People that aren’t transmedicalists or are anti-transmedicalist genuinely need to shut the fuck up and stop trying to speak for trans people at all.

I don’t care if they “idEnTIfY” as trans or not, people spreading the anti-transmed, no dysphoria, infinite genders, rainbow hair, neopronouns narrative are genuinely the reason trans people are now viewed as a joke by society.

i have wished I was a boy since I was like eight and begun identifying as trans two years ago. ive just started getting into the community and I see a lot of hate toward transmeds and I don’t really understand why? as far as I know transmedicalism is that you belive that you need dysphoria to be trans and I personally thought that was what being trans is in the first place and I don’t really get how people can know they are trans without dysphoria, lowkey just want to see both sides of this argument and to clear up any confusion, thanks :)

Context -

The language and terms associated with this condition has been overwritten and continues to be overwritten by a certain group of people. (Seriously, only a handful of people maybe aware of to what extent this revisionism has taken place, and is happening).

I left these spaces a long time ago, and I was content to live life on the sidelines, but the generations that came, they effed everything up.

So, this is my attempt to set some of the record straight. It sure as heck will bruise a lot of minds, but so be it. I hope, from what I have seen of this sub, that at least here, people are willing to listen and introspect.

(A word of caution - the movement was hardly linear and uniform, so take what I am saying with a grain of salt)

##1 "Gender is a social construct"

This came about as a result of THE experiment by THE John Money, and a lot of activists wrote stuff that expounded and expanded on what this could mean socially.

It became a thing that one could "choose" one's gender based on behavior, presentation etc.

This was believed to be true, until the Money experiment was debunked by one Dr. Diamond, who did Reimer and humanity a big service by exposing how the experiment had failed. But even then, we continue today with "gender is a social construct".

The correction here is that "gender expression is a social construct", not gender "identity", which was rooted in psychology, as a strong dissociation or disconnect with one's natal sex, leading to complications, disruptions in social interactions and so on and so forth.

Essentially, in short, one cannot be made trans, neither can one "choose" their identity. People can only choose how to express themselves socially. Changing one's social expression doesn't mean anything w.r.t having/not having a strong dissociation or disconnect with one's natal sex. Those are completely distinct and different things.

##2 - "Normalize the bulge"

LOL.

Before this was a thing, people did something called tucking. Duct tapes, gaffs, what have you. Tucking was primarily done to avoid "the bulge".

However, it began to be seen as harmful, and in my time I did come across one case of the person ending up needing surgery down there anyways, due to the damage the tucking did.

Anyways, the people began doing away with tucking. At first, it seemed innocent enough that people wanted to avoid something harmful, and initially people tried to normalize it in a different, non erotic way (think "free the nipple"). It did not work out at all. that was taken over by ... uhem, uhem ... who wanted nothing more than to shove that thing in other people's faces. And on and on and on. Everything went downhill, until we come to "go*k".

##3 - "gender non conformity"

It was actually about been non conforming to natal sex based gendered stereotypes, rather than been non conforming to one's "gender". (cisgender vs transgender, but oh lord, shall we tell them, or better to leave this one alone?)

##4 - AMAB, AFAB, pronouns, misgendering, meltdown etc

*sigh*. People used to be more based. no one had complete meltdowns over "wrong" pronouns. In fact, pronouns weren't even a thing. If we wanted to not get misgendered, it was our duty to make the herculean effort to pass, to voice train, to put every goddamn effort.

Sadly, even the passing/clocking thing has been degraded and holes drilled into it in all possible ways, until none of the original intent has remained. For one, passing wasn't supposed to be taken to the extremes, like so many people do nowadays with extreme surgeries and so on.

##6 - leaving life in the open vs living a quite private life

As people in this sub tend to notice, except for a few who built their "brands" on giving out accurate information with regards to surgeries etc, many transsexuals have moved on, many aren't even active on social media at least in any major way connected to their trans identities. some are actors, some are business people, some are engineers, but most have moved on focusing on other aspects of their lives post transition.

But nowadays, we see many people doing that thing. you know that thing, right?

##5 - "transmedicalism is not a thing"

Well. Tell that to all the professionals from Hirschfield to Diamond to Benjamin, and everyone in between.

Yours truly,

Dracula.

P.S. more to come, but i want more blood first, as I am just risen from the dead, after centuries of slumber.

I’ve been on T for almost 4rs. I went on a long trip with some pretty insufferable people.

Had to share a hotel with a friend who I’ll call Bee. She’s 19 mtf. She was super cold the whole time and had the room at almost 30 fucking degrees while I had to sleep without a damn blanket since she’s allergic to the word compromise. Legit only let me jar the window for 20 mins. A few times I’ll admit when she started to snore I’d turn back the thermostat lmao.
Anyway. Throughout the 3 nights we had to share this room, sometimes Bee would wake up whining “bloody hell” or making these weird sounds. Refused any Advil/tylenol or whatever. Later when we met up with friends said her period started.

Bee is stealth so obviously I wouldn’t call her out on that being real or not. We’re not even too too close so I didn’t wanna ask any deeper about it. Ain’t my business until…. I could barely sleep due to her wanting the room HOT and then she wakes up almost shouting.

I had to go to the ER at 11 years old for having heavy periods. Had to take iron meds for a while. First started when I was fucking 9.

On our way back home, Bee drove me, I had a period for the first time in 2yrs. It was fucking awful. I had no idea that I was even bleeding until she was complaining I was stinking. No shit, you want it super fucking hot and won’t layer up (her AC also didn’t work) or let me have the window down. Thought it was just my BO (I wore deodorant and redid it multiple times a day I’m not gross lmao).

Until we stopped for gas. I went to piss. Blood all inside my boxers.
Suddenly her noises and grunting from her “period” stopped when mine started. She didn’t even carry pads on tampons on her (you’d think she would if she claims to have these). Thankfully this period of mine only lasted a couple days.

For all I know I could be wrong. I’m just confused. You take hrt at a specific dose at a specific time daily or weekly or whatever. You don’t have the uterine lining to shed…but you do have the pelvic floor and muscle..? Periods cause your hormones to go out of whack but if you’re on hrt they should be steady?? Idk. How do you have phantom pain from an organ you don’t even have?
I genuinely wanna know. I would post this on the main trans sub but feel like I’d get it taken down for hate or smth.

I don’t wanna feel like an asshole here but when trans women talk about periods it really irks me. I had to quit doing sports and other things I loved growing up due to the crippling pain it gave me. I felt like a freak for getting it so young too. HRT genuinely saved my life from stopping mine (almost) entirely.

basically pls don’t larp peoples actual pain 😭

He was my first and only love; we fell in love when we were teens, and it was really scary because my family is very religious, so they (and I) couldn’t accept it for a long time. He never gave up on me, though. When I was 18, I went through a long-term treatment for mental health problems. He took care of me every single day, never stopping encouraging me, teaching me what unconditional love is. By the time I was 21, I was finally stable and happy, and I asked him to move in together. He did—that was the best day of my life.

This summer, for our anniversary, I was planning to ask him to marry me.

A month ago, he told me in tears that he intends to go through a full transition (including srs). I can’t say it came as a complete surprise: he has always been very feminine, both in his interests and friendships, and above all he has always had dysphoria (during sex, he would never engage with or let me touch his genitals; he often did tucking). But in my mind I always minimized it, thinking, okay, that’s normal “bottom” stuff.

I don’t even know why I’m writing on this sub; I’m so confused, and it breaks my heart to say this, but I don’t think I can be with a woman, whether trans or cis. Being gay is a part of me I didn’t choose and can’t change. I can’t find the strength to leave the love of my life, and I keep hoping he’ll change his mind and go back to being the boy I fell in love with 9 years ago. It feels like all I can do is stand by and watch our relationship fall apart, piece by piece.

Curious about how you guys feel about your deadnames. Me personally seeing my deadname makes me physically ill. I even cringe when i hear other peoples deadnames that i know. Meanwhile my friend whos also a trans man is cool with writing it, seeing it, talking about it even though hes pretty dysphoric about everything else.

Posted on Tumblr about that maybe especially in socialized healthcare we should prioritize people who will literally die from dysphoria before non dysphoric people. Also heard the most dumb argument ever that not getting hrt can be life threatening for non dysphorics because euphoria can pull them out of depression??? Hrt is not an anti depressant and why the fuck would it help if your not dysphoric? Like I was all respectful and stuff and did not invalidate anyone's identity and specifically invited respectful conversation. Immediately got called an idiot and to stop policing other people and your not special. All I said was maybe people dying should be the priority

Like if we lived in an utopia that het was given out like candy I would not gaf but it floods the waiting lists has quadrupled the time for me to get hrt. Like yes the system isn't the best but maybe in a bad situation we should just a suggestion not give a shit about the people chasing euphoria???