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Insecure Men

Something i had noticed in this group is that some men are constantly complaining about how punjabi girls are gold diggers for wanting a financially well off partner. Men are often raised to believe they should be providers and protectors. So why shame punjabi women for wanting someone who embodies those qualities. Wanting a partner who is financially secure does not make a woman a gold digger it just means she values stability and wants a comfortable life for herself and her future children. Instead of calling women gold diggers why not put that energy into self improvement. High value men are not threatened by women with standards. Plus some punjabi women come from well off families where they were raised without financial restrictions so why would they downgrade financially just to make a man feel more secure lol.

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u/Clean-Salary-5858 — 24 hours ago

Am I doomed as a Punjabi Guy?

In my mid-20s and it seems like every Punjabi girl I talk to is either really mean or I don't meet their standards. One girl went as far to insult my profession and said it was too "female" (ICU Nurse for reference), which I guess is fair, but went about it in a mean way. Some girls said im too short (5'10), others say I'm not their "type" (I don't think i'm ugly and have a beard?) or there's no "spark". One thing I could do is work on my body. Not really fat, but gained some weight during school and want to get jacked like I was before. This is not to say that all Punjabi girls are like that, I know they're not. Maybe it's me, I know can improve. I'm not perfect by any means.

Anyways, it's been really time-consuming and I'm seriously considering going back for med school. Was never on my radar, but I have the grades and I've been becoming more inclined to it due to my love of medicine and healthcare. I just don't want to feel like I'm not doing anything in life and would rather by pursuing something I love rather than wasting time with girls. If anyone has any tips or suggestions, it would be appreciated. Also thanks for reading if you stuck around.

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u/Internal-Finger9161 — 1 day ago

Is anyone else extremely disappointed in the Canadian Youth and the Radicalization?

I come across several videos of young Canadians that spend their days online blaming Punjabis, sometimes Punjabis in Punjab that have never entered Canada, for "taking all the jobs", "taking all the housing". While Canada has seen the housing cost to wage ratio skyrocket to the point no youth regardless of race can afford houses, rather than fighting for more unions and better salaries for the working class, the Canadian youth decided to blame Punjabi Canadians and minorities for all their problems.

If all Punjabi Canadians left tomorrow, the racist Canadian youth wouldn't stop the blaming. They'll blame conspiracies, Mainland Chinese immigration, the boomers, their parents, etc. While their grandparents run their Mercedes Benz on the road with a cabin in Muskoka and a house that they reverse mortgage, they love watching their own youth turning on minorities rather than asking their own grandparents for some generational wealth help. The racist youth goes on to believe that somehow Pardeep in Punjab is taking the 2 million dollar homes in Ontario while his grandparents have 4 rental properties for their retirement renting out to Pardeep and shared nothing with their kids.

While Canada sees poverty for youth rise and more unemployment because companies want to undermine wages for profits by design, the racist youth keep blaming fellow Canadians. The keep saying "patterns, culture, etc" while ignoring any tit-for-tat argument when patterns are recognized against them...

So you might ask, "why am I so worried? this is all online?". Well, they are heavily armed and Canada spends millions to send militarized units to get them. They got their whole families and names posted and make radicalized comments, while displaying massive amounts of illegal equipment so that Canada has to enforce federal laws and waste resources on the radicalized youth. We captured Hale and it's public information now: source: https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/whitedate-canada-military-9.7117307 . Progressives haven't stepped up and unfortunately, progressives no longer exist in Canada with the NDP expected to lose status.

These are real people, real names, radicalized with equipment and a concern that isn't taken seriously. I show the people behind some of this, look at the comments and the names. You want to talk about Punjabi culture or raise kids when we have them? I advice Punjabis that want to see their youth be saved to report these people by name and images to the RCMP on their site or the vast network online built to capture the radicalized regime before they develop too far. And for those who justify it, I don't even know what to say other than this isn't Munich, Germany in the 1930s, this is the country that lost its ancestors to that ideology.

u/TestingLifeThrow1z — 11 hours ago
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Are Punjabis the most underrated in the Western Hemisphere?

Despite the amount of racism and propaganda Punjabis face in Canada, US, New Zealand, Australia, India, etc, the emergence of Punjabis continues in a rapid rise with many notable names in sports, politics, media, society, etc.

I hear the name of Punjabis so many times in my day-to-day life that I forget to realize that we only represent less than 3% of the population in Canada and around 0.3% of the world population. I've been hearing the name Caleb Malhotra in the hockey space and despite his mixed heritage, the name Malhotra comes up so many times from non-Punjabis and represents his descendants from Punjab, India. I feel pride in the community and us.

Punjabis have always been a very persistent, in-your-face, confident population and that has always bothered everyone around them throughout our history. We make our presence known. Since the emergence of Sikhism in Punjab, India constantly holding against invasions, to the Anglo-Sikh wars requiring 2 wars with the world's largest Imperial force human history has known in the past centuries, Punjabis get it done where you least expect it.

So many times we buy into propaganda sold by mass media, the racists, and the world, and forget who we are. A better, stronger, taller, elite, persistent population.

For example, far right Tyler Oliveira has been making non-stop clips and content trying to destroy the reputation of Punjabis and he's doing it in....drum roll....Portugal! I didn't even know about Portugal having a strong and powerful Punjabi community that was making the far right shake in their boots...He's posting them everyday!

I wanted to highlight some names you probably have or have not heard of with the pictures.

  1. Balbir Singh Dosanjh, a 3-time gold medallist dynasty field hockey player to win gold in 1948 London, 1952 Helsinki, and 1956 Melbourne Olympics.

  2. Mixed Punjabi Kevin Bahl, one of the biggest players you see on the ice for the Calgary Flames and part of the Gold 2020 WJC Championship squad.

  3. Satnam Singh Bhamara, 7'2 center selected 52nd by the Mavs.

  4. Milkha Singh, one of the world's fastest sprinters during the late 50s and early 60s. The 1960 Olympics 200m being the most famous.

  5. Gurcharan Singh Grewal, part of the 1936 Berlin Olympics, Gold-medallist for India versus Germany on the German home base during the most prominent event for the Germans.

  6. Caleb Malhotra and his dad Manny Malhotra, part of the Shadi Malhotra family from Punjab. Caleb being a household name for a future top player in ice hockey.

  7. Harnaaz Kaur Sandhu, Miss Universe 2021, only Asian outside of the Philippines and Japan to win the Miss Universe title in the past quarter century.

  8. Narinder Singh Kapany, one of seven Fortune "Unsung Heroes of the 20th Century" who invented and coined the term today known as Fibre Optics. He never won the Nobel Prize, but Har Gobind Khorana is another name that did.

  9. Harnarayan Singh, one of the future top sports broadcasters and part of Sportsnet Hockey. M.S.M winner, one of 2,000 awards given out by the Governer General of Canada.

I can go on with Ajay at World Bank, etc. I missed lots of names, but please drop any mentions of names well known.

u/TestingLifeThrow1z — 4 days ago

Best walking shoes

Looking for cute and comfortable walking shoes for 10k+ steps a day. I’m between New Balance and ASICS right now. What models would you recommend for comfort and long walks? Any recs?

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u/swan-44 — 15 hours ago
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Gems Of Punjab Part -2 (Sobha Singh )

SOBHA SINGH WAS NOT SIMPLY PAINTER . HE BECAME ONE OF GREATEST VISUAL STORY TELLER OF PUNJAB AND SIKH CIVILIZATION IN 20 CENTURY. THROUGH HIS PAINTINGS MILLIONS PEOPLE LEARNED HOW SIKH GURU, PUNJABI FOLKLORE LOOK LIKE

BIRTH AND EARLY LIFE 🧬 👶

Sobha singh was born on 29 november 1901 in district gurdaspur shri hargobindpur named a small town or village before partition (now in east Punjab) His father served in the colonial military and had an artistic interest.Due to his guidance he is disciplined have interest in art.

Due to his environment he learnt about sikh tradition and rural punjab values . From childhood he showed interest in sketching faces , observing people ,drawing village scenes , and studying expression. During that time punjab was under colonial rule and the government had control on art , media and other things . They did not want traditional art to come up. Photography and printing replaced the miniature painting 🎨🖌️ tradition .He went to the industrial school in Amritsar where he learned to draw the design of machines . After this he went to the military where he learned about discipline , patience order and accuracy. He works with technical drafts , sign work , illustration and practical design in the military 🪖.

MOVING TO LAHORE AFTER SERVING IN MILITARY 🪖🎖️

After the job of the military he moved to lahore . Lahore is the cultural hub of arts , theatre journalism poetry and history . He set up his circle with the artist and historian there. He started working in point commission study painting, commercial art illustration eventually due to his work he settled in Lahore .

PARTITION OF PUNJAB ⛓️‍💥💔

Partition of punjab has a great impact on him . Like other people he lost his property, a friend circle which he built in Lahore . Partition trauma also impacted him a lot . Due to this he went to a silent and calm place in the mountain which was not other than andretta which was built by nora richard as a cultural hub .

SETTLING IN ANDRETTA ⛰️ 🏕️🏞️

After Settling in andretta he set up his studio there . Himachal beauty and culture influenced him a lot . He started painting there and eventually became one of the greatest Punjabi painters .

HIS TECHNIQUE AND WORKING 🖌️🖼️

He has mastery in

.oil painting

.portrait realism

.Skin texture

.Eyes expression

M.S RANDHAWA ROLE IN HIS LIFE 👨‍💼

M.S Randhawa supported sobha singh a lot and helped to promote his painting . As he also wanted to conserve culture which was gone in the hands of Pakistan especially lahore .

ABOUT HIS PAINTING 🎨 🖌️

He worked on various painting of sikh gurus . Punjabi folklores like heer ranjha sohni mahiwal etc . He also painted bhagat singh painting which inspired millions of people of India .

His dead 🪾

Sobha singh died on 21 August 1986 . Through his painting we can understand punjabi history and visualise sikh gurus . He died but not his works . Now his studio is situated in Himachal Pradesh andretta where the pilgrim came to see his paintings . Before his death many students came to him to understand the depth of painting.

About few painting above in images

1. Bhagwan Shri Ram Chandra ji

2. Persian folklore (has to be confirmed)

3.Heer ranjha

4. Shri Guru Teg Bahadur singh ji

5. Shri Guru Hargobind singh ji

6.Shri Guru Gobind Singh ji

7. Maharaja Ranjit Singh

8. Kangri women painting

9 . Guru Nanak Dev Ji

10. Guru Nanak Dev Ji

11. M.S Randhawa and Sobha singh together is a photo sorry .

12. Photo -sobha singh

13. Shaheed S.Bhagat Singh

14. Sohni mahiwal

u/One-Friendship-8819 — 16 hours ago

Civil Marriage

My boyfriend and I have been dating for the past 4.5 years. We’re both Punjabi and Sikh, and we’re having our civil marriage in Canada on May 16. We’ll be going to India in November for our traditional wedding.

I picked out a green gown to wear for our civil ceremony, and my boyfriend liked it and had no problem with it. But yesterday he told me that his parents said I shouldn’t wear green because “Muslim couples wear that colour for their wedding.”

My brain just stopped for a minute — I didn’t even know what to say. It’s 2026 and we’re still talking like this. I’m so confused and stressed about the whole situation. My boyfriend just said, “My parents said so,” and that was it. I told him I'm going to wear that colour, and you can't divide colours based on religion. I honestly don't know what else to say.

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u/SilentCommission5533 — 3 days ago

What do people do instead of wedding performances?

Does anyone else get stressed thinking about dancing at Punjabi weddings?

Whenever I’ve thought about my future wedding, me performing with cousins/friends or doing a couple dance was never really something I imagined myself doing. But growing up around Punjabi weddings, engagements, rokhas, jaggos, all of it, it always feels like dancing performances are such a huge part of everything.

I honestly love watching other people do them and some are sooo cute and entertaining, but the idea of me dancing in front of all the guests genuinely freaks me out

What do people even do instead if they don’t want the dancing/performance part at their wedding events. Like can you replace it with something else or do people just expect dances at every roka/engagement now.

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u/Just-had-chai — 1 day ago

i dont fit in

i love my culture and my people so much, as a canadian born punjabi the disconnect is already there, and as a young insecure child i used to sometimes be ashamed of being indian and punjabi but i regret that sm and wish i could talk to little me.. i have grown to love my culture so much so i get emotional talking about it. i want brown girl friends so bad, but i just feel like i dont fit in. i often get told i dont look punjabi or indian and idk if that is a part of the reason (edit: everytime i get told this i do not appreciate it and i am always quick to correct anyone, apne or not) but everytime i have gotten the chance to be a apart of a brown friend group, the girls especially never like me or make me feel welcomed, and men are already hard to be friends with because they usually have an ulterior motive. the chugliya are very much real even with the new generation and everyone loves to have preconceived notions off just how you look, dress, or the bs they have heard. i dont have a lot of cousins and never really had that close in age punjabi friend/cousin group experience. I YEARN FOR IT because only we truly understand eachother and our niche experiences with our culture and upbringing, especially canadian born punjabis. i wish our people were more welcoming, and understanding of eachother. this is just a rant, hoping to see if anyone relates.

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u/Unusual-Avocado2686 — 2 days ago
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Gems of punjab part -1

S Mohinder Singh Randhawa

. Was one of most influential administrators of punjab and cultural figures in post partition punjab .

. Botanist by profession and core founder of today punjab that we see.

His influence on horticultural and research at botany

  1. Rose research in Chandigarh. The famous zakir Hussain rose garden reflects his horticultural vision .

  2. Wrote extensively about Indian flora and garden tradition.

  3. Research on Himalayan flora .

  4. Research on indigenous plants and indian gardening tradition he documented how mughual kings used flowers in culturally and spiritually . These works influenced in greeny of chandigarh.

As administrator of East punjab

  1. Refugee rehabilitation -one of his biggest responsibility was helping millions of refugees arriving from West punjab

This involves arranging temporary camp , food, distribution, sanitation and medical assistance

  1. Land distribution and resettlement - played role in evaluating land record resettlement of displaced farming families and reconstructing of rural economies

  2. Rebuilding agriculture - irrigation network seed supply.Mr Randhawa encouraged scientific method of farming.

His work on chandigarh

1.Planning and administration connected with chandigarh.

2.Urban reconstruction.

3.Creation of a modern post partition identity of punjab.

He supported public gardens , sculpture architure landscape design and artistic urban planning.

His work on art and culture

  1. Preservation of punjabi culture - cultural heritage by finding lost historic centre , architecture artworks and cultural institutions to Pakistan especially lahore so he works closely on arts and culture . He therefore devoted his line of punjabi folklore, craft , oral traditions, miniature painting, architecture.

  2. His research on pahari and kangra miniature painting.

Post he held

Senior administrator in east Punjab

Chief commissioner of chandigarh

He has also role in seting up pau ludhiana also . He helped sobha singh painter also to do painting to engage culture in punjab

u/One-Friendship-8819 — 3 days ago

Karan Aujla Concert

After seeing both and live, I can honestly say Diljit puts on a way better performance. Went into the Karan concert in Toronto and excited, but the first 45 mins felt like straight lip syncing Expected way more actual live singing, energy, and crowd interaction for the price paid. Pretty disappointing overall. Felt like a spotify list playing. Was a huge Aujla fan very disappointed. Paid over $250 of hard earned money and now a disappointed Aujla fan.

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u/HappySprinkles1 — 3 days ago

Advice needed

Hi everyone, I am a 23F born and raised in the UK. I’m currently going through a breakup (24M) and need advice. The relationship was 4 years long and our families met and we were said to be engaged soon. From the beginning I was honest about my past to him. He had not been in a relationship previously, but he lied that he was in an attempt to get the truth of my past out of me. But I wouldn’t have lied regardless, and probably wouldn’t have continued the relationship if I knew he hadn’t been in a relationship before. Either way he said he would accept it. But he soon started getting upset that I had male friends (I was 19 at the time), the way I dressed, etc. A month into talking he found messages with one of my friends of us flirting (these messages were long before I met him), but I admit I was still friends with him (not hanging out), but he was still added on instagram. I didn’t have any bad intentions but I understood how it looked, so I blocked the friend and removed any male I had on social media whether it was from childhood, etc.In the first month there was also an incident where I went to a get together at uni and someone I had been with in the past ended up being there. I messaged my partner to tell him, and asked if he felt more comfortable if I left. He got mad that I should’ve known to leave.I stopped talking to the male friends, changed the way I dressed, etc to make him more comfortable, and I felt it was the right thing to do. However throughout the relationship he would always bring these two incidents up, and never fully got over them. I was loyal to him, and tried to work through the problems because I felt that yes I made a mistake but I never had any bad intentions, i just didn’t understand his boundaries that early into the relationship. He made mistakes too in different ways, but i’m highlighting mine because he couldn’t get over them.Throughout the relationship during fights he would throw it in my face that he spent money on me buying food and gas and what did i do for him. When i would suggest sharing expenses for dates he wouldn’t let me go through with it. I was a college student and tried to cook for him whenever i could, and meal plan so he didn’t have to worry about cooking. Anything he had a problem with about me,I tried to fix because I thought in a relationship you try to become better for the other person. but he always held my mistakes over me and although i learned and changed, he either didn’t see it or still just cared that I made the mistake. He had a rough childhood, and I tried to make him happy and do things for him he didn’t get when he was younger. During fights though he was just shut down. Anyways we broke up about a month ago because we got into a fight and he just snapped and ended it. I’m completely heartbroken. I’ve been trying to turn to waheguru, listen to paath, etc. but i feel depressed and don’t know how I will move on. I keep thinking we were going to get engaged soon and get married, and how did i end up here. Am I in the wrong? is there anything else I could’ve done? He told me he never loved me and doesn’t care about me at the end, but I don’t know it was to detach. I’m trying to turn to sikhi to get over this. Any advice would greatly be appreciated.

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u/Able_Rate3901 — 5 days ago
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Females who changed the Punjabi Culture and inspired other -Part 1 (Nora Richard )

NORA RICHARD (GRANDMOTHER OF PUNJABI THEATRE 🎭)

Birth and early life 🧬

  1. Was born Norah Mary hutman

  2. Born on 29 October 1876 in Mullaghglass , county armagh ireland

3.Early life was influenced due to irish cultural nationalism , revial of gaelic culture

4.People later compared her with lady gregory

5.She studied from Oxford belgium sydney and many European institutions. She did not do any ba and ma instead due to her background during that time women especially her type of social background do artistic and literary education often happened through private study , cultural society, theatre group.

  1. Any honorable doctorate was given to her also by punjabi university patiala also later in her life .

Before coming to India

1. Before going to India she practiced theatre as stage name Norah boyle

2.She is already trained theatre before coming to India

  1. She did not arrive as a ruler ,a missionary and imperial beruecats but as a artist

Marriage and death of husband

1. She married Philip Ernest Richards which was English professor in dayal college lahore

  1. As a lahore was the intellectual capital of punjab , centre for literature, journalism and reveloution.

  2. In Lahore she discovered punjabi folklore, culture , theatre and traditions.

  3. She wanted students to write theatre play in punjab.

  4. Earlier punjabi theatre was done on English play , parsi melodrama and superficial entertainment

  5. Due to her encouragement students started writing theatre play in punjabi which was first done in modern way by her student I.S nanda in 1913-1914 on dulhan play under her guidance

  6. Due to her efforts dramatist like balwant gargi and Harcharan singh the tradition further as they were her students.

  7. Norah believes theatre should educate society ,reform injustice, uplift villages , awaken moral consciousness in people .

  8. One of his students play tell about child marriage this play name is suhaag .

  9. She was highly influenced by abbey theatre which was started by lady gregory as a co -founder

  10. After death of her husband she settled london temporary but love for punjab pull her back to punjab .

Settling in andretta

  1. Andretta was remote forested , quite artistically untouched area due to her love for mountain, village simplicity, ecological life and folk culture she chooses to settle there .

  2. She purchased 15 acre land and named it Woodland estate where she built a mud house instead of concrete inspired from destruction of kangra due to earthquake and also inspiring from kangri culture and named it chameli niwas

3 . Her daily routine is described by b.c sangal . He described her digging soil herself , gardening, wearing khadi and typing late at night by kerosene lamp .

  1. She organised week long theatre festival at andretta . She thinks or believed culture belongs to local people.

5 . Prithviraj kapoor (famous actor , father of raj kapoor )often visit her in Andretta

  1. Due to her work in creating andretta artistic ecosystem sobha singh settled near andretta .

  2. She strongly supported - women dignity, women performers , female education which is seen in her and her students theatre play.

Last time and death

Here final year were difficult. She worried deeply about preservation of manuscript, future of woodland estate and survival of andretta artistic spirit . Eventually she entrusted much of her legacy to punjab University.

In 1970 Punjab University Patiala given her honourary doctorate due to her contribution.

She died in 3 march 1971 in andretta and given us a message after death which is written in her gravestone says

"Rest Weary Heart — Thy Work Is Done.”

Which means your heart can now rest because your life mission is complete ✅.

From her life we can understand

Culture has no boundaries.

u/One-Friendship-8819 — 3 days ago
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Hypocrite punjabi fashion sub mods first they say you can give credits now when I given credit to my sub they banned me and removed my post. I also asked after posting are you ok as a good guy they said yes here the proof

u/One-Friendship-8819 — 3 days ago

Karan Aujla Toronto Night 2

My husband and I went and we were so excited. It was going to be a great night until some stupid ref in the row below us started touching me and some girls in the row. When my husband asked the guy to keep his hands to himself he pulled my husband down to his row and started sucker punching my husband which resulted in a broken nose and a broken bone in the face. I tried to pull him off my husband he started punching me as well which resulted in bruises everywhere. Once security and cops arrived, Instead of catching the guy cops cuffed my husband and I and the guy got away. If anyone has any videos of this fight please send them to me, we were in the lower 120s. What could have been a fun night turned into an unfortunate night.

After speaking to a few people about the nasty behaviour by these drunk refs at the concert, sad to see that many women also experienced being inappropriately touched during the concert. How disgusting are these guys. Grosss.

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u/hopefull0 — 1 day ago