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I am 17F from India. I’ve been in an online relationship for a year with a guy (19M) from Ludhiana. My family is extremely strict and traditional; dating is not allowed at all, and if they found out, I would lose my education funding and face physical punishment at home.

The guy I’m talking to has struggled with his mental health and has used self-harm threats in the past to prevent me from leaving. Recently, I found out he was using a dating app throughout our relationship. When I confronted him, he dismissed it. I’ve been very hurt and traumatized by his behavior, and I finally decided I want to end things completely.

The problem is he knows my name, photos, and my general location. When I told him I wanted to delete my email and cut contact, his behavior turned very dark. He told me:

"In the future you are going to get snatched, try to save yourself."

He then described a detailed plan where he wants to create a situation where everyone thinks I’ve gone missing or worse, but he actually has me isolated somewhere. He says he will "keep me" and provide things like food, Netflix, and makeup, but that I’ll be with him forever whether I want to or not. He says he’s doing this because he knows I won't stay with him willingly anymore.

I am paralyzed with anxiety. I can't inform any adults in my life because of the risk of my parents finding out. I have no friends to turn to. I feel like he needs professional help, but I need to prioritize my own safety.

Questions for the community:

Should I go completely "dark" (delete everything), or will that trigger him to act on his threats since he knows where I live?

Are there any anonymous ways in India to report this kind of stalking/intimidation without the police coming to my front door and alerting my parents?

How can I handle someone who uses their own mental health to keep me in a cycle of fear?

I really need to know the best way to keep myself safe while eventually getting this person out of my life for good.

I am 17F from India. I’ve been in an online relationship for a year with a guy (19M). My family is extremely strict and traditional; dating is not allowed at all, and if they found out, I would lose my education funding and face physical punishment at home.

The guy I’m talking to has struggled with his mental health and has used self-harm threats in the past to prevent me from leaving. Recently, I found out he was using a dating app throughout our relationship. When I confronted him, he dismissed it. I’ve been very hurt and traumatized by his behavior, and I finally decided I want to end things completely.

The problem is he knows my name, photos, and my general location. When I told him I wanted to delete my email and cut contact, his behavior turned very dark. He told me:

"In the future you are going to get snatched, try to save yourself."

He then described a detailed plan where he wants to create a situation where everyone thinks I’ve gone missing or worse, but he actually has me isolated somewhere. He says he will "keep me" and provide things like food, Netflix, and makeup, but that I’ll be with him forever whether I want to or not. He says he’s doing this because he knows I won't stay with him willingly anymore.

I am paralyzed with anxiety. I can't inform any adults in my life because of the risk of my parents finding out. I have no friends to turn to. I feel like he needs professional help, but I need to prioritize my own safety.

Questions for the community:

Should I go completely "dark" (delete everything), or will that trigger him to act on his threats since he knows where I live?

Are there any anonymous ways in India to report this kind of stalking/intimidation without the police coming to my front door and alerting my parents?

How can I handle someone who uses their own mental health to keep me in a cycle of fear?

I really need to know the best way to keep myself safe while eventually getting this person out of my life for good.

I am 17F from India. I’ve been in an online relationship for a year with a guy (19M). My family is extremely strict and traditional; dating is not allowed at all, and if they found out, I would lose my education funding and face physical punishment at home.

The guy I’m talking to has struggled with his mental health and has used self-harm threats in the past to prevent me from leaving. Recently, I found out he was using a dating app throughout our relationship. When I confronted him, he dismissed it. I’ve been very hurt and traumatized by his behavior, and I finally decided I want to end things completely.

The problem is he knows my name, photos, and my general location. When I told him I wanted to delete my email and cut contact, his behavior turned very dark. He told me:

"In the future you are going to get snatched, try to save yourself."

He then described a detailed plan where he wants to create a situation where everyone thinks I’ve gone missing or worse, but he actually has me isolated somewhere. He says he will "keep me" and provide things like food, Netflix, and makeup, but that I’ll be with him forever whether I want to or not. He says he’s doing this because he knows I won't stay with him willingly anymore.

I am paralyzed with anxiety. I can't inform any adults in my life because of the risk of my parents finding out. I have no friends to turn to. I feel like he needs professional help, but I need to prioritize my own safety.

Questions for the community:

Should I go completely "dark" (delete everything), or will that trigger him to act on his threats since he knows where I live?

Are there any anonymous ways in India to report this kind of stalking/intimidation without the police coming to my front door and alerting my parents?

How can I handle someone who uses their own mental health to keep me in a cycle of fear?

I really need to know the best way to keep myself safe while eventually getting this person out of my life for good.

I am 17F from India. I’ve been in an online relationship for a year with a guy (19M). My family is extremely strict and traditional; dating is not allowed at all, and if they found out, I would lose my education funding and face physical punishment at home.

The guy I’m talking to has struggled with his mental health and has used self-harm threats in the past to prevent me from leaving. Recently, I found out he was using a dating app throughout our relationship. When I confronted him, he dismissed it. I’ve been very hurt and traumatized by his behavior, and I finally decided I want to end things completely.

The problem is he knows my name, photos, and my general location. When I told him I wanted to delete my email and cut contact, his behavior turned very dark. He told me:

"In the future you are going to get snatched, try to save yourself."

He then described a detailed plan where he wants to create a situation where everyone thinks I’ve gone missing or worse, but he actually has me isolated somewhere. He says he will "keep me" and provide things like food, Netflix, and makeup, but that I’ll be with him forever whether I want to or not. He says he’s doing this because he knows I won't stay with him willingly anymore.

I am paralyzed with anxiety. I can't inform any adults in my life because of the risk of my parents finding out. I have no friends to turn to. I feel like he needs professional help, but I need to prioritize my own safety.

Questions for the community:

Should I go completely "dark" (delete everything), or will that trigger him to act on his threats since he knows where I live?

Are there any anonymous ways in India to report this kind of stalking/intimidation without the police coming to my front door and alerting my parents?

How can I handle someone who uses their own mental health to keep me in a cycle of fear?

I really need to know the best way to keep myself safe while eventually getting this person out of my life for good.