r/FamilyLaw

We had our court date, and my ex filed a violation petition against me. The judge dismissed the entire thing. Basically said it was all petty and not actual violations.

Before wrapping up, I asked a simple clarifying question about whether I can pick up and drop off the kids at school on my custodial days. This has been a constant point of conflict between us.

The judge immediately said there’s no issue with that.

That should’ve been the end of it… but it turned into a 15-minute argument between my ex and the judge.

My ex was:

•	Shaking her head at the judge

•	Looking away while being spoken to

•	Talking over the judge multiple times

•	Raising her voice

At one point, the judge just locked eyes with her and sat in silence for like 30 seconds after being interrupted again. It was intense.

The judge then called her behavior petty, disrespectful, unreasonable, controlling, and unrealistic.

Even after that, my ex kept pushing.

Did Josh show us both? They will personally make sure that they would be the family court judge for us for the next 10 years and that they would not forget this case.

Eventually, the judge stood up, turned off the light at the desk, said “we’re done here,” and walked out to chambers.

Also said they’re going to make sure they’re assigned to our case going forward and don’t want to see us back in court again.

I’ve never seen anything like that before. Honestly still processing it.

I’m learning family court as a patient’s game. Let the other person dig the grave deeper and deeper.

hello, just wondering what others might have to say about a coparent refusing a doctor for our son overall.

It is incredibly difficult to find a family doctor, I've been waiting I think two or three years.

A doctor became available, and I sent the information along, and coparent cites the following as reasons not to register with this doctor:

website 'promotes' gay

female

isn't anti-vaccine

offered a call-in service that allows 5 calls a year via CAA

A man he met over two years ago named John would be a better option.

a doctor with hospital privileges would be better (not a thing)

doctors that work at the hospital would be better (they aren't family GP, don't have a roster of patients)

our son has never been to a doctor, is almost 4, healthy yes, but I would like to see him grow up healthy and confident with his doctor relationship.

What are the chances the judge will order a name change.

For context, child is 19months old and has my surname, father has submitted for PR, CAO, 50/50, change of surname and disclosure of my address.

The child has ongoing medical needs and is registered at doctors, hospital (well known there), dentist, nursery and his passport under my surname. Will they order a surname change as I know it will throw off the whole system (I legally changed my last name to current surname when I got adopted, another reason why I gave child my surname)

I'm 21 and my parents are getting a divorce I have 4 little sisters between 13 and 9.

I live in the basement apartment of my mom's house with my wife. I know it is bad for my mom to talk about my dad to the girls. but can I?

my mom got full custody and he gets visitation. My dad is emotionally abusive and I don't talk to him unless I absolutely have too.

when it comes to talking to the girls about it. I ask them how their day is after they come home from seeing my dad and they tell me. and we talk about his actions towards them. often they are uncomfortable or frustrated with him.

I know my mom can't talk about it to them and I want them to feel supported and not alone but I don't want her to lose them because of me.

My mother was pushed into signing away the rights for my 3 siblings roughly 4-5 years ago now or so and was convinced it was for the betterment of the kids. The rights were signed over to my aunt who has legally adopted them. Can my mother regain full time custody and rights of them if my aunt allows and is okay with it and she has proven she is in a better place?

So I have a trial date coming up shortly and I no longer have an attorney to go with me. I wanted to know if I could get any advice. My trial date is 7 days from now. It pertains to divorce/custody in Western New York. Not trying to slander the mother at all but her parenting is obviously not the best. The kids are involved in abuse from her new boyfriend. Her boyfriend happens to sell drugs out of their house and my soon-to-be ex-wife is doing meth. My son has mentioned that he is being sexually abused and is saying off the wall stuff and heavy racial slurs. I've called both CPS and the local police station about the sexual abuse. Nothing has been done. And I don't want to have my kids be put in a bad position because I no longer have an attorney.

Everything is well documented I have screenshots text messages and voice recordings. All involving harassment from both their mother and her boyfriend. Video footage of them harassing me during custody exchanges. Proof of everything. No hearsay all well documented proof.

So I have a trial date coming up shortly and I no longer have an attorney to go with me. I wanted to know if I could get any advice.

My trial date is 7 days from now. It pertains to divorce/custody in Western New York. Not trying to slander the mother at all but her parenting is obviously not the best. The kids are involved in abuse from her new boyfriend. Her boyfriend happens to sell drugs out of their house and my soon-to-be ex-wife is doing meth. My son has mentioned that he is being sexually abused and is saying off the wall stuff and heavy racial slurs.

I've called both CPS and the local police station about the sexual abuse. Nothing has been done. And I don't want to have my kids be put in a bad position because I no longer have an attorney.

Everything is well documented I have screenshots text messages and voice recordings. All involving harassment from both their mother and her boyfriend. Video footage of them harassing me during custody exchanges. Proof of everything. No hearsay all well documented proof.

I am located in Texas, near Tyler. I have been split up from the father of my child for several months. We were never married. We never set up official payments, but he consistently pays me $600 twice a month as child support. He would probably have to pay more if we went off 20% of his income but I’ve just never pushed that. I am wanting to buy a house and the lender I have spoken with says they need these payments set up through the Texas AOG in order to consider them as income. What is the quickest way to get these set up if my ex is agreeable with going through the AOG?

It started becoming obvious to me that my ex-husband has been keeping my children away from me by gaslighting me, and arguing with me and basically coming up with any excuse he can so that I do not see my children.

I have my suspicion that his current wife has no real clue of how our relationship was and his part in it. I’m about absolutely sure that I am the bad guy here and she has probably come up with conclusions that are based on false realities.

So after I have tried my best to work with him and be nice by writing him a letter asking for compliance and him still refusing I’m going to file for contempt one way or the other and I would like to represent myself. I have heard a lot of people talk about it on here and I would love any advice no matter how big or small. I have a feeling that I’m on a timeline of some sort and I think that time is closing and I think he thinks if he could just keep this up a little bit longer it will work out so this needs to happen ASAP..

I would be more than thankful if you can tell me anything I needed to know . What you learned.. what are my first steps? What is absolutely necessary. Anything you’ve got so that I can prepare myself and do this as quickly and as efficiently as possible but the main thing is I wanna send a message by filing for contempt. Maybe that will get her to ask questions about what the reality is. Regardless my position is that she, no matter what she wants to think is not the mother and didn’t carry them in her belly for the nine months I have. And honestly, to do this to a mother who wants to see your children is absolutely evil.

Thank you in advance for all those who answer and I appreciate your wisdom .

spent the last few months digging into NCSC data and federal research on family court outcomes. One thing that stood out was the 'Silver Bullet' method—where unsubstantiated allegations are used to shape custody for years.

I also looked into the Rossi case where $1.3M was hidden for 11 days before a filing. It’s a terrifying example of how the process can be manipulated.

I’ve compiled the full research, the data sources (Pew, CDC, Census), and a breakdown of these patterns into a visual dossier. If you’re navigating this and want to see the documentation, the link is on my profile. I’m hoping this helps someone feel less like they’re 'losing their mind' and more like they’re seeing a documented system.

LINK IN BIO if you wanna know more