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Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I have no contacts in my phone. No online friends. I can't seem to land a job for some reason after applying to over 1000 places the past few years, so I have no coworkers. I have no classmates as I'm not in school. I was abused constantly at medical school until I dropped out.

I try to work on content in my own time sometimes and I share it. It's hard when I have no money, job, or friends for so long. My mental health is severely bad. Despite that, I've worked on content that is meaningful to me, and have had zero interaction with it anywhere. I have volunteered over the years, joined clubs, and gone to meet ups. I do virtual support groups every day. There's no in-person ones in my area and I suppose they wouldn't be any different.

I'm especially disappointed that there's no good places to make friends online. In particular, serious people. I don't necessarily need people who are severely depressed like me, although it's a good place to start in terms of mutual understanding and support. These also happen to probably be the only people who would give me any time, and who would be serious. I can't find any.

There seem to be very few platforms for any friendship. There are dating and "friend" apps, which seem to inevitably revolve around horniness. That is why they have such short bios and emphasize pictures. Some people also just never get matches there, and most people using them are not necessarily lonely or have some of the same digital-based interests I have.

So when I try relevant platforms, they seem full of people who are inactive or inconsistent and often completely unserious. Their average internet use looks like maybe logging on for 30 minutes every day to post memes with each other. I've tried communities in my interests across medicine, music, philosophy, writing, gaming. Many of these groups are also really cliquey.

I've been spending several hours a day trying to make friends online or elsewhere, though with an emphasis on online due to my preference and the accessibility. I send messages to people to see if they want to get to know each other, or comment on other people's work, share mine, etc. I don't do so feeling any individual person is obligated to be my friend. But I think I deserve and am owed the good fortune of running into one person who would be my friend, like any other person. I don't know what a person is supposed to do to make friends.

Today is one bad day among at least 5,000 bad days in a row. Around 2,500 really bad days. Today was an average day. I submitted around 20 job applications. I received a few job rejections in my email. I posted several messages looking for connection, on several platforms. I went for a walk and tried to find gig work. Tried to focus on personal health. I am in a support group as I write this. I am currently living in a sort of storage room at my grandparents' house. I don't have a real bed just a small futon. The whole room is full of boxes. I have one bag of clothes. I only have enough money for toiletries and food, which is better than nothing.

Why is it so hard to find friends online, or find people to just respond to you? Sometimes I also hear about this loneliness crisis, and yet I am constantly looking for friends and don't seem to find anyone who is lonely. There seems to be an apathy crisis at worst. Most everyone seems to have at least a few friends.

Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I have no contacts in my phone. No online friends. I can't seem to land a job for some reason after applying to over 1000 places the past few years, so I have no coworkers. I have no classmates as I'm not in school. I was abused constantly at medical school until I dropped out.

I try to work on content in my own time sometimes and I share it. It's hard when I have no money, job, or friends for so long. My mental health is severely bad. Despite that, I've worked on content that is meaningful to me, and have had zero interaction with it anywhere. I have volunteered over the years, joined clubs, and gone to meet ups. I do virtual support groups every day. There's no in-person ones in my area and I suppose they wouldn't be any different.

I'm especially disappointed that there's no good places to make friends online. In particular, serious people. I don't necessarily need people who are severely depressed like me, although it's a good place to start in terms of mutual understanding and support. These also happen to probably be the only people who would give me any time, and who would be serious. I can't find any.

There seem to be very few platforms for any friendship. There are dating and "friend" apps, which seem to inevitably revolve around horniness. That is why they have such short bios and emphasize pictures. Some people also just never get matches there, and most people using them are not necessarily lonely or have some of the same digital-based interests I have.

So when I try relevant platforms, they seem full of people who are inactive or inconsistent and often completely unserious. Their average internet use looks like maybe logging on for 30 minutes every day to post memes with each other. I've tried communities in my interests across medicine, music, philosophy, writing, gaming. Many of these groups are also really cliquey.

I've been spending several hours a day trying to make friends online or elsewhere, though with an emphasis on online due to my preference and the accessibility. I send messages to people to see if they want to get to know each other, or comment on other people's work, share mine, etc. I don't do so feeling any individual person is obligated to be my friend. But I think I deserve and am owed the good fortune of running into one person who would be my friend, like any other person. I don't know what a person is supposed to do to make friends.

Today is one bad day among at least 5,000 bad days in a row. Around 2,500 really bad days. Today was an average day. I submitted around 20 job applications. I received a few job rejections in my email. I posted several messages looking for connection, on several platforms. I went for a walk and tried to find gig work. Tried to focus on personal health. I am in a support group as I write this. I am currently living in a sort of storage room at my grandparents' house. I don't have a real bed just a small futon. The whole room is full of boxes. I have one bag of clothes. I only have enough money for toiletries and food, which is better than nothing.

Why is it so hard to find friends online, or find people to just respond to you?

Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I have no contacts in my phone. No online friends. I can't seem to land a job for some reason after applying to over 1000 places the past few years, so I have no coworkers. I have no classmates as I'm not in school. I was abused constantly at medical school until I dropped out.

I try to work on content in my own time sometimes and I share it. It's hard when I have no money, job, or friends for so long. My mental health is severely bad. Despite that, I've worked on content that is meaningful to me, and have had zero interaction with it anywhere. I have volunteered over the years, joined clubs, and gone to meet ups. I do virtual support groups every day. There's no in-person ones in my area and I suppose they wouldn't be any different.

I'm especially disappointed that there's no good places to make friends online. In particular, serious people. I don't necessarily need people who are severely depressed like me, although it's a good place to start in terms of mutual understanding and support. These also happen to probably be the only people who would give me any time, and who would be serious. I can't find any.

There seem to be very few platforms for any friendship. There are dating and "friend" apps, which seem to inevitably revolve around horniness. That is why they have such short bios and emphasize pictures. Some people also just never get matches there, and most people using them are not necessarily lonely or have some of the same digital-based interests I have.

So when I try relevant platforms, they seem full of people who are inactive or inconsistent and often completely unserious. Their average internet use looks like maybe logging on for 30 minutes every day to post memes with each other. I've tried communities in my interests across medicine, music, philosophy, writing, gaming. Many of these groups are also really cliquey.

I've been spending several hours a day trying to make friends online or elsewhere, though with an emphasis on online due to my preference and the accessibility. I send messages to people to see if they want to get to know each other, or comment on other people's work, share mine, etc. I don't do so feeling any individual person is obligated to be my friend. But I think I deserve and am owed the good fortune of running into one person who would be my friend, like any other person. I don't know what a person is supposed to do to make friends.

Today is one bad day among at least 5,000 bad days in a row. Around 2,500 really bad days. Today was an average day. I submitted around 20 job applications. I received a few job rejections in my email. I posted several messages looking for connection, on several platforms. I went for a walk and tried to find gig work. Tried to focus on personal health. I am in a support group as I write this. I am currently living in a sort of storage room at my grandparents' house. I don't have a real bed just a small futon. The whole room is full of boxes. I have one bag of clothes. I only have enough money for toiletries and food, which is better than nothing.

Why is it so hard to find friends online, or find people to just respond to you? Sometimes I also hear about this loneliness crisis, and yet I am constantly looking for friends and don't seem to find anyone who is lonely. There seems to be an apathy crisis at worst. Most everyone seems to have at least a few friends.

Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I have no contacts in my phone. No online friends. I can't seem to land a job for some reason after applying to over 1000 places the past few years, so I have no coworkers. I have no classmates as I'm not in school. I was abused constantly at medical school until I dropped out.

I try to work on content in my own time sometimes and I share it. It's hard when I have no money, job, or friends for so long. My mental health is severely bad. Despite that, I've worked on content that is meaningful to me, and have had zero interaction with it anywhere. I have volunteered over the years, joined clubs, and gone to meet ups. I do virtual support groups every day. There's no in-person ones in my area and I suppose they wouldn't be any different.

I'm especially disappointed that there's no good places to make friends online. In particular, serious people. I don't necessarily need people who are severely depressed like me, although it's a good place to start in terms of mutual understanding and support. These also happen to probably be the only people who would give me any time, and who would be serious. I can't find any.

There seem to be very few platforms for any friendship. There are dating and "friend" apps, which seem to inevitably revolve around horniness. That is why they have such short bios and emphasize pictures. Some people also just never get matches there, and most people using them are not necessarily lonely or have some of the same digital-based interests I have.

So when I try relevant platforms, they seem full of people who are inactive or inconsistent and often completely unserious. Their average internet use looks like maybe logging on for 30 minutes every day to post memes with each other. I've tried communities in my interests across medicine, music, philosophy, writing, gaming. Many of these groups are also really cliquey.

I've been spending several hours a day trying to make friends online or elsewhere, though with an emphasis on online due to my preference and the accessibility. I send messages to people to see if they want to get to know each other, or comment on other people's work, share mine, etc. I don't do so feeling any individual person is obligated to be my friend. But I think I deserve and am owed the good fortune of running into one person who would be my friend, like any other person. I don't know what a person is supposed to do to make friends.

Today is one bad day among at least 5,000 bad days in a row. Around 2,500 really bad days. Today was an average day. I submitted around 20 job applications. I received a few job rejections in my email. I posted several messages looking for connection, on several platforms. I went for a walk and tried to find gig work. Tried to focus on personal health. I am in a support group as I write this. I am currently living in a sort of storage room at my grandparents' house. I don't have a real bed just a small futon. The whole room is full of boxes. I have one bag of clothes. I only have enough money for toiletries and food, which is better than nothing.

Why is it so hard to find friends online, or find people to just respond to you? Sometimes I also hear about this loneliness crisis, and yet I am constantly looking for friends and don't seem to find anyone who is lonely. There seems to be an apathy crisis at worst. Most everyone seems to have at least a few friends.

I’m a 28-year-old man from the United States looking for a sincere, long-term friendship. I’ve struggled with depression and loneliness for a long time and don’t have any friends, so it’s important to me to find someone who is interested in exchanging daily texts. I prefer serious, reflective conversations rather than memes, irony, edginess, etc. My main interests are music, medicine, philosophy, and the arts.

With music, I enjoy listening and singing, although I don’t play an instrument. My tastes include R&B, rock, pop, and soul, among other genres. I’ve been studying medicine for about ten years and hope to become a doctor in the future. My main interests are psychiatry, neurology, and internal medicine, though I’m curious about other areas. I'm into medical history, science, culture, public health, and bioethics, and I would especially appreciate talking with someone about medicine, the medical work environment, or even studying together. I also read philosophy from time to time and enjoy discussing psychology, personal experiences, emotional life, and broader questions about meaning, society, and current events. Another interest of mine is science fiction and fantasy of any type of media, including films, television, games, and books.

Some things I’d enjoy doing together include real-time text conversations, studying or discussing medicine, exchanging letters, sharing photos of places we visit, watching films or shows together, writing collaboratively, working on creative ideas like worldbuilding, or starting other projects together. You can be any gender, nationality, or background. The main practical requirement is that our schedules overlap. I’m in the EST time zone and am generally available throughout the day except from around midnight to early morning.

Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I have no contacts in my phone. No online friends. I can't seem to land a job for some reason after applying to over 1000 places the past few years, so I have no coworkers. I have no classmates as I'm not in school. I was abused constantly at medical school until I dropped out.

I try to work on content in my own time sometimes and I share it. It's hard when I have no money, job, or friends for so long. My mental health is severely bad. Despite that, I've worked on content that is meaningful to me, and have had zero interaction with it anywhere. I have volunteered over the years, joined clubs, and gone to meet ups. I do virtual support groups every day. There's no in-person ones in my area and I suppose they wouldn't be any different.

I'm especially disappointed that there's no good places to make friends online. In particular, serious people. I don't necessarily need people who are severely depressed like me, although it's a good place to start in terms of mutual understanding and support. These also happen to probably be the only people who would give me any time, and who would be serious. I can't find any.

There seem to be very few platforms for any friendship. There are dating and "friend" apps, which seem to inevitably revolve around horniness. That is why they have such short bios and emphasize pictures. Some people also just never get matches there, and most people using them are not necessarily lonely or have some of the same digital-based interests I have.

So when I try relevant platforms, they seem full of people who are inactive or inconsistent and often completely unserious. Their average internet use looks like maybe logging on for 30 minutes every day to post memes with each other. I've tried communities in my interests across medicine, music, philosophy, writing, gaming. Many of these groups are also really cliquey.

I've been spending several hours a day trying to make friends online or elsewhere, though with an emphasis on online due to my preference and the accessibility. I send messages to people to see if they want to get to know each other, or comment on other people's work, share mine, etc. I don't do so feeling any individual person is obligated to be my friend. But I think I deserve and am owed the good fortune of running into one person who would be my friend, like any other person. I don't know what a person is supposed to do to make friends.

Today is one bad day among at least 5,000 bad days in a row. Around 2,500 really bad days. Today was an average day. I submitted around 20 job applications. I received a few job rejections in my email. I posted several messages looking for connection, on several platforms. I went for a walk and tried to find gig work. Tried to focus on personal health. I am in a support group as I write this. I am currently living in a sort of storage room at my grandparents' house. I don't have a real bed just a small futon. The whole room is full of boxes. I have one bag of clothes. I only have enough money for toiletries and food, which is better than nothing.

Why is it so hard to find friends online, or find people to just respond to you? Sometimes I also hear about this loneliness crisis, and yet I am constantly looking for friends and don't seem to find anyone who is lonely. There seems to be an apathy crisis at worst. Most everyone seems to have at least a few friends.

Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I have no contacts in my phone. No online friends. I can't seem to land a job for some reason after applying to over 1000 places the past few years, so I have no coworkers. I have no classmates as I'm not in school. I was abused constantly at medical school until I dropped out.

I try to work on content in my own time sometimes and I share it. It's hard when I have no money, job, or friends for so long. My mental health is severely bad. Despite that, I've worked on content that is meaningful to me, and have had zero interaction with it anywhere. I have volunteered over the years, joined clubs, and gone to meet ups. I do virtual support groups every day. There's no in-person ones in my area and I suppose they wouldn't be any different.

I'm especially disappointed that there's no good places to make friends online. In particular, serious people. I don't necessarily need people who are severely depressed like me, although it's a good place to start in terms of mutual understanding and support. These also happen to probably be the only people who would give me any time, and who would be serious. I can't find any.

There seem to be very few platforms for any friendship. There are dating and "friend" apps, which seem to inevitably revolve around horniness. That is why they have such short bios and emphasize pictures. Some people also just never get matches there, and most people using them are not necessarily lonely or have some of the same digital-based interests I have.

So when I try relevant platforms, they seem full of people who are inactive or inconsistent and often completely unserious. Their average internet use looks like maybe logging on for 30 minutes every day to post memes with each other. I've tried communities in my interests across medicine, music, philosophy, writing, gaming. Many of these groups are also really cliquey.

I've been spending several hours a day trying to make friends online or elsewhere, though with an emphasis on online due to my preference and the accessibility. I send messages to people to see if they want to get to know each other, or comment on other people's work, share mine, etc. I don't do so feeling any individual person is obligated to be my friend. But I think I deserve and am owed the good fortune of running into one person who would be my friend, like any other person. I don't know what a person is supposed to do to make friends.

Today is one bad day among at least 5,000 bad days in a row. Around 2,500 really bad days. Today was an average day. I submitted around 20 job applications. I received a few job rejections in my email. I posted several messages looking for connection, on several platforms. I went for a walk and tried to find gig work. Tried to focus on personal health. I am in a support group as I write this. I am currently living in a sort of storage room at my grandparents' house. I don't have a real bed just a small futon. The whole room is full of boxes. I have one bag of clothes. I only have enough money for toiletries and food, which is better than nothing.

Why is it so hard to find friends online, or find people to just respond to you? Sometimes I also hear about this loneliness crisis, and yet I am constantly looking for friends and don't seem to find anyone who is lonely. There seems to be an apathy crisis at worst. Most everyone seems to have at least a few friends.

Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I have no contacts in my phone. No online friends. I can't seem to land a job for some reason after applying to over 1000 places the past few years, so I have no coworkers. I have no classmates as I'm not in school. I was abused constantly at medical school until I dropped out.

I try to work on content in my own time sometimes and I share it. It's hard when I have no money, job, or friends for so long. My mental health is severely bad. Despite that, I've worked on content that is meaningful to me, and have had zero interaction with it anywhere. I have volunteered over the years, joined clubs, and gone to meet ups. I do virtual support groups every day. There's no in-person ones in my area and I suppose they wouldn't be any different.

I'm especially disappointed that there's no good places to make friends online. In particular, serious people. I don't necessarily need people who are severely depressed like me, although it's a good place to start in terms of mutual understanding and support. These also happen to probably be the only people who would give me any time, and who would be serious. I can't find any.

There seem to be very few platforms for any friendship. There are dating and "friend" apps, which seem to inevitably revolve around horniness. That is why they have such short bios and emphasize pictures. Some people also just never get matches there, and most people using them are not necessarily lonely or have some of the same digital-based interests I have.

So when I try relevant platforms, they seem full of people who are inactive or inconsistent and often completely unserious. Their average internet use looks like maybe logging on for 30 minutes every day to post memes with each other. I've tried communities in my interests across medicine, music, philosophy, writing, gaming. Many of these groups are also really cliquey.

I've been spending several hours a day trying to make friends online or elsewhere, though with an emphasis on online due to my preference and the accessibility. I send messages to people to see if they want to get to know each other, or comment on other people's work, share mine, etc. I don't do so feeling any individual person is obligated to be my friend. But I think I deserve and am owed the good fortune of running into one person who would be my friend, like any other person. I don't know what a person is supposed to do to make friends.

Today is one bad day among at least 5,000 bad days in a row. Around 2,500 really bad days. Today was an average day. I submitted around 20 job applications. I received a few job rejections in my email. I posted several messages looking for connection, on several platforms. I went for a walk and tried to find gig work. Tried to focus on personal health. I am in a support group as I write this. I am currently living in a sort of storage room at my grandparents' house. I don't have a real bed just a small futon. The whole room is full of boxes. I have one bag of clothes. I only have enough money for toiletries and food, which is better than nothing.

Why is it so hard to find friends online, or find people to just respond to you? Sometimes I also hear about this loneliness crisis, and yet I am constantly looking for friends and don't seem to find anyone who is lonely. There seems to be an apathy crisis at worst. Most everyone seems to have at least a few friends.

Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I have no contacts in my phone. No online friends. I can't seem to land a job for some reason after applying to over 1000 places the past few years, so I have no coworkers. I have no classmates as I'm not in school. I was abused constantly at medical school until I dropped out.

I try to work on content in my own time sometimes and I share it. It's hard when I have no money, job, or friends for so long. My mental health is severely bad. Despite that, I've worked on content that is meaningful to me, and have had zero interaction with it anywhere. I have volunteered over the years, joined clubs, and gone to meet ups. I do virtual support groups every day. There's no in-person ones in my area and I suppose they wouldn't be any different.

I'm especially disappointed that there's no good places to make friends online. In particular, serious people. I don't necessarily need people who are severely depressed like me, although it's a good place to start in terms of mutual understanding and support. These also happen to probably be the only people who would give me any time, and who would be serious. I can't find any.

There seem to be very few platforms for any friendship. There are dating and "friend" apps, which seem to inevitably revolve around horniness. That is why they have such short bios and emphasize pictures. Some people also just never get matches there, and most people using them are not necessarily lonely or have some of the same digital-based interests I have.

So when I try relevant platforms, they seem full of people who are inactive or inconsistent and often completely unserious. Their average internet use looks like maybe logging on for 30 minutes every day to post memes with each other. I've tried communities in my interests across medicine, music, philosophy, writing, gaming. Many of these groups are also really cliquey.

I've been spending several hours a day trying to make friends online or elsewhere, though with an emphasis on online due to my preference and the accessibility. I send messages to people to see if they want to get to know each other, or comment on other people's work, share mine, etc. I don't do so feeling any individual person is obligated to be my friend. But I think I deserve and am owed the good fortune of running into one person who would be my friend, like any other person. I don't know what a person is supposed to do to make friends.

Today is one bad day among at least 5,000 bad days in a row. Around 2,500 really bad days. Today was an average day. I submitted around 20 job applications. I received a few job rejections in my email. I posted several messages looking for connection, on several platforms. I went for a walk and tried to find gig work. Tried to focus on personal health. I am in a support group as I write this. I am currently living in a sort of storage room at my grandparents' house. I don't have a real bed just a small futon. The whole room is full of boxes. I have one bag of clothes. I only have enough money for toiletries and food, which is better than nothing.

Why is it so hard to find friends online, or find people to just respond to you? Sometimes I also hear about this loneliness crisis, and yet I am constantly looking for friends and don't seem to find anyone who is lonely. There seems to be an apathy crisis at worst. Most everyone seems to have at least a few friends.

Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I have no contacts in my phone. No online friends. I can't seem to land a job for some reason after applying to over 1000 places the past few years, so I have no coworkers. I have no classmates as I'm not in school. I was abused constantly at medical school until I dropped out.

I try to work on content in my own time sometimes and I share it. It's hard when I have no money, job, or friends for so long. My mental health is severely bad. Despite that, I've worked on content that is meaningful to me, and have had zero interaction with it anywhere. I have volunteered over the years, joined clubs, and gone to meet ups. I do virtual support groups every day. There's no in-person ones in my area and I suppose they wouldn't be any different.

I'm especially disappointed that there's no good places to make friends online. In particular, serious people. I don't necessarily need people who are severely depressed like me, although it's a good place to start in terms of mutual understanding and support. These also happen to probably be the only people who would give me any time, and who would be serious. I can't find any.

There seem to be very few platforms for any friendship. There are dating and "friend" apps, which seem to inevitably revolve around horniness. That is why they have such short bios and emphasize pictures. Some people also just never get matches there, and most people using them are not necessarily lonely or have some of the same digital-based interests I have.

So when I try relevant platforms, they seem full of people who are inactive or inconsistent and often completely unserious. Their average internet use looks like maybe logging on for 30 minutes every day to post memes with each other. I've tried communities in my interests across medicine, music, philosophy, writing, gaming. Many of these groups are also really cliquey.

I've been spending several hours a day trying to make friends online or elsewhere, though with an emphasis on online due to my preference and the accessibility. I send messages to people to see if they want to get to know each other, or comment on other people's work, share mine, etc. I don't do so feeling any individual person is obligated to be my friend. But I think I deserve and am owed the good fortune of running into one person who would be my friend, like any other person. I don't know what a person is supposed to do to make friends.

Today is one bad day among at least 5,000 bad days in a row. Around 2,500 really bad days. Today was an average day. I submitted around 20 job applications. I received a few job rejections in my email. I posted several messages looking for connection, on several platforms. I went for a walk and tried to find gig work. Tried to focus on personal health. I am in a support group as I write this. I am currently living in a sort of storage room at my grandparents' house. I don't have a real bed just a small futon. The whole room is full of boxes. I have one bag of clothes. I only have enough money for toiletries and food, which is better than nothing.

Why is it so hard to find friends online, or find people to just respond to you?

Hey everyone. I am 28 and have had no friends all my life. I need help. I'm frustrated by the typical advice as I feel I've tried most of it, so I'd like to list what I do, and see if there are specific issues, oversights, or lack of volume in what I try. In particular, I'd like to know if there are good communities online, or platforms I can discover online that will link me to viable offline communities.

• Search for friends online. It's my strong preference because I like text chat and getting to know people without prejudice. I've tried all of the major platforms that I know of. I look for both spaces where people advertise for friends, and places where people discuss or work on shared interests and potentially become friends that way. I've had bad luck in these spaces, and the common theme seems to be overwhelming edginess, cruelty, and unseriousness.
• Sharing content or trying to create communities online (or potentially offline). I share posts, music, and general interests, worldbuilding, game concepts, and philosophy on most major platforms a few times a month. I don't do this (or the first point) as much anymore since it just hasn't worked for over 10 years.
• I go for walks, go to cafes, and local libraries to be in an ambient space to potentially cross paths with people. I don't do this all the time, but a few times a month. I've done in-person support groups in the past and do digital ones every day.
• Work and school. I unfortunately was bullied at school until I dropped out. I was never able to make any friends there. As for work, I've found it hard to hold down a job. My long-term goal is to be a doctor one day so I've pursued relevant fields but can't seem to leverage my experience for something relevant. And then at work it is usually just a busy and cold atmosphere.
• Generally working on myself to improve my odds overall. I am really depressed and poor which makes this hard. I am moderately active, I have a thorough hygiene routine, and I am a mostly kind person. I am serious but I don't think I'm boring, and I actually work on my interests and skills and share them all the time. I don't have resources for clothes, transportation, or housing, or for healthcare, which is a limitation.

I don't know what else to do or why I can't make any friends through these outlets. Again, I have been trying really consistently my entire life. I say 10 years just to reference my adult life. I had the same problems growing up but that's a separate deal. The only advice I ever get is related to the above, so I don't know what's going on for me specifically. And why I attract such abusive people and not even one person to share friendship with.

If anyone has similar experiences, you can also feel free to reach out to me and we can provide mutual support, advice, etc.

Hey everyone. I am 28 and have had no friends all my life. I need help. I'm frustrated by the typical advice as I feel I've tried most of it, so I'd like to list what I do, and see if there are specific issues, oversights, or lack of volume in what I try. In particular, I'd like to know if there are good communities online, or platforms I can discover online that will link me to viable offline communities.

• Search for friends online. It's my strong preference because I like text chat and getting to know people without prejudice. I've tried all of the major platforms that I know of. I look for both spaces where people advertise for friends, and places where people discuss or work on shared interests and potentially become friends that way. I've had bad luck in these spaces, and the common theme seems to be overwhelming edginess, cruelty, and unseriousness.
• Sharing content or trying to create communities online (or potentially offline). I share posts, music, and general interests, worldbuilding, game concepts, and philosophy on most major platforms a few times a month. I don't do this (or the first point) as much anymore since it just hasn't worked for over 10 years.
• I go for walks, go to cafes, and local libraries to be in an ambient space to potentially cross paths with people. I don't do this all the time, but a few times a month. I've done in-person support groups in the past and do digital ones every day.
• Work and school. I unfortunately was bullied at school until I dropped out. I was never able to make any friends there. As for work, I've found it hard to hold down a job. My long-term goal is to be a doctor one day so I've pursued relevant fields but can't seem to leverage my experience for something relevant. And then at work it is usually just a busy and cold atmosphere.
• Generally working on myself to improve my odds overall. I am really depressed and poor which makes this hard. I am moderately active, I have a thorough hygiene routine, and I am a mostly kind person. I am serious but I don't think I'm boring, and I actually work on my interests and skills and share them all the time. I don't have resources for clothes, transportation, or housing, or for healthcare, which is a limitation.

I don't know what else to do or why I can't make any friends through these outlets. Again, I have been trying really consistently my entire life. I say 10 years just to reference my adult life. I had the same problems growing up but that's a separate deal. The only advice I ever get is related to the above, so I don't know what's going on for me specifically. And why I attract such abusive people and not even one person to share friendship with.

If anyone has similar experiences, you can also feel free to reach out to me and we can provide mutual support, advice, etc.

I’m a 28-year-old man from the United States looking for a sincere, long-term friendship. I’ve struggled with depression and loneliness for a long time and don’t have any friends, so it’s important to me to find someone who is interested in exchanging daily texts. I prefer serious, reflective conversations rather than memes, irony, edginess, etc. My main interests are music, medicine, philosophy, and the arts.

With music, I enjoy listening and singing, although I don’t play an instrument. My tastes include R&B, rock, pop, and soul, among other genres. I’ve been studying medicine for about ten years and hope to become a doctor in the future. My main interests are psychiatry, neurology, and internal medicine, though I’m curious about other areas. I'm into medical history, science, culture, public health, and bioethics, and I would especially appreciate talking with someone about medicine, the medical work environment, or even studying together. I also read philosophy from time to time and enjoy discussing psychology, personal experiences, emotional life, and broader questions about meaning, society, and current events. Another interest of mine is science fiction and fantasy of any type of media, including films, television, games, and books.

Some things I’d enjoy doing together include real-time text conversations, studying or discussing medicine, exchanging letters, sharing photos of places we visit, watching films or shows together, writing collaboratively, working on creative ideas like worldbuilding, or starting other projects together. You can be any gender, nationality, or background. The main practical requirement is that our schedules overlap. I’m in the EST time zone and am generally available throughout the day except from around midnight to early morning.

I’m a 28-year-old man from the United States looking for a sincere, long-term friendship. I’ve struggled with depression and loneliness for a long time and don’t have any friends, so it’s important to me to find someone who is interested in exchanging daily texts. I prefer serious, reflective conversations rather than memes, irony, edginess, etc. My main interests are music, medicine, philosophy, and the arts.

With music, I enjoy listening and singing, although I don’t play an instrument. My tastes include R&B, rock, pop, and soul, among other genres. I’ve been studying medicine for about ten years and hope to become a doctor in the future. My main interests are psychiatry, neurology, and internal medicine, though I’m curious about other areas. I'm into medical history, science, culture, public health, and bioethics, and I would especially appreciate talking with someone about medicine, the medical work environment, or even studying together. I also read philosophy from time to time and enjoy discussing psychology, personal experiences, emotional life, and broader questions about meaning, society, and current events. Another interest of mine is science fiction and fantasy of any type of media, including films, television, games, and books.

Some things I’d enjoy doing together include real-time text conversations, studying or discussing medicine, exchanging letters, sharing photos of places we visit, watching films or shows together, writing collaboratively, working on creative ideas like worldbuilding, or starting other projects together. You can be any gender, nationality, or background. The main practical requirement is that our schedules overlap. I’m in the EST time zone and am generally available throughout the day except from around midnight to early morning.

I’m a 28-year-old man from the United States looking for a sincere, long-term friendship. I’ve struggled with depression and loneliness for a long time and don’t have any friends, so it’s important to me to find someone who is interested in exchanging daily texts. I prefer serious, reflective conversations rather than memes, irony, edginess, etc. My main interests are music, medicine, philosophy, and the arts.

With music, I enjoy listening and singing, although I don’t play an instrument. My tastes include R&B, rock, pop, and soul, among other genres. I’ve been studying medicine for about ten years and hope to become a doctor in the future. My main interests are psychiatry, neurology, and internal medicine, though I’m curious about other areas. I'm into medical history, science, culture, public health, and bioethics, and I would especially appreciate talking with someone about medicine, the medical work environment, or even studying together. I also read philosophy from time to time and enjoy discussing psychology, personal experiences, emotional life, and broader questions about meaning, society, and current events. Another interest of mine is science fiction and fantasy of any type of media, including films, television, games, and books.

Some things I’d enjoy doing together include real-time text conversations, studying or discussing medicine, exchanging letters, sharing photos of places we visit, watching films or shows together, writing collaboratively, working on creative ideas like worldbuilding, or starting other projects together. You can be any gender, nationality, or background. The main practical requirement is that our schedules overlap. I’m in the EST time zone and am generally available throughout the day except from around midnight to early morning.

I’m a 28-year-old man from the United States looking for a sincere, long-term friendship. I’ve struggled with depression and loneliness for a long time and don’t have any friends, so it’s important to me to find someone who is interested in exchanging daily texts. I prefer serious, reflective conversations rather than memes, irony, edginess, etc. My main interests are music, medicine, philosophy, and the arts.

With music, I enjoy listening and singing, although I don’t play an instrument. My tastes include R&B, rock, pop, and soul, among other genres. I’ve been studying medicine for about ten years and hope to become a doctor in the future. My main interests are psychiatry, neurology, and internal medicine, though I’m curious about other areas. I'm into medical history, science, culture, public health, and bioethics, and I would especially appreciate talking with someone about medicine, the medical work environment, or even studying together. I also read philosophy from time to time and enjoy discussing psychology, personal experiences, emotional life, and broader questions about meaning, society, and current events. Another interest of mine is science fiction and fantasy of any type of media, including films, television, games, and books.

Some things I’d enjoy doing together include real-time text conversations, studying or discussing medicine, exchanging letters, sharing photos of places we visit, watching films or shows together, writing collaboratively, working on creative ideas like worldbuilding, or starting other projects together. You can be any gender, nationality, or background. The main practical requirement is that our schedules overlap. I’m in the EST time zone and am generally available throughout the day except from around midnight to early morning.

Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I have no contacts in my phone. No online friends. I can't seem to land a job for some reason after applying to over 1000 places the past few years, so I have no coworkers. I have no classmates as I'm not in school. I was abused constantly at medical school until I dropped out.

I try to work on content in my own time sometimes and I share it. It's hard when I have no money, job, or friends for so long. My mental health is severely bad. Despite that, I've worked on content that is meaningful to me, and have had zero interaction with it anywhere. I have volunteered over the years, joined clubs, and gone to meet ups. I do virtual support groups every day. There's no in-person ones in my area and I suppose they wouldn't be any different.

I'm especially disappointed that there's no good places to make friends online. In particular, serious people. I don't necessarily need people who are severely depressed like me, although it's a good place to start in terms of mutual understanding and support. These also happen to probably be the only people who would give me any time, and who would be serious. I can't find any.

There seem to be very few platforms for any friendship. There are dating and "friend" apps, which seem to inevitably revolve around horniness. That is why they have such short bios and emphasize pictures. Some people also just never get matches there, and most people using them are not necessarily lonely or have some of the same digital-based interests I have.

So when I try relevant platforms, they seem full of people who are inactive or inconsistent and often completely unserious. Their average internet use looks like maybe logging on for 30 minutes every day to post memes with each other. I've tried communities in my interests across medicine, music, philosophy, writing, gaming. Many of these groups are also really cliquey.

I've been spending several hours a day trying to make friends online or elsewhere, though with an emphasis on online due to my preference and the accessibility. I send messages to people to see if they want to get to know each other, or comment on other people's work, share mine, etc. I don't do so feeling any individual person is obligated to be my friend. But I think I deserve and am owed the good fortune of running into one person who would be my friend, like any other person. I don't know what a person is supposed to do to make friends.

Today is one bad day among at least 5,000 bad days in a row. Around 2,500 really bad days. Today was an average day. I submitted around 20 job applications. I received a few job rejections in my email. I posted several messages looking for connection, on several platforms. I went for a walk and tried to find gig work. Tried to focus on personal health. I am in a support group as I write this. I am currently living in a sort of storage room at my grandparents' house. I don't have a real bed just a small futon. The whole room is full of boxes. I have one bag of clothes. I only have enough money for toiletries and food, which is better than nothing.

Why is it so hard to find friends online, or find people to just respond to you? Sometimes I also hear about this loneliness crisis, and yet I am constantly looking for friends and don't seem to find anyone who is lonely. There seems to be an apathy crisis at worst. Most everyone seems to have at least a few friends.

Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I have no contacts in my phone. No online friends. I can't seem to land a job for some reason after applying to over 1000 places the past few years, so I have no coworkers. I have no classmates as I'm not in school. I was abused constantly at medical school until I dropped out.

I try to work on content in my own time sometimes and I share it. It's hard when I have no money, job, or friends for so long. My mental health is severely bad. Despite that, I've worked on content that is meaningful to me, and have had zero interaction with it anywhere. I have volunteered over the years, joined clubs, and gone to meet ups. I do virtual support groups every day. There's no in-person ones in my area and I suppose they wouldn't be any different.

I'm especially disappointed that there's no good places to make friends online. In particular, serious people. I don't necessarily need people who are severely depressed like me, although it's a good place to start in terms of mutual understanding and support. These also happen to probably be the only people who would give me any time, and who would be serious. I can't find any.

There seem to be very few platforms for any friendship. There are dating and "friend" apps, which seem to inevitably revolve around horniness. That is why they have such short bios and emphasize pictures. Some people also just never get matches there, and most people using them are not necessarily lonely or have some of the same digital-based interests I have.

So when I try relevant platforms, they seem full of people who are inactive or inconsistent and often completely unserious. Their average internet use looks like maybe logging on for 30 minutes every day to post memes with each other. I've tried communities in my interests across medicine, music, philosophy, writing, gaming. Many of these groups are also really cliquey.

I've been spending several hours a day trying to make friends online or elsewhere, though with an emphasis on online due to my preference and the accessibility. I send messages to people to see if they want to get to know each other, or comment on other people's work, share mine, etc. I don't do so feeling any individual person is obligated to be my friend. But I think I deserve and am owed the good fortune of running into one person who would be my friend, like any other person. I don't know what a person is supposed to do to make friends.

Today is one bad day among at least 5,000 bad days in a row. Around 2,500 really bad days. Today was an average day. I submitted around 20 job applications. I received a few job rejections in my email. I posted several messages looking for connection, on several platforms. I went for a walk and tried to find gig work. Tried to focus on personal health. I am in a support group as I write this. I am currently living in a sort of storage room at my grandparents' house. I don't have a real bed just a small futon. The whole room is full of boxes. I have one bag of clothes. I only have enough money for toiletries and food, which is better than nothing.

Why is it so hard to find friends online, or find people to just respond to you? Sometimes I also hear about this loneliness crisis, and yet I am constantly looking for friends and don't seem to find anyone who is lonely. There seems to be an apathy crisis at worst. Most everyone seems to have at least a few friends.

Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I have no contacts in my phone. No online friends. I can't seem to land a job for some reason after applying to over 1000 places the past few years, so I have no coworkers. I have no classmates as I'm not in school. I was abused constantly at medical school until I dropped out.

I try to work on content in my own time sometimes and I share it. It's hard when I have no money, job, or friends for so long. My mental health is severely bad. Despite that, I've worked on content that is meaningful to me, and have had zero interaction with it anywhere. I have volunteered over the years, joined clubs, and gone to meet ups. I do virtual support groups every day. There's no in-person ones in my area and I suppose they wouldn't be any different.

I'm especially disappointed that there's no good places to make friends online. In particular, serious people. I don't necessarily need people who are severely depressed like me, although it's a good place to start in terms of mutual understanding and support. These also happen to probably be the only people who would give me any time, and who would be serious. I can't find any.

There seem to be very few platforms for any friendship. There are dating and "friend" apps, which seem to inevitably revolve around horniness. That is why they have such short bios and emphasize pictures. Some people also just never get matches there, and most people using them are not necessarily lonely or have some of the same digital-based interests I have.

So when I try relevant platforms, they seem full of people who are inactive or inconsistent and often completely unserious. Their average internet use looks like maybe logging on for 30 minutes every day to post memes with each other. I've tried communities in my interests across medicine, music, philosophy, writing, gaming. Many of these groups are also really cliquey.

I've been spending several hours a day trying to make friends online or elsewhere, though with an emphasis on online due to my preference and the accessibility. I send messages to people to see if they want to get to know each other, or comment on other people's work, share mine, etc. I don't do so feeling any individual person is obligated to be my friend. But I think I deserve and am owed the good fortune of running into one person who would be my friend, like any other person. I don't know what a person is supposed to do to make friends.

Today is one bad day among at least 5,000 bad days in a row. Around 2,500 really bad days. Today was an average day. I submitted around 20 job applications. I received a few job rejections in my email. I posted several messages looking for connection, on several platforms. I went for a walk and tried to find gig work. Tried to focus on personal health. I am in a support group as I write this. I am currently living in a sort of storage room at my grandparents' house. I don't have a real bed just a small futon. The whole room is full of boxes. I have one bag of clothes. I only have enough money for toiletries and food, which is better than nothing.

Why is it so hard to find friends online, or find people to just respond to you? Sometimes I also hear about this loneliness crisis, and yet I am constantly looking for friends and don't seem to find anyone who is lonely. There seems to be an apathy crisis at worst. Most everyone seems to have at least a few friends.

I’m a 28-year-old man from the United States looking for a sincere, long-term friendship. I’ve struggled with depression and loneliness for a long time and don’t have any friends, so it’s important to me to find someone who is interested in exchanging daily texts. I prefer serious, reflective conversations rather than memes, irony, edginess, etc. My main interests are music, medicine, philosophy, and the arts.

With music, I enjoy listening and singing, although I don’t play an instrument. My tastes include R&B, rock, pop, and soul, among other genres. I’ve been studying medicine for about ten years and hope to become a doctor in the future. My main interests are psychiatry, neurology, and internal medicine, though I’m curious about other areas. I'm into medical history, science, culture, public health, and bioethics, and I would especially appreciate talking with someone about medicine, the medical work environment, or even studying together. I also read philosophy from time to time and enjoy discussing psychology, personal experiences, emotional life, and broader questions about meaning, society, and current events. Another interest of mine is science fiction and fantasy of any type of media, including films, television, games, and books.

Some things I’d enjoy doing together include real-time text conversations, studying or discussing medicine, exchanging letters, sharing photos of places we visit, watching films or shows together, writing collaboratively, working on creative ideas like worldbuilding, or starting other projects together. You can be any gender, nationality, or background. The main practical requirement is that our schedules overlap. I’m in the EST time zone and am generally available throughout the day except from around midnight to early morning.