If you are either married, older and or religious do you still have this addiction. I dont think its get any better if your older or religous and especially when youre married and have sex life.
Do you have any of the above?
This is a pointless post. I'm just going to rant I think.
I hate porn. I hate it so much. I cried for hours just now. I keep relapsing. Its been going on since i was 12, and im 18 now. I prayed, i even failed in Ramadan, I've never done more than 16 days despite trying for more than a year now to actively quit. I just don't get it. Why can everyone else quit it and I can't? I feel so dirty and impure and hate myself even more. I don't know what to do. At all. I genuinely feel like filth. I've made countless dua for ages to quit, but to no effect. I feel like Allah has abandoned me. And, the type of stuff I've watched is so depraved I deserve to be abandoned and burn in hell.
mostly everyone who has been on nofap has experienced these in one way or the other. how does islam reconcile and explain this phenomenon? does islam provide a spiritual explanation?
I went 50 days no fap or watching porn and ramadan helped massively. Unfortunately this week iv watched and done it everyday for 6 days. It sickens me iv done ghusl istikfar and salah tawbah. The temptations are so hard it was so easy in ramadan like i wouldn’t even get a sniff or thought at all. Now after watching its lile something in my brain is forcing me. Any dua anything I can do i want to start fresh from tomorrow April 20th
can’t forgive myself about the past and move on with living the moment and focus on build a new life for the future i really struggling in my life of my past and lack of having faith i don’t know really what to do now really i can’t focus in my deen please guide me
Salaam everyone, didn’t even know that there was a group like this but I’m glad there is! I have been dealing with this sin for years and it took me years to be strong enough to even do 6 Months! I still can’t believe that and I’m proud I even made it this far, but it mostly 6 Months no porn. Yesterday I unfortunately came back to the terrible sin and i think the reason was the loneliness crept up on me. I honestly hate that I did it and I hate that my streak is gone but honestly there was never a streak, I feel like whatever we decided to do that should just be it, we should not let a streak be something that makes us feel we failed compared if we do slip up, yes going so long was great but the day I decided that I’m done, I should have been like that’s it it’s done. Anyway I think I am just rambling, just wanted to share and get anyone else experience and how it’s going for them. Today I am feeling slightly down because I came back, but honestly the desire for watching was not even there. It’s like I completely removed the feeling of watching it from that six months of leaving it in general, which is a positive but I recently told myself yesterday that I’m gonna quit both. So from today, there’s nothing no option to have to decide in the future which one to do. There’s just don’t do it and I think I’ve reached the point where if the urge comes back I’m able to just say no or at least I hope.
I'm a female muslima and these past 3 months I learned how to masturbate and I've been doing it almost every night. Although it has not affected my studies and personal life but I feel like it's becoming a problem. For context, I'm single, college student, and still a virgin, so when I de-stress I pleasure myself. Sometime, I tell myself this better than doing zina but I still feel guilty. Does anyone here experience this as well?
Salam all,
After the best 2 weeks in my life being clean I relapsed hard and fell into a binge. Today is the first day I think I am able to start quitting again.
I appreciate any advice and I hope I will do better this time
genuinely don’t know what the hell is wrong with me, i was clean from everything for over two weeks and then have been relapsing extremely poorly in terms of p and m.
i feel like i could genuinely cry but i know allah is forgiving and knows what is in the heart of his servant.
please make dua for us all to be rid of this filthy habit
Almost all of us are addicted to something—be it smoking, alcohol, toxic relationships, or others. We undoubtedly know the harm they cause, yet when we decide to abandon these habits and break the addiction, we fail once, twice, or even dozens of times. We fall into a closed loop: we decide to quit, we persist, we suffer, and then we relapse.
This happens simply because we try to "remove" bad habits. I’m not joking—trying to simply "get rid" of pornography, for example, keeps you trapped in the addiction cycle. When you drop a bad habit, you leave behind a void of energy that needs to be discharged. If you are the type of person who plans to add good habits only after you’ve recovered from the brain-altering effects of addiction, you will gain nothing—you will simply relapse.
Therefore, you must work on finding alternative solutions for those habits rather than just quitting and watching. During your recovery journey, monitor the triggers that lead to a relapse and cut them off. Most importantly: when you relapse, continue practicing the new habits you are trying to acquire. Do not stop, even if you are exhausted, and even if you only perform that new habit for a few tiny minutes on the day of your relapse.
This is what helped me overcome my own bad habits, based on my years of experience trying to quit them and my background in the medical field as well. Share with me your thoughts and your struggles with breaking your habits.
Nowadays it has become so easily to get distracted with your phone , especially scrolling through social media. Hours on hours without realizing your wasting your time and didn’t gather any progress with just scrolling around. Not only that, doom scrolling actually activates your dopamine system and makes you want to get a huge load of dopamine so this leads you to watch corn , you have to activate your brain by doing activities that makes you think like learning for your college or working out.
I have been in this addiction for 6 years and from the time i got addicted to this...nothing in my life is good. From academics to everything i have become a loser. I can't focus on anything. I tried 100s of times quitting it but i am not able to. I'm done with all these. I can't live such life anymore. May Allah forgive me.
Salam,
I’m seriously struggling with porn addiction and I’m now considering getting professional help. I’ve tried to control it on my own many times, but I keep falling back into the same cycle.
I wanted to ask:
Should I see a psychologist for this?
Has anyone here actually gone to a therapist for porn addiction? Did it help?
What kind of therapy works best for this issue?
How do I even find the right person (especially someone who understands this without judging)?
Also, if anyone here is a psychologist or has experience in this area, I’d really appreciate your advice.
I’m at a point where I genuinely want to change but don’t know the right direction anymore.
Thanks.
I got tired of restarting from Day 0 over and over.
So I joined/created an accountability group on Telegram with actual structure:
• Daily check-ins
• Habit tracking
• XP + leveling system
• Support from others going through the same thing
and more…
It’s helped way more than trying to do it alone.
If anyone wants to join the Telegram group, dm me with your telegram @ and I’ll send the link. or DM me @ J_A_11247 and request to join.
Salam everyone,
I’m a 25M and I’ve been struggling with porn addiction for a long time now. It’s reached a point where it’s affecting my daily life, focus, energy, and even my mental state. I feel stuck in a cycle I can’t break.
Some details about my situation:
I spend most of my time at home
Even when I try to stop, I relapse after a few days
I feel guilt and frustration afterward, but still repeat the same pattern
I’m honestly tired of this and want to quit for good.
A few things I want advice on:
Is there any medication that can actually help reduce urges or addiction? (If anyone has real experience, please share)
How do you deal with triggers?
What are practical steps that actually worked for you (not just generic advice)?
How do you rebuild discipline and control your mind in these situations?
Any routines, habits, or mindset shifts that made a real difference?
I’d really appreciate honest, practical advice. Not looking for judgment—just real solutions from people who’ve gone through this or understand it.
Thanks in advance.
Imagine the multiplier effect when you look at some brown or other ethnic girl who has no idea her husband has posted her online, or videos you think are pornography/sex but are actually rape.
You don't just get the usual sin of watching porn but also this huge huqooq ul ibad violation
Most of the time, it’s a coping mechanism tied to depression, anxiety, stress, other life circumstances, emotional dysregulation and untreated ADHD that can also be masked by depression.
It's like someone who is self medicating on hard drugs due to trauma and untreated mental illness.
You can't fix your addiction if you're unhappy and don't sort out your issues first. At least that works for me. I struggled with it for 16 years.
I’m 25 and honestly feel like I’m just stuck.
I have a job, things are “okay” on paper, but inside it feels like I’m not really moving forward. Same routine every day — wake up, work, eat, sleep. Weekends don’t even feel different anymore.
I see people around me doing better — career growth, getting married, moving abroad, building something — and I start questioning myself like… what am I even doing?
It’s not like I’m completely lost, but I also don’t feel clear or excited about anything. Motivation comes for a day or two, then disappears.
Does anyone else feel like this in their mid-20s?
How did you get out of this phase?
Would really appreciate honest advice, not just “it gets better.”
Asalamualaikum, i did not want to be making this post but i guess i will. Even though making this post is hard and embarrassing i will still make it and continue everyday until i stop. I never thought that someone like me would be addicted to some filth like this but here i am. I have done some terrible things, this addiction is the worst thing in my life.
I have been watching and fapping around 3 to 4 times a week now for the past i would say 2 and a half years. Over the past year i have been using video call sites where u can video chat with girls and yes i showed my awrah and did the haram with girls, i did not show my face. (Astaghfirullah wallahi i feel ashamed of even thinking about this, the shaytan has got me so well i cant even believe i have done this, my hand is sweating while i type this, how could i have done something this bad and evil?)
This disgusting, disgraceful sin that i keep doing is actually killing me. The worse part is that nobody knows that i am doing this, on the outside my family and friends think i am normal, they could never imagine me doing this. Sometimes i wonder how i would be ashamed if my family seen me doing this, but i do it when i know my lord is watching.
Every time after i do it i make tawbah and seek forgiveness but i do it again after a few days. I was raised in a muslim household and i have memorised 7 juz of the Quran and am trying to become a hafiz, i always pray my 5 times prayer no matter what, i dont have any grudges with anyone or listen to music or eat harram or do anything. This is the only major thing that is holding me back. I just want to be free, i want to have that feeling of being normal again and not being addicted, having that control over my nafs. Please give me advice on what i can do to stop this. I cannot believe i have been addicted for so long and have progressed to even more evil things like these sites. Please give me advice.
Can’t get the dirty thoughts out of mind. I feel so helpless at times. I just want to give in and move on but I know it will make me feel worse. I’m desperately trying to avoid caving in again because I know it will just put me back at square one.