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In the last two days, ChatGPT feels like it improved a lot. The answers are clearer, the writing is smoother, and overall it just works better.

Before this, I thought ChatGPT was falling behind and that people would switch to Claude for good. But after using it again since yesterday, my opinion has changed. It feels like it is catching up fast.

I have been using both the free and paid versions of ChatGPT for over a year, so I have seen how it has evolved. I really do not want to rely on Claude all the time. It is expensive and the usage runs out quickly.

Now, I feel hopeful again. ChatGPT seems like it is getting back on track and improving in the right direction.

Lately it feels like originality is dead, or at least nobody believes in it anymore.

People are publishing books, and instead of readers talking about the ideas, the comments are full of “this is AI” accusations. I’ve seen it happen over and over this past year. Doesn’t even matter if the work is good. The first reaction is doubt.

So where does that leave actual writers?

Even if I sit down and write something myself, there’s a good chance people will assume I used AI anyway. That kills the whole point of creating something original. If nobody trusts the process, does originality even have value anymore?

At the same time, let’s be real. A lot of authors are using AI now. Not always to write entire books, but to brainstorm, edit, tweak dialogue, fix structure. Even scriptwriters and people in film are using it to generate ideas or polish scenes.

So now we’re in this weird place where:

- People use AI

- People assume everyone uses AI

- And anything you create gets questioned by default

It feels like writing has turned into a credibility problem instead of a creative one.

So I’m honestly asking:

Is there still a real reason to write a book today, or has the value of writing been diluted beyond repair?

LHey guys,

I'm a highly sensitive guy (HSP) who's been dealing with limerence for a long time. I really tried to talk to girls normally without catching feelings, but I failed again and again. No matter what I did, I would end up getting limerent.

A few days ago I finally made a firm decision: I'm quitting it all cold turkey. No more talking to girls online at all no Snapchat, no random chats, nothing.

Today I went to the doctor's clinic and a girl kept staring at me the whole time. I suddenly got super anxious, my heart started racing, and I had bad palpitations. This never used to happen to me before.

But over the last year, I've become extremely sensitive to anything involving girls. Even small things trigger me badly now.

So I've decided that until I fully heal, I'm not talking to any girls. Maybe only the ones I find completely unattractive or totally out of my league, but even that's rare. Otherwise, I've made up my mind no talking to girls for the next 2-3 years.

I'm in my late twenties right now. I believe the best way for me to heal is to avoid this trigger completely. I already don't talk to girls in real life, but I used to chat with different girls almost every day online. That chapter is now closed for good.

I'm doing this for my own peace. I just want to focus on myself, heal properly, and build a better life.

Has anyone else gone through something similar? How did you handle the strong urge to talk to girls? Any tips for staying strong with this cold turkey approach?

Thanks for reading.

Hey guys,

I'm a highly sensitive guy (HSP) who's been dealing with limerence for a long time. I really tried to talk to girls normally without catching feelings, but I failed again and again. No matter what I did, I would end up getting limerent.

A few days ago I finally made a firm decision: I'm quitting it all cold turkey. No more talking to girls online at all no Snapchat, no random chats, nothing.

Today I went to the doctor's clinic and a girl kept staring at me the whole time. I suddenly got super anxious, my heart started racing, and I had bad palpitations. This never used to happen to me before.

But over the last year, I've become extremely sensitive to anything involving girls. Even small things trigger me badly now.

So I've decided that until I fully heal, I'm not talking to any girls. Maybe only the ones I find completely unattractive or totally out of my league, but even that's rare. Otherwise, I've made up my mind no talking to girls for the next 2-3 years.

I'm in my late twenties right now. I believe the best way for me to heal is to avoid this trigger completely. I already don't talk to girls in real life, but I used to chat with different girls almost every day online. That chapter is now closed for good.

I'm doing this for my own peace. I just want to focus on myself, heal properly, and build a better life.

Has anyone else gone through something similar? How did you handle the strong urge to talk to girls? Any tips for staying strong with this cold turkey approach?

Thanks for reading.

Hey guys,

I'm a highly sensitive guy (HSP) who's been dealing with limerence for a long time. I really tried to talk to girls normally without catching feelings, but I failed again and again. No matter what I did, I would end up getting limerent.

A few days ago I finally made a firm decision: I'm quitting it all cold turkey. No more talking to girls online at all no Snapchat, no random chats, nothing.

Today I went to the doctor's clinic and a girl kept staring at me the whole time. I suddenly got super anxious, my heart started racing, and I had bad palpitations. This never used to happen to me before.

But over the last year, I've become extremely sensitive to anything involving girls. Even small things trigger me badly now.

So I've decided that until I fully heal, I'm not talking to any girls. Maybe only the ones I find completely unattractive or totally out of my league, but even that's rare. Otherwise, I've made up my mind no talking to girls for the next 2-3 years.

I'm in my late twenties right now. I believe the best way for me to heal is to avoid this trigger completely. I already don't talk to girls in real life, but I used to chat with different girls almost every day online. That chapter is now closed for good.

I'm doing this for my own peace. I just want to focus on myself, heal properly, and build a better life.

Has anyone else gone through something similar? How did you handle the strong urge to talk to girls? Any tips for staying strong with this cold turkey approach?

Thanks for reading.

Hey everyone,

I am a guy in my late 20s. For the last 10 years, almost all my romantic talks and emotional connections with girls have been only online. In real life, I hardly talk to girls in my city. I don’t like most girls here, and I never feel comfortable hanging out with any girl in person.

Our culture also plays a role going out with girls is seen as wrong, and even without that, I just don’t feel okay doing it. So I kept going back to the internet.

But now after more than 10 years, I am completely tired of it. Every online connection I had ended badly or went nowhere. I have never felt what it is like to have a girl really like you in real life talking face to face, spending time together, and having that real connection.

The strange thing is how I have changed. Earlier, I was weird and awkward in real life, but I felt better and more confident online. Now it is the opposite. I have become weird online, and I feel much better and normal when I am offline in the real world.

I feel like I live only in the digital world. I really want real life bonding with a girl something real and in-person. But when I think about trying in real life, something stops me and I go back to online stuff even though I hate it now.

I am fed up with this cycle.

Has anyone else gone through the same thing? You want real life connection badly, but still can’t bring yourself to try in real life? How do you deal with it?

Would love to read your experiences.

Hey everyone,

I am a guy in my late 20s. For the last 10 years, almost all my romantic talks and emotional connections with girls have been only online. In real life, I hardly talk to girls in my city. I don’t like most girls here, and I never feel comfortable hanging out with any girl in person.

Our culture also plays a role going out with girls is seen as wrong, and even without that, I just don’t feel okay doing it. So I kept going back to the internet.

But now after more than 10 years, I am completely tired of it. Every online connection I had ended badly or went nowhere. I have never felt what it is like to have a girl really like you in real life talking face to face, spending time together, and having that real connection.

The strange thing is how I have changed. Earlier, I was weird and awkward in real life, but I felt better and more confident online. Now it is the opposite. I have become weird online, and I feel much better and normal when I am offline in the real world.

I feel like I live only in the digital world. I really want real life bonding with a girl something real and in-person. But when I think about trying in real life, something stops me and I go back to online stuff even though I hate it now.

I am fed up with this cycle.

Has anyone else gone through the same thing? You want real life connection badly, but still can’t bring yourself to try in real life? How do you deal with it?

Would love to read your experiences.

Assalamualaikum,

I come from a practicing Muslim family. Alhamdulillah, my parents, brother, and extended family all pray five times daily and fast regularly. Since I was very young, my Salah has always been on and off.

From age 10 to 14, I was inconsistent but trying. At age 14 I became very strong in my Deen. Then at 16 I stopped almost completely, started again at 17, and this up-and-down pattern continued for years. When I was around 10-13, I used to pray five times a day sometimes, read Quran, and even give Azan in the masjid. People in the community thought highly of me and praised my dedication.

Five years ago in 2021, I reached my best point ever. I was praying all five prayers in the masjid with good khushu. Around that time I also went through a difficult period of depression and anxiety. During those days I had almost no energy and could barely offer even Jummah. Then I went abroad, my life and schedule changed completely, and I slowly stopped being regular.

Alhamdulillah, I have healed a lot since then, but the struggle with Salah has stayed with me. For the last 4-5 years I have not been able to pray properly. The last two or three Ramadans were very difficult. I missed many prayers even in Ramadan. Now I usually manage only one prayer a day at best, and many days it is only Jummah.

When I do pray, I feel absolutely nothing. No khushu at all. My mind never stays focused it wanders the entire time and the prayer feels empty and pointless. I also hate doing wudu; it feels like a big burden.

Every day I tell myself, “Praying five times is difficult, so let me just focus on offering one Salah properly today and build consistency day by day.” But even with one Salah, I struggle badly. Sometimes I go to the masjid for Zuhr, but by Asr or Maghrib the motivation disappears. I think, “I don’t feel anything anyway, so let me do something else instead.”

I still read about the Deen every day, write articles about Islam, and love gaining knowledge about the religion. I study it deeply, yet when it comes to actually performing Salah with heart and focus, I fail again and again. It feels like listening to music or watching movies I know it is wrong, but my mind says “I’ll repent later” and the cycle continues.

I am sharing all this because I truly need help. My mind feels stuck. The strong motivation I had at age 14 and in 2021 has not returned fully, even though my whole family prays consistently. I don’t know why this keeps happening to me.

**TLDR**: From giving Azan at age 10 and being strong at 14, my Salah has been up and down for years. After moving abroad and a hard period, I now barely pray, feel zero khushu, hate wudu, and can’t even stay consistent with one Salah a day despite daily Islamic knowledge and good intentions. Need practical help from those who recovered from the same long struggle.

Has anyone gone through the exact same battle? You were serious about Deen young praying in masjid, giving Azan, reading Quran then life changes made it on-and-off for years. Even after healing, you still can’t build consistency. You try focusing on just one Salah a day but even that feels empty and your mind wanders.

If you managed to overcome this and rebuild steady Salah with khushu, please share what truly worked for you. Any practical tips, small steps, or Islamic mindset changes that helped bring back focus and motivation would mean everything to me.

I genuinely want to pray five times a day with sincerity for the rest of my life, InshaAllah. Any sincere advice from brothers and sisters who have faced this same long fight would be greatly appreciated.

JazakAllah khair.

(Please don’t reply with just “fear Allah” or “just pray” I need real experiences from those who struggled the same way.)

Assalamualaikum,

I come from a practicing Muslim family. Alhamdulillah, my parents, brother, and extended family all pray five times daily and fast regularly. Since I was very young, my Salah has always been on and off.

From age 10 to 14, I was inconsistent but trying. At age 14 I became very strong in my Deen. Then at 16 I stopped almost completely, started again at 17, and this up-and-down pattern continued for years. When I was around 10-13, I used to pray five times a day sometimes, read Quran, and even give Azan in the masjid. People in the community thought highly of me and praised my dedication.

Five years ago in 2021, I reached my best point ever. I was praying all five prayers in the masjid with good khushu. Around that time I also went through a difficult period of depression and anxiety. During those days I had almost no energy and could barely offer even Jummah. Then I went abroad, my life and schedule changed completely, and I slowly stopped being regular.

Alhamdulillah, I have healed a lot since then, but the struggle with Salah has stayed with me. For the last 4-5 years I have not been able to pray properly. The last two or three Ramadans were very difficult. I missed many prayers even in Ramadan. Now I usually manage only one prayer a day at best, and many days it is only Jummah.

When I do pray, I feel absolutely nothing. No khushu at all. My mind never stays focused it wanders the entire time and the prayer feels empty and pointless. I also hate doing wudu; it feels like a big burden.

Every day I tell myself, “Praying five times is difficult, so let me just focus on offering one Salah properly today and build consistency day by day.” But even with one Salah, I struggle badly. Sometimes I go to the masjid for Zuhr, but by Asr or Maghrib the motivation disappears. I think, “I don’t feel anything anyway, so let me do something else instead.”

I still read about the Deen every day, write articles about Islam, and love gaining knowledge about the religion. I study it deeply, yet when it comes to actually performing Salah with heart and focus, I fail again and again. It feels like listening to music or watching movies I know it is wrong, but my mind says “I’ll repent later” and the cycle continues.

I am sharing all this because I truly need help. My mind feels stuck. The strong motivation I had at age 14 and in 2021 has not returned fully, even though my whole family prays consistently. I don’t know why this keeps happening to me.

TLDR: From giving Azan at age 10 and being strong at 14, my Salah has been up and down for years. After moving abroad and a hard period, I now barely pray, feel zero khushu, hate wudu, and can’t even stay consistent with one Salah a day despite daily Islamic knowledge and good intentions. Need practical help from those who recovered from the same long struggle.

Has anyone gone through the exact same battle? You were serious about Deen young praying in masjid, giving Azan, reading Quran then life changes made it on-and-off for years. Even after healing, you still can’t build consistency. You try focusing on just one Salah a day but even that feels empty and your mind wanders.

If you managed to overcome this and rebuild steady Salah with khushu, please share what truly worked for you. Any practical tips, small steps, or Islamic mindset changes that helped bring back focus and motivation would mean everything to me.

I genuinely want to pray five times a day with sincerity for the rest of my life, InshaAllah. Any sincere advice from brothers and sisters who have faced this same long fight would be greatly appreciated.

JazakAllah khair.

(Please don’t reply with just “fear Allah” or “just pray” I need real experiences from those who struggled the same way.)

I am a guy in my late 20s. I have many goals and many skills I want to learn. If I do all of them, I will have zero time left for anything else.

Because I have no girls or female presence in my real life, whenever I start talking to even one girl online, I get obsessed with her. This is bad for my mental health. But deep down I feel talking to girls is a total waste of time.

Since I was very young, these talks go nowhere.

In today's world it is super difficult for men, and all the conversations leave me exhausted. I hate it and see it as a big waste of time. I would rather focus on myself, improve my skills, and do all the things I actually want to do.

Still, I cannot focus. Especially at night around 10, 11 or 12, the strong urge comes. I crave female presence and want to talk to girls even though I don't want a girl in my life right now. I want someone who is crazy about me, loves me, and wants me badly. The intimate talks pull me in too. I know this is destructive and hurts my focus and mental health, but the craving keeps coming back.

My life feels totally messed up and disastrous in every way. I am fucked up in every sense. I don't want a girl, but I still don't know why this happens to me. I try to stay busy and distract myself, but at night I turn desperate and act too eager.

Has anyone gone through the same thing? How did you finally stop chasing female validation and get your time and energy back? How do you kill the late-night urges and stay focused on your goals?

Any practical advice that actually worked would help a lot.

I am a guy in my late 20s. I have many goals and many skills I want to learn. If I do all of them, I will have zero time left for anything else.

Because I have no girls or female presence in my real life, whenever I start talking to even one girl online, I get obsessed with her. This is bad for my mental health. But deep down I feel talking to girls is a total waste of time.

Since I was very young, these talks go nowhere. In today's world it is super difficult for men, and all the conversations leave me exhausted. I hate it and see it as a big waste of time. I would rather focus on myself, improve my skills, and do all the things I actually want to do.

Still, I cannot focus. Especially at night around 10, 11 or 12, the strong urge comes. I crave female presence and want to talk to girls even though I don't want a girl in my life right now. I want someone who is crazy about me, loves me, and wants me badly. The intimate talks pull me in too. I know this is destructive and hurts my focus and mental health, but the craving keeps coming back.

My life feels totally messed up and disastrous in every way. I am fucked up in every sense. I don't want a girl, but I still don't know why this happens to me. I try to stay busy and distract myself, but at night I turn desperate and act too eager.

Has anyone gone through the same thing? How did you finally stop chasing female validation and get your time and energy back? How do you kill the late-night urges and stay focused on your goals?

Any practical advice that actually worked would help a lot.

Hey everyone,

I'm 28, and I feel completely stuck in life.

A few weeks ago I got really motivated. I decided I was finally going to change. I wanted to fix my habits, get back into reading, become more knowledgeable, learn new skills, and improve myself in every way. I felt super passionate and excited.

But nothing happened. Instead I spend the whole day feeling sad, scrolling on my phone, wishing I could start, but I just don't do anything. Every time I think about reading or working on my goals, I skip it. I feel lazy, distracted, or overwhelmed and end up doing nothing. At the end of the day I feel even worse because another day is wasted.

The hardest part is realizing how little I've achieved. I have no real skills, no talents, and nothing I'm proud of. I feel dumb compared to people my age who seem to know so much and are actually doing great things.

On top of that, I have this strong fear of being ordinary. I don't want to live a normal, average life. I want to be special and stand out, but right now I'm heading straight toward being completely ordinary and that scares me a lot.

I know I have the time. I know I want to change. But I just can't seem to make myself do it.

Has anyone else been in this exact loop in their mid to late 20s?

How did you break out of the "I want to do it but I do nothing" cycle?

Did you manage to overcome the fear of being ordinary and actually start building a better life?

Any real advice would help a lot. Feeling pretty lost.

Thanks.

P.S. I am in therapy, and I am not even able to follow-up on my therapist's advise or suggestions.

Hey everyone,

I'm 28, and I feel completely stuck in life.

A few weeks ago I got really motivated. I decided I was finally going to change. I wanted to fix my habits, get back into reading, become more knowledgeable, learn new skills, and improve myself in every way. I felt super passionate and excited.

But nothing happened.

Instead I spend the whole day feeling sad, scrolling on my phone, wishing I could start, but I just don't do anything. Every time I think about reading or working on my goals, I skip it. I feel lazy, distracted, or overwhelmed and end up doing nothing. At the end of the day I feel even worse because another day is wasted.

The hardest part is realizing how little I've achieved. I have no real skills, no talents, and nothing I'm proud of. I feel dumb compared to people my age who seem to know so much and are actually doing great things.

On top of that, I have this strong fear of being ordinary. I don't want to live a normal, average life. I want to be special and stand out, but right now I'm heading straight toward being completely ordinary and that scares me a lot.

I know I have the time. I know I want to change. But I just can't seem to make myself do it.

Has anyone else been in this exact loop in their mid to late 20s?

How did you break out of the "I want to do it but I do nothing" cycle?

Did you manage to overcome the fear of being ordinary and actually start building a better life?

Any real advice would help a lot. Feeling pretty lost.

Thanks.

P.S. I am in therapy, and I am not even able to follow up my therapists advise or suggestions.

Hey everyone,

I'm 28, and I feel completely stuck in life.

A few weeks ago I got really motivated. I decided I was finally going to change. I wanted to fix my habits, get back into reading, become more knowledgeable, learn new skills, and improve myself in every way. I felt super passionate and excited.

But nothing happened.

Instead I spend the whole day feeling sad, scrolling on my phone, wishing I could start, but I just don't do anything. Every time I think about reading or working on my goals, I skip it. I feel lazy, distracted, or overwhelmed and end up doing nothing. At the end of the day I feel even worse because another day is wasted.

The hardest part is realizing how little I've achieved. I have no real skills, no talents, and nothing I'm proud of. I feel dumb compared to people my age who seem to know so much and are actually doing great things.

On top of that, I have this strong fear of being ordinary. I don't want to live a normal, average life. I want to be special and stand out, but right now I'm heading straight toward being completely ordinary and that scares me a lot.

I know I have the time. I know I want to change. But I just can't seem to make myself do it.

Has anyone else been in this exact loop in their mid to late 20s?

How did you break out of the "I want to do it but I do nothing" cycle?

Did you manage to overcome the fear of being ordinary and actually start building a better life?

Any real advice would help a lot. Feeling pretty lost.

Thanks.

P.S. I am in therapy, and I am not even able to follow up my therapists advise or suggestions.