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how can i deal with my bf helping his younger sister out so much. he helps her financially and even small things like subscriptions or subletting problems he’ll step in and even contact people for her etc. i feel like these are all things we gotta do ourselves and maybe our older sibling can guide us but not take over…am i wrong? sometimes his mom will call him to ask and make sure he helps his sister with internship applying and apartment finding and everything and she’s 22 and he’s 24 so there’s not a huge gap in experience. i’m the younger sibling and don’t really need my sister to help in these things so when i see their dynamic im just very confused if it’s necessary? jealous or not idc im just tryna figure out what i can do or if anyone else has dealt with this

how can i deal with my bf helping his younger sister out so much. he helps her financially and even small things like subscriptions or subletting problems he’ll step in and even contact people for her etc. i feel like these are all things we gotta do ourselves and maybe our older sibling can guide us but not take over…am i wrong? sometimes his mom will call him to ask and make sure he helps his sister with internship applying and apartment finding and everything and she’s 22 and he’s 24 so there’s not a huge gap in experience. i’m the younger sibling and don’t really need my sister to help in these things so when i see their dynamic im just very confused if it’s necessary? jealous or not idc im just tryna figure out what i can do or if anyone else has dealt with this

My bf (24) and his younger sister are very close in my eyes. I have an older sister so the dynamic is a bit different even though me and her are also very close. If you have an older brother, they can actually physically protect you so parents telling the son to take care of their sister when they’re on a trip is very valid vs an older sister also can’t really go out at night with her younger sister since they’re both vulnerable. so the dynamic is different. when it comes to financially tho, he takes care of her well when she also has her own money or can ask her parents. she is 22 so she’s had internships so far and part time and i heard she makes like $50 an our for her internships so it’s very good money and if she were to get a full time job after college, she can def make a lot of money with her major. however my bf still sends her money to take care of her so she doesn’t have to stress about this. for me as the gf, i feel like i have to pitch in more for money stuff because i don’t want my bf to have to budget tighter but i feel as though him giving money to his sister is so unnecessary. i don’t get money from my sister. he also seems to help mentor her and text her every day about things and i heard he is her role model and idol because he’s good at everything. why does this bother me. i know they’re not weird and being sexual and they’re genuinely just close but why don’t i like it.

My bf and I have been dating for a year now and we both graduated recently and during college we talked about our future together and went on trips and Boston was really nice. When applying for jobs we prioritized Boston, neither of us are from that state. I wanted Boston to just be our place and home since it would be unfair for him to have to find a place and move to TX (where I’m from) I thought finding a place where we both like and living there doing life together would be fun. After awhile, his parents out of country visited Boston to help him move and his younger sister also visited. Now they love Boston and wanna move her and his sister wants to get a job here after being obsessed with living in NY. The biggest thing for me is I don’t wanna have to be near his family, not cause it’s toxic but I will just miss my family more if his family is here and I can’t see my family often. He’s also close with his family so I don’t wanna have to always see them and feel like I’m being judged to see if I’m on my best behavior etc. How do I deal with this and is it valid to feel this way about wanting to live life together with my long term bf and wanting to find a new location to make our home? I’m not tryna gatekeep a state, at the end of the day him and his family can do whatever they want.

So i am wondering how often siblings give each other guidance the older you get. i know when you guys are kids the younger siblings tend to mimic the older sibling and follow their lead more. maybe in college too there’s a lot of ways the older sibling of a couple years can help their younger sibling with jobs and resume and other adult things maybe helping out with how to spend their money wisely and apartment finding etc since they’ve learned all of those things before. now when you guys are 30, how much do you guys really learn from each other? besides hobby things, what’s something the younger sibling will still learn from the older sibling at that age and what’s something the older sibling can guide their younger sibling about?

I want to hear from other people’s experience who were particularly close to their parents and siblings growing up, after marriage, are you able to hang out with them a lot still? how often do you guys visit each other or call/text? is it true that once you grow up, you’re gonna spend more time with your chosen partner than your birth family? what about the dynamic with your siblings?

i just have one older sister i’m 24 she’s 27 and since we were maybe 20 she’s been very volatile with her emotions. if something pisses her off, she lashes out at her family, we have to walk on eggshells around her. we’ve given her grace here and there but even my parents cannot “control” her attitude and she will yell and disrespect them etc. very recently, her contract role ended so she moved in back home until she finds a new job. we’ve been butting heads at everything again. sometimes i or my parents genuinely cannot even say anything without her remarks or attitude that i’ve now resorted to not hanging out with her as much during the day but at any point of any time she lashes out about anything. i know people cannot be controlled and maybe it’s just her personality at her age, she’s not a little kid where my parents can discipline her and mold her to change, however what are some ways where i can just feel more at peace when i’m near her. i’ve taken a lot of her negativity to heart because i’m seeing her lash out to my parents and she randomly gets mad at me and gives me attitude that she’s affected my mood a lot to. i wanna get closer to her and actually have good times with her but i think she and i are very different people so we keep clashing. thanks for any advice.

i graduated last year and have been unemployed since and not able to land an entry level job. i tried to apply to internships but all of the ones i come across require me to be enrolled in college still. i tried to still apply but in the application it requires me to fill out my expected graduation date and tell me that i have to be truthful on my forms or else the employment can be terminated at any point. if i need experience, how can i get rn when im in this middle state of not being in school and nor able to get a job?

what is a good podcast for if i want to level up in life. i’m not talking about some manosphere andrew tate toxic podcast im talking about more concrete soft and hard skills discussions to implement into one’s life to truly level up. it can be manifestation related too since those help with internal negativity and stuff i just need good ones.

i’m 24 and my bf of one year has really opened my eyes up to what i might truly want in this lifetime. i’ve always wanted to climb the corporate ladder but i am in the design field so growing up ive been wishy washy with if i want to do that or not. after meeting him, he got into ivy league,hired at mckinsey before even graduating, and everyone in his circle are aggressively climbing the ladder at amazing places going to be doing unimaginable traveling and experiencing that i realized that is what i want as well but i don’t know how to achieve it. i never went to an ivy league and have major imposter syndrome. ive been fearing what if i just have to accept that that’s something not in my life path for me. i dont want to work at a regular office job with regular pay, i want to be able to get so good at designing and become hired at FAANGs and achieve that type of prestige in my life. what can i do and how can i get started?

i (24F) and my bf is (24M) and we’ve been dating for a little over a year. i haven’t met his parents yet because they live out of the country but i will be meeting them next month. however, lately ive been very nervous and dreading if they might think im not good enough for their son. some context, he goes to ivy league school, got into mckinsey (top consulting firm) and treats me like a princess: always asks if i need or want anything, does things without asking, plans everything, spends money on me well, cuts my food, literally everything you can think of he does for me. i feel like when it comes to doing things for him, im lacking and have started to feel bad about not being able to do much for him. ive talked to him about this and he reassured me that it doesn’t always have to be 1:1 but still i can’t help but to feel like what if his parents just wish for someone better for his son. they might not express it to me but what if they express it to him?

tl;dr my bf treats me so well and i feel like i can’t do as much as him for him and i meet his parents soon and im wondering if they might wish for someone better for their son.

If i’m trying to manifest my first ever big girl job in a field i want and persistently ignore the job market is rough narratives is that the way to go? also ive been taking some actions like meeting with my school career advisor and they advised me that sometimes our first job may not be in the field we want and that’s okay. well to me it isn’t so i’m not gonna choose that narrative and will persist in the narrative that i can get my desired first big girl job in the creative field like i intended to. now what if this is a sign that maybe i do need to just let go and go into paths even if i don’t wanna cause end goal maybe it might lead me to my desires OR is this the old narrative bleeding out so i just need to keep persisting?? i can’t tell and need help deciphering

If i’m trying to manifest my first ever big girl job in a field i want and persistently ignore the job market is rough narratives is that the way to go? also ive been taking some actions like meeting with my school career advisor and they advised me that sometimes our first job may not be in the field we want and that’s okay. well to me it isn’t so i’m not gonna choose that narrative and will persist in the narrative that i can get my desired first big girl job in the creative field like i intended to. now what if this is a sign that maybe i do need to just let go and go into paths even if i don’t wanna cause end goal maybe it might lead me to my desires OR is this the old narrative bleeding out so i just need to keep persisting?? i can’t tell and need help deciphering

I (24F) have been dating my bf (24M) for a little over a year now and it’s the best relationship ever. One big thing I am struggling with is feeling inferior in this relationship. Due to being the same age and coming from a similar childhood and family dynamic, I unknowingly compare us a lot. He has achieved so many high rewards like prestigious colleges and job meanwhile I am still unemployed. He has everything going for him and will soon make unfathomable amount of money and will be able to share it with his family which is something I’ve always wanted to do when I grow older. Seeing him be able to “adult” better and do things I wish I could do for the people I love hurts. Being in this relationship with him has taught me that there are people out there that can really achieve great things and so on one hand it has pushed me to become a better person and try to become successful in the ways I want to experience and achieve in this lifetime but it has also been the hardest relationship for me mentally since he seems to just do everything better than me and it’s a constant reminder to me that I cannot give my parents the life I wish I could give. It makes me so so sad and makes me get angry at why I can’t do better and work harder and just be smarter. I know I have to change my self concept but it’s been really hard and I am wondering if anyone has any tips on this.