Everyone I talk to just leaves me, when some people actually tell me they don't want to talk anymore they say I didn't do anything wrong, I'm kind, respectful, whatever. They just leave... I don't understand, if I'm not doing anything wrong then what is it.. it can't possibly be everyone I talk to that's wrong
I M20 I have for the last 5 ish years I feel like my feelings just don’t feel anymore. I don’t really get sad the last time I cried it was in front of my old boss in his office after I was like 30 minutes late to work and issue I’ve had and had a hard time kicking for most of my life I just sleep so heavy, anyways I don’t know how to explain it I feel like myself but I just feel that I don’t get happy for other people even for a close friend a mouth ago last his dad to cancer and I found myself just checking up on him but I never really was sad about it. It has almost been 5 years since my dad past away also to cancer (melanoma). I have 2 roommates that I don’t really care to talk to long story. I don’t really know what to say or if this post even belongs here… I apologize for my probably terrible grammar and punctuation.
Im very much content with being alone, the only person i talk to is making friends with other people and talking to them more recently. So Ive been alone and basically isolated. I feel fine about it but theres also a nagging feeling that i should try to find other friends as well? So im not completely alone? I tried making friends on discord but something about discord kinda gives me a ICK, like talking to people there feels like im pushing a heavy rock just to get a conversation going or to even connect and relate to people. So im distant there, now i just doom scroll on tiktok and procrastinate reading my book💀 If i can make friend here that would be cool! If not thats fine too. Just needed somewhere to yap and put my thoughts out there.
I feel very unhappy, empty, and useless right now.
I have exams, but I’m not studying. I can’t study. That makes me feel even worse. The guilt is eating me up. I feel like nobody cares. I feel like such a worthless person. When I look at other girls around me, of course nobody is perfect, but I feel so low compared to them. I’m really tired, so tired. I want to give up everything. But I know that’s a stupid idea, I can’t do that…
I just wish someone I truly connect with would come and say they’ll never leave me. I know if we talked for a few days and got along, I’d want to keep talking to that person all the time. I feel so helpless and alone.
the days sort of just blend together. idk.
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Hi all,
I’m M33, and I’ve never had a girlfriend. I feel like love, or anything romantic, just isn’t in my future. I have a lot of female friends, but none of those relationships have ever gone any further than friendship.
When I talk to people about this, they often say my standards are too high. I don’t really see how that’s the case, as I mainly focus on personality in people’s bios. However, I’ve been on dating sites for over ten years and, in that time, I’m lucky if I get one match every six months. I’ve only ever had one date. I’ve been ghosted more times than I can count, or I’ll get a match only to be unmatched just as quickly.
I’m starting to think I’m unlovable, or simply so unattractive that no one would ever take a chance on me. I’ve been asked before if I’m autistic. I’ve never been tested, but it’s possible, as I do have some traits.
All of this has had a real impact on my mental health. Over time, it’s made me quite cold-hearted, especially when I see other people in relationships. I’m at the stage of life where all my friends are either getting married or having kids. I’m often the third wheel, or I’m going to restaurants alone and asking for a table for one, feeling like everyone is judging me. Realistically, they probably aren’t, but it still feels that way.
I’ve tried to convince myself that I’m okay with this, but I’m not. I just want to know what it feels like to be loved and to be someone’s first choice. I know nobody is going to read this, but it feels good to get it off my chest.
Just need to vent ig. My birthday was a few weeks ago. I'm 22 now, and just feel super lonely. What's weird is all things considered, I've had a pretty good life. I've traveled the world with my family, I have a family that loves me unconditionally, I can't really say I need much else. I'm going to start living on my own soon. Away from family, probably in a studio apartment. I don't have many friends. I have a few, but we rarely get together. Been single for a while too. Life just feels hard rn I guess, and I can't help but think it's going to get harder. There are some upsides sure, but I just don't feel like they outweigh all the other incoming downsides. I've seen therapists before, but I've had mixed experiences. Maybe I'll get a small dog or something. Idk. I just don't know what there is too look forward too. If nothing eventful happens, I'll probably end it all. Guess I just needed to get that off my chest. Hope y'all have a good day.
I’m 22 and honestly, I’ve never been good at making friends. Instead of overthinking it, I thought I’d just try and ask here.I speak English, Hindi, and Punjabi, so feel free to talk in any of these.I’ve been a pretty lonely person for a long time. I don’t really have friends, and I don’t have anyone I can talk to openly. I do have a brother who means a lot to me, but we haven’t talked properly in years. Same situation with my father. So most of the time, I just keep things to myself.I think one reason is that I’m not very easy-going. I can argue quickly, and I’ve been hurt a few times in the past, which made me a bit sensitive. Because of that, I usually stay in my own space and rely on myself.
Still, I want to change that.
I’m a simple person. I like calisthenics, working out, watching movies/series, and thinking about how to build a better future. I’m also focused on tech, especially machine learning, and trying to stay consistent with learning.I’m not just looking for a study partner,I’d really like to find someone I can talk to, share thoughts with, and grow together. Someone genuine.
If you’re in ML/CS or any tech field, or even if you just feel the same way, We can study together, chat, and also do some fun things sometimes
My mom said to me Happy birthday and nothing else,im sad I think idk
I try posting in make friend communities and I get a few messages at first but then people either are dry, lose interest after a couple messages, or get really weird. I just want one friend that I can actually talk to on a daily basis and not just be stuck talking to on Reddit messages bc anytime I’m like we could talk on something else (bc I don’t want to always be opening Reddit in public) I’m either ghosted or get some excuse as to why they don’t want to. And that’s fine if you’re not comfortable with it but my main posts always say I’d like to move off Reddit eventually bc I want an actual friendship, where we can send tiktoks to each other, snaps, and game (I hate gaming alone but always am). I think I’m a good friend or at least decent so idk why I struggle keeping them. Maybe it is me? I’ve just always struggled making and keeping friends since I was a kid. I’m 27 now and see no change. I thought once I was an adult it would be easier but I was wrong I guess. I’m also in just a very odd spot in my life right now and I’d appreciate a friend who could distract me. Am I asking for too much? Maybe.
I’ve been relapsing and im so scared of dying in my room alone but sometimes I figure it won’t matter
I try to stay alive for my cat
Pre warning, my spelling is shit.
I don't even know how to write this. I have reached my limit on this and don't know what to do anymore, as it's eating at me now more than ever, and I think I should just call it in and accept the hand I have been dealt, and I have no one to talk to about this without being called an incel. Hi, I am 27m, and I have always had issues with dating, in that it's been non-existent in my world. At this point in my life, I have only ever had one relationship, which was a disaster as I had no idea what I was doing, which rightfully did her head in, and that ended up as a breakup text on New Year's Eve 6 years ago.
I have spent the past 2 years trying to better myself. I have been going to therapy, lost 10kg (still overweight but still), made some other life advancements, bought a unit, and finally started to feel semi ok with myself and tried to put myself back out there as I am at that age where I want to be setteling down as so many people I know are either married or having kids and my brain is calling me a pathetic looser that I cant do the same not to mention I have my family/extended family (they never thought highly of me to start with) have been either making jokes about my lackluster dating life or making comments about it to me which is making me feel like im running out of time. Anyway, I think I have tried all my pea-sized brain can think of. I have been on dating apps, get nothing, go on those date night things, nada have gone up to talk to people, and either been politely turned down or my personal favorite got told eww gross to my face once, so that was a real confidence booster. I have limited friends, and they don't really know anyone to introduce me to. Also, being forever single is a fun group joke, so all of this is making me truly believe I am the ugliest person on the planet, inside and out, a grade A loser that who in their right mind would want to date me I bring nothing of value to a relationship, and I am just fundamentally undatable clearly the problem as im the only constant in all of this and will 100% die alone.
I know this sounds like a whole lot of oh woah is me incell nonsence, and mental health gone haywire, but honestly, I have given up, and I would like to fully give up as it's true you shouldn't rely on other people to make you happy and relationships are hard work and if you go in with a romantisised view of it your deluding youself but for once I just would like to have what everyone else seems to have and actually feel loved so I dont know what to do anymore.
Anyway, rant over, sorry if this doesn't make sense or is too whiny.
The whole week, I thought I was finally starting to come to terms with being single forever. I actually didn't feel like I wanted to die because I only had one relationship and that was because I got lucky. Last night I went out drinking with friends and got shit faced to the point I puked three seperate times. Went to sleep and woke up feeling cold and nothing but dread. Wanted nothing more than a woman I could hold while I rode through this shit. Now Im back to where I started. Back to wanting a relationship where I'm loved for me and not for what I can provide. I wish I could just turn off that part of my brain forever
The only person I talk to is my mom. Life isn't what you want it's what you get. I wish someone here could understand the situation. I really do like reddit.
I'm 23 Old Male Studying Graduation (MBBS)
RECENTLY I Got Failed In My Frist Year Exam ( Anatomy)
I Got Year Back
My Parents are Worried About Me
I Don't have Friends To Share my Things
I can't talk to my parents
They Can't Understand Me
Sometimes I Feeling Like S**ui**de
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As the title says and I wanted to be specific if there are any specific effects of not seeking out help or just venting to someone about your depression, loneliness, a sense of not belonging anywhere and constant suicidal ideation.
Context: 20(M) whole life has been filled with misery but started to notice it mostly around the age of 14-15 and since then it got even worse. Every year I try to be better yet the only thing that changes is that it gets WORSE.
Never had a proper normal relationship with family, always fighting and filling them with non-stop disappointments.
Going to sleep wishing I don’t wake up the next day, won’t be committing suicide because it will just pass the pain and the guilt.
I have never told anyone about this to anyone except the internet and would like to just get some answers as the title says because I have experienced some slow cognitive functions. I may have stretched the context but Yh and anyone struggling with this disease I pray it gets better for you!💯❤️
As the title says and I wanted to be specific if there are any specific effects of not seeking out help or just venting to someone about your depression, loneliness, a sense of not belonging anywhere and constant suicidal ideation.
Context: 20(M) whole life has been filled with misery but started to notice it mostly around the age of 14-15 and since then it got even worse. Every year I try to be better yet the only thing that changes is that it gets WORSE.
Never had a proper normal relationship with family, always fighting and filling them with non-stop disappointments.
Going to sleep wishing I don’t wake up the next day, won’t be committing suicide because it will just pass the pain and the guilt.
I have never told anyone about this to anyone except the internet and would like to just get some answers as the title says because I have experienced some slow cognitive functions. I may have stretched the context but Yh and anyone struggling with this disease I pray it gets better for you!💯❤️
I just need to vent because if I don’t, I feel like I’m going to drown in my own thoughts.
I’m 37F and I’ve never like genuinely never felt like I was someone’s priority. There’s always been someone else before me. And that realization hit me hard today.
I’ve spent years being there for people. I’m the one who remembers birthdays, plans surprise parties, buys flowers just because, and checks in when someone’s not okay. I go out of my way to make people feel seen and special.
But no one’s ever really done that for me.
And now I’m sitting here realizing how alone I actually feel. Like I’ve always just been… there. Not chosen. Not thought of first. Just convenient.
I always downplay it. I say I’m not romantic, I say I don’t like flowers, I act like I don’t care. But the truth is I do. I care a lot.
I don’t need big, expensive gestures. I just want to be thought of. Like if someone sees a beautiful sunset and sends me a picture saying, “This made me think of you,” that would mean everything to me. Just knowing someone took a moment out of their day to think about me.
But at the same time, yeah, I want the flowers too. I want to be spoiled sometimes. I want to feel like I matter, like I’m chosen, like I’m not just an afterthought. I don't want to ask if that makes sense.
I’ve tried doing those things for myself, buying my own flowers, taking myself out, treating myself, but it’s not the same. It just isn’t.
And now I’m honestly scared to get into another relationship because I don’t want to end up accepting the bare minimum again. I don’t want to keep shrinking myself just to be “easy to love.”
Is it really too much to want to feel loved like that? Even just once?
I’m in 12th grade and dealing with a really uncomfortable situation at school. Last year in 11th, I had one close friend and we used to sit together all the time, which made things easier for me since I already struggle with social anxiety. But after the new session started, she suddenly began sitting with someone else and didn’t really give me a clear reason. Now I’m mostly alone in class, and it’s really affecting me — I even had to go home one day because I felt too overwhelmed and embarrassed.
I’ve tried talking to other classmates before, but I often feel ignored or left out, and it’s really hard for me to keep trying again and again. There’s one girl who usually sits alone, so I’m planning to sit with her just so I’m not completely by myself, but I still feel awkward and worried about being judged, especially during recess and sports periods when I don’t have anyone.
Has anyone gone through something similar? How do you deal with being alone at school without it affecting your confidence so much? And how can I handle the awkwardness of trying to sit with someone new when I already feel embarrassed?
So I am a final year student and my friend cum roomie is also a final year student. She got admission in UK at one of the top Uni, and will be pursuing her masters from there only. But the fact that we are just there in the same room for less than 1 month now is killing me. Like I never developed such a strong bond with anyone, she is like my sister and I share every small thing and every small memory with her. Not living together was already a nightmare but not even in the same country is just something I am not able to let go.
Rn I am too emotional and IDk how to handle this situation and help my brain get over it.
How are u guys dealing with such situations of not spending time or staying with one of your closest friend or person?