r/r4r

Hey,

Lately I’ve been a bit more inward, trying to make sense of my thoughts instead of just letting them pass.

I write on Substack as a way to hold onto them and understand myself a little better.

I’m drawn to understanding people, especially through sociology, anthropology, and philosophy. I tend to lean toward progressive ideas and social topics.

At the same time, I’m lighthearted and a bit sarcastic. I like to keep things easy.

I’m looking for someone to talk to, exchange thoughts with, and learn from along the way. I enjoy conversations that go a bit deeper than the surface, but still feel easy and natural.

If that sounds like you, feel free to reach out ;)

Hey everyone,

44-year-old guy in Portland, Oregon here. I'm looking for a solid US-based chat buddy for ongoing conversations. Nothing heavy or complicated, just someone who enjoys good back-and-forth texting throughout the week.

My main interests right now:

• The tech industry (been into tech all my life)
• Right-of-center politics and current events (I enjoy thoughtful discussion, not just echo chambers)
• Memes, dark humor, and random internet absurdity

If you're into any of those (or at least open to them), we'd probably click. Bonus points if you have a sarcastic streak or can keep up with meme exchanges.

I'm pretty laid-back, employed in tech industry, and I value people who can have real conversations without everything turning into an argument or small talk. Open to hearing about your day, your takes on whatever's going on in the world, or just swapping funny stuff.

Prefer someone 30+ who’s US-based (time zones make a big difference for actual chatting). Gender and location within the US don’t matter so much.

If this sounds like your kind of thing, shoot me a message. Looking forward to hearing from you.

Let's keep it real. You're bored and doom scrolling, I'm bored and doom scrolling. Let's just be bored and chit chat instead. Let's drop some lore about ourselves we can't usually talk about or laugh over stupid memes. I'm pretty laid back and just looking for some friends to kick it with virtually.

If you like sarcastic, dry humor, I'm the girl for you. Even better if you can keep up and match it. If we talk for 3 messages and never speak again because one of us got bored, that's fine. If we talk all day everyday, coolio.

I could sit here and type up every little thing about myself but then what are we supposed to talk about? I'll just stick to my hobbies and interests so you know if we'll click or not.

\-Hobbies: houseplants, yoga, watching shows/movies, listening to music and listening/watching podcasts. I'm into watching comedians' podcasts especially theo von, Stavvy's world and Matteo Lane. ALSO, I bought a switch and have been enjoying playing that. totally open to game recs!

My only preference really is age and location (due to timezones) so please be somewhere between 25-37 so we can relate a bit more and in the US.

If you'd like to talk, go ahead and send me a chat with something more than "hi" or "hey", if you want me to respond. Maybe even send me a bit about your lovely self. Get real crazy with it. Okay, maybe not real crazy but reasonably crazy with it. if you need someone to vent to, you've found the perfect person. I'm a great listener. Tell me all your secrets.

ps the more unhinged you are, the better

Hey! I'm John, from the greatest city in the world, Chicago! With a city so big you'd think dating is easy, I wish that was the case. I’m tired of the dating apps and I've had connections on here before so I figured I'd give it another shot!

I’m a pretty basic guy. Lover of film, from B movies, old horror from the 70s, or comedies nobody has ever heard of. I love exploring films and entering into their worlds! It’s not a dealbreaker if you’re not into horror. I honestly watch pretty much anything!

I’m big into nature. All I want to do this year is visit places that’ll take my breath away. I love camping, wondering around parks, and getting lost in the woods!

I’m into all types of music, mostly classic rock and the emo hits from the 2000s. Like bowling for soup said, 🎵 And you still listen to the same stuff you did back then 🎵

I have a 13 year old rescue dog that has my heart! I’m sure you’d love him too.

On my down time , I enjoy going to old movie theaters, going to museums, or playing pool at my local dive bar.

420 friendly! I def hit my vape every night after work, it calms me down after a very stressful day. Weekends if I have nothing to do l'll smoke a bit more, but I can def go days without it. Not a deal breaker if that's not your thing!

I'm looking for my other half at this point. Someone who can push me to be the best version of myself, and someone I can do the same for. Someone who I can laugh with, take trips with and just enjoy the little things.

Shoot me a message if you're interested. I’m looking forward to getting to know you!

Hello ☺️

I'm 34 years old and an Air Force officer.

I enjoy cooking, baking sourdough and pizzas 🍕 (you should check out my profile), gardening, and DIY projects. I'm trying to work on my garden, and these days, I'm growing some young fruit trees and lots of herbs!

My small, chubby corgi provides me company when I'm home, and my neighbors take care of her when I'm away.

I want to meet someone to discuss recent events and the past few months. Most nights, I feel a bit lonely and need to process things.

I'm willing to exchange pics (in my uniform👻) with the right person

Thank you, look forward to your messages. :)

Hello everyone! I go by a lot of names, but you can call me Jam for now. I am non binary, black, and neurodivergent. I am from the big midwest over here (around chicago fr). My biggest interests at the moment are video games (I have either 300 or 400 on steam) and collecting physical media like manga, comics and movies....... especially movies.

In terms of my personality, I can go from being quite introverted, quiet, introspective, to being excited, extroverted and all that shit. Please don't take offense if I seem disinterested in talking, I promise it's not you at all. I can be terrible at conversations because of my autism, but I do mean well.

In terms of my taste in games, I almost exclusively play single player stuff. I love roguelikes like Enter the Gungeon, Dead Cells, and Hades. Some of my other favorites are Devil May Cry 3, Chrono Trigger, ZeroRanger, and Pizza Tower. I also want to get into visual novels like Fata Morgana and Umineko

This isn't a requirement but I would prefer if other queer people message me. Non binary people especially are welcome as I would like to interact with people who sorta just get the NB experience

When you message me, please provide a substantial introduction of your own. Any low effort messages like "hey" or "wyd" will be ignored.

Hi. ^-^

You clicked this. That was your first mistake. Or your best decision. We’ll find out.

I could start this with something normal, but where’s the fun in that?

My name is Cody, but online I’m also known in some circles as Otter Verstappen (long story, but worth it).

I am:

• a trainee as a medical assistant (so yes, I can check your pulse and overthink things at the same time).

• someone who can be both extremely caring and completely lost.

• emotionally, somewhere between “I’ll bring you soup when you’re ill” and “I’ll write you a novel about feelings in the middle of the night”.

My special skills:

• I always find the most emotional song for any situation.

• I can make you a personalised present that will blow you away (in a good way).

• I can explain to you, in medical terms, why your heart is racing…even though I’m the reason for it.

• I can take your blood pressure.

• I can judge your life choices professionally and tell you to drink more water (you won’t listen, I know).

(Fun) facts:

• I can really get into things, as if I were right in the middle of a film.

• I’m loyal to the very end, but my ‘no’ is a complete sentence and it doesn't need a reason or a discussion.

I run on:

• tea.

• questionable sleep schedules.

• Formula 1 race weekends like it’s a religion.

If you ever hear “lights out and away we go” at 7am, no you didn’t.

What you get:

• Someone who makes Discord feel like coming home.

• Random voice calls that suddenly last four hours.

• Someone who takes you seriously, but can also be completely silly with you.

What I’m looking for:

• Not a perfect person.

• Someone who’ll stick around, even when things get messy.

• Someone who understands that closeness isn’t always about being loud.

• Someone who won’t ignore me for days on end as a punishment, even though I’m terrified at the thought of losing them.

• Maybe someone with a deep voice.

Bonus points if:

• you’ve got a sense of humour (please, I can be a bit of a mess sometimes).

• you’re awake at night too and can talk about anything.

• you’re not afraid of real emotions.

• you can handle a little chaos.

• you don’t get scared when I randomly info-dump.

• you’d stay in a call with me until one of us falls asleep.

• you cosplay.

• you have a deep voice.

• you work in a medical profession (not a must).

If you’ve read this far, don’t just write “hi”.

Instead, tell me:

Which song best describes you right now?

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The last day of the bank holiday, a dreaded end to a long weekend.

I am looking for friends who are willing to send me voicenotes (I will return them too, of course)! It would also be great if you were up for voice calls.

It is fine if you want to text for a while first as it is quite late.

In my spare time, I enjoy reading, music of many genres, horror films and action-based games, mainly shooters and survival. I love sharing music recommendations. I also love sharing interesting facts about the history of places, but more when on a tangent than off the cuff haha.

I am an open book in regards to discussion, welcoming of any topics, offended by little and love hearing about peoples passions

English / british and am told I have a nice voice. I love accents.

/// I particularly love accents from south africa and the north east of england, so bonus points for safs, geordies and the like ///

In your first message please tell me your age, where you are from and your favourite food/meal.

.> Friends only. <

I am keeping this post short and sweet as to not give away too much about myself from the get go.

Happy to share my face in DMs if you like to see who you are talking to, but i hope you will do the same in return.

Please be 21+, no upper limit

Forgive me for how bad this is because I'm awful at writing posts especially about myself but I'd love to meet some cool friends and have some chilled chats about anything!

Here is some basic information about me if you're interested:

I'm Rory from the North Of Ireland

I currently work for the government, unfortunately I'm not a spy or anything exciting like that (or am I...)

I love music and I'm always going to gigs but my taste changes all the time so please don't judge my playlists! Some of my favourites lately are IDLES, Kneecap, Viagra Boys and Fontaines D.C

I'm a big traveller and try to visit a few different countries and cities each year

I'm a bit of a gamer and play PS5/PC but I'm a bit of a loner in that department and would be down to play with some new people

I have a unhealthy addiction collecting vinyls

I'm constantly rewatching the same tv shows such as the office, it's always sunny in philadelphia, peep show, and the thick of it but I'm open for more recommendations

I enjoy listening to podcasts or watching documentaries on true crime and Irish history because I'm a loser

If none of the above interests you I have two dogs who are the best bois in the world and I can just provide pictures of them

I don't know else to say and feel like I've rambled on enough so hit me up if you'd like to!

Slán :)

Glasses wearing short nerd with an average build here. Game and anime enthusiast that chatters away like it’s no one’s business. Some series I enjoy include Yugioh, Pokemon, One Piece, Bleach, Fullmetal Alchemist and a whole laundry list that’s way too long to mention it all. I began going to conventions in cosplay last year and plan on doing more in the future. I enjoy trading card games and multiplayer games the most so I am always down to play together if free.

I admit I come across way more put together than I really am. I’ve got the cadence and demeanor of a super scientist but I’m air-headed at times and struggle with things that may be common sense. I’m not stupid, just lacking experiences though. Having ADHD doesnt help either to be fair.

In terms of what I’m looking for:

-Ideally someone who shares similar interests in hobbies

-Someone comfortable being in vc as I vastly prefer talking to texting

-Someone who is taller than I am (although not a dealbreaker)

Really thats about it. Of course I believe physical attraction should be mutual so please be comfortable sharing a photo as I will be more than happy to do the same. I’m an open book so feel free to ask me a bunch of questions. Hoping to hear from you!

i've recently caught myself missing lockdown days where all i did was play games with my online friends and now years after that i think i've lost that sense of community online, so i'm trying to get it back (what with life and work and all that). i love playing a variety of games, including (but not limited to) Minecraft, Hogwarts Legacy, Balatro, Stardew, Civ5, AgainstTheStorm, Roblox, detective and puzzle games (and many more). i'm also obsessed with anime and i love deep discussions about basically anything

I'm looking to branch out more with my interests anddd especially meet more people and have online friends to yap and play with :> please do feel free to shoot me a message and thankyou !

Humans are fascinating creatures. They have such a deep lore and vast culture, it's pretty much impossible to find two identical ones. Truly, they are my favorite animal. From time to time (or once every year if I look at my post history), I like to take the time to throw a post into the vast sea that is internet in order to attract a few humans. Who knows what kind of human i'll fish up from those waters, all I know is that I will try to get to know them, their story and who knows, even befriend them. It happened in the past, might happen again. I even met and dated one human found with such post heh. If I listen to the people I talked to previously, I am a good catch from that endless virtual sea. Or at least one that will distract you in a good way for a moment.

In a more serious tone, I'm a 23 years old french bisexual guy. Carefree, adventurous, art-lover and a bit excentric, but that's part of the charm. I do have some flaws, one of them is often bieng busy or not feeling sociable enough to answer message I recieve. I always find the time to answer, but I know I'm not a boon to impatient folks... Rare were the time I ghosted others, most of the time I prefer to directly say if we just vibe too differently to really have a good connection going.

So, what do you say ? Is my bait shiny enough that I'll manage to reel you up in my DMs ? Despite the metaphors I used, I don't bite (not anymore).

Details:

• Late '80s model male human
• All original features, some upgrades including vision augmentation and dental alignment during early years
• Import model, sounds a little funny but understandable. Irish registration available on demand.
• In decent shape, no damage, has kept within the original dimensions
• Gets good fuel efficiency, runs faster in the mornings when treated with caffeine, slower in the evenings if using fried cheese and beer as a fuel source
• Available right now, negotiations welcome.

That's right folks, get your one of a kind, import model male human! Seeking all interest, long or short term. Exceptional response time and exceeds all expectations.

Note: Expectations not guaranteed to be exceeded.

Hi! Im Nathan a 22 year old Asian American guy from California. Im 5' 6" and average shape maybe a little muscular. I have a photo of me in my profile if you are wondering what i look like. I have glasses which I wear whenever I need to see anything far away, but dont really like to wear.

My personality is kind of shy especially around people I dont know very well. My hobbies would include gaming, exercising, and watching shows. I also like anime and watching youtube. My love languages would probably be words of affirmation and physical touch.

Im looking for a relationship with someone from the United States or the North American continent because of timezones and eventually id like to meet someday. I've been in a few online relationships, but have never found the right person so im still looking. My ideal person would be someone kind and caring who takes care of themselves.

Hellu! I am a 21 year soon 22 year old girl from Norway studying to become a psychologist. I am studying that cause i love people!

My hobbies include: knitting, reading, movies and shows, music, anime, doodling and much more

I am watching attack on titan on.

I am going through a rough time where i feel like i have lost my identity what usually helps during times like these is to connect with people so here i am.

I like kind people a lot. Send me an introduction of you. What is important to you and what do you like to do?

Let me be honest… I’m not looking for stress, confusion, or “let’s see where this goes” energy. I like clarity. I like effort. I like a man who knows what he’s doing and doesn’t need a committee meeting to make simple decisions.

I’m soft, I laugh easily, I can be a little playful (okay… maybe a lot), and I enjoy being around someone who makes life feel lighter. I like good conversation, random jokes, and those moments where we just look at each other and smile for no reason. That kind of connection matters to me.

I’m very attracted to a man who is grounded. Someone who is building something, who takes care of his responsibilities, and moves with quiet confidence. There’s something very… let’s say distracting… about a man who handles his life well. It shows.

I naturally give my energy, my support, my warmth… but I also appreciate being around someone who understands how to provide stability and create a sense of comfort. Not in a loud way, just in how he shows up consistently.

I’m not perfect, but I’m real. A little cheeky, a little calm, and very intentional about who I give my time to.

If you’re the kind of man who has his life together, can make me laugh, and isn’t afraid of a woman who knows what she wants… come say hi. Let’s see if we behave ourselves… or not 😌

Hey there everyone!!

I'm not sure how to start describing myself, I'm not great with words but I'll try my best.

(I'm so sorry for the extremely long post ahead!)

I apologize if I don't reply to your message, but as I explain later, I don't reply to short/low effort messages and I also don't reply to people that don't have at least a few interests in common with me or aren't looking for a real connection and are just looking to pass the time or have a light chat.

I think some of my most defining characteristics are that I'm very shy, awkward, "weird" and "different" or at the very least I feel weird, different and often misunderstood. I would also say I'm extremely cringy and I love edgy stuff, not in a bad way, I don't think, but more like, I love Shadow The Hedgehog and Tomura Shigaraki kinda way lol

I'm unfortunately not very smart, I'd say I'm down right stupid lol

I am very ignorant about many things in life, I'd say I'm somewhat innocent and naive. I still don't understand my purpose in life and I haven't found a reason to be alive either.

I sometimes say things that offend people or I say things that are wrong. Sometimes I don't completely understand what I do wrong but I don't do it on purpose and I try to improve to the best of my abilities.

I don't go out often at all. Whenever I do go out it's only to buy groceries and such but I don't enjoy it, I much rather be at home, in my room most specifically, which is my favorite place in the world.

I don't have any IRL friends but I do have a handful of online friends, I'm not particularly close to any of them tho.

I enjoy many things like sculpting for instance! I do digital sculpting for fun but I'm absolutely awful at it.

I like to watch anime! my favorites change from time to time but I really like Bleach, Dragon Ball, Demon Slayer, Ancient Magus Bride (I really love this show!) and I LOVE My Hero Academia!! among many others!

I like professional wrestling but I just recently started watching a few years ago and I only watch WWE for now.

I like to collect action figures.

I really like masks!

I love movies and I love to talk about them and analyze them.

I like all kinds of music, I don't really have any artists that I like in particular other than David Bowie but I'm always happy and open to new suggestions!

I like to scroll through TT and to watch long essay style videos on YT about random topics.

I love video games!! I don't play too many modern games, I mostly prefer older stuff, like, ps2 era games, particularly survival horror stuff. I also really like very old platform games and side scrollers. I'm a pretty huge Sonic the Hedgehog fan!! The most recent games I played were Sonic X Shadow Generations and before that I finished Sonic Superstars and Sonic Frontiers. Sonic Boom is also my favorite show ever made lmao. It fits my kind of humor perfectly and it's peak comedy imo. I'd be open to play anything and I'd love to try co op games with someone!! playing Stardew Valley with a friend is a dream of mine lol (if you also play Stardew please tell me who's your wife/husband)

I adore animals!! I have cats and dogs and a stray chicken lol they're my babies and my world!

I think it's important to mention some of the things I don't like too.

I don't like cruelty or mean spirited people, I hate I people in positions of power that use said power to affect other people, animals, or the environment for their own gain.

I don't like injustices, I hate racists, homophobic people, transphobic people, misogynistic people, and all kinds of discrimination in general.

I hate bugs!! I'm deadly afraid of them 😖

I really dislike conflict and arguments, I believe we can disagree and have discussions as long as we're calm and civilized about it and as long as we have respect for each other and try our best to understand the other person's point of view.

lastly I'd like to mention some of my defects and shortcomings.

I'm extremely anxious, I'm always very nervous about one thing or another, I'm also extremely weak of mind (and honestly weak in general), I tend to react with my feelings a lot and I'm often very emotional.

I can be very selfish at times, I have an awful tendency to get bored of things quickly and sometimes I also get bored of conversations and people.

I think I'm immature.

I can be extremely lazy, I struggle a lot with doing basic things like cleaning or cooking. when I'm anxious or afraid I can get paralyzed with fear and stay in bed all day doing nothing feeling awful about it.

As I mentioned before sometimes I can say bad things without realizing. I'm very dumb and ignorant so I promise I don't mean anything bad I say and I'm trying to improve!

I am extremely annoying. I'm very loud and I think I scream a lot. I don't really understand what constitutes screaming exactly but I think I often raise my voice a lot and especially when I'm excited I can't control myself very well.

I'm very afraid of life and I don't understand how the "real world" works exactly. I'm really bad at small talk and I think I'm really bad at speaking in general, I also digress a lot.

I have the bad habit of not replying very fast, sometimes I'll even wait for weeks or even months, I think it's one of my biggest problems when it comes to keep in touch with people, sometimes it's simply because I don't have the energy, other times it's because I'm not sure about how to continue a conversation. Not sure if this is a defect necessarily but I also never send the first message, I just hate to be annoying.

I am very lonely. I'm almost always alone and I tend to be a bit clingy when I like someone.

I'm full of defects in general, and I do believe I'm a bad person. I try to improve and I try my best but if I'm bad for you in any way or a burden I promise to stop talking to you and not bother you!

I have many other defects but I think those are the main ones I can remember right now.

Finally what I'm looking for is a real connection with someone, a person I can talk to, have fun with, watch stuff with and play games together! I think I can be a very passionate person when it comes to the things I love and I'd like to find someone that shares that passion and love with common interests. I wanna be able to share our days and even be able to help each other and be there when we need each other. I know I'm a mess of a human being and I may never find the connection I'm looking for but I'd like to give it a try cause you never know :))

also, I think it's important to mention that I don't reply to short, low effort messages. Stuff like "hey, let's be friends" , "I didn't read your whole post but I'm up to talk" , etc. I want to hear about you, what you like, what you're interested in. I like meaningful conversations.

Another thing that's important is that I don't want to talk to people that are discriminatory, racist, homophones, or awful in anyway. No republicans or supporters of the devil please (you know who I'm talking about).

Also think I prefer audio messages, it's easier for me to send audio notes rather than to type cause I type a lot 😅 (and I kinda hate to type lol). Thank you very much to anyone that has taken the time to read my extremely long post and considers messaging me!!

Howdy! The title says it all. I want a deep connection in which both sides feel comfortable with each other, seek each other for support, etc. I have plenty of hobbies, ranging from sports, writing, and geography to history, music, and gaming. I am a pretty curious person, so feel free to nerd out to me! As for gaming, I play lots of indie games like Hollow Knight, Ultrakill, the Portal series, the Hotline Miami series, etc. As for music, I tend to listen to lots of experimental stuff, but I can elaborate on that more later on, especially if you are into music. It'd be pretty nice if I got a pretty clingy bestie, and I am also in GMT+2, so it'd be nice if you were close to that time zone. Oh, and I am also 18/M. So yeah, I am pretty excited to talk with y'all, and have a nice day wherever you are!

Hey, I’ve been feeling pretty overwhelmed lately. I’m about to graduate and don’t really have any job prospects lined up, while most of my close friends seem to have things figured out.

I’m lucky to have supportive people around me but I’m finding it hard to open up to them about how I’m actually feeling. I’m trying to push through on my own but it’s been causing a lot of mood swings and I feel a bit all over the place.

I don’t want to dump all of this on the people in my life right now. I’d really appreciate connecting with someone who’s also going through a tough time... just to talk, no judgment, just being heard.