r/WLW

For me, loving a girl goes beyond the sexual. Beyond physical desire.

For me, loving a girl is expressed in the most everyday moments. Giving a kiss and savoring her lipstick, a hug and smelling her perfume.

Loving a girl is sharing clothes, even if our styles are not the same. Putting something on and knowing that she could wear it too, having clothes you haven't seen again because you lent them to her and she never returned them, and only seeing that garment on her.

Loving a girl is being able to be in the same place intimately without anything sexual happening. Getting into a fitting room and watching her change while she smiles at you, waiting for a response, but you're too mesmerized by her beauty. Having to go to a public restroom and knowing that she will be outside the stall in case you need her, whether it's to hand you a tissue, a pad, or to check that your clothes are on properly while she hugs you from behind as you wash your hands.

Loving a girl is being her best friend but knowing how her lips taste. Being her best friend but also that girl to whom he whispers in her ear how she would always like to be with her, that what binds you to her is not friendship. It's being able to balance being the girl she laughs with and the girl she wants to kiss.

Loving a girl is sharing experiences, life events, lessons you had to learn the hard way. Understanding each other on a deeper level, feminism, the role of women in society, the perception of lesbianism/bisexuality in our culture... Deep conversations amidst hugs and intertwined limbs.

Loving a girl is silently enjoying every moment. To do her makeup, steal a slow kiss, and return to work with a smile, fixing the lipstick you ruined. Watching some childhood movies together, discovering old photos or videos, laughing about when sexuality wasn't a frequent question.

Loving a girl is getting to know oneself and the other. We both have the same thing under our clothes, nothing new to see but a lot to discover. The naturalness, the lack of fear of being naked, of being vulnerable. Open to the "what if...".

Loving a girl shouldn't be synonymous with breaking the system. It should mean trust, comfort, intimacy. Loving a girl is not synonymous with forbidden or different sex, at least not for me. Loving a girl is loving the person to whom you have decided to dedicate part of your heart.

i was her "only" friend and she would watch my streams (on discord not twitch aha) she's an introverted avoidant, and we only spoke once during our first few calls after that i was the only one speaking during our calls and she would just type out her response. there was once i sent her a pic of me with a septum piercing and she went crazy over it (i think that made me like her for some reason). she has always been really pretty to me but i never told her properly. there was also once where we had the longest call ever (5 hours long) but once again it was just me talking/singing and she watched that for some reason.. during my birthday last year i was a little sad and i tried asking her for reassurance "do you think we are the way we are because of our parents" and her answer was "if you ask me stuff like this again i'm not answering" idk it felt like a really odd thing to respond with.. i get that she's a very dismissive avoidant but that hurt me a lot.. this year i got a job and i've been busy and so has she, she opened up about more stuff and i guess i overstepped and maybe that's why she's been so distant with me? i don't know i said i missed her the other day and she didn't respond but she responded to me on x.. i asked her to reply to me on discord (on x) but she replied me with "no".. ALSO she barely shares anything with anyone but she sent me a cover of her singing before so was i special or was i just a regular friend to her i'm so confused.. she could've picked anyone else to be close with (from the gc we met on) but she picked me??? i swear she must've felt something right or was it just me... now i'm starting to think i'm the delulu one..

i’ve been looking everywhere for ink episode wlw stories but i cannot find any:( if someone knows any wlw stories that are ink in episode please share!!

I’m an incoming freshman and gonna start college in august! Does dating get easier? I’m going to school in socal and was wondering if any of you guys got better experience with meeting/connecting with more people in college. I know I’m still young and have so much time, but seeing all my lesbian friends, mutuals, even cousins already have so much experience makes me feel left out! Still haven’t had my first kiss or dated Anyone yet just may failed talking stages lol..

After listening to you guys, my family & friends, and my heart. I broke up with her, asked her to please let me go and not call me on fake numbers an no caller id (bc she does that a lot whenever i try to leave) and she immediately called me 12 times on no caller id an hour after i broke up with her and hasnt stopped since. She literally calls me 2-3 times every 3 hours: This is the main reason why I can never move on because she always does something to get me to fall back to square 1. I dont want to change my number because I have IT companies that are supposed to be calling me the next 3-4 months and I know she wont stop for a while. What can I say/do to get someone like her to finally get it through their heads that its done and to leave me alone?

I wish i could show yall my recent call logs, its literally all no caller ids lol

We are both teenagers in hs and I’m kinda going through a rough spot rn, I’m depressed I’m failing my classes and I’m worried about my sobriety (alcohol) because every other time I was like this that was the only thing that made it better. I’m having really terrible urges to drink and I hate myself when I do so it will only make it worse. I don’t even know why I am so low right now, but anyway I haven’t seen my gf in maybe 2 weeks and I don’t want to. I want to see my best friend that’s the only person I want to be around right now and they live a few states away. It is me and my gfs 1 year anniversary today, and I feel guilty because I’m not even happy today I feel like a horrible girlfriend and maybe I am. Last time we scheduled a hang out I didn’t want to, but I thought once I was there I would have fun, and I just didn’t. I made up some dumb excuses to go home the next day and yeah I feel really bad about it. But I don’t know I’ve been thinking about breaking up with her in the back of my mind for a long time I don’t know what’s keeping me, she’s not a great person and I know that but I fell in love with her before I realized. Anyway I’m fucking sad and I’ve been staring at my missing assignments trying to find motivation to do them I just needed to write out how I feel I guess.

i’m a girl for context, so wlw.

I don’t know what to do about her, we’ve been dating one month today, which i know isn’t a while, but i’m almost frustrated. we’re both 16.

Before we started dating we were basically best friends and called every night for hours, we would always talk about what was going on and i felt i could trust her.

Recently we’ve been calling maybe once or twice a week, and she hasn’t been properly opening up to me like she used to.

Also she isn’t a good texter either, but she’s also been bad at communicating recently although we both agreed we need to communicate everything as best as we can to aide the relationship if that makes any sense. She used to be good on calls and in person but even that has faltered.

She’s also been ‘mad’ at me for barely coming to school but she won’t tell me she’s mad either, i can just sense it. I think she thinks that i’m just being lazy, but it goes so much deeper than that.

It’s frustrating that she isn’t speaking to me how she used to and I understand the dynamic is different but I just don’t know what to do.

We’ve also got a holiday booked with two other people, this was booked before we started dating, but i’m worried that something might happen and it would make the holiday awkward.

I’d like to add that we’ve still not kissed, i’ve never actually kissed anyone before so it’s scary for me, yet i want her to kiss me. According to one of her other friends though I’ll be making all the first moves which kind of frustrates me a little since i was the one to ask her out. I don’t know if that makes sense?

I know this seems silly due to my age and the length of relationship but I really would like it to last.

Can anyone please give me some advice??

i’ve been talking to this girl for 3 months now & it’s a long distance thing (we met irl initially but sadly within 2 weeks she was moving back home). she came to visit me last month and it was our first time after a couple dates being fully together and in each others presence. it felt super nice :) i’ve never been in something so healthy and sometimes it makes me spiral because we’ve never gotten into a fight and she’s just so good to me. she is very shy and introverted tho which is something new for me bc i always date rly extroverted and assertive people. i can’t tell if there is a lack of passion on her side or if i am self sabotaging this by ending it.

thing is in person it feels great :) but over text i can’t feel the romantic side of things & it just feels like im talking to a best friend. realistically we would be long distance for a whileeeee with no idea when it would end and could only see each other every 1-2 months for a few days.

with her being shy it takes a lot for me to get her to tell me things like about her day and stuff:( also, when it comes to the sexual side of things, she’s very inexperienced, which wouldn’t be a problem for me if it was an irl relationship but knowing that we would rarely get to see each other makes me think about the fact that it would take even longer for us to explore each other like that:(

i don’t know if my brain is confusing stability to a lack of passion:( maybe if i give it another chance passion could grow? i am unsure if passion can grow though…

MY QUEER PPL I NEED UR ADVICE BC MY GUT IS SAYING TO LEAVE BUT MY BRAIN IS SAYING IM JUST SELF SABOTAGING BC I NEVER HAD ANYTHING HEALTHY AND SOMEONE SO SWEET AND KIND

I posted this on the bisexual subreddit but I thought I’d post it here too because some people might relate to this rant/experience.

It’s honestly so embarrassing but I had the most intense homoerotic friendship with my ex best friend. Basically when we first met I swore she gave off bi or les vibes. She was a tomboy with short nails and she served like masc lesbian realness. Anyways when we first hung out it felt so much like a date. She bought me food and a tshirt (I didn’t ask for it and thats something a friend has never done for me casually especially first time hanging out), she paid for us to take photos in the photobooth (her idea), it legit felt like a date. She held open doors for me too.

Anyways she later found out I had a crush on her but she wasn’t weirded out at all. Actually she said “I can’t believe someone like you would have a crush on me” in a self deprecating way/compliment to me.

She began to get more femine but was still a goth metalhead but either way I was still in love with her. She was so protective over me and would get very defensive for me. One time I had a crush on this guy and every time he would walk by us she would put her arm around my shoulders which I was like ???

She would “jokingly” flirt with me when she knew I liked her.

She told me “Even when you’re just doing nothing you’re the prettiest girl in the world”

One time out with our friends we were walking out of In N Out and one of my friends asked her “You’re straight, right?” And then she looks at me even though I didn’t ask the question and says, “I think so.”

She said if we got married I should hyphenate my last name with hers.

She said I was something she liked to take care of.

And then…she got a boyfriend. She became super obsessed with him and yk good for her. But then last year something changed.

I had just turned 18 and decided to mess around with dating apps. I matched with this guy who I really liked and I showed him to the gc and she messaged me privately saying he looked too much like her boyfriend and that it was weird. The only explanation she could give me was that she was “weirded out” and idk maybe Im delusional but that seems like such a cover up answer. Is it really cause this dude looked like her boyfriend? Cause it was extremely out of character for her. I felt like maybe she…was struggling having feelings for me? She also would never call herself straight or identified as straight. Ofc this could mean anything but…

Anyways long story short she got super mad at me and dropped me. It still haunts me to this day because I genuinely believe what we had wasn’t just a friendship. Im working on getting over it. I still hope one day she comes back into my life

I have been on dating apps for 3 years and I’ve meet with 3 women. I’m a bisexual woman and it’s only been men men men. Not to mention all those 3 women ended after 1 date. What is wrong with me.

I am trying very hard to be the best worker, cat mom, to be pretty, what can I do to be better? What should I work on? I don’t understand.

Hi everyone! 🌸

I’m curious about experiences from people who have (or had) a positive and fulfilling relationship with a partner whose love language is different from theirs.

For context, I’m trying to understand how to build a strong, mutually satisfying relationship even when we express and receive love in different ways. How do you adapt, communicate or compromise without feeling like your needs aren’t being met?

I’d love to hear personal experiences, tips or strategies that helped you and your partner grow together despite having different love languages.

Thanks in advance! 💛

I'm a bi woman. A while ago I met a gorgeous straight woman at a friend's party. To be quite frank, everyone thinks she's not totally straight, but she identifies as such and therefore I'll respect her identity. It also doesn't help that she's in a right-wing conservative Catholic environment. So, even if she's bi or something she'll probably never come out. Anyways, I became obsessed with her. Eventually, I thought I was over it, I even met another girl and we dated for a while. But she broke up with me and I'm single again. The other day I saw the straight girl again, from a distance, and I felt my heart drop. After all this time?? Even after I dated someone else?? I really need to forget her. She'll never, never want to date me. Ever. She has a boyfriend too and he seems like a great guy, honestly. But somehow I keep fixating on this fantasy I built of her, I'm sure what I dream about is the idea of her and not even her real person. Do you have any advice??

Please feel free to share with me, i'm all ears~

hey, so ive been seeing like “masc presenting” “femme presenting” and stuffs when it comes to style. I have just been out like very recently so all these are terms new to me. Could someone help me find out what type i dress as?

So im a shirt and pant type of person. Its not that i dont like wearing skirts but id much rather prefer any tshirt shirt and a plain jeans. I do some belt and keychains as accessories and throw a jacket over it. I have recently gotten into dresses so im prefering dresses or pants and its like um baggy pants not tight fittings. Ik this sounds a lot like masc presenting from what I know but my friends tell me it isnt like that? i dont even know. if u want any more det js lmk but yh please help me out

I was wondering if any of you deal with it?

I am a germaphobe and i've never been in a relationship before, nor am i at the right age for it yet. But whenever i think about getting into a relationship someday, it's a given one has to kiss and go further than that at some point of it. But with my germaphobia, it gives me the ick sometimes. And it's not like i don't want to, i have desires too but it conflicts with my germaphobia and it's stressing to even think about. But thankfully i know the solution to it: I think i just need some time and a lot of preperations to do before doing anything, and i'm good.

Hi!

So there’s this girl from my class who’s been messaging me on Canvas. At first, she just asked about the schedule for our physics long quiz. Then later on, she mentioned she saw me riding the shuttle and brought that up.

My friend was like, “idk if it’s just me but I think she’s lowkey trying to flirt” HAHA. Like, “I noticed you take the shuttle too” = “can we take it together?” 😭 I mean, a lot of people in our class take the shuttle… so why me? HAHA jk. My friend also said she might be bi, so yeah.

Anyway, we kept talking about school stuff, and I suggested we move to Messenger for convenience.

Turns out, we were classmates back in Calculus 1 during freshman year 😭 We were even groupmates for a project! I just don’t remember her, which is kinda funny. To be fair, that was 2022—right when we were transitioning from online to face-to-face classes. I was super overwhelmed meeting so many people (especially coming from online classes), so that’s probably why. But when I saw her name on Canvas, I did think, “she seems familiar.”

Right now, I’m kinda kilig because she’s actually my type HAHA.

Earlier, I told her my special quiz was kinda hard, then we somehow discovered we both like cars. That became our common interest. The convo was going well until she had to go take a quiz.

I’m gonna see her again during finals, so I’m planning to talk to her in person.

Should I shoot my shot? 👀

Bro bro bro bro bro bro, gay I just watched bound (for the 1847937 time) 😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝 need that movie injected into my blood like both of them are genuinely EXACTLY my type and they are TOGETHER and stereotypical ugh give me a million anyway I needed to talk about this and my hb is gay so he won’t get it😒😒😒