r/WIBTA_AITA

So there's a woman at my office, I'll call her Pam, who sits near me and we've always been on friendly terms. Nothing close, just normal work chat. About four months ago she started asking to borrow things at lunch. First time it was a fork because she forgot hers. Fine. Then it was a paper towel, then salt, then she asked to try my pasta "just a bite." I said sure, whatever.

The problem is it never stopped. At this point Pam shows up to lunch with basically nothing and just kind of grazes off whatever I brought. Last week I mad e a big salad with grilled chicken and she asked if she could have some because "it just looks so good and I didn't have time to prep anything." I gave her some because I felt weird saying no in the moment but I was genuinley annoyed after. She's done this like three times with actual portions of my food, not just a taste.

I don't think she's doing it on purpose in a malicious way, she just doesn't seem to think it's a big deal. But I meal prep on Sundays, it takes me like two hours, and I'm portioning for myself not for two people. I've started thinking about just eating at my desk or saying "sorry I don't have extra" preemptively even when I do.

My friend says I'm overthinking it and should just say something directly. But I hate that kind of confrontation with people I see every day. WIBTA for just quietly cutting off the lunch sharing without saying anything?

So I live in this typical university dorm where the official campus internet is basically a joke. It is slow, blocks half the gaming servers, and dies the moment everyone starts streaming Netflix at 8 PM. Three months ago I decided to take matters into my own hands and got a private 5G router with a decent unlimited plan. It was not cheap but for me it is a necessity because I do some freelance coding and I need to be able to play Dota without 300 ping spikes.

When I first set it up my two roommates asked if they could connect just to check their mail or whatever. I figured why not since we are all broke students and I wanted to be a good guy. I told them it was fine but asked them not to go crazy with huge downloads. For a week it was okay then I started noticing the speeds dropping hard. I checked the admin panel and saw that not only were my roommates connected but there were like five other devices I did not recognize. Turns out they gave the password to their friends from the room next door because those guys were complaining about the lag in some mobile shooter.

I asked them to stop sharing it and they just shrugged saying that internet should be free and we are all in this together. Yesterday I was trying to finish a project for a client and the connection was crawling because someone was downloading a 60GB update for some game. I got fed up and changed the password without saying anything. Ten minutes later the complaints started. They called me a gatekeeper and said I was being a selfish prick for hogging the bandwidth when I could clearly afford it.

One of them even had the audacity to say that since the router is in a common area I do not have the right to lock people out of it. I told them if they want the password they can split the monthly bill with me but they refused saying they are too broke for that. Now the whole floor thinks I am some kind of elitist tech guy who hates his peers. I am just tired of paying for everyone else to watch TikTok while my own work suffers.

I honestly do not see why I should provide a free service for people who do not even respect my one rule about sharing. My roommates are barely talking to me now and the vibe in the room is just trash. Am I really the asshole for wanting what I paid for? I am literally just trying to survive the semester without my grades or my freelance income tanking because of some random guys in the next room using my data for free.

I genuinely enjoy cooking and I have a habit of making extra when I bake or prep something on week ends. A few times over the past few months I've brought things in to share a tray of brownies, some cookies, once a big batch of roasted chickpeas because I made way too many. Nothing elaborate, just surplus from stuff I was already making.

People seemed to appreciate it, which was nice. Became a casual thing.

There's one guy, I'll call him Derek, who works in a different part of the office but somehow always appears within about ten minutes of anything being put in the break room. Fine, that's what the break room is for. The issue is the portion sizes. Last time I brought in a full tray of about 24 brownies, I stepped away for maybe 25 minutes and came back to find Derek had stacked literally eight of them on a plate at his desk. I watched him go back for a second plate later.

I didn't say anything because it felt petty to police brownie distribution. But other people had barely gotten any, a few people mentioned it, and one coworker who I know had been looking forward to them missed out entirely. This has happened more than once with different things. He's not doing anything technically wrong, the food is there for anyone. But th e unspoken understanding of "communal office food" seems to be completely absent for him.

I'm at the point where I either stop bringing things in, or only bring enough for my immediate team and don't put it in the general break room. Would I be the asshole for just quietly stopping the whole thing?

so theres this coworker whos got a thing she does. in group settings she makes comments at my expense framed as jokes. not cruel exactly, just pointed. the kinda thing where everyone in the room knows whats happening but nobody says anything cuz its technically a joke

shes been doing this for about a year now. ive let most of it go honestly

a few weeks back we were in a planning meeting. there was this piece of a project that needed an owner. and it wasnt glamorous work. time consuming, kind of a slog, the kinda thing nobody was rushing to claim

she looks at me across the table and goes something like well im sure our resident expert could handle that with her eyes closed

sarcastic. obviously. everyone in the room knew it was sarcastic. she was doing the thing she does

and i just went great, sounds good, happy to take that on, ill need full access and the appropriate budget to do it properly

she looked. momentarily caught. i confirmed with my manager that i was being added to the project and we moved on

3 weeks later she comes to me and says she actually needs that piece back cuz it connects to something else shes working on

i told her id already started and things were going well and i didnt wanna disrupt the work

she went to our manager. manager asked me what had happened. i said she had offered it to me in front of the whole room and id accepted

the managers were mildly annoyed at both of us. my coworkers was furious and not really speaking to me

AITA?

So I've had a Netflix account for a few years and about 18 months ago I added my sister to it when she moved into her own place. She has her own profile, I have mine, it's been fine. I didn't ask her to split the cost or anything, I just added her because she's my sister and why not. The problem started maybe two months ago. I got home from work, opened Netflix, and my entire "continue watching" list was gone. My recommendations were completely different. Took me a minute to realise she had logged into MY profile instead of hers and watched a bunch of stuff, and somehow in the process the algorithm got totally reset.

I texted her about it, she apologised, said she clicked the wrong profile by accident. Fine, whatever. Then last week I open the app and someone has changed the language settings on my profile to Spanish. I don't speak Spanish. I have no idea why this happened but it wasn't me. She said she didn't do it but she's the only other person with access so I don't really know what to think.

Here's the actual thing though. I went to check my profile settings and noticed she had also added a PIN to her profile at some point, which means she went into the account settings. While she was in there she changed the default playback quality on my profile to a lower setting. I assume to save data on her end? But she did it on MY profile not hers.

I haven't said anything yet but I'm genuinely considering just removing her from the account. WIBTA?

My husband lost his wallet on the train a few weeks ago. It had his entire life in it. His ID, green card, house key, and unfortunately even his wedding ring that he keeps in it while he works. We had to reorder everything immediately because we leave for our wedding in Europe in less than 2 months and didn’t want to risk it.

About 2 weeks after he lost it, it arrived at my parents house (that’s the address we have everything under). Some kind person took it upon themselves to mail it to us.

Here is the weird part…

The envelope arrived open. We bumped into our mail lady and she admitted she was the one to open it. She said she didn’t recognize the name on it. My husband has been getting mail here for almost 2 years so that’s impossible. And if she meant the person who sent it, why would that matter if she recognized the name? My mom said she is a very nosey woman and asks her inappropriate questions about her mail all the time. When we bumped into her she went on a rant to my husband and he had trouble understanding her (he moved here less than 2 years ago from Europe so his English isn’t perfect). She looked at me and goes “What?? Does he not understand a word that I’m saying???”, very rudely. She asked us what he was doing on the train when he lost the wallet as if that’s any of her business.

Here’s the problem. Everything in the wallet was there except his wedding ring. Which to me is the most important item. Not only was it $700, but it has sentimental value and it’s engraved with my name and wedding date. That was the only thing that couldn’t be replaced and is missing.

I’m ready to report the woman. Not only did she commit a crime, but she admitted it straight to our faces. 3 witnesses. A felony. My mom is telling me not to because she could lose her job, pension, etc. I don’t care. For all I know she could’ve stolen the ring herself. Or when she opened it, it could’ve fallen out. I’m pissed and feel she should absolutely deal with the consequences of her actions.

So WIBTA if I reported my mail lady for opening my envelope herself and then delivering it opened?

a friend asked me to help with something that required real skill and actual effort to do properly. im not gonna get into specifics but it was a full day commitment and i agreed to do it for essentially nothing because they were short on money and i wanted to help them out

i showed up and worked for hours. no complaints. it was hot, tiring, the conditions werent ideal but i was there and i was doing it

about two thirds of the way through i needed like five minutes. i was overheated, hadnt eaten anything, just needed to step away briefly to function like a human being for a second

my friend told me i could either keep working or leave without being paid

i asked if they were sure

they said yes

so i undid the work i had done and left

not all of it was undoable. some of it had already been used. but the portion that could be undone i undid right there in front of them

then i left

they havent reached out since. some people connected to the situation have been asking questions publicly that arent getting answered and i think the consequences of my decision are starting to become clear to them

i think when someone gives you an ultimatum about whether youre allowed to take a five minute break after hours of underpaid work they've already decided what kind of transaction this is

AITA?

So I have this old Dell XPS that I used during my undergrad years. It is still a solid machine with a decent GPU and I kept it in near perfect condition because I am obsessive about my gear. My younger cousin started his freshman year this semester and his parents were complaining about how they could not afford a new MacBook for him. Being the nice guy I offered to lend him my Dell for the year until he could save up some cash from a part time job. I told him explicitly that this is not a gift and I want it back in one piece because I still use it as a backup for my server environment.

Last weekend I was scrolling through some mutual friends stories and I see a video of my cousin playing some competitive shooter. He clearly lost a match because he starts screaming and then he literally kicks the laptop off his desk onto the carpet. The video ends with him laughing about his "gamer rage" while the screen is flickering in the background. I was absolutely livid. That machine survived four years of engineering school without a scratch and he is treating it like a piece of junk because he did not pay for it.

I drove over to his dorm the next morning without calling first. I told him I saw the video and I wanted the laptop back right then. He tried to claim it was a joke and that the laptop is totally fine but when he opened it there is a clear scuff on the chassis and the hinge feels loose now. I just grabbed the power brick and left while he was calling me a dramatic prick.

Now my aunt and uncle are blowing up my phone saying I am sabotaging his education over a "little accident." They keep saying that since it is an old laptop anyway I should just let it go and that he needs it for his midterms. They think I am being an elitist tech snob because I can afford a newer model and he cannot. My mom is even chiming in saying I should have just given him a warning instead of embarrassing him in front of his roommates. I feel like if you respect someone you respect their property regardless of how much money they have. Am I really the asshole for not wanting my stuff destroyed by a kid with no self control?

Family wants to take a trip to the Bahamas next year for my sister's birthday. 5 of us (parents, sister+husband, and me) in 3 bedroom 2 bath suite.

They all are in agreement that the fairest way is to split it based on bedrooms, while I think the fairest way is to split it per person.

None of us are hard up for money, and I can afford to pay what they think is fair, but I feel like I'm getting taken advantage of because it makes everyone else pay less than it would be if it was per person.

some background. my cousin's son has had a pattern of targeting my partner over the past year. small things that family kept writing off as personality clashes or kids being kids. I bit my tongue every time because I did not want to make it a bigger thing than it needed to be.

last week my partner's laptop was damaged. it is a work machine, not cheap, something they use every day. someone who examined it confirmed the damage was deliberate. liquid had been introduced into the keyboard in a way that does not happen accidentally.

my cousin was in the house when it happened. she saw the aftermath. her response was that it probably was not as bad as it looked and that family does not handle things like this through courts.

I told her the repair or replacement cost would need to be covered. she picked up her bag and left.

since then I have had multiple family members texting me asking me to drop it.

a couple have called me dramatic. nobody has offered to help cover the cost.

the laptop needs to be replaced entirely. the quote came back higher than repair being viable. I am not in a position to absorb that cost because her son has had a pattern of behavior toward my partner that everyone kept excusing and this is where it ended up.

I have not filed anything yet. I am asking first.

WIBTA if I file?

disclaimer this is a throwaway, everyone involved uses Reddit and I’m newer to the community

I (30F) am a single mother of two young children, my son (5) and my daughter (8 months). About a month ago, some friends and I planned a girls night out, I was excited because it is just my kids and I. I agreed and bought my own ticket in advance because I genuinely wanted a night to feel like myself again outside of motherhood. At the time, I thought I’d be financially okay by the time the event came around.

Well, now the event is three days away, and things are not going the way I expected financially. Even though I already have the ticket, I realized I need every extra dollar I have for bills, bus tickets (because I don’t have a car) , and keeping things stable for my kids. today I got hit with a shutoff notice for my electric bill, and the stress of trying to make everything stretch has been overwhelming.

The issue is that some of my friends are frustrated because technically I already committed, so to them it seems like I’m backing out last minute. But for me, it’s not just about the ticket itself. Going still means spending money on bus tickets, food, and childcare, and honestly putting myself in a worse financial position afterward. When I can just sell the ticket and put someone towards my bill which still won’t help.

What’s bothering me is the attitude I got afterward. A couple of them acted irritated like I ruined some huge investment for everyone, even though nobody paid for my ticket or expenses but me. One friend even told me that if money is this bad, I “need to put my children’s father on child support already instead of struggling like this.” That comment honestly rubbed me the wrong way because it felt judgmental and dismissive of how complicated my situation is. I understand people get annoyed when someone cancels plans, especially plans made a month in advance, and I do feel guilty because I was genuinely excited to go. But at the same time, I feel like choosing stability for my kids over one night out is the responsible thing to do.

AITA for backing out even though the plans were made a month ago ?

Me and some coworkers usually go out every Friday for casual lunch after work. it started as a fun little tradition to relax after stressful shifts. Few months ago we started inviting another coworker, but honestly every lunch started feeling negative after that. He complains about almost everything every single time. the food, the prices, the service, the noise, even random conversations somehow become complaints. At first we tried to ignore it because we didn’t want to be rude, but eventually people stopped enjoying the lunches as much. So recently we stopped inviting him and now i heard he feels left out after noticing we still go without him.

AITA for wanting to protect the peaceful vibe of the group?

I run a small tattoo studio and have been doing it for five years. My booking policy has been the same from day one and it lives on the website, the booking form, and the studio wall. Custom work needs at least a week of lead time minimum and there are no exceptions.

Daniel has been coming to me for three years, tips well, refers people, and is genuinely one of my favorite people to work with.

Tuesday night he messaged asking if I could fit him in Thursday for a custom sleeve piece because he had a work event coming up and wanted something done before it.

I said no because I had a full book and more importantly I do not rush permanent work regardless of who is asking. A bad custom design lives on someone forever and I am not willing to put my name on something I did not have proper time to develop.

I offered him a slot three weeks out and he came back saying he expected more flexibility given how long we had worked together and how much he had spent with me. He said he would find someone who actually valued loyal clients and has not responded since.

My partner thinks I shouldve found a way to squeeze him in but I think rushing a permanent design onto someone just because they have history with me is not loyalty, it is a disservice to them and to my work.

AITA?

So I've had Spotify premium for about three years. Last year my friend "Nadia" moved to a new city and was going through a rough patch financially, so I added her to my plan. I have the duo plan anyway, she needed music, it seemed like a simple nice thing to do. At first it was completely fine. She had her own profile, I had mine, zero overlap.

Then a few months ago I started noticing my library was getting weird. Songs I'd never heard of appearing in my liked songs. Playlists I'd carefully built over two years were suddenly shuffled into a different order. My "focus" playlist had about 40 songs I didn't recognise and several of mine were removed. I thought maybe the app was glitching.

Then I noticed my Discover Weekly was completely off. Like not just a bit wrong, recommending artists I've never listened to and genres I actively avoid. Took me a while to realise what had happened - Nadia had apparently been adding things to and removing things from my profile instead of hers. I think she kept mixing up which account she was in.

I brought it up and she apologised, said she'd be more careful. Two weeks later I found three of my carefully sorted playlists had been combined into one. When I asked about it she said "oh I thought those could be one playlist, it made more sense." She made decisions about my library without asking because she thought her way was better. My Discover Weekly still hasn't recovered fully. It's been two months.

I want to remove her from my plan. I feel a little guilty because I know she's still not in a great place financially. But it's my account and she's been treating it like a shared creative project when it's not. Would I be wrong to just quietly remove her?

my girlfriend and i have been together for about ten months now. and i think were genuinely good together most of the time which is honestly why this one has been sitting with me

every year i take a long weekend trip to visit my dad. he lives far enough away that its not a casual visit, it requires planning, i book time off work, i book travel. hes getting older and our relationship has had its rough patches over the years and this trip every year is the thing that actually keeps us close. i look forward to it. he looks forward to it. ive done it for seven years now without missing it once

i mentioned it to my girlfriend when we first started getting serious so she knew it was coming and she said it sounded really sweet at the time

then like four days ago she comes to me and says her close friends birthday dinner was the same weekend and she had assumed id be around and had already told her friend i was coming

i told her i had my trip that weekend and i had mentioned it to her before

she said she hadnt realized it was that specific weekend and could i not just go a different weekend

i told her my dad had arranged things around this weekend, id already booked everything, and this just wasnt a flexible thing for me

she said her friend had specifically been looking forward to meeting me and now she was gonna have to explain why i wasnt there and it was embarrassing

i told her i was sorry about the miscommunication but i wasnt canceling on my dad for a dinner that was added to my calendar four days in advance

she said i was treating her friends birthday like it didnt matter and her feelings like they didnt matter and that a good partner would find a way

so i went on the trip. had a genuinely good visit with my dad.

AITA?

im gonna start this by saying i moved out to a more rural property on purpose. like specifically. i grew up basically raising my younger siblings and at this point in my life i value my space and i dont want to be in charge of anyone elses kids ever again.

its a lifestyle choice. its very intentional. i dont feel bad about it and im not gonna pretend i do for the sake of this post

my nearest neighbors have two kids and theyve apparently decided my yard is just. fair game. ive caught them back there four separate times now. twice near my garden. once near my back porch. once actually trying to take something off my outdoor storage shelving which honestly is the one that bothered me the most

first two times i was nice about it. literally walked them back to their parents and mentioned it casually. the parents were like oh kids will be kids. completely unbothered. like i was telling them about the weather

third time i was more direct. i said look i need you to keep your kids on your own property, i moved out here for a reason, im not set up to be a safe space for unsupervised children and i dont want that responsibility. and the mom looked at me like id said something genuinely offensive

i dont know what she expected me to say. like. ma'am

fourth time i walked them back again and that time i was actually clear about it. i said if this happens one more time im gonna have to call whoever handles this around here because at this point its just ongoing trespassing

and thats when the dad called me a monster. like with his whole chest. said what kind of person calls authorities on children. and then the mom chimed in saying i clearly had issues with kids and maybe i should examine that

examine what?? i had no issues with their kids until their kids kept showing up at my house. i told them that. i said i have no issues with kids on their own property, i have issues with kids on MY property after asking you four times to keep them home

AITA?

I have spent the last few years slowly building up a decent collection of power tools. I do a lot of my own work on my car and handle most of the repairs around the house because I hate paying someone else to do a job I can do better myself. My dad is from that generation where they think everything should be built like a tank and precision does not matter as long as you hit it hard enough. He is constantly asking to borrow my stuff because his own tools are either thirty years old and rusted or cheap knock-offs that break the first time they see a real load. I usually do not mind helping him out but lately it has become a serious problem for my wallet and my sanity.

Last week he asked for my impact driver and a set of high-end bits because he was "fixing up the deck" at his place. I specifically told him to watch the torque settings and not to use the bits on anything they were not rated for. When he brought the bag back yesterday he just dropped it on my workbench and left before I could even open it. I checked the tool and the chuck is completely mangled and the motor smells like it was run through a literal fire. It looks like he tried to force a massive structural screw into old oak without a pilot hole and just kept holding the trigger until the thing started smoking. On top of that half the bits are missing and the ones that are left are rounded off to the point of being useless. Those bits alone cost me about fifty bucks and the driver is basically a paperweight now.

When I called him to ask what happened he just laughed it off and said that "tools are meant to be used" and that I am being too precious about my gear. He told me that back in his day they did not whine about a little wear and tear and that if I was a real craftsman I would know how to fix it myself. He flat out refused to pay for a replacement saying that he is my father and he "gave me the hands I use to work" so I owe him anyway. It is not even about the money at this point though that definitely stings. It is the complete lack of respect for my property and the fact that he thinks he is entitled to destroy my equipment just because we are related.

I am planning to tell him that the "tool library" is officially closed for good. My wife thinks I am being an asshole and that I should just let it go for the sake of family peace since he is getting older. She says it is just plastic and metal and not worth starting a huge fight over. But now I am stuck without a working driver for my own projects this weekend and I honestly do not trust him with so much as a screwdriver anymore. I feel like if I do not set a hard boundary now he is just going to keep treating my shop like his personal hardware store where everything is free.

WIBTA if I tell him he is banned from my garage until he replaces what he broke or just permanently?

I need advice. I (25F) am fresh out of college and working my first big girl, corporate job. I work for a medium sized company doing basic payroll, etc. We have approximately 75 employees. It’s a good first job and, for the most part, my co-workers have been amazing and very welcoming. The issue I’m having began about one month into my employment and involved a co worker I will refer to as Helen. Helen works in the same office area that I do (it’s just the two of us in that area of the office). She is mid 50s and a trans woman (m to f). She was married at one point but got divorced when she transitioned.

Helen sits across from me, so we basically work all day looking at each other. My first week there, Helen started commenting on my appearance, my clothes, how “cute” I looked, how perky my….girls….are. Things like that. I made a face once and she laughed and said that we are both girls and she can say those things without it being weird. After awhile, I stopped reacting to her comments and I just ignore her when she said inappropriate things now. Girls or not, those comments make me feel uncomfortable and it’s easier to simply not acknowledge them, but I do with she would stop.

A few weeks after those comments began, I noticed that Helen would disappear into our shared bathroom every day for about 20 minutes. She and I are the only two people who regularly use that bathroom. It’s a two stall bathroom with a sink and mirror. The stalls are enclosed and private. Usually only one of us is in there at a time though.

Anyway, Helen had disappeared into the bathroom and it has been about 20 minutes, when I spilled coffee on myself so I went into the bathroom to clean up. When I walked in I could plainly hear sounds that led me to believe that Helen was having some fun, alone time in one of the stalls. I know she heard me walk in and she seemed to get louder, making it even more obvious what she was doing. I panicked and quickly left and went back to my desk.

Helen came out of the bathroom a few minutes later and said “sorry about that, hon, I’m on hormones and sometimes the need just hits me. Good thing it’s just us girls here, right?” And she sat down and got back to work. I was still a little mortified so I went back to the bathroom to clean the coffee off my shirt and use the restroom. That’s when I saw that Helen had left a big glob of evidence on the toilet seat. A big, white, slimy glob, like from a p***is. Just sitting there staring at me. I gagged a little and went to the next stall instead.

Helen has done this multiple times every week since then. I’ve started avoiding the bathroom completely. One time she left evidence of her activity on BOTH toilet seats. I haven’t said anything to her about it, but she will occasionally try to bring it up to me. Like “sorry about my mess in the bathroom, the hormones really get me going, you know? That and your perky br**sts.” That comment really made me feel sick to my stomach but Helen then reminded me that it’s not weird because we both have them. I suppose that’s true but the ick is still there.

So now I can’t use the bathroom by my work station because it’s always contaminated. I thought maybe the janitor would say something to our boss but I found out last week that Helen goes in there one final time before leaving for the day and cleans everything up. It’s almost like she just wants to make sure I see it. Idk why, maybe to keep me from going in there?

So would I be the a-hole if I go to HR? Knowing what she’s doing in there, plus not being able to use the bathroom, plus all the weird comments about the bathroom activities during work and the continued comments about my appearance. Would an HR visit be warranted? I’ve never been in this position before and I’m scared of losing my job. It’s a very progressive company and everyone seems to love Helen. Are they going to label me anti trans if I complain? I’m not anti trans, I fully support Helen in that regard. I just wish she would stop having happy fun time with herself during work hours. Or at the very least clean up afterwards. And maybe stop making comments about my appearance.

Someone please tell me what to do.

TLDR: my co worker is having “fun time” with herself in our shared bathroom and leaving a mess behind for me to see.

I have been into 3D design and printting for a few years now and it is mostly just a hobby for me though I do take it quite seriously. My friend who I will call Dave recently bought his own setup and at first I was happy to show him the ropes and help him out with things like bed leveling or basic slicer settings. It started out occassionally but over the last few months it has turned into Dave calling me almost every night with some kind of crisis because he promised a client a specific part and he cannot figure out how to fix the geometry. I realy did not mind helping at first because I thought he was just learning but then I found out through a mutual friend that he has been charging people for these "custom designs" that I am basically doing for him for free. When I confronted him about it he did not even deny it and instead he argued that since he is the one doing the marketing and the actual printing he is the one doing the hard work and I am just doing the easy digital part. He even had the nerve to ask me to look at another file this morning because his printer was clogging and he thought it was a mesh issue. I told him that from now on I am not touching any of his files unless he pays me a fifty percent commission on everyting he sells that I have worked on. He got incredibly angry and said that I am being greedy and that I am trying to sabotage his new business venture out of spite. Now our friend group is divided because some people think I should just be a supportive friend while others think he is totally exploiting me. I feel like a jerk for potentially ruining his side hustle but I also feel like a complete doormat for letting him profit off my skills without even a thank you. WIBTA if I just stick to my guns and stop helping him altogether until he agrees to pay up?

So I work in an office setting. It's pretty formal. Generally people wear shirt and tie. One of my coworkers is a pretty big sports fan. In particular, this quarterback Jacoby Brissett. I'm not a big sports person, but my understanding from talking with people around the office is that Brissett is pretty mid. Not according to this coworker. He talks about Brissett all the time. How good he is. What a game he had last weekened. It's the offseason right now, but he still talks about Brissett. Wondering what kind of workouts he does, what he eats, fantasizing about running into him at the supermarket (we don't even live in Arizona where he played last season, which I only know because of this guy).

Anyway, this coworker doesn't call him Jacoby or Brissett. He calls him Brisket. Like the smoked meat. He thinks it is hilarious. I hear him talking about Brisket all day. And the first time I hear it everyday I'm still confused, thinking he is talking about food. He even got a custom Cardinals jersey with Brisket name on the back. And it doesn't even look like the real jersey. It's tan and looks like someone took a bloody shart on it. Now he wears this jersey every Friday, claiming it's casual Friday, which we've never had before, and bringing the whole office into disrepute. When I mentioned this, he said Brisket is the greatest NFL quarterback ever and if anything, wearing a Brisket jersey is more formal than anything I wear, even on the day I wore a suit. He's wearing the jersey multiple days of the week, even if it is visibly stained. He says the jersey is a counterfeit and if he washes it too many times it might fall apart.

Here's the kicker. Now he wants everyone to call him Brisket. He won't respond in person, meetings, or groupchat unless we refer to him as Brisket. I feel that we have to draw a line in the sand at this point, but other coworkers worry about upsetting him because he is still really productive and also he has been bringing in homemade brisket now which is admittedly really tasty. What do you guys think??