Guys I need some serious perspective on this because I am stuck in a frustrating loop. Lately I have been talking to a few girls and the energy is honestly great. We are not just doing small talk. It is actually a fruitful conversation with mutual interest and plenty of teasing from both sides. It feels like we are really vibing and the chemistry is definitely there for the whole day.
My issue is the way I handle the end of the conversation. I usually stop talking after a day because I feel like if she is truly interested she should be able to start the conversation the next time. I do not want to be the person who is always chasing or looking desperate by being the only one to put in effort. I figured that leaving it open would give them a chance to show they care.
However I have tried this three times now and it has failed every single time. If I do not reach out the next day they never start the conversation again. It just becomes dead silence and eventually things get incredibly weird and awkward for both of us. We go from having a great connection to acting like strangers and then I feel like if I text later it will just seem forced or out of place.
Am I overthinking this whole rule about who texts first? I am starting to wonder if I am completely misreading the situation. It feels like I am losing out on potentially good relationships because of this standoff. Should I just be more consistent and keep the momentum going myself or am I right to expect some effort back? Need some advice on how to fix this cycle.
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