Conflicted :(
i’ve been talking to this girl for 3 months now & it’s a long distance thing (we met irl initially but sadly within 2 weeks she was moving back home). she came to visit me last month and it was our first time after a couple dates being fully together and in each others presence. it felt super nice :) i’ve never been in something so healthy and sometimes it makes me spiral because we’ve never gotten into a fight and she’s just so good to me. she is very shy and introverted tho which is something new for me bc i always date rly extroverted and assertive people. i can’t tell if there is a lack of passion on her side or if i am self sabotaging this by ending it.
thing is in person it feels great :) but over text i can’t feel the romantic side of things & it just feels like im talking to a best friend. realistically we would be long distance for a whileeeee with no idea when it would end and could only see each other every 1-2 months for a few days.
with her being shy it takes a lot for me to get her to tell me things like about her day and stuff:( also, when it comes to the sexual side of things, she’s very inexperienced, which wouldn’t be a problem for me if it was an irl relationship but knowing that we would rarely get to see each other makes me think about the fact that it would take even longer for us to explore each other like that:(
i don’t know if my brain is confusing stability to a lack of passion:( maybe if i give it another chance passion could grow? i am unsure if passion can grow though…
MY QUEER PPL I NEED UR ADVICE BC MY GUT IS SAYING TO LEAVE BUT MY BRAIN IS SAYING IM JUST SELF SABOTAGING BC I NEVER HAD ANYTHING HEALTHY AND SOMEONE SO SWEET AND KIND