u/Museumofuseless

Having on and off issues with my wife of 7 years. Our intimate life has been long gone which prompted a conversation about why. Said she harbours a bit of resentment that when I came out my personality just seemed to change (which is untrue, I just became a little more confident). We've spoken at length since and although she says she's completely fine being married to a queer man, I'm starting to suspect that isn't true. Anyone else had a similar situation and any advice on how to keep me sane? Edit: I've been out for 5 years at this point and although we're happy it still very much feels like we're friends

A bit blindsided last night. I've been in my head about a conversation we've had time and time again, I miss being desired and intimate (no physical contact for almost 5 years if I don't initiate and haven't had sex for almost 4).

She finally came out and said since I came out as bi and colour my nails and dye my hair that she doesn't find that attractive and struggles with me being eccentric and flamboyant.

At a loss and a bit low as well as my confidence being shot.

Just struggling and don't know how best to move on, we're financially dependent on each other and want to be together but how can I be with someone who doesn't find me attractive or want to be intimate with me?