual content, my focus was always on the woman.
When I got to college, especially because I went to a theater arts school, a lot of my friends were gay and were basically like “girl… you are not straight” LMAO. And I used to be like “no I’m straight, I just would sleep with women.” Which obviously sounds insane in hindsight 😭
Since then I’ve kissed women, had sex with women, been physically intimate with women, etc. But I’ve never dated a woman or been in a relationship with one. I know I may get torn apart for this, but even in that, I’ve always naturally envisioned myself ending up with a man long term. And this is where people start saying that mindset is misogynistic.
I’ve seen people get mad when women say women are “harder to date,” but honestly… they kind of are? And I don’t even mean that negatively. Men are generally easier to approach because the social expectation is lower. You can approach a man with mediocre game and there’s a decent chance he’ll still go for it because a lot of men are just trying to get laid. Women tend to require more emotional intelligence, more intentionality, more vulnerability, etc. Again, I mean that in a good way, as women are just more intelligent and developed in that way.
But I also don’t know why it’s automatically misogynistic for a bisexual woman to acknowledge she prefers men romantically. People can’t really control what they gravitate toward.
And I keep thinking about the reverse scenario. If a bisexual woman said “I could see myself marrying a woman, but I’d only sleep with men,” would people call her a misandrist? Probably not. Or if a bisexual man said that he could only see himself marrying a woman, despite his attraction and desire for a man…would people dogpile him?
I guess what confuses me is that I’ve always been told sexuality is a spectrum and that the LGBTQ+ community is supposed to be open and fluid, but sometimes it feels like bisexuality specifically comes with SO many rules and labels. It’s like if your attraction doesn’t manifest in the exact correct social way, people start invalidating your sexuality entirely.
So I’m genuinely asking in good faith:
I’m genuinely open to hearing different perspectives because I feel like this conversation online has become VERY black and white when real people’s experiences usually aren’t. And selfishly, I want to understand if I’ve been calling myself bisexual for years and that actually isn’t true.
Small edit: Reddit, I understand you don’t like TikTok, but I just referenced it as the place I found the discussion started since it was trending on there. Just wanted to clarify, but my post isn’t really about being anti-tiktok, but more so the discussion of bisexuality as a whole. Thanks!
I’ve (26M) been in a committed relationship with my wife (25F) for 8 years, and married for 2 of those years.
I’ve had fantasies of same-sex encounters since I was a teenager, but suppressed them for most of my life and presented as a cis-het man for all of our relationship. We married young, and I had no previous sexual partners before we got together, so at times I’ve felt really sexually inexperienced in our relationship. She’s asexual and doesn’t have interest in sex often, even though there have been times when her libido was higher and she would initiate more.
I told her about my fantasies, gay porn that I would watch, and that I used dildos several years ago but never thought it would become real until a few months ago and she always thought of me as 100% straight. While on a stressful work trip, I went through a mental health breakdown which ended in a sexual encounter with another man, that occurred without my consent.
Afterwards, I knew I had to tell my wife, but waited a month to process what happened while I found a therapist because I was afraid and didn’t know if it was sexual assault. We talked extensively about what happened, and I’m having to undo a lot of shame around putting myself in such a compromising position, while she is still grappling with what happened and what it means for us. When I first told her, she told me that we would get divorced if I define as bisexual which caused a lot of hesitation/fear for me, and since then she’s been back and forth between being supportive, angry, or thinking I’m just ‘confused’.
She also sees the situation as me cheating with intention, but I see it as both infidelity to hold myself accountable and sexual assault and wish she had more compassion for me than to throw it at me in arguments, but I recognize that she’s hurting too.
To make things worse, a few years ago she asked for an open relationship and I said no because I was afraid it would cause us to break up and she wanted the freedom to explore but I wanted monogamy. I still want monogamy and a healthy, secure relationship with her, yet am torn bc of the shock at what happened and later conversations about her wanting revenge or to cheat back with someone she really likes even though the experience I had was really negative and unwanted.
I’m beginning to accept myself as bi, but have struggled with processing what happened, the thoughts that my wife has of me, and the changing view that I have of my sexuality. I recently came out to one close friend who is an older mentor of mine who I knew had a similar experience to get support as a safe space, and my wife took it really personal and was super embarrassed for someone to know anything about what happened. I wouldn’t tell anyone else outside of that person, and struggle with the idea of anyone even remotely knowing what happened outside of my wife, mentor, and therapist.
I’ve been in therapy for the past few weeks, and am starting EMDR to process what happened in a few days but am really scared of what it may open up for me. I don’t want things between me and my wife to change but they already have and I’m just really afraid I completely ruined our marriage.
I’m hoping that this group could offer support as even months after the encounter, I still feel in shock, and feel lost without a community or other people in my life I feel are safe to talk to because of the element of potential sexual assault, and the stigma of expressing my sexuality as a bisexual man openly while being married to my wife, who I still love.
I’m looking for advice in repairing with her, tips on how I can be more of a loving and understanding partner in a mixed orientation marriage, and ways that I can better understand myself and move on from what happened without shaming myself for my sexual identity.
Male I am very curious about bisexuality. I get excited about looking at male genitalia. I have always dated women. But for the past couple of years my curiosity has been working overtime. any suggestions? I want to try something new.
So I've been meaning to write this for a while, and honestly — what better place to do it than with strangers on the internet who actually get it?
Living in CDMX as a bisexual person is kind of like having a VIP pass to two worlds, and let me tell you, both worlds are a lot of fun. 🎉
Dating women here? Magical. There's something about the connection — the conversations that go until 3am, the way you end up sharing everything over mezcal in Coyoacán, the electric feeling of realizing "wait, is this a date or just two people vibing?" (Spoiler: it was a date. Best date.)
Dating men here? Also a blast. CDMX guys can be surprisingly sweet and open-minded, especially in neighborhoods like Roma or Condesa. The city has changed a lot and it shows.
The funny part is bouncing between both experiences and realizing — I'm not confused, I'm just lucky. I get to fall for people based on who they are, not what they are, and honestly that feels like a superpower sometimes.
Is it always easy? No. Mexican culture can be complicated around this stuff. But in this city, in these times? There's space to be fully yourself, and I've found my people.
To anyone else navigating this — it gets more fun, I promise. 🌮🏳️🈴
Anyone else in CDMX living their best bisexual life? Tell me everything.
im bi but due to a bunch of body image issues i really can't explore my sexuality (while sober) the way i want to because i feel like anyone no matter the gender is just going to like . have to pretend theyre not grossed out. i just don't have a conventionally attractive body and i feel like i'd be imposing it on someone even if they didn't say it. i try to lose weight and it's an ongoing effort but its been a life-long battle and im just tired of all of it. how to get over it? 😞
Having on and off issues with my wife of 7 years. Our intimate life has been long gone which prompted a conversation about why. Said she harbours a bit of resentment that when I came out my personality just seemed to change (which is untrue, I just became a little more confident). We've spoken at length since and although she says she's completely fine being married to a queer man, I'm starting to suspect that isn't true. Anyone else had a similar situation and any advice on how to keep me sane? Edit: I've been out for 5 years at this point and although we're happy it still very much feels like we're friends
I (20M) over these past few days I've been fantasizing about Women, even though most of my life up until this point I've been only fantasizing about Men.
So, I guess this is me coming out?
I am a 23 year old bisexual girl. My best friend is a lesbian and she constantly tells me that when we were girlfriends in high school, at some point I found a strategic boyfriend to throw off my family.
The evidence in the defendant's favor: she was an out lesbian, a tiny naughty butch, with almost no family. I was a little blond angel living in a Nazi barracks, under constant threat of execution.
And here I am, your honor, I trust in the clemency of the Court.
As I got older I realized my sexual prowess involves sex with everyone. Men, women, trans, nb, bi, gay, straight. I love it all in certain aspects. I grew up in a household where I was told being gay was a problem and it was a typical 90s upbringing other than that. When I hit my 20s I started getting sexual feelings that were all over the place. I started experimenting and realized that I really enjoyed most types of sex. Nothing with pain blood or scat but gay sex whether bottom or top, straight sex, dominate or submissive. The problem is that I'm only emotionally attracted to biological women. I say its a problem but I feel like I'm the problem because I've always been told that if you've messed with men and women you have to be emotionally attracted to both. I just wanna know if anyone else feels the same way? Regardless of your gender or sexual orientation are you only emotionally attracted to certain people? Idk if this sounds stupid or not but would love to discuss it.
Someone on this sub (or another bi sub I follow) recently posted that they wear a bracelet with the bi-pride colors as a sign to those who might recognize them. Sounded like a great idea to me, so I just purchased a really beautiful one online. I will report back if it works.
But damn it the bi-cycle is real and this one is hitting hard!
Seriously. I get bi- cycles and shit, but I've been literally dreaming about being squished and pounded by a masc af partner almost nightly for 2 months. I'm in a relationship with a partner that's just not really into that and I'm going fucking insane. We've been together for 20+ yrs so obv we click and have a beautiful life, but I just can't shake this longing. I don't want to cheat and no amount of solo play is satisfying and I keep fantasizing about things to do out of town at conferences that I'm going to. It's exhausting wanting something that feels so natural, but I can't have without hurting the person I love the most
edit: since this is getting more attention that I expected, I'll clarify a few things. We do talk candidly about sex and desire. We have tried xsomes, pegging, and have been open on and off over the years. The underlying issue is my partner is going through a rough depression episode and their anhedonia is really hurting our sex lives. We're both well aware this isn't sustainable, but if I were to talk about this now with them, it would be like a guilt trip. I'm honestly more focused on getting us dry and getting them into therapy than getting dicked down. I came here to vent frustration and I guess I choose to be a bit cunty about it
M23. I always had a bit feminine, submissive energy in me. I am not totally feminine but there is this part to me. Also i think i look like regular dude.
Since kindergarten i had difficulties with making friends. When my puberty hit I was amazed by women. I was fantasizing a lot abt them and abt my female classmates. I always wanted to be a bit dominated by them. I was wanking a lot to this fantasies at that time.
Later, in high school i still had difficulties with making friends. I never could get along very well with my male classmates. I always felt a bit alone. When i was finally accepted in popular male group i was so thrilled to have some friends. I remember after some party when my friend paid attention to me I tried wanking to him when i got home. First it felt really weird for me but since than my fantasy for sucking cock has developed. I never wanted anything more like anal etc. Simultaneously i still was fantasizing abt women.
Since that time nothing really changed. Most of the time i am still a bit socially awkward. I still fantasize abt woman romantically and sexually. But i also have really often this desires abt men that i described above.
I guess i just want to ask if somebody has similar experience? Do you think i am bi or something else? Do you think i just messed up myself throughout my school years experience? Thx for all answers.
is it normal that u wanna have s3x with women
while listening to m4f/mlw - does this word even exist? (srry English is not my 1st language lol) NSFW audio
like literally there’s no room for any fantasy about women all i can hear is this some random guy whispering at my ear and how can i still end up thinking about eating some 🐱 out???
does anyone have similar experience with mine…?
i’m a cis woman btw