Hello everyone,

As the title suggests, I have a love hate relationship... with relationships. Very peculiar indeed.

On one hand, I love love. Whether it’s romance books, movies, or series, I often find myself being sucked down that rabbit hole. There is one (perhaps odd?) necessity tho, those relationships/characters shouldn't be toxic. I don’t mind a playboy ML as long as there’s some healthy development in the dynamic.

It’s rather the same in real life. The only difference is that, since I’ve been single forever, I’d probably prefer someone in the same boat (i.e, someone without relationship-related baggage.) It’s mainly because I wouldn’t know how to relate to such experiences, and I’m not sure empathy alone would be enough in such situations. Also, I’m fairly confident that replying “that sucks” after hours of their life story wouldn't qualify as proper emotional support lol.

On the other hand, I've never really imagined myself with anyone, not even my crushes. Atp, I'm not sure if I should call them crushes, "fancies" seems more appropriate lol. Funnily enough, I do end up confessing sometimes, but only after I’ve either gotten over them or when I’m fairly certain they don’t perceive me the same way. So yes, it’s always in the past tense (very gentlewomanly of me, if you ask me :p) Their reactions don’t really hurt me because I’d have already mentally submitted my resignation from the situation and moved on to my next novel. If anything, I just find it amusing when they go out of their way to say "no" in all the possible variations.

Idk, it just doesn't make sense to me to be in a relationship at this unripe stage of life. I can manage myself quite well on my own. I’m sure having a partner adds a lot of happiness, and the right person might probably even change one's life but I’d like to think one should be in a position to reciprocate that energy, rather than merely being on the receiving end.

Again, I have imagined being married into some cool family tho. I'd like to believe that I don't carry much family trauma. My parents are fine with me, not so much with each other. Nothing too scandalous. I don’t really know how much that matters in the long stretch of providence. Does it?

Anyway, my doubt arises here. When my friends ask me why I don’t consider getting into a relationship and I explain all this, they just give me blank stares like I’ve started speaking an unknown language. Some not so close ones have even suggested it sounds like emotional unavailability. Is that truly the case, or am I simply being selectively prudent?

TL;DR: I love love in books and shows, but in real life, I’m happily(?) single. I confess to crushes only when I’m already over them, and honestly, relationships just don’t make much sense to me right now. Some friends think I’m emotionally unavailable… I’m not so sure about it.

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im 18f So there’s this guy, my best friend turned boyfriend, like literally my homeboy 😭 and we started dating and first year was sooo good. Like genuinely good. But as soon as we entered second year there was this huge fight.

Basically his childhood crush texted him casually on Instagram and this man started thinking “omg maybe she still loves me maybe she’s waiting for me” and all that filmy shit 😭 meanwhile he literally kept me on a waiting list while figuring out if he should go back to her or not. He even asked her if she had feelings for him and she said NO 😭 she literally just texted casually after a long time.

Then after all that he came back apologizing saying he loves me and wants only me and all. After that honestly he became sooo good to me. Reassurance, attention, princess treatment, everything.

Then again same January kinda situation happened but this time MY childhood crush sent me a request. I accepted it bas bas. I didn’t start imagining “omg maybe he still loves me maybe I should go back” like how he did 💀

Now comes this Mohini and Damini thing.

So Mohini is his friend and she keeps giving him relationship advice and all. Apparently she told him stuff like “your girlfriend trusts you so much why are you acting weird just talk normally with Damini” and all. And Damini is basically his old crush’s friend.

Now listen I genuinely don’t know Damini personally. She might be a good girl idk 😭 but I just DONT like him talking to her. Not because I think they’ll date or something but because after the whole crush incident it just feels weird to me. And he knows that.

Mohini is older than him btw like more sister type vibes only. Nothing romantic. they were good frnds and I'm OKAY w that

And what annoyed me more was Mohini interfering so much in OUR relationship like bro why are you directing traffic here??!!??

Then one day I got really mad asf and texted Damini directly. I didn’t abuse her or disrespect her but I basically told her she should stay in her limits and not involve herself so much in my relationship. Bsc even before this she used to make things weird like screenshotting stuff if we matched pfps or liked same reels and all. like making unnecessary observations 😭

And then omg drama started.

She showed my texts to all her friends and started acting super hurt and victimized like “his girlfriend said this to me omg I feel so bad 🥺” and all. And what hurt me most was my boyfriend DIDN’T EVEN TAKE A STAND FOR ME. He was apologizing to her on my behalf like “sorry for her behavior” and all.

That hurt so much honestly.

later things calmed down and he stopped talking to Mohini that much also. Like no calls and video calls now. Only casual talking if she comes from hostel and all.

this damini and mohini thing happened in mid March.

But yesterday something happened again.

I had fever yesterday and I told him. He was out picking up mohini and he was sooo dry to me. Like I told him I was sick and he was just like “okay” 😭 no care. Even at 5pm while he was playing I told him I ain't feeling well but he was like okay i gotta okay byee and I blocked him everywhere out of anger and then phir se unblocked him today morning because I felt stupid 😭 also hes having exams rn and I didn’t want to mess with his head more.

But he’s still not even asking me how I am feeling. Not even one proper message.

And now I just feel stupid because I genuinely love this guy so much but sometimes I feel like he stopped caring emotionally and I’m the only one overthinking and feeling everything deeply.

Doesn't matters whatever it is from First love to Breakup from Relationship to Ghosting from Cute movements to Heartbreak.

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During college, I developed a connection with a girl who initially interacted with me through chats, memes, and occasional conversations. I was consistently helpful to her (notes, projects, support), and she also initiated contact at times, which made it seem like there was mutual interest.

However, there were early signs of inconsistency:

She frequently talked about her past relationship

Communication was mostly about her life

Interaction was stronger online than in person

After I left college for a job, we continued talking. At one point, she even casually agreed to a date, but it never happened.

Later, when I directly expressed my feelings and asked if she would say yes or no to a relationship:

She avoided giving a clear answer initially

Said she couldn’t say yes or no

Later admitted her feelings were “on and off”

I eventually gave a clear ultimatum asking for a direct answer. She responded with a “no,” stating she couldn’t take a decision and didn’t want future regret.

Despite this:

She occasionally re-initiated contact (reels, reactions)

Maintained a light connection without commitment

This created a situation where:

I was emotionally invested, but she remained non-committal.

Eventually, I accepted the rejection and stopped engaging.

What happened

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I am 17F from India. I’ve been in an online relationship for a year with a guy (19M). My family is extremely strict and traditional; dating is not allowed at all, and if they found out, I would lose my education funding and face physical punishment at home.

The guy I’m talking to has struggled with his mental health and has used self-harm threats in the past to prevent me from leaving. Recently, I found out he was using a dating app throughout our relationship. When I confronted him, he dismissed it. I’ve been very hurt and traumatized by his behavior, and I finally decided I want to end things completely.

The problem is he knows my name, photos, and my general location. When I told him I wanted to delete my email and cut contact, his behavior turned very dark. He told me:

"In the future you are going to get snatched, try to save yourself."

He then described a detailed plan where he wants to create a situation where everyone thinks I’ve gone missing or worse, but he actually has me isolated somewhere. He says he will "keep me" and provide things like food, Netflix, and makeup, but that I’ll be with him forever whether I want to or not. He says he’s doing this because he knows I won't stay with him willingly anymore.

I am paralyzed with anxiety. I can't inform any adults in my life because of the risk of my parents finding out. I have no friends to turn to. I feel like he needs professional help, but I need to prioritize my own safety.

Questions for the community:

Should I go completely "dark" (delete everything), or will that trigger him to act on his threats since he knows where I live?

Are there any anonymous ways in India to report this kind of stalking/intimidation without the police coming to my front door and alerting my parents?

How can I handle someone who uses their own mental health to keep me in a cycle of fear?

I really need to know the best way to keep myself safe while eventually getting this person out of my life for good.

Guys I need some serious perspective on this because I am stuck in a frustrating loop. Lately I have been talking to a few girls and the energy is honestly great. We are not just doing small talk. It is actually a fruitful conversation with mutual interest and plenty of teasing from both sides. It feels like we are really vibing and the chemistry is definitely there for the whole day.

​My issue is the way I handle the end of the conversation. I usually stop talking after a day because I feel like if she is truly interested she should be able to start the conversation the next time. I do not want to be the person who is always chasing or looking desperate by being the only one to put in effort. I figured that leaving it open would give them a chance to show they care.

​However I have tried this three times now and it has failed every single time. If I do not reach out the next day they never start the conversation again. It just becomes dead silence and eventually things get incredibly weird and awkward for both of us. We go from having a great connection to acting like strangers and then I feel like if I text later it will just seem forced or out of place.

​Am I overthinking this whole rule about who texts first? I am starting to wonder if I am completely misreading the situation. It feels like I am losing out on potentially good relationships because of this standoff. Should I just be more consistent and keep the momentum going myself or am I right to expect some effort back? Need some advice on how to fix this cycle.

I used a.i to turn verbal my jargon into a post

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I told my boyfriend that I have PCOD, mastalgia, and white discharge since puberty and he knew this thing so long. I'm 18. The discharge thing is literally normal for a lot of girls, but sometimes it gets uncomfortable and makes me feel gross because it can get stuck around the openings and feels annoying/hygiene related.

Instead of reassuring me or even reacting normally, this man goes: "Then how will people do bj?" At that time we were talking about these things like bj n all but i didn't expected him to include this part into my health segment.

Like WHAT???

We've been together since school we were classmates since we're in relationship and are now about to go into college together, so hearing that genuinely shocked me. I was talking about something vulnerable and medical, and somehow his brain immediately went there.

Now I genuinely don't know if I'm overreacting or if that response was actually insanely immature and insensitive.

Because why was your first concern sexual when your girlfriend is clearly feeling embarrassed and vulnerable

So the story goes like this. Before 8th grade ended I became really close with a girl who was my female best friend and our friendship was amazing. At that time she wanted a boyfriend so I was trying to find someone for her. I used to send random requests to people on Snapchat and one day I sent a request to a girl. She accepted it and we started talking. At first I didn’t even believe she was real 😭 but she actually was. We met on Snapchat on 12 January and the next day on 13 January she proposed to me. I was completely blank because nobody proposes that fast and it was my first time too. She was honestly really beautiful 🥀

Our relationship went really well. The only problem was religion because I’m Muslim and she was Hindu. We were in a long distance relationship living around 5 hours away from each other. We were both from UP. She was Rajput used Singh as her surname and belonged to a Sunar family. Even though it was long distance we did everything online together Valentine’s Day Kiss Day Chocolate Day everything. That time was honestly the best part of my life and probably always will be because it was my first love.

Things were going really well. I used to post stories for her every day. I even stopped eating non veg for her. I made a lot of efforts and did so much for her. I even gave her a birthday gift but before my birthday came we broke up. The reason was that her family found out for the third time that she was still in a relationship with me. The first time they took away her phone. The second time she got beaten badly. The third time her sister called me and threatened me a lot but even then I didn’t leave her. They even threatened me with an FIR and still I stayed.

Then her brother found me through my cousin’s Instagram story because his account was public. He talked to my cousin took my number and honestly my cousin was never really good with me either. Her brother contacted me and eventually came to my house. Everyone found out. My mom already knew about us and the crazy thing is she was actually ready to accept a Hindu girl for me. But after all this happened she left me just to protect me and make sure nothing bad happened to me. We broke up on 7 July.

After that everything ended. I begged her a lot not to leave but nothing changed. Still the thing that hurt the most was finding out that just 2 months after our breakup on my birthday itself someone proposed to her and she accepted him 🙃 And now they’re still together while I still haven’t been able to move on. Today is May 13 and it’s been 10 months since the breakup. I’ve cried a lot remembering her.

I don’t even know what to say anymore. I did so much for her. I even gave up non veg despite being Muslim introduced her to all my close cousins made her part of my life completely and now everything is just over 🥀

I'm serious rn y'all, I can tell he has a crush on my sister the way he acts😭

I was once traveling with my Father, Mother, sister, Mami, and him, he randomly kept his hand on my sister's hand, I slapped on his hand and scolded him badly, he said "Lagaunga mein haath kya kar loge? " And he held her chin and made eye contact with her and smiled

My sister slapped him and said "Hat kutte" And my mami also slapped him

Just a day ago, My mama scolded him in front of my sister and he was trying to hide his tears in front of her and trying his best to hold back his tears and was tryna hide is face from her (He never hesitates to cry, he always crys as loud as possible when my sister isn't around)

He always gets jealous of me whenever I kiss my sister in front of him, or if I sit next to her

He always wants to sit next to my sister no matter what, he even fights if he can't

(I could tell more things, but I don't wanna make this post too long)

Kids these days😭😔✋💔

Hey everyone, I recently started a new sub r/DailyTalksIndia
It's a space where you can talk about anything from your daily life rant overthinking relationships advice or just random thoughts.
Not limited to one topic just real people sharing real experiences.
The goal is simple a chill no-judgment place where people actually listen and reply.
If that sounds like your vibe feel free to check it out and be part of it:)

Me 17F honestly i have been using social media for a whileee and what do you ppl think is safe enough to post on? im okay with posting anything and i suppose if ppl want on text i do send my pics to them of outings or a place i went really easily but what about posts? n stories n eevrything?