u/lone_fatman772

Pre warning, my spelling is shit.

I don't even know how to write this. I have reached my limit on this and don't know what to do anymore, as it's eating at me now more than ever, and I think I should just call it in and accept the hand I have been dealt, and I have no one to talk to about this without being called an incel. Hi, I am 27m, and I have always had issues with dating, in that it's been non-existent in my world. At this point in my life, I have only ever had one relationship, which was a disaster as I had no idea what I was doing, which rightfully did her head in, and that ended up as a breakup text on New Year's Eve 6 years ago.

I have spent the past 2 years trying to better myself. I have been going to therapy, lost 10kg (still overweight but still), made some other life advancements, bought a unit, and finally started to feel semi ok with myself and tried to put myself back out there as I am at that age where I want to be setteling down as so many people I know are either married or having kids and my brain is calling me a pathetic looser that I cant do the same not to mention I have my family/extended family (they never thought highly of me to start with) have been either making jokes about my lackluster dating life or making comments about it to me which is making me feel like im running out of time. Anyway, I think I have tried all my pea-sized brain can think of. I have been on dating apps, get nothing, go on those date night things, nada have gone up to talk to people, and either been politely turned down or my personal favorite got told eww gross to my face once, so that was a real confidence booster. I have limited friends, and they don't really know anyone to introduce me to. Also, being forever single is a fun group joke, so all of this is making me truly believe I am the ugliest person on the planet, inside and out, a grade A loser that who in their right mind would want to date me I bring nothing of value to a relationship, and I am just fundamentally undatable clearly the problem as im the only constant in all of this and will 100% die alone.

I know this sounds like a whole lot of oh woah is me incell nonsence, and mental health gone haywire, but honestly, I have given up, and I would like to fully give up as it's true you shouldn't rely on other people to make you happy and relationships are hard work and if you go in with a romantisised view of it your deluding youself but for once I just would like to have what everyone else seems to have and actually feel loved so I dont know what to do anymore.

Anyway, rant over, sorry if this doesn't make sense or is too whiny.

Pre warning, my spelling is shit.

I don't even know how to write this. I have reached my limit on this and don't know what to do anymore, as it's eating at me now more than ever, and I think I should just call it in and accept the hand I have been dealt, and I have no one to talk to about this without being called an incel. Hi, I am 27m, and I have always had issues with dating, in that it's been non-existent in my world. At this point in my life, I have only ever had one relationship, which was a disaster as I had no idea what I was doing, which rightfully did her head in, and that ended up as a breakup text on New Year's Eve 6 years ago.

I have spent the past 2 years trying to better myself. I have been going to therapy, lost 10kg (still overweight but still), made some other life advancements, bought a unit, and finally started to feel semi ok with myself and tried to put myself back out there as I am at that age where I want to be setteling down as so many people I know are either married or having kids and my brain is calling me a pathetic looser that I cant do the same not to mention I have my family/extended family (they never thought highly of me to start with) have been either making jokes about my lackluster dating life or making comments about it to me which is making me feel like im running out of time. Anyway, I think I have tried all my pea-sized brain can think of. I have been on dating apps, get nothing, go on those date night things, nada have gone up to talk to people, and either been politely turned down or my personal favorite got told eww gross to my face once, so that was a real confidence booster. I have limited friends, and they don't really know anyone to introduce me to. Also, being forever single is a fun group joke, so all of this is making me truly believe I am the ugliest person on the planet, inside and out, a grade A loser that who in their right mind would want to date me I bring nothing of value to a relationship, and I am just fundamentally undatable clearly the problem as im the only constant in all of this and will 100% die alone.

I know this sounds like a whole lot of oh woah is me incell nonsence, and mental health gone haywire, but honestly, I have given up, and I would like to fully give up as it's true you shouldn't rely on other people to make you happy and relationships are hard work and if you go in with a romantisised view of it your deluding youself but for once I just would like to have what everyone else seems to have and actually feel loved so I dont know what to do anymore or where to go.

Anyway, rant over, sorry if this doesn't make sense or is too whiny.