WIBTA for refusing to lend my tools to my dad anymore after he ruined my favorite impact driver
I have spent the last few years slowly building up a decent collection of power tools. I do a lot of my own work on my car and handle most of the repairs around the house because I hate paying someone else to do a job I can do better myself. My dad is from that generation where they think everything should be built like a tank and precision does not matter as long as you hit it hard enough. He is constantly asking to borrow my stuff because his own tools are either thirty years old and rusted or cheap knock-offs that break the first time they see a real load. I usually do not mind helping him out but lately it has become a serious problem for my wallet and my sanity.
Last week he asked for my impact driver and a set of high-end bits because he was "fixing up the deck" at his place. I specifically told him to watch the torque settings and not to use the bits on anything they were not rated for. When he brought the bag back yesterday he just dropped it on my workbench and left before I could even open it. I checked the tool and the chuck is completely mangled and the motor smells like it was run through a literal fire. It looks like he tried to force a massive structural screw into old oak without a pilot hole and just kept holding the trigger until the thing started smoking. On top of that half the bits are missing and the ones that are left are rounded off to the point of being useless. Those bits alone cost me about fifty bucks and the driver is basically a paperweight now.
When I called him to ask what happened he just laughed it off and said that "tools are meant to be used" and that I am being too precious about my gear. He told me that back in his day they did not whine about a little wear and tear and that if I was a real craftsman I would know how to fix it myself. He flat out refused to pay for a replacement saying that he is my father and he "gave me the hands I use to work" so I owe him anyway. It is not even about the money at this point though that definitely stings. It is the complete lack of respect for my property and the fact that he thinks he is entitled to destroy my equipment just because we are related.
I am planning to tell him that the "tool library" is officially closed for good. My wife thinks I am being an asshole and that I should just let it go for the sake of family peace since he is getting older. She says it is just plastic and metal and not worth starting a huge fight over. But now I am stuck without a working driver for my own projects this weekend and I honestly do not trust him with so much as a screwdriver anymore. I feel like if I do not set a hard boundary now he is just going to keep treating my shop like his personal hardware store where everything is free.
WIBTA if I tell him he is banned from my garage until he replaces what he broke or just permanently?