social media is full of reels stating how men love 5'2 chubby girls....but DO THEY REALLY? I mean most of the men I've seen are into skinny women.
Is the whole 'being into chubby girls' thing just a social media thing or do men fail to understand what being 'chubby' really looks like?
ps: NOT trying to body shaming anybody or anything, just asking this genuinely. please answer this honestly
I dont want her anymore..and I’ve went No Contact permanently but my sense of identity and self is shattered.
It was both emotional and sexual .
I was trapped in an intermittent reinforcement cycle with her - like the slot machine stuff - and yeah i know i made mistakes being involved but im finally out.
I thought i was in love when to her i was not even a real person. Just a service.
She’s married now and all this happened just prior to it.
My whole sense of identity and self is shaken up. I feel worthless and my nervous system is still withdrawing from her. I feel empty sometimes.
Honestly, i feel pathetic saying this but my sense of worth and who I am is completely messed up .
Has anyone dealt with something like this? How does a guy recover sense of worth after being used an emotional tampon/ "kandha" by a woman?
So me and my fiancee met around January via AM setup.
our so during middle of March our roka was done and both families even her and me decided to marry each other.
So had 2 arguments till our meeting but we always sorted and had a discussion and sorted things out.
now here I'm getting confused, so I went on a trip for 1 week with my family, before leaving we both got close and made out, I took her consent and we both liked it, she even took selfies with both of us. put on a dp with me.
then suddenly the next day I saw she totally changed, like she isn't talking to me on texts like before and she removed all her dp status just after 1 day of us being close. I asked her have I done something wrong or why she is feeling down, she didn't reply or said everything is fine.
i reached out to her sister as well to understand if she is sad or something has happened or why she isn't talking to me, she said to her sister the same thing nothing has happened etc. her sister advised better to meet her after I come back.
I'm a bit confused like she herself posted us in whatapp and snapchat as well.
then the next day she becomes distant.
I will be 18 in few months.
I under performed in jee mains and boards also not went well
Asking for a relative.
36M, in the AM market since 2 yrs. Seeking prospects through matrimonial sites, brokers, dating apps, relatives, and friends. To say that his experience has been disappointing.
women ghosting, no response, high salary expectations, height looks expectations, weird questions, unnecessary demands, etc. In an age when technology is making a lot of thing easier, finding a partner has actually become difficult.
Asked a girl ( relative)
Profile - 32F, Working, Teacher Private, Delhi, 5'4" Fair, Earning 6-7 LPA, Average looking.
She said she got 500+ interests in a few weeks.
Most of them making 25LPA
1 Was AIIMS doctor.
10 NRIs making 10 CRORE+
Around 20 men working in FAANG making 60LPA+
She was confused about who to pick.
= Is 25LPA and handsome / full hair / Gym body bare minimum even for average girl
= Does average man has a chance
= Is men's worth reduced to a wallet or looks as females only see salary and 1 profile pic and accept. Even if a man is decent if he is earning less than 20LPA or is not handsome/short/ balding he won't even get response from women her level.
= Why are so many handsome rich successful men going after average girls.
= Does <25LPA for men means you are poor and undeserving of marriage. Even unemployed, less educated girls demand 15/20LPA salary nowadays. Plus he needs to be tall muscular and attractive also.
They are okay to sit at home and remain unmarried and die alone but will never lower their standards.
For context I'm 21 and I just entered corporate so help your brother out
I’m 25 now. My love story started when I was 21, in the final year of college.
She was one of the most beautiful girls in college. A lot of guys used to chase her, but I was different. I was just enjoying my life fully. I had a motorcycle, travelled a lot, posted my rides on Instagram, and I think that made me stand out from the crowd in college. Somehow she noticed me, got impressed, and approached me. She asked me to take her on a ride, and that’s how everything started.
From there, we travelled to a lot of places on my bike. She was a brave girl too. She would come wherever I called her. Those days felt like a dream. I truly thought I was living the life I wanted.
But after around 1.5 years, everything changed.
I wasn’t focused on my job and I lost it. Then my mother passed away. That completely changed me and my life. From that point, everything became heavy. I don’t have both parents, I have a younger sister, and suddenly I was dealing with family pressure, financial problems, relatives’ issues, career problems, and responsibilities I wasn’t ready for.
At the same time, her life seemed to be going well. She had career growth, love, family support — everything. I was the opposite. Instead of facing my problems properly, I escaped into the relationship. I started depending on her too much. I became insecure, controlling, and disturbing. I forced her in ways I should not have. I know I made mistakes, and I hate that version of myself.
Eventually, she started hating me. One day, she left and went to Canada for studies.
The first 9 months after the breakup were hell. I was depressed, overeating, picking up bad habits, and completely lost. After that, I moved to Bangalore to search for jobs, but I didn’t find one. Instead, I wasted a lot of my mother’s insurance money and got deeper into bad habits and poor decisions.
Then after about 6 months in Bangalore, she came back into my life. She texted me and said she wanted to see me. Later, when she came to India for vacation, she spent around 3 months with me in Bangalore. Honestly, that was one of the happiest times of my life. For a moment, it felt like everything was back.
But after she returned to Canada, she started acting strange again. She brought up all the mistakes I had made in the past and kept making me feel insecure. Deep down, I felt like she was preparing to leave me again, but this time she wanted me to say it first. Out of frustration, I finally said it, and it was exactly what she was waiting for. She blocked me everywhere.
After that, I had no choice but to start fighting for my life properly because at that time I had around 35 lakhs of debt.
Eventually, I got a job in the UAE in the oil and gas field as a site engineer in the desert. I’m earning decent money now, but I’m struggling a lot physically and mentally. The work is exhausting. The environment is hard. And more than anything, I feel deeply lonely.
I’ve tried to reach out to her many times, but she keeps ignoring me. And now I feel stuck in this strange place mentally where everything reminds me of her. I can’t even listen to music, watch movies, or enjoy simple things without thinking about her.
What confuses me the most is this:
Do I still truly love her that deeply?
Or am I just lonely, exhausted, and desperately wanting emotional support from the person who once felt like home?
I’m honestly very tired now, physically and mentally. I don’t even know whether I’m grieving her, grieving my old life, or just grieving the person I used to be before everything fell apart.
I just wanted to let this out.
A few days ago, something really uncomfortable happened to me while I was coming back from college on a bus.
At first, everything was normal. I got on, stood for a bit, and after around 5–10 minutes I finally got a seat. I had to travel a long distance. I thought the rest of the ride would be easy. But within a few minutes, the bus got insanely crowded. Every seat was taken, and the aisle (middle row) was completely packed with people.
Then a girl, around my age, came and stood right next to me. But as the crowd got worse, it started getting really uncomfortable for me. Every time the driver hit the brakes or the bus jerked for any reason, she would get pushed back, and her lower back kept brushing against my hand.
I don't know if it was intentional or not, but honestly that made it even more awkward for me. I couldn’t say anything, because what would I even say? But at the same time, I was just sitting there, feeling stuck and uncomfortable, not knowing how to react.
After a point, I just put my bag in front of me to create some space and avoid the contact. That helped a bit, but the whole situation still felt really off.
It just made me realize how messed up overcrowded buses are. It’s not just inconvenient, it actually puts people in situations where they feel uncomfortable and helpless. There should seriously be a passenger limit. Once the seats are full, only a certain number of people should be allowed to stand. Beyond that, it just turns into chaos for everyone, whether you’re sitting or standing.
So i was in touch with a girl for an arrange marriage everything was going good, it was my first time so was so much connected to her emotionally, then it was her birthday went to Ahmedabad for that from Mumbai and celebrated with her. spent time with her then when returning she was happy as I was like this is the best thing happend to me, when I came back she blocked me from everywhere saying she doesn't want this now I cried I tried to get why all of the sudden she is saying no, she told me I don't tell parents now. I waited for her for two days waited cried for her response then I decided to tell her father, they had fight on 3rd day calling me that now it can't be fixed you shouldn't have called father we would have solved it, I told her I had not any option, her father then told my father that this won't work out between our families she is saying no! I texted her on the same night about my feelings and how much was she meant to me but she didn't see my heart, she was brainwashed easily by her friends that I don't look that good and my looks are not good so she changed her decision instantly. now on 4th day she called me cried infront of me said she will fix everything it was her mistake and she want to fix everything but I knew my family and I have been hurt in this few days, told my father he told me clearly she ain't the girl to be trusted she takes her decisions without thinking of results. now I attaching my self too much don't want to let her go but my mind is saying something else.
i have already told her brother that things won't go as she desires now I m hurt too deep and won't be able to accept mentally. she texted me this morning that it is her last sms of i accept her she will fix everything she was crying and everything but I don't know what do I do, I have already hurt my family and they don't want her for me I can't go against my dad cause in past i have already hurt him and my mom on my little bros birth he is 4 and I am 23 so u can understand, what I have hurt her. now I don't want to hurt them again in future because of her but same time my heart says I should give her one last chance
Can anybody please help with this dilemma I am in.🆘
My ghosh, I see all these stats about 'Gray Divorce' (people over 50) hitting all-time highs and young people refusing to marry. What is the actual point of staying in a 'broken' contract in 2026? Is it for the kids, or is it because the 'entry-level' cost of being single is now higher than the cost of living with someone you low-key can't stand? Is 'love' just a 0.0001 percentile luxury now? 😂💼
I am a 17 yo indian hindu male. ok so mai subah roj jata hu exercise krne doston ke saath. Aaj aise hi baat chal rhi thi to unn logon ne mujhse pucha ki tumhari foreskin pr halka sa chota cut h ya nhi? mujhe is baare me kuch pta nhi h or internet pr bhi kuch nhi mila is bare me. I am a hindu and my friends are also. They kept saying ki hinduon ki foreskin pr bhi chota sa cut hota h jo ki MUNDAN ke time lagwaya jata h agar bo nhi h to tum man nhi ho or tumhe aage chalke dikat hogi. Mujhe to iske baare me na hi btaya gya or even internet pr bhi aisa kuch nhi mil rha h. please help me I am really scared about it tbh. Bo kehre *"Tabhi mai sochu ki tum masturbate kyu nhi krte, kyuki tumhari urge ittu strong hi nhi h"* (yes I never masturbated but that doesn't mean I don't feel arousal or don't want to do the stroking up and down).
In cities, I feel like most of the people I know are struggling to find a partner for marriage but in villages everyone seems to get married. And btw it’s not due to women working because statistically in cities only 30% of women work.
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So here's what went down today.
I was sitting in class minding my business. My friend **Y** sat next to me because there weren't enough seats, totally fine, no issue there.
Sir asked me to go clean the board. I got up and did it.
When I came back, this guy, let's call him **X**, had taken my spot. My bag was literally still there marking my seat, and this clown just planted himself right on it. So now it's three of us crammed on one seat.
Fine. Whatever. I let it go.
But X could *not* stop fidgeting, constantly shaking his legs, randomly pulling out a black polythene bag, rustling around. Super distracting and annoying.
I was texting on my phone and this guy leans over and goes *"ldki se chatiyarha."* I ignored it.
Sir asked me to clean the board again, so I moved my bag to the floor. X had something hard in his bag and when I placed it down it made a noise.
Bro turned it into a whole *drama.*
He starts throwing threats *"tmko btaunga iss period ke baad."*
I stood my ground **"I'm right here. Do it."**
He goes *"yehi marunga."*
I said **"fir tm bchoge."**
He went quiet for a bit.
Then out of nowhere **this guy hits me on my thigh. Twice. Hard. On purpose.**
I didn't react. I didn't want drama in class. But honestly? *That stung more emotionally than physically, like why am I not standing up for myself?*
I kept using my phone. Then he starts talking behind my back *"dekho apni malwaa se chatiyarha."* I completely blanked him.
**The thing is, he does this with a LOT of people in class. Multiple people have had to grab him by the collar before he finally backed off.**
I've got a lot of patience. But **this guy physically hit me today and I'm not letting it slide.**
**Monday, he's getting his reality check.**
*how do you deal with someone like this smartly, without getting yourself in trouble?*
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What is the correct steps, do you ask for her number after talking to her or her instagram or do you directly ask her out on a date or something else? How does it work, what is the norm?
I met a girl during our online fresher training at an IT company. We’re not exactly colleagues, but we became somewhat friendly during the training. She’s a Kashmiri Muslim (she looks gorgeous) and I’m a Hindu.
Over time I started developing feelings for her.I find her really beautiful and somehow I’ve become quite attached to her. The problem is that she already has a boyfriend, who is also her cousin.
Despite knowing that, I still feel very drawn to her and I think I’ve become a bit obsessed, which I’m not proud of. At the same time, I get the feeling she isn’t interested in me that way she usually avoids meeting up or spending time together outside of normal interactions.
The tricky part is that we see each other once a week when we go to the office, and we usually commute via auto together. So there’s still regular interaction, which makes it harder for me to detach.
I’m kind of stuck between knowing the reality and still feeling emotionally attached. Has anyone else dealt with something like this? How did you move on or handle it?