u/ischemariii

Hi everyone, 21F here. i’m a beginner with no experience and i want to start self teaching/taking learning seriously. i’ve had a shitty electric that i got set up and it plays pretty well so i’ll be using that to start. my amp is pretty low quality and it doesn’t even really pick up the effects so i often just play unplugged. Despite having the guitar for almost 2 years now i’ve been so overwhelmed that i haven’t actually started learning it properly and have barely made progress. i don’t know any chords or any theory. i basically just know like 5 beginner riffs and how to read tabs etc but that’s mostly because i play once every few months for like 30 minutes.

anyway to those of you that started out similarly i would really appreciate if you could please give me tips or like a rundown of what i should focus on first to make it easier. i don’t want to get upgraded gear until ive actually become good at this shit because i’m barely an apprentice at this point, but i’m mostly into the blues and am interested in developing an adjacent style to that so tailored advice would be appreciated.

thank you :)

the title. i’m F21 and still a virgin so i don’t have a lot of experience, but i was wondering if this is actually true because i’ve been told by some of my friends that men can sometimes view women negatively if they initiate intimacy or are too forward. personally i feel like if you’re attracted to someone and comfortable with them then initiating should just be a normal part of mutual attraction, but i don’t really know how men actually perceive it in practice.

i think part of my confusion also comes from how differently women are judged for sexuality compared to men. guys are often encouraged to pursue/initiate, but when women do the same there can sometimes be a weird stigma attached to it. i’m curious whether most men genuinely like when women initiate or if they quietly lose respect/interest even if they respond positively in the moment. just interested in hearing honest opinions/personal experiences.

TLDR: do men generally like when women initiate intimacy or is it sometimes viewed negatively?

hi, 21F here and still a virgin. lately i’ve been hearing from my guy friends about bad sexual encounters they’ve had with women and it’s made me curious what most men would consider good.

thanks :)

hi, i’m 21F currently finishing a bachelor of nursing, but lately i’ve been feeling sad about how much knowledge i’ve lost from not engaging with science anymore outside of my degree. i used to love chemistry and biology in high school, but after ~3 years of barely touching them i feel like i’ve forgotten almost everything.

my uni doesn’t really let us take electives with this course, so i’ve been thinking about self teaching on the side because there’s still so much i want to learn. i genuinely miss learning and want to keep my brain functioning instead of letting it rot lmao.

the issue is that i’d basically be starting from complete scratch again, especially with maths and physics. i barely remember anything beyond very basic concepts, so it’s a little intimidating trying to figure out where to even begin.

if there are any physicists/math people/stem nerds here, do you have a roadmap for what order i should learn things in or the best methods/resources for self teaching? any advice or encouragement would genuinely help.

hi, i’m 21F currently finishing a bachelor of nursing, but lately i’ve been feeling sad about how much knowledge i’ve lost from not engaging with science anymore outside of my degree. i used to love chemistry and biology in high school, but after ~3 years of barely touching them i feel like i’ve forgotten almost everything.

my uni doesn’t really let us take electives with this course, so i’ve been thinking about self teaching on the side because there’s still so much i want to learn. i genuinely miss learning and want to keep my brain functioning instead of letting it rot lmao.

the issue is that i’d basically be starting from complete scratch again, especially with maths and physics. i barely remember anything beyond very basic concepts, so it’s a little intimidating trying to figure out where to even begin.

if there are any physicists/math people/stem nerds here, do you have a roadmap for what order i should learn things in or the best methods/resources for self teaching? any advice or encouragement would genuinely help.

hi, i’m 21F currently finishing a bachelor of nursing, but i’ve realised there are so many things i still want to learn on the side. my uni doesn’t really allow electives with this course, so i’ve been thinking about self teaching instead. i loved chemistry and biology in high school, but after ~3 years of basically no exposure to them i feel like i’ve forgotten almost everything, which honestly makes me sad. i miss learning for the sake of learning and want to start studying again to keep my brain active and to retain as much knowledge as possible.

i’m essentially starting from scratch, so any tips, encouragement, or advice would be appreciated.

also, i know physics and maths can be harder to learn independently, but i was wondering if any physicists/math people/stem nerds here have a sort of roadmap they’d recommend? like where to start, what order to learn things in and the most effective methods/resources for self teaching.

i’m not a music student but i really wanna explore the building and meet some people from there (newly into jazz and trying to self teach guitar). would i be allowed entry?, even just to watch the performances? i tried to book a practice room online through siso but my access was denied so

hi, 21F here. for context, i was raised in a conservative muslim household, but after deconstructing my faith in high school i left the religion and started identifying more as agnostic. over the years i’ve spent a lot of time researching theology/philosophy and my views now probably lean closer to atheism, but honestly one thing that’s always pushed me away from fully identifying with that label is how judgemental parts of the atheist community can be.

i think all forms of fundamentalism are harmful, but at the same time i also believe people should be free to practice whatever they want as long as they’re not harming anyone and they’ve actually interrogated their beliefs for themselves rather than just blindly accepting indoctrination. what really puts me off is the whole anti-religion edgelord attitude some atheists have. a lot of people seem to approach religious people with this weird intellectual superiority complex, as if science currently explains every aspect of existence and there are no unanswered questions left. science is incredibly valuable, obviously, but there’s still so much we don’t fully understand.

i completely understand criticising logical inconsistencies or irrational beliefs, but the way some atheists talk about religious people is honestly dehumanising and unnecessarily bitter. it’s one thing to disagree with religion, but acting smug or treating believers like they’re intellectually beneath you just feels arrogant and counterproductive.

how to let someone down gently i guess without over explaining?

21F here. just wondering what men actually prefer because i’ve noticed i have a habit of jokingly teasing people i’m close with and somehow it constantly gets interpreted as flirting. apparently a lot of men are attracted to girls with attitude because the more sarcastic/confident i am, the more drawn in they seem to get which i find kind of interesting

21F here. just wondering what men actually prefer because i’ve noticed i have a habit of jokingly teasing people i’m close with and somehow it constantly gets interpreted as flirting. apparently a lot of men are attracted to girls with attitude because the more sarcastic/confident i am, the more drawn in they seem to get which i find kind of interesting

i’ve heard so many people say that tall women are sexy etc or that they specifically want their partner to be tall but i feel like i’ve only seen the opposite irl. in my experience shorter women are often (grossly) fetishised or are more commonly pursued, but was wondering how true this actually is on a broader scale.

21F here. my whole life i’ve found it weirdly difficult to develop attraction towards people and for a while i genuinely thought i was asexual because everyone around me seemed to experience desire so much more than i did. then i realised every single person i’ve ever genuinely liked has either been a musician or an insufferably passionate stem nerd and that their talent/intelligence/enthusiasm was basically the entire catalyst for my attraction.

what does this mean 😭 am i a freak or just a nerd with a sexual zest for enthusiasm

the title. 21F here and mainly curious about what men think the complete package looks like.

i’m talking to this guy i really like, but my friends keep saying he’s predatory / doesn’t have good intentions because of the age gap. i get why they’re concerned. he can be a bit forward/suggestive sometimes and i’ll admit i’ve probably overlooked that because i like him and wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt.

we’ve only been talking for a few weeks, and im aware the age difference is kind of weird. part of why i like talking to him though is that he’s a phd student in a field i’m really interested in, and he’s also a musician (i’m learning guitar), so it feels exciting to talk to someone who’s basically experienced in things i care about. i feel like i learn a lot from him.

but at the same time, i don’t know if that dynamic (him being older/more experienced) is putting me in a position where i could be taken advantage of, especially since i’ve probably come across as a bit naive with how curious ive been and how many questions i ask.

if anyone has had a similar experience your thoughts/ advice would be appreciated. thank you.

i’m talking to this guy i really like, but my friends keep saying he’s predatory / doesn’t have good intentions because of the age gap. i get why they’re concerned. he can be a bit forward/suggestive sometimes and i’ll admit i’ve probably overlooked that because i like him and wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt.

we’ve only been talking for a few weeks, and im aware the age difference is kind of weird. part of why i like talking to him though is that he’s a phd student in a field i’m really interested in, and he’s also a musician (i’m learning guitar), so it feels exciting to talk to someone who’s basically experienced in things i care about. i feel like i learn a lot from him.

but at the same time, i don’t know if that dynamic (him being older/more experienced) is putting me in a position where i could be taken advantage of, especially since i’ve probably come across as a bit naive with how curious ive been and how many questions i ask.

if anyone has had a similar experience your thoughts/ advice would be appreciated. thank you.

hi, i’ve been wanting to get my seconds and thirds pierced for years now but i’m not about to pay 80 dollars per piercing in aus (excluding jewellery) and so was wanting to pierce them myself. i’m a nursing student so i’m familiar with aseptic technique etc but just wanted to ask for tips to ensure my ears heal as quickly as possible and for the actual procedure to go smoothly. would it be best to use an actual single use needle? or is a piercing gun okay?.

i think id prefer to use the piercing gun because my firsts were done at a chemist using one and i had no issues with that. it also feels easier and more precise. i also wanted to know if i had to keep the hypoallergenic earrings it comes with in until it heals or if i can immediately swap it out for gold jewellery (18kgp) as i dont tend to wear silver.

any tips or advice would be appreciated. thanks :)

hi, 21F here, i’ve recently had a lot of people advise against travelling to brazil/south america in general due to it being unsafe and having a high crime rate etc. how true is this? i was wanting to solo travel there but unsure if this is wise. any advice/tips would be appreciated. thank you :)

hi, 21F here and i was just wondering how people felt about dating/being with a virgin in their early to mid 20s and when being a virgin is considered a ‘red flag’ for people. i’ve heard mixed things from women about how some men will prey on your virginity because they find it attractive but majority think it’s a turn off because they prefer experienced partners in the bedroom. when does virginity become something to be insecure about?

i’m still a virgin; mostly because i’m terrified of sex and not sure it’s something i’ve ever really wanted to do. i habitually self sabotage relationships with the men i date because i don’t want to have sex with them. i don’t think im asexual because the thought of it does appeal to me but something about actually doing the deed makes me anxious lol. this stems from a mixture of things bust i think it can be largely attributed to growing up in a conservative muslim household and having extreme religious trauma. i know that’s a lot of baggage for a potential partner to carry and i lack the emotional openness to be vulnerable and explain that, so i typically just run away at the first sign of progression.

i’m not proud of having done that in the past and am aware i should probably work on the mental health side of things before dating again but was just curious what the men out there think.

please be brutally honest.

thank you :)