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In my mid-20s and it seems like every Punjabi girl I talk to is either really mean or I don't meet their standards. One girl went as far to insult my profession and said it was too "female" (ICU Nurse for reference), which I guess is fair, but went about it in a mean way. Some girls said im too short (5'10), others say I'm not their "type" (I don't think i'm ugly and have a beard?) or there's no "spark". One thing I could do is work on my body. Not really fat, but gained some weight during school and want to get jacked like I was before. This is not to say that all Punjabi girls are like that, I know they're not. Maybe it's me, I know can improve. I'm not perfect by any means.

Anyways, it's been really time-consuming and I'm seriously considering going back for med school. Was never on my radar, but I have the grades and I've been becoming more inclined to it due to my love of medicine and healthcare. I just don't want to feel like I'm not doing anything in life and would rather by pursuing something I love rather than wasting time with girls. If anyone has any tips or suggestions, it would be appreciated. Also thanks for reading if you stuck around.

Here's my advice to all of you that might be worrying. Don't worry. If you went to a reputable Nursing School in North America, many of you could sit for the NCLEX right now and pass. That being said, some people do fail and here's my tips:

1. PEDS, PEDS, MATERNITY, MATERNITY: No. Seriously. Adult Health and Pharm is emphasized so much in nursing school and you spend the most the time on it. If you did fine throughout most of nursing school, you'll be fine with adult patho questions. Even if you don't recognise a diagnosis, you can critically think through adult diagnoses. Peds and Maternity are both short courses for most nursing schools, spend a few days brushing up on it. Remember the NCLEX isn't looking for perfection, just baseline competence and safe practice. Aim for at LEAST 70% in these areas. That should get you most or at least half of the points on the MAT/PED case studies on the NCLEX.

2. FUNDAMENTALS. A lot of this stuff is common sense, but they love to throw in obscure stuff here and there to throw you off. Review Uworld for these rationales. This is not a hard section by any means, but people lose a lot of points on these questions from what I found on Uworld.

And honestly that's it. Uworld prepares you extremely well, maybe too well. Don't overthink it guys, the NCLEX is just a safeguard. You already have the knowledge.

So let me preface by saying this that I do love my dad and I appreciate everything he has done for me. I am aware there’s way worse fathers out there.
I don’t hate him, but I wonder if my relationship with him is normal.

Growing up, both my parents used to work. Mom was and still is a nurse and my dad was a mechanic. I remember everytime my dad had to take me somewhere (I.e: Karate, Hockey, School), he’d always complain. I remember my brother and I used to ask my dad for $4 for lunch at school and he wouldn’t give it. My dad still bought us groceries while growing up and took us to the movies and such. But there were some dark moments, I remember my dad didn’t want to drive us to school one time and my brother and I had to order a Taxi. Anytime, I bring these issues up now, my dad says “well at least I’m better than other dads, I don’t beat you” or “my dad was never nice to me like that”. My grandpa was definitely rough on my dad. It just seems really selfish, I feel like my dad never does anything out of love. He also uses his medical condition as a crutch to get out of anything. I really wanted to travel with him, but he said he can’t travel to hot places or during hot weather. I was so happy that he came to my university graduation, but even then he kept on complaining about taking pictures and how it was too hot.

There’s more to it this story and if anyone wants to know, I can elaborate on it. I’m now 24, working as a nurse and have plans to go to NP school, own my own car. I have plans of contributing to building a new house with my family. Maybe I should be grateful for the position that I am, but graduation last week left an icky feeling with me. Am I crazy for thinking that my dad might be a narcissist?