u/SportOriginal27

especially dealing with fetishes? vc available as well

I’ve been struggling with intense lust toward women with certain looks, and it’s starting to take over my thoughts. It’s driving me crazy, and I know I need help and accountability to get it under control.

I’ve been having doubts about whether a marriage would work with a certain girl. We are both Christian and have gotten along well so far, but we are very different, she’s more introverted, while I’m more extroverted, and I’m not sure if I could meet her expectations emotionally or physically.

One of my biggest concerns is around intimacy. Due to medications I’m taking and some mental health challenges I’m dealing with, I don’t feel as sexual as I think she might be. This makes me worry about whether I could meet her needs in that area.

I’m also unsure about timing, should I bring up these kinds of topics before marriage, or is it something to discuss later? It’s something that weighs on me, especially the fear of not being able to fulfill what I feel are my responsibilities as a partner.

What if she has a higher level of sexual desire than I do? How do I navigate that, given my current situation?