r/MidTwentiesIndia

Hi guys my age is 28 and I am still virgin to this day. I masturbate frequently but not to your normal porn videos or fantasies.

I masturbate to different fantasies.Cant tell you in details but it's not penetrative stuff.like your normal porn videos .

If u put world's most hot women naked in front of my I doubt I will get erection.

Maybe if I cuddle with her or lay down with her then maybe I can get erection.Dont know for sure.

I don't feel exciting seeing vagina.

I am not gay.I.like the thought of having gf .

My parents are crazy behinf my marriage but I don't want to ruin someone's life .

My simple question if you remove sex benefits from marriage, would u guys still do it ?

Hey guys so i am a guy never had any relationships. So i am thinking of getting myself moving in this direction now as things are looking stable for me.

Today i was talking to my lawyer friend and he said so many bad things like the rules india have regarding marriage relationship risks and all they kind of making me feel going inside a hell hole. But when i looked outside all people are going into this. So i thought he might be over exaggerating the things but the things he said were completely true so this kind of is building a sense of fear inside me.

What do you think is the right way to overcome this.anybody else feeling the same?

Ladies and Gents of this kind reddit, please help me out.

Okay so this has been a thing which has started irritating me recently. I have more female friends than male friends. Like the ratio of current close friends is 1 male friend to 7 female friends.

Its not like I dont talk to other men, or am shy or even attracted to men. It's just that I am not able to open up to them as much as I am able to get close to/open up to my female friends. My main concern is that is this a sort of red flag to my relationship chances with anyone in future, like is this a big red flag or something?

Now for some clarification I am very courteous to all my friends irrespective of their gender. I have never fooled around or have any thing beyond that clear line of friendship like having some sort of situationship or anything with my female friends, just run of the mill nice guy (I hate this 'nice guy' label, as well as sounding so pretentious and if I loose you at this point in the post, its alright, collateral damage. But I really do believe that deep down everyone knows what they are and where do they stand in this weird social order and that is where I stand at the moment in each of my social relationships)

This insecurity of mine I think stems from a past relationship. The relationship itself ended some 4 years ago, but the terms on which it ended still haunts me deep down somewhere. Basically, the girl I was dating was one of my classmates in school, and in school this gender ratio was opposite and she was I think really the one person towards whom I made an effort to stick around to after school. But as I started with my bachelors and the this ratio started changing, I noticed her increasingly becoming insecure of the female friends I have. Now in her defense I think I really did change a lot during the initial years of college, and it might be something which she really hadn't bargained for in the relationship, so her call it jealousy (according to her this was her primary reason for leaving me) or anger could have really stemmed from that. And the whole thing really ended on me not being able to reassure her completely that I was really just close to her and not anyone else. But it was really her who had first pointed this out to me that I have way more friends of the other gender than the standard male-male friends stories as per the gospels. Since then some 4 years later now I still haven't dated anyone else.

Now I might just look like irl Shrek, and the whole reason I do not have anyone beyond that friend space could just be that I am fat and ugly. But even he had her fiona, plus am not really that fat, like a 7-7.5 out of 10. Additionally all the friends which I have, they all have vouched that its nothing about the way I look or how I behave or something about me which makes me incapable of finding someone but is really just luck so thats again some depressing validation. But the more I think about it, the more this insecurity of having more female friends than male friends eats me deep down.

So friends, if you are still with me. Is it really just that? Or am I doing something wrong? IDK let me know if I stopped making sense halfway through this post, and I will try to explain it to you more concisely, might even draw a chart or something for aid.

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TL;DR: Male. Have more female friends than male friends. Is this a red flag?

I don’t usually post things like this, but today feels a little strange.

For the past 8 years, I’ve been celebrating my birthdays alone.

It didn’t start off easy. The first few years were honestly the hardest. I remember waiting, overthinking the day, sitting with this expectation that something would feel different… that the day would feel special. But when it didn’t, it just turned into long, quiet moments sometimes spent in random corners of my dom room, hostel, or even a washroom, just letting it out.

It was never really about big plans or gifts. Just the idea that the day should feel different.

That phase lasted a while. Then things changed not suddenly, but slowly. The sadness became quieter. I stopped expecting much. And somewhere along the way, I got used to spending that day by myself, just like that trying to treat it like a normal day but honestly i could never do that.

After that, I tried to shift things. Took myself out, tried to make plans alone, tried to treat it like a “solo celebration.” Sometimes it felt decent, 90% of the time it felt forced. It never quite felt like what a birthday is supposed to feel like more like I was trying to create something that wouldn’t fully come together. forcefully trying to fill in some gaps types

And now this year feels different again. Not sad, not happy just neutral. No excitement, no plans, no expectations.... like numb i don't care i don't feel about it anymore. It’s just another day with a pinch of sadness.

And before anyone says it no, I’m not old or anything. I just turned 24.

Maybe this is just part of growing up.

Not expecting anything here just felt like putting it out somewhere.

P.S. Please don’t DM birthday wishes, it’s a small request :)

On the days when it feels especially quiet, what is one small thing you do just for yourself that makes the day feel a little more like "yours"?

27 f, the ways in which my entire family manipulates me is too much 😭I can't handle this life I can't move out I can't get a job cause of whatever I am going through m breaking down each day every hour every minute 😭my family makes sure I don't get peace in any way possible 💔 yeh kab khatam hoga 💔

A software engineer at the moment but I would be a full time writer if I’m not afraid of becoming who I want to be. Putting it out there just so I know it myself for sure.

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How about you?

thanking you

My mom is 45YO… I was looking to buy milk powder marketed towards women health for her… and there are many!

top ones I came across are Ensure, Protinex, Horlicks Women.

are these good? if yes, which is the best among these?

and if you guys have better product suggestions please do share.

AND also do multivitamin tablets prove helpful? (basically for overall bone and muscle health and immunity)

prevention is better than cure :)

I'm 25M, turning 26 in May, and honestly I feel like I’ve screwed up a lot.

I graduated in 2021 with a Math and Eco degree, had no idea what I wanted to do after that. In 2022 I randomly came across actuarial science and decided to try it. It’s been about 4 years now. I’ve cleared 3 papers and I’m preparing for my 4th, so there has been some progress, but it still feels so slow yaar.

I see people my age (and even younger) already working and earning well. Some of my friends are doing Master’s degrees from top universities in India and abroad, some are getting married because they’re settled… and I feel like I haven’t even properly started yet at 26. I feel happy for them, just can’t help but compare sometimes. Instagram is honestly like the worst thing you can do to yourself IMO — you open the app and it’s like everyone is living their life except me.

And it’s not just career stuff. I’ve been fat pretty much my whole life and every year I tell myself this will be the year I fix it. I’ve never even been on a date, not even had my 1st kiss yet, and I know this is all my fault only… now I just feel stuck.

I know this sounds like I’m begging for sympathy, I’m not… just had to vent. Life just feels sucky abhi.

I used to think there was no karma for such men. But the way in which their thinking destroy their own family and generations to come, gives some kind of believe that karma is there.

If you see misogynist on the road only and not in your home consider yourself lucky. Cause these men turn their own home into a living hell for their wives and daughters. I doubt their own family barely even loves them. That's karma on its own.

You get the poison you try to spread in some way.

Hey, just been sitting quietly, anyone here just random talks? just hit me on dm :)