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I’m honestly really confused and a little hurt, so I need some outside perspective.

I’ve been close friends with this girl for almost 3 years. Like… not just casual friends, we were really close, talking every day, sharing everything, the kind where you assume they’ll just be in your life long-term.

But since the end of February, she’s basically ghosted me. No explanation. No fight. Just… disappeared.

For context, she’s been in an on-and-off relationship with her boyfriend since 2019, but for the past 2 years they’ve been “on.” The thing is, while being in this relationship, she’s also constantly on dating apps, meeting new people almost every day, and hooking up very frequently.
I want to be clear: I don’t judge her for her lifestyle. That’s her choice. But what bothered me was that she’s technically in a committed relationship, and I felt like it was unfair to her boyfriend. I’ve told her multiple times (nicely) that she should either break up with him or stop doing this because it didn’t sit right with me.

Around the end of February, I brought this up again… and that’s around the same time she started pulling away. So part of me feels like maybe that’s why she ghosted me?

But then there are other things that make me overthink.

We’re also in the same company. Recently, I had a really good appraisal—promotion, bonus, everything. Hers didn’t go as well. I don’t know if that could’ve affected things too.

Our personalities are also very different. She’s extremely extroverted, like, she knows everyone. She’s constantly going out with random groups from work, dating apps, mutuals, trips, parties… always surrounded by people.

I’m the opposite. I’m more introverted, I prefer a small circle, and I value deeper, stable friendships. I’ve always believed in quality over quantity.

What confuses me is that despite having so many people around her, she would still come to me and say she doesn’t have any “real” or close friends. I’ve even told her before that friendships are a two-way street—you have to show up too.
She’s also said multiple times that “girls don’t like her” and that she can’t maintain female friendships… which I didn’t fully understand because most of my close friendships are with girls, and they’re pretty strong.

Another thing, she unfollowed me on Instagram, which felt… intentional. But at the same time, she kept sending me random snaps on Snapchat like nothing happened? It felt so weird and almost insensitive, like she was ignoring actual communication but still showing me her life with other people. I eventually removed her from there because it was just making me feel worse.

I’ve tried reaching out multiple times, messages, calls, even through a mutual friend (who she’s also now ghosted??). No response.

So now I’m just stuck wondering:

Did I push her away by being honest about her relationship?
Is this about jealousy or comparison?
Did she just outgrow me?
Or was I never as important to her as she was to me?

It’s hard not to take it personally when someone you considered almost your best friend just… erases you without a word.
I don’t even know if I should try again or just accept that this is over.

Has anyone been through something like this?

What do you even do when there’s no closure?

I’m honestly really confused and a little hurt, so I need some outside perspective.

I’ve been close friends with this girl for almost 3 years. Like… not just casual friends, we were really close, talking every day, sharing everything, the kind where you assume they’ll just be in your life long-term.

But since the end of February, she’s basically ghosted me. No explanation. No fight. Just… disappeared.

For context, she’s been in an on-and-off relationship with her boyfriend since 2019, but for the past 2 years they’ve been “on.” The thing is, while being in this relationship, she’s also constantly on dating apps, meeting new people almost every day, and hooking up very frequently.
I want to be clear: I don’t judge her for her lifestyle. That’s her choice. But what bothered me was that she’s technically in a committed relationship, and I felt like it was unfair to her boyfriend. I’ve told her multiple times (nicely) that she should either break up with him or stop doing this because it didn’t sit right with me.

Around the end of February, I brought this up again… and that’s around the same time she started pulling away. So part of me feels like maybe that’s why she ghosted me?

But then there are other things that make me overthink.

We’re also in the same company. Recently, I had a really good appraisal—promotion, bonus, everything. Hers didn’t go as well. I don’t know if that could’ve affected things too.

Our personalities are also very different. She’s extremely extroverted, like, she knows everyone. She’s constantly going out with random groups from work, dating apps, mutuals, trips, parties… always surrounded by people.

I’m the opposite. I’m more introverted, I prefer a small circle, and I value deeper, stable friendships. I’ve always believed in quality over quantity.

What confuses me is that despite having so many people around her, she would still come to me and say she doesn’t have any “real” or close friends. I’ve even told her before that friendships are a two-way street—you have to show up too.
She’s also said multiple times that “girls don’t like her” and that she can’t maintain female friendships… which I didn’t fully understand because most of my close friendships are with girls, and they’re pretty strong.

Another thing, she unfollowed me on Instagram, which felt… intentional. But at the same time, she kept sending me random snaps on Snapchat like nothing happened? It felt so weird and almost insensitive, like she was ignoring actual communication but still showing me her life with other people. I eventually removed her from there because it was just making me feel worse.

I’ve tried reaching out multiple times, messages, calls, even through a mutual friend (who she’s also now ghosted??). No response.

So now I’m just stuck wondering:

Did I push her away by being honest about her relationship?
Is this about jealousy or comparison?
Did she just outgrow me?
Or was I never as important to her as she was to me?

It’s hard not to take it personally when someone you considered almost your best friend just… erases you without a word.
I don’t even know if I should try again or just accept that this is over.

Has anyone been through something like this?

What do you even do when there’s no closure?

I’m honestly really confused and a little hurt, so I need some outside perspective.

I’ve been close friends with this girl for almost 3 years. Like… not just casual friends, we were really close, talking every day, sharing everything, the kind where you assume they’ll just be in your life long-term.

But since the end of February, she’s basically ghosted me. No explanation. No fight. Just… disappeared.

For context, she’s been in an on-and-off relationship with her boyfriend since 2019, but for the past 2 years they’ve been “on.” The thing is, while being in this relationship, she’s also constantly on dating apps, meeting new people almost every day, and hooking up very frequently.
I want to be clear: I don’t judge her for her lifestyle. That’s her choice. But what bothered me was that she’s technically in a committed relationship, and I felt like it was unfair to her boyfriend. I’ve told her multiple times (nicely) that she should either break up with him or stop doing this because it didn’t sit right with me.

Around the end of February, I brought this up again… and that’s around the same time she started pulling away. So part of me feels like maybe that’s why she ghosted me?

But then there are other things that make me overthink.

We’re also in the same company. Recently, I had a really good appraisal—promotion, bonus, everything. Hers didn’t go as well. I don’t know if that could’ve affected things too.

Our personalities are also very different. She’s extremely extroverted, like, she knows everyone. She’s constantly going out with random groups from work, dating apps, mutuals, trips, parties… always surrounded by people.

I’m the opposite. I’m more introverted, I prefer a small circle, and I value deeper, stable friendships. I’ve always believed in quality over quantity.

What confuses me is that despite having so many people around her, she would still come to me and say she doesn’t have any “real” or close friends. I’ve even told her before that friendships are a two-way street—you have to show up too.
She’s also said multiple times that “girls don’t like her” and that she can’t maintain female friendships… which I didn’t fully understand because most of my close friendships are with girls, and they’re pretty strong.

Another thing, she unfollowed me on Instagram, which felt… intentional. But at the same time, she kept sending me random snaps on Snapchat like nothing happened? It felt so weird and almost insensitive, like she was ignoring actual communication but still showing me her life with other people. I eventually removed her from there because it was just making me feel worse.

I’ve tried reaching out multiple times, messages, calls, even through a mutual friend (who she’s also now ghosted??). No response.

So now I’m just stuck wondering:

Did I push her away by being honest about her relationship?
Is this about jealousy or comparison?
Did she just outgrow me?
Or was I never as important to her as she was to me?

It’s hard not to take it personally when someone you considered almost your best friend just… erases you without a word.
I don’t even know if I should try again or just accept that this is over.

Has anyone been through something like this?

What do you even do when there’s no closure?

I’m honestly really confused and a little hurt, so I need some outside perspective.

I’ve been close friends with this girl for almost 3 years. Like… not just casual friends, we were really close, talking every day, sharing everything, the kind where you assume they’ll just be in your life long-term.

But since the end of February, she’s basically ghosted me. No explanation. No fight. Just… disappeared.

For context, she’s been in an on-and-off relationship with her boyfriend since 2019, but for the past 2 years they’ve been “on.” The thing is, while being in this relationship, she’s also constantly on dating apps, meeting new people almost every day, and hooking up very frequently.
I want to be clear: I don’t judge her for her lifestyle. That’s her choice. But what bothered me was that she’s technically in a committed relationship, and I felt like it was unfair to her boyfriend. I’ve told her multiple times (nicely) that she should either break up with him or stop doing this because it didn’t sit right with me.

Around the end of February, I brought this up again… and that’s around the same time she started pulling away. So part of me feels like maybe that’s why she ghosted me?

But then there are other things that make me overthink.

We’re also in the same company. Recently, I had a really good appraisal—promotion, bonus, everything. Hers didn’t go as well. I don’t know if that could’ve affected things too.

Our personalities are also very different. She’s extremely extroverted, like, she knows everyone. She’s constantly going out with random groups from work, dating apps, mutuals, trips, parties… always surrounded by people.

I’m the opposite. I’m more introverted, I prefer a small circle, and I value deeper, stable friendships. I’ve always believed in quality over quantity.

What confuses me is that despite having so many people around her, she would still come to me and say she doesn’t have any “real” or close friends. I’ve even told her before that friendships are a two-way street—you have to show up too.
She’s also said multiple times that “girls don’t like her” and that she can’t maintain female friendships… which I didn’t fully understand because most of my close friendships are with girls, and they’re pretty strong.

Another thing, she unfollowed me on Instagram, which felt… intentional. But at the same time, she kept sending me random snaps on Snapchat like nothing happened? It felt so weird and almost insensitive, like she was ignoring actual communication but still showing me her life with other people. I eventually removed her from there because it was just making me feel worse.

I’ve tried reaching out multiple times, messages, calls, even through a mutual friend (who she’s also now ghosted??). No response.

So now I’m just stuck wondering:

Did I push her away by being honest about her relationship?
Is this about jealousy or comparison?
Did she just outgrow me?
Or was I never as important to her as she was to me?

It’s hard not to take it personally when someone you considered almost your best friend just… erases you without a word.
I don’t even know if I should try again or just accept that this is over.

Has anyone been through something like this?

What do you even do when there’s no closure?

I’m honestly really confused and a little hurt, so I need some outside perspective.

I’ve been close friends with this girl for almost 3 years. Like… not just casual friends, we were really close, talking every day, sharing everything, the kind where you assume they’ll just be in your life long-term.

But since the end of February, she’s basically ghosted me. No explanation. No fight. Just… disappeared.

For context, she’s been in an on-and-off relationship with her boyfriend since 2019, but for the past 2 years they’ve been “on.” The thing is, while being in this relationship, she’s also constantly on dating apps, meeting new people almost every day, and hooking up very frequently.
I want to be clear: I don’t judge her for her lifestyle. That’s her choice. But what bothered me was that she’s technically in a committed relationship, and I felt like it was unfair to her boyfriend. I’ve told her multiple times (nicely) that she should either break up with him or stop doing this because it didn’t sit right with me.

Around the end of February, I brought this up again… and that’s around the same time she started pulling away. So part of me feels like maybe that’s why she ghosted me?

But then there are other things that make me overthink.

We’re also in the same company. Recently, I had a really good appraisal—promotion, bonus, everything. Hers didn’t go as well. I don’t know if that could’ve affected things too.

Our personalities are also very different. She’s extremely extroverted, like, she knows everyone. She’s constantly going out with random groups from work, dating apps, mutuals, trips, parties… always surrounded by people.

I’m the opposite. I’m more introverted, I prefer a small circle, and I value deeper, stable friendships. I’ve always believed in quality over quantity.

What confuses me is that despite having so many people around her, she would still come to me and say she doesn’t have any “real” or close friends. I’ve even told her before that friendships are a two-way street—you have to show up too.
She’s also said multiple times that “girls don’t like her” and that she can’t maintain female friendships… which I didn’t fully understand because most of my close friendships are with girls, and they’re pretty strong.

Another thing, she unfollowed me on Instagram, which felt… intentional. But at the same time, she kept sending me random snaps on Snapchat like nothing happened? It felt so weird and almost insensitive, like she was ignoring actual communication but still showing me her life with other people. I eventually removed her from there because it was just making me feel worse.

I’ve tried reaching out multiple times, messages, calls, even through a mutual friend (who she’s also now ghosted??). No response.

So now I’m just stuck wondering:

Did I push her away by being honest about her relationship?
Is this about jealousy or comparison?
Did she just outgrow me?
Or was I never as important to her as she was to me?

It’s hard not to take it personally when someone you considered almost your best friend just… erases you without a word.
I don’t even know if I should try again or just accept that this is over.

Has anyone been through something like this?

What do you even do when there’s no closure?

I’m honestly really confused and a little hurt, so I need some outside perspective.

I’ve been close friends with this girl for almost 3 years. Like… not just casual friends, we were really close, talking every day, sharing everything, the kind where you assume they’ll just be in your life long-term.

But since the end of February, she’s basically ghosted me. No explanation. No fight. Just… disappeared.

For context, she’s been in an on-and-off relationship with her boyfriend since 2019, but for the past 2 years they’ve been “on.” The thing is, while being in this relationship, she’s also constantly on dating apps, meeting new people almost every day, and hooking up very frequently.
I want to be clear: I don’t judge her for her lifestyle. That’s her choice. But what bothered me was that she’s technically in a committed relationship, and I felt like it was unfair to her boyfriend. I’ve told her multiple times (nicely) that she should either break up with him or stop doing this because it didn’t sit right with me.

Around the end of February, I brought this up again… and that’s around the same time she started pulling away. So part of me feels like maybe that’s why she ghosted me?

But then there are other things that make me overthink.

We’re also in the same company. Recently, I had a really good appraisal—promotion, bonus, everything. Hers didn’t go as well. I don’t know if that could’ve affected things too.

Our personalities are also very different. She’s extremely extroverted, like, she knows everyone. She’s constantly going out with random groups from work, dating apps, mutuals, trips, parties… always surrounded by people.

I’m the opposite. I’m more introverted, I prefer a small circle, and I value deeper, stable friendships. I’ve always believed in quality over quantity.

What confuses me is that despite having so many people around her, she would still come to me and say she doesn’t have any “real” or close friends. I’ve even told her before that friendships are a two-way street—you have to show up too.
She’s also said multiple times that “girls don’t like her” and that she can’t maintain female friendships… which I didn’t fully understand because most of my close friendships are with girls, and they’re pretty strong.

Another thing, she unfollowed me on Instagram, which felt… intentional. But at the same time, she kept sending me random snaps on Snapchat like nothing happened? It felt so weird and almost insensitive, like she was ignoring actual communication but still showing me her life with other people. I eventually removed her from there because it was just making me feel worse.

I’ve tried reaching out multiple times, messages, calls, even through a mutual friend (who she’s also now ghosted??). No response.

So now I’m just stuck wondering:

Did I push her away by being honest about her relationship?
Is this about jealousy or comparison?
Did she just outgrow me?
Or was I never as important to her as she was to me?

It’s hard not to take it personally when someone you considered almost your best friend just… erases you without a word.
I don’t even know if I should try again or just accept that this is over.

Has anyone been through something like this?

What do you even do when there’s no closure?

I’m honestly really confused and hurt, so I need some outside perspective.

I’ve been close friends with this girl for almost 3 years—not just casual friends, we were *really* close. We talked every day, shared everything, the kind of friendship you assume will last.

But since the end of February, she’s basically ghosted me. No explanation, no fight… just disappeared.

For context, she’s been in an on-and-off relationship since 2019, but for the past 2 years they’ve been “on.” At the same time, she’s constantly on dating apps, meeting new people almost daily, and hooking up pretty frequently. I don’t judge her lifestyle, that’s her choice—but she’s technically in a committed relationship, and it didn’t sit right with me. I’ve told her a few times (nicely) that she should either break up or stop, because it felt unfair to her boyfriend.

Around the end of February, I brought it up again… and that’s when she started pulling away. So part of me feels like maybe that’s why she ghosted me.

But I keep overthinking other reasons too.

We work at the same company. I recently had a really good appraisal (promotion, bonus), while hers didn’t go as well. I don’t know if that could’ve affected things.

We’re also very different. She’s extremely extroverted—always going out, meeting random people, traveling with different groups, constantly surrounded by others. I’m more introverted and prefer a small, close circle. For me, quality matters more than quantity.

What confuses me is that despite having so many people around her, she’d still come to me saying she doesn’t have any “real” friends. I’ve told her before that friendships are a two-way street—you have to show up too. She’s also said multiple times that “girls don’t like her” and that she can’t maintain female friendships, which I never fully understood.

Another thing—she unfollowed me on Instagram, which felt intentional. But at the same time, she kept sending me random snaps like nothing happened, while ignoring my actual messages. It felt weird and honestly hurtful, so I removed her from there.

I’ve tried reaching out multiple times—texts, calls, even through a mutual friend (who she’s now ghosted too). Nothing.

Now I’m just stuck wondering:

Did I push her away by being honest?
Is this about jealousy or comparison?
Did she outgrow me?
Or was I never as important to her as she was to me?

It’s hard not to take it personally when someone you considered almost your best friend just… erases you without a word.

Has anyone been through this? What do you even do when there’s no closure?

I’m honestly really confused and a little hurt, so I need some outside perspective.

I’ve been close friends with this girl for almost 3 years. Like… not just casual friends, we were really close, talking every day, sharing everything, the kind where you assume they’ll just be in your life long-term.

But since the end of February, she’s basically ghosted me. No explanation. No fight. Just… disappeared.

For context, she’s been in an on-and-off relationship with her boyfriend since 2019, but for the past 2 years they’ve been “on.” The thing is, while being in this relationship, she’s also constantly on dating apps, meeting new people almost every day, and hooking up very frequently.
I want to be clear: I don’t judge her for her lifestyle. That’s her choice. But what bothered me was that she’s technically in a committed relationship, and I felt like it was unfair to her boyfriend. I’ve told her multiple times (nicely) that she should either break up with him or stop doing this because it didn’t sit right with me.

Around the end of February, I brought this up again… and that’s around the same time she started pulling away. So part of me feels like maybe that’s why she ghosted me?

But then there are other things that make me overthink.

We’re also in the same company. Recently, I had a really good appraisal—promotion, bonus, everything. Hers didn’t go as well. I don’t know if that could’ve affected things too.

Our personalities are also very different. She’s extremely extroverted, like, she knows everyone. She’s constantly going out with random groups from work, dating apps, mutuals, trips, parties… always surrounded by people.

I’m the opposite. I’m more introverted, I prefer a small circle, and I value deeper, stable friendships. I’ve always believed in quality over quantity.

What confuses me is that despite having so many people around her, she would still come to me and say she doesn’t have any “real” or close friends. I’ve even told her before that friendships are a two-way street—you have to show up too.
She’s also said multiple times that “girls don’t like her” and that she can’t maintain female friendships… which I didn’t fully understand because most of my close friendships are with girls, and they’re pretty strong.

Another thing, she unfollowed me on Instagram, which felt… intentional. But at the same time, she kept sending me random snaps on Snapchat like nothing happened? It felt so weird and almost insensitive, like she was ignoring actual communication but still showing me her life with other people. I eventually removed her from there because it was just making me feel worse.

I’ve tried reaching out multiple times, messages, calls, even through a mutual friend (who she’s also now ghosted??). No response.

So now I’m just stuck wondering:

Did I push her away by being honest about her relationship?
Is this about jealousy or comparison?
Did she just outgrow me?
Or was I never as important to her as she was to me?

It’s hard not to take it personally when someone you considered almost your best friend just… erases you without a word.
I don’t even know if I should try again or just accept that this is over.

Has anyone been through something like this?

What do you even do when there’s no closure?

I ordered a phone case from Kalakaaar India on 7th April, and it’s been weeks with no delivery.

I’ve tried everything at this point —
WhatsApp messages, Instagram DMs, even calling them, and I’ve DM’d their CEO as well. Still no proper response or resolution.

What’s worse is they’ve told me at least 5 times that my order will “ship soon” — but that “soon” just never comes. It honestly feels like I’m being strung along.

I’ve also checked their Instagram comments and I’m clearly not alone — there are so many other customers complaining about the same delays and lack of response, which makes this even more frustrating.

The weird part is I’ve actually ordered from them multiple times before, and never faced anything like this. Everything used to be smooth, so this sudden drop in service + complete unresponsiveness is really disappointing.

And meanwhile, they’re still actively posting on their socials like everything is normal, which just feels ignorant when so many customers are stuck like this.

At this point, I just want a resolution —
either deliver my order ASAP or process a full refund.

Has anyone else dealt with this? What’s the best way to escalate this or actually get a response from them?

Also, honestly… based on this experience, I’d say avoid ordering from them going forward unless they fix whatever is going on.

Would really appreciate any advice 🙏