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Hello,

F30 here. I’ve been working for three years at a company that uses contractors in Poland, so I travel to Poland for a week every five weeks on average. In February, I met a new Polish contractor with whom I worked closely all week. Something quite crazy happened – a sort of instant connection, laughter and deep conversations right from the start.

We realised we fancied each other by the third day and we kissed, but nothing more. I went home after a week and we were both feeling very homesick.

Back in France, we’d agreed to take things slowly, but in the end, we’d call each other for two or three hours every evening, talk about everything, text each other all day long, and the attraction grew.

I went back for two weeks in April and that’s when things really took off. He showered me with gifts. It was a kind of all-consuming passion; I worked with him during the day and stayed at his place in the evening. We practically lived together for two weeks; everything flowed so naturally and we were completely in tune with each other. He even told his friends and parents about me (I know he’s not lying because we bumped into his mum in town at a dinner and he introduced me to her). He tells me he’s feeling strong emotions and feelings after a long period of apathy. He’s opening up to me.

Back in France, it was the same again. Long calls, passionate declarations from him. I was due to go back to Poland for three weeks for work and a holiday at the end of May. Then came the cold shower: less and less contact over several days. I decided to get to the bottom of it after four days without a call, and that’s when he told me he wanted to call it off. That he needed to see a therapist so as not to repeat old patterns. That he didn’t need a relationship at the moment. That he thanks me for the tenderness and romance but that he’s had a change of heart. I ring him and ask for an explanation, but he gets angry and tells me to accept his decision. He tells me he can’t explain his change of heart, that he’s been through this before with his ex, that it has nothing to do with me and that he’s just like that.

He suggests I delete our messages, tells me I mean nothing to him anymore (even though five days earlier he was telling me he wanted to marry me).

I cry at such cruelty; he gets angry and tells me I’m too emotional. I hang up.

No word from him for a week.

I’m seeing him and working with him since 2 days. He basically told me "I hoped that I would have explanations when I would see you but unfortunately I don't have any. I know this is painful but sorry."

He does not read my messages on Whatsapp anymore.

Seeing him for work this week is terrible. I cry every night. He's being cold, distant, even a bit arrogant with me and when I asked basic stuffs (work-related), he seems pissed off.

What should I do ? I was the love of the life 2 weeks ago and got downgraded without any reason to "I don't need her in my life" in 48 hours barely and the guy will never tell me why.

It hurts so much. Why people do this ?

Hello,

F30 here. I’ve been working for three years at a company that uses contractors in Poland, so I travel to Poland for a week every five weeks on average. In February, I met a new Polish contractor with whom I worked closely all week. Something quite crazy happened – a sort of instant connection, laughter and deep conversations right from the start.

We realised we fancied each other by the third day and we kissed, but nothing more. I went home after a week and we were both feeling very homesick.

Back in France, we’d agreed to take things slowly, but in the end, we’d call each other for two or three hours every evening, talk about everything, text each other all day long, and the attraction grew.

I went back for two weeks in April and that’s when things really took off. He showered me with gifts. It was a kind of all-consuming passion; I worked with him during the day and stayed at his place in the evening. We practically lived together for two weeks; everything flowed so naturally and we were completely in tune with each other. He even told his friends and parents about me (I know he’s not lying because we bumped into his mum in town at a dinner and he introduced me to her). He tells me he’s feeling strong emotions and feelings after a long period of apathy. He’s opening up to me.

Back in France, it was the same again. Long calls, passionate declarations from him. I was due to go back to Poland for three weeks for work and a holiday at the end of May. Then came the cold shower: less and less contact over several days. I decided to get to the bottom of it after four days without a call, and that’s when he told me he wanted to call it off. That he needed to see a therapist so as not to repeat old patterns. That he didn’t need a relationship at the moment. That he thanks me for the tenderness and romance but that he’s had a change of heart. I ring him and ask for an explanation, but he gets angry and tells me to accept his decision. He tells me he can’t explain his change of heart, that he’s been through this before with his ex, that it has nothing to do with me and that he’s just like that.

He suggests I delete our messages, tells me I mean nothing to him anymore (even though five days earlier he was telling me he wanted to marry me).

I cry at such cruelty; he gets angry and tells me I’m too emotional. I hang up.

No word from him for a week.

I’m seeing him and working with him since 2 days. He basically told me "I hoped that I would have explanations when I would see you but unfortunately I don't have any. I know this is painful but sorry."

He does not read my messages on Whatsapp anymore.

Seeing him for work this week is terrible. I cry every night.

What should I do ? I was the love of the life 2 weeks ago and got downgraded without any reason to "I don't need her in my life" in 48 hours barely and the guy will never tell me why.

It hurts so much. Why people do this ?

Hello,

F30 here. I’ve been working for three years at a company that uses contractors in Poland, so I travel to Poland for a week every five weeks on average. In February, I met a new Polish contractor with whom I worked closely all week. Something quite crazy happened – a sort of instant connection, laughter and deep conversations right from the start.

We realised we fancied each other by the third day and we kissed, but nothing more. I went home after a week and we were both feeling very homesick.

Back in France, we’d agreed to take things slowly, but in the end, we’d call each other for two or three hours every evening, talk about everything, text each other all day long, and the attraction grew.

I went back for two weeks in April and that’s when things really took off. He showered me with gifts. It was a kind of all-consuming passion; I worked with him during the day and stayed at his place in the evening. We practically lived together for two weeks; everything flowed so naturally and we were completely in tune with each other. He even told his friends and parents about me (I know he’s not lying because we bumped into his mum in town at a dinner and he introduced me to her). He tells me he’s feeling strong emotions and feelings after a long period of apathy. He’s opening up to me.

Back in France, it was the same again. Long calls, passionate declarations from him. I was due to go back to Poland for three weeks for work and a holiday at the end of May. Then came the cold shower: less and less contact over several days. I decided to get to the bottom of it after four days without a call, and that’s when he told me he wanted to call it off. That he needed to see a therapist so as not to repeat old patterns. That he didn’t need a relationship at the moment. That he thanks me for the tenderness and romance but that he’s had a change of heart. I ring him and ask for an explanation, but he gets angry and tells me to accept his decision. He tells me he can’t explain his change of heart, that he’s been through this before with his ex, that it has nothing to do with me and that he’s just like that.

He suggests I delete our messages, tells me I mean nothing to him anymore (even though five days earlier he was telling me he wanted to marry me).

I cry at such cruelty; he gets angry and tells me I’m too emotional. I hang up.

No word from him for a week.

I’m seeing him and working with him since 2 days. He basically told me "I hoped that I would have explanations when I would see you but unfortunately I don't have any. I know this is painful but sorry."

He does not read my messages on Whatsapp anymore.

Seeing him for work this week is terrible. I cry every night.

What should I do ? I was the love of the life 2 weeks ago and got downgraded without any reason to "I don't need her in my life" in 48 hours barely and the guy will never tell me why.

It hurts so much. Why people do this 

Hello,

F30 here. I’ve been working for three years at a company that uses contractors in Poland, so I travel to Poland for a week every five weeks on average. In February, I met a new Polish contractor with whom I worked closely all week. Something quite crazy happened – a sort of instant connection, laughter and deep conversations right from the start.

We realised we fancied each other by the third day and we kissed, but nothing more. I went home after a week and we were both feeling very homesick.

Back in France, we’d agreed to take things slowly, but in the end, we’d call each other for two or three hours every evening, talk about everything, text each other all day long, and the attraction grew.

I went back for two weeks in April and that’s when things really took off. He showered me with gifts. It was a kind of all-consuming passion; I worked with him during the day and stayed at his place in the evening. We practically lived together for two weeks; everything flowed so naturally and we were completely in tune with each other. He even told his friends and parents about me (I know he’s not lying because we bumped into his mum in town at a dinner and he introduced me to her). He tells me he’s feeling strong emotions and feelings after a long period of apathy. He’s opening up to me.

Back in France, it was the same again. Long calls, passionate declarations from him. I was due to go back to Poland for three weeks for work and a holiday at the end of May. Then came the cold shower: less and less contact over several days. I decided to get to the bottom of it after four days without a call, and that’s when he told me he wanted to call it off. That he needed to see a therapist so as not to repeat old patterns. That he didn’t need a relationship at the moment. That he thanks me for the tenderness and romance but that he’s had a change of heart. I ring him and ask for an explanation, but he gets angry and tells me to accept his decision. He tells me he can’t explain his change of heart, that he’s been through this before with his ex, that it has nothing to do with me and that he’s just like that.

He suggests I delete our messages, tells me I mean nothing to him anymore (even though five days earlier he was telling me he wanted to marry me).

I cry at such cruelty; he gets angry and tells me I’m too emotional. I hang up.

No word from him for a week.

I’m seeing him and working with him since 2 days. He basically told me "I hoped that I would have explanations when I would see you but unfortunately I don't have any. I know this is painful but sorry."

He does not read my messages on Whatsapp anymore.

Seeing him for work this week is terrible. I cry every night.

What should I do ? I was the love of the life 2 weeks ago and got downgraded without any reason to "I don't need her in my life" in 48 hours barely and the guy will never tell me why.

It hurts so much. Why people do this ?

Hello,

F30 here. I’ve been working for three years at a company that uses contractors in Poland, so I travel to Poland for a week every five weeks on average. In February, I met a new Polish contractor with whom I worked closely all week. Something quite crazy happened – a sort of instant connection, laughter and deep conversations right from the start.

We realised we fancied each other by the third day and we kissed, but nothing more. I went home after a week and we were both feeling very homesick.

Back in France, we’d agreed to take things slowly, but in the end, we’d call each other for two or three hours every evening, talk about everything, text each other all day long, and the attraction grew.

I went back for two weeks in April and that’s when things really took off. He showered me with gifts. It was a kind of all-consuming passion; I worked with him during the day and stayed at his place in the evening. We practically lived together for two weeks; everything flowed so naturally and we were completely in tune with each other. He even told his friends and parents about me (I know he’s not lying because we bumped into his mum in town at a dinner and he introduced me to her). He tells me he’s feeling strong emotions and feelings after a long period of apathy. He’s opening up to me.

Back in France, it was the same again. Long calls, passionate declarations from him. I was due to go back to Poland for three weeks for work and a holiday at the end of May. Then came the cold shower: less and less contact over several days. I decided to get to the bottom of it after four days without a call, and that’s when he told me he wanted to call it off. That he needed to see a therapist so as not to repeat old patterns. That he didn’t need a relationship at the moment. That he thanks me for the tenderness and romance but that he’s had a change of heart. I ring him and ask for an explanation, but he gets angry and tells me to accept his decision. He tells me he can’t explain his change of heart, that he’s been through this before with his ex, that it has nothing to do with me and that he’s just like that.

He suggests I delete our messages, tells me I mean nothing to him anymore (even though five days earlier he was telling me he wanted to marry me).

I cry at such cruelty; he gets angry and tells me I’m too emotional. I hang up.

No word from him for a week.

I’m seeing him and working with him in a few days.

How should I react? And how do I explain this?

Hello,

F30 here. I’ve been working for three years at a company that uses contractors in Poland, so I travel to Poland for a week every five weeks on average. In February, I met a new Polish contractor with whom I worked closely all week. Something quite crazy happened – a sort of instant connection, laughter and deep conversations right from the start.

We realised we fancied each other by the third day and we kissed, but nothing more. I went home after a week and we were both feeling very homesick.

Back in France, we’d agreed to take things slowly, but in the end, we’d call each other for two or three hours every evening, talk about everything, text each other all day long, and the attraction grew.

I went back for two weeks in April and that’s when things really took off. He showered me with gifts. It was a kind of all-consuming passion; I worked with him during the day and stayed at his place in the evening. We practically lived together for two weeks; everything flowed so naturally and we were completely in tune with each other. He even told his friends and parents about me (I know he’s not lying because we bumped into his mum in town at a dinner and he introduced me to her). He tells me he’s feeling strong emotions and feelings after a long period of apathy. He’s opening up to me.

Back in France, it was the same again. Long calls, passionate declarations from him. I was due to go back to Poland for three weeks for work and a holiday at the end of May. Then came the cold shower: less and less contact over several days. I decided to get to the bottom of it after four days without a call, and that’s when he told me he wanted to call it off. That he needed to see a therapist so as not to repeat old patterns. That he didn’t need a relationship at the moment. That he thanks me for the tenderness and romance but that he’s had a change of heart. I ring him and ask for an explanation, but he gets angry and tells me to accept his decision. He tells me he can’t explain his change of heart, that he’s been through this before with his ex, that it has nothing to do with me and that he’s just like that.

He suggests I delete our messages, tells me I mean nothing to him anymore (even though five days earlier he was telling me he wanted to marry me).

I cry at such cruelty; he gets angry and tells me I’m too emotional. I hang up.

No word from him for a week.

I’m seeing him and working with him in a few days.

How should I react? And how do I explain this?

Hello,

F30 here. I’ve been working for three years at a company that uses contractors in Poland, so I travel to Poland for a week every five weeks on average. In February, I met a new Polish contractor with whom I worked closely all week. Something quite crazy happened – a sort of instant connection, laughter and deep conversations right from the start.

We realised we fancied each other by the third day and we kissed, but nothing more. I went home after a week and we were both feeling very homesick.

Back in France, we’d agreed to take things slowly, but in the end, we’d call each other for two or three hours every evening, talk about everything, text each other all day long, and the attraction grew.

I went back for two weeks in April and that’s when things really took off. He showered me with gifts. It was a kind of all-consuming passion; I worked with him during the day and stayed at his place in the evening. We practically lived together for two weeks; everything flowed so naturally and we were completely in tune with each other. He even told his friends and parents about me (I know he’s not lying because we bumped into his mum in town at a dinner and he introduced me to her). He tells me he’s feeling strong emotions and feelings after a long period of apathy. He’s opening up to me.

Back in France, it was the same again. Long calls, passionate declarations from him. I was due to go back to Poland for three weeks for work and a holiday at the end of May. Then came the cold shower: less and less contact over several days. I decided to get to the bottom of it after four days without a call, and that’s when he told me he wanted to call it off. That he needed to see a therapist so as not to repeat old patterns. That he didn’t need a relationship at the moment. That he thanks me for the tenderness and romance but that he’s had a change of heart. I ring him and ask for an explanation, but he gets angry and tells me to accept his decision. He tells me he can’t explain his change of heart, that he’s been through this before with his ex, that it has nothing to do with me and that he’s just like that.

He suggests I delete our messages, tells me I mean nothing to him anymore (even though five days earlier he was telling me he wanted to marry me).

I cry at such cruelty; he gets angry and tells me I’m too emotional. I hang up.

No word from him for a week.

I’m seeing him and working with him in a few days.

How should I react? And how do I explain this?

Hello,

F30 here. I’ve been working for three years at a company that uses contractors in Poland, so I travel to Poland for a week every five weeks on average. In February, I met a new Polish contractor with whom I worked closely all week. Something quite crazy happened – a sort of instant connection, laughter and deep conversations right from the start.

We realised we fancied each other by the third day and we kissed, but nothing more. I went home after a week and we were both feeling very homesick.

Back in France, we’d agreed to take things slowly, but in the end, we’d call each other for two or three hours every evening, talk about everything, text each other all day long, and the attraction grew.

I went back for two weeks in April and that’s when things really took off. He showered me with gifts. It was a kind of all-consuming passion; I worked with him during the day and stayed at his place in the evening. We practically lived together for two weeks; everything flowed so naturally and we were completely in tune with each other. He even told his friends and parents about me (I know he’s not lying because we bumped into his mum in town at a dinner and he introduced me to her). He tells me he’s feeling strong emotions and feelings after a long period of apathy. He’s opening up to me.

Back in France, it was the same again. Long calls, passionate declarations from him. I was due to go back to Poland for three weeks for work and a holiday at the end of May. Then came the cold shower: less and less contact over several days. I decided to get to the bottom of it after four days without a call, and that’s when he told me he wanted to call it off. That he needed to see a therapist so as not to repeat old patterns. That he didn’t need a relationship at the moment. That he thanks me for the tenderness and romance but that he’s had a change of heart. I ring him and ask for an explanation, but he gets angry and tells me to accept his decision. He tells me he can’t explain his change of heart, that he’s been through this before with his ex, that it has nothing to do with me and that he’s just like that.

He suggests I delete our messages, tells me I mean nothing to him anymore (even though five days earlier he was telling me he wanted to marry me).

I cry at such cruelty; he gets angry and tells me I’m too emotional. I hang up.

No word from him for a week.

I’m seeing him and working with him in a few days.

How should I react? And how do I explain this?

Hello,

F30 ici. Je travaille depuis 3 ans dans une boîte qui a des prestas en Pologne donc je me rends 1 semaine en Pologne toutes les 5 semaines en moyenne. En février, j'ai rencontré un nouveau presta polonais avec qui j'ai étroitement travaillé toute la semaine. Il s'est passé quelque chose d'assez dingue, une sorte de connexion fulgurante, des rires, des discussions profondes dès le début.

On s'est dit qu'on se plaisait dès le 3ème jour et on s'est embrassé mais rien de plus. Je suis rentrée chez moi au bout de 1 semaine et on était très nostalgique.

De retour en France, on s'était dit qu'on irait doucement mais finalement, on s'appelait 2-3h chaque soir, on parlait de tout, on se textait toute la journée et l'attirance a grandi.

J'y suis retournée 2 semaines en avril et là, explosion. Il m'offre plein de cadeaux. Une sorte de passion dévorante, je bossais avec lui la journée et je restais chez lui le soir, on a quasi vécu ensemble pendant 2 semaines, tout était fluide et fusionnel. Il a même parlé de moi à ses amis, ses parents etc (je sais qu'il ne ment pas car on a croisé sa mère en ville lors d'un dîner et il me l'a présentée). Il me dit qu'il ressent de fortes émotions et sentiments après une longue période d'apathie. Il se livre à moi.

Au retour en France, rebelote. Longs appels, déclarations enflammées de sa part. Je devais retourner 3 semaines en Pologne pour travail + congés fin mai. Puis là, douche froide : de moins en moins de nouvelles sur plusieurs jours. Je décide de percer l'abcès au bout de 4 jours sans appel et là il me dit qu'il veut arrêter. Qu'il doit voir un psy pour pas répéter de vieux schémas. Qu'il n'a pas besoin de relation pour le moment. Qu'il me remercie pour cette douceur et ce romantisme mais qu'il a switché. Je l'appelle et lui demande des explications mais il s'énerve et me demande d'accepter sa décision. Il me dit qu'il peut pas expliquer son switch, qu'il a déjà vécu ça avec son ancienne relation, que ça n'a rien à voir avec moi et qu'il est juste comme ça.

Il me suggère d'effacer nos conversations, me dit que je ne représente plus pour rien pour lui (alors que 5 jours auparavant il me disait qu'il voulait se marier avec moi).

Je pleure devant une telle violence, il s'énerve et me dit que je suis trop émotive. Je raccroche.

Plus de nouvelles depuis 1 semaine.

Je le vois et travaille avec lui dans quelques jours.

Comment réagir ? Et comment expliquer ça

Hello,

F30 ici. Je travaille depuis 3 ans dans une boîte qui a des prestas en Pologne donc je me rends 1 semaine en Pologne toutes les 5 semaines en moyenne. En février, j'ai rencontré un nouveau presta polonais avec qui j'ai étroitement travaillé toute la semaine. Il s'est passé quelque chose d'assez dingue, une sorte de connexion fulgurante, des rires, des discussions profondes dès le début.

On s'est dit qu'on se plaisait dès le 3ème jour et on s'est embrassé mais rien de plus. Je suis rentrée chez moi au bout de 1 semaine et on était très nostalgique.

De retour en France, on s'était dit qu'on irait doucement mais finalement, on s'appelait 2-3h chaque soir, on parlait de tout, on se textait toute la journée et l'attirance a grandi.

J'y suis retournée 2 semaines en avril et là, explosion. Il m'offre plein de cadeaux. Une sorte de passion dévorante, je bossais avec lui la journée et je restais chez lui le soir, on a quasi vécu ensemble pendant 2 semaines, tout était fluide et fusionnel. Il a même parlé de moi à ses amis, ses parents etc (je sais qu'il ne ment pas car on a croisé sa mère en ville lors d'un dîner et il me l'a présentée). Il me dit qu'il ressent de fortes émotions et sentiments après une longue période d'apathie. Il se livre à moi.

Au retour en France, rebelote. Longs appels, déclarations enflammées de sa part. Je devais retourner 3 semaines en Pologne pour travail + congés fin mai. Puis là, douche froide : de moins en moins de nouvelles sur plusieurs jours. Je décide de percer l'abcès au bout de 4 jours sans appel et là il me dit qu'il veut arrêter. Qu'il doit voir un psy pour pas répéter de vieux schémas. Qu'il n'a pas besoin de relation pour le moment. Qu'il me remercie pour cette douceur et ce romantisme mais qu'il a switché. Je l'appelle et lui demande des explications mais il s'énerve et me demande d'accepter sa décision. Il me dit qu'il peut pas expliquer son switch, qu'il a déjà vécu ça avec son ancienne relation, que ça n'a rien à voir avec moi et qu'il est juste comme ça.

Il me suggère d'effacer nos conversations, me dit que je ne représente plus pour rien pour lui (alors que 5 jours auparavant il me disait qu'il voulait se marier avec moi).

Je pleure devant une telle violence, il s'énerve et me dit que je suis trop émotive. Je raccroche.

Plus de nouvelles depuis 1 semaine.

Je le vois et travaille avec lui dans quelques jours.

Comment réagir ? Et comment expliquer ça ?

Hello,

F30 ici. Je travaille depuis 3 ans dans une boîte qui a des prestas en Pologne donc je me rends 1 semaine en Pologne toutes les 5 semaines en moyenne. En février, j'ai rencontré un nouveau presta polonais avec qui j'ai étroitement travaillé toute la semaine. Il s'est passé quelque chose d'assez dingue, une sorte de connexion fulgurante, des rires, des discussions profondes dès le début.

On s'est dit qu'on se plaisait dès le 3ème jour et on s'est embrassé mais rien de plus. Je suis rentrée chez moi au bout de 1 semaine et on était très nostalgique.

De retour en France, on s'était dit qu'on irait doucement mais finalement, on s'appelait 2-3h chaque soir, on parlait de tout, on se textait toute la journée et l'attirance a grandi.

J'y suis retournée 2 semaines en avril et là, explosion. Il m'offre plein de cadeaux. Une sorte de passion dévorante, je bossais avec lui la journée et je restais chez lui le soir, on a quasi vécu ensemble pendant 2 semaines, tout était fluide et fusionnel. Il a même parlé de moi à ses amis, ses parents etc (je sais qu'il ne ment pas car on a croisé sa mère en ville lors d'un dîner et il me l'a présentée). Il me dit qu'il ressent de fortes émotions et sentiments après une longue période d'apathie. Il se livre à moi.

Au retour en France, rebelote. Longs appels, déclarations enflammées de sa part. Je devais retourner 3 semaines en Pologne pour travail + congés fin mai. Puis là, douche froide : de moins en moins de nouvelles sur plusieurs jours. Je décide de percer l'abcès au bout de 4 jours sans appel et là il me dit qu'il veut arrêter. Qu'il doit voir un psy pour pas répéter de vieux schémas. Qu'il n'a pas besoin de relation pour le moment. Qu'il me remercie pour cette douceur et ce romantisme mais qu'il a switché. Je l'appelle et lui demande des explications mais il s'énerve et me demande d'accepter sa décision. Il me dit qu'il peut pas expliquer son switch, qu'il a déjà vécu ça avec son ancienne relation, que ça n'a rien à voir avec moi et qu'il est juste comme ça.

Il me suggère d'effacer nos conversations, me dit que je ne représente plus pour rien pour lui (alors que 5 jours auparavant il me disait qu'il voulait se marier avec moi).

Je pleure devant une telle violence, il s'énerve et me dit que je suis trop émotive. Je raccroche.

Plus de nouvelles depuis 1 semaine.

Je le vois et travaille avec lui dans quelques jours.

Comment réagir ? Et comment expliquer ça ?

Hello,

F30 ici. Je travaille depuis 3 ans dans une boîte qui a des prestas en Pologne donc je me rends 1 semaine en Pologne toutes les 5 semaines en moyenne. En février, j'ai rencontré un nouveau presta polonais avec qui j'ai étroitement travaillé toute la semaine. Il s'est passé quelque chose d'assez dingue, une sorte de connexion fulgurante, des rires, des discussions profondes dès le début.

On s'est dit qu'on se plaisait dès le 3ème jour et on s'est embrassé mais rien de plus. Je suis rentrée chez moi au bout de 1 semaine et on était très nostalgique.

De retour en France, on s'était dit qu'on irait doucement mais finalement, on s'appelait 2-3h chaque soir, on parlait de tout, on se textait toute la journée et l'attirance a grandi.

J'y suis retournée 2 semaines en avril et là, explosion. Il m'offre plein de cadeaux. Une sorte de passion dévorante, je bossais avec lui la journée et je restais chez lui le soir, on a quasi vécu ensemble pendant 2 semaines, tout était fluide et fusionnel. Il a même parlé de moi à ses amis, ses parents etc (je sais qu'il ne ment pas car on a croisé sa mère en ville lors d'un dîner et il me l'a présentée). Il me dit qu'il ressent de fortes émotions et sentiments après une longue période d'apathie. Il se livre à moi.

Au retour en France, rebelote. Longs appels, déclarations enflammées de sa part. Je devais retourner 3 semaines en Pologne pour travail + congés fin mai. Puis là, douche froide : de moins en moins de nouvelles sur plusieurs jours. Je décide de percer l'abcès au bout de 4 jours sans appel et là il me dit qu'il veut arrêter. Qu'il doit voir un psy pour pas répéter de vieux schémas. Qu'il n'a pas besoin de relation pour le moment. Qu'il me remercie pour cette douceur et ce romantisme mais qu'il a switché. Je l'appelle et lui demande des explications mais il s'énerve et me demande d'accepter sa décision. Il me dit qu'il peut pas expliquer son switch, qu'il a déjà vécu ça avec son ancienne relation, que ça n'a rien à voir avec moi et qu'il est juste comme ça.

Il me suggère d'effacer nos conversations, me dit que je ne représente plus pour rien pour lui (alors que 5 jours auparavant il me disait qu'il voulait se marier avec moi).

Je pleure devant une telle violence, il s'énerve et me dit que je suis trop émotive. Je raccroche.

Plus de nouvelles depuis 1 semaine.

Je le vois et travaille avec lui dans quelques jours.

Comment réagir ? Et comment expliquer ça ?