I have $13,000 on a credit card and good credit
I would most likely get approved for 18 months 0% transfer
Is there any reason not to do it? Assuming that I will not re-run up my credit limits again, of course
For context I am in the US. I've dealt with a few narcissists before I understood what was happening. Why do all of them neglect their oral health and hygiene? If they are as grand as they believe they are, how could someone that grand have death in their gums and tooth canals. Are they too entitled and lazy to put in the effort to floss and brush and go to the dentist? Does laying in a dentist chair make them feel shame? I don't know but it's a reoccurring theme. Even my mom is like this.
I would like her to know that she's not just mentally ill, he really is lying about everything down to childhood stories and random details about others, to his finances and his credit.
She is not crazy, he is isolating her from everyone who loves and cares about her.
She's not being paranoid, he is lovebombing her to continue using her as a financial tool to pay the bills while he chases "passion projects"
She's not too sensitive, he really does hate everything about her appearance because she's not a hentai character.
I know he's abusing her similarly, although no doubt he's improved his methods.
My point in this is, he preys on women with any mental illness so that he can never be held accountable to them or if they bring it up after things end he can do a very thorough smear campaign and embellish whatever mental illness they have, and even add new ones as he thinks of them.
I feel bad for her, but I know apart of their dynamic is that she feels special and on a pedestal by triangulating against me (his evil ex he lies and smear campaigns about)
Ultimately, it's her choice to find his life and throw hers away.
Does anyone else feel like, although mania ruined their career, life, and finances, at least they obtained what therapy never gave them? Therapy ruined me for a long time because my therapist would not respond with anything helpful. She wanted me to see her endlessly as a paypig. I was her Mark.
Firstly, I don't know my classification. I was just diagnosed with drug-induced bipolar
Secondly, apart of my mania is always seeking out love and for a few months I was hypersexual in the past
Thirdly, now that I stopped my drugs* causing mania, I no longer have any sex drive. Not to mention my medication regime killing any libido.
*(SSRIs and marijuana feedback loop and then alcohol too to quiet the shame, that was my mix but ultimately the SSRIs)
Fourthly (sorry for formatting this so weird lol), now that I realize almost every single person in my entire adult life has taken advantage of me and not had good interests for me or intentions, I don't trust anyone. I am not being dramatic, I have zero family I can even text or call. And no friends, thanks to my autism plus depressive episodes, who the fuck would want me in their life.
My only person I have is my neighbor, who acted like a guardian angel, from when I was growing up. She lives about an hour away and I hope I can see her again when I get a car.
But yeah, I have no more sex drive, no trust, I HAVE ZERO SOCIAL CAPITAL (friends or social life but most importantly no family for a hypothetical boyfriend or fiancee to meet and feel welcomed by). besides my body and sex appeal, I have no social capital I mean.
I don't know where I'm going with this
So for context I've been renting a room for months and the vacant room got leased to a man who is 28. I'm 26 and a woman. He has instantly started pretending like he is into healthy diet and regular fitness, but it is clear he knows nothing about either. Even condescends to me when talking about these things to me when they are my own priorities and hobbies for the past year. I just play dumb and don't correct him.
But my point is that he has started going to the same gym as me and keeps asking me to go on hikes. He does not respect me though, he talks to me like a child, but I don't ever react so he probably can't tell I am aware.
He moved in without me getting the chance to meet him, and I wonder why he chose to live right next to a woman. I wonder if he thinks I'm trapped here (effectively trapped) and he thinks either my lease or finances will keep me here, so if he is persistent eventually I will give in and he will get to start eating my food and have free sex? I don't know. And he keeps offering me CBD oil but I told him I've had a bad relationship with THC so I'd rather not try that at all.
I guess the point of this post and my question is, how do I handle this? If I react, it makes living situation more hostile. I am upholding my boundaries by not engaging with him much and not sharing food and not getting personal about my life or my problems.
I have been living at a rental room for four months and a straight man moved in next to me. I'm most likely moving out asap. Just wondering psychologically do they "forget" to flush, leave hair trimmings everywhere, and act like they've never heard of or seen a dishwasher as a way to say "you are beneath me and have to clean my shit" or are they just this stupid??
I either have type 1 or very high strung type 2. My psychiatrist only specified that it is drug induced bipolar for my diagnosis.
I smoked a LOT of weed for about 3.5 years in early 20s. And then SSRIs made me manic.
So I got mania and psychosis through those two.
Now that I'm on meds and healthy and no more drugs of any kind or any alcohol, do you think I have permanent brain damage? 26 now.
Like when a man is being obviously patronizing and sexist but he cannot even care for himself or have a normal conversation. Do they realize how weird they look when they treat women like children when they are the ones who are not fully mentally developed at almost 30?
I [26F] have $13k in credit card debt left from my manic episode. A large chunk of the debt is from being taken advantage of from the only people had, who I thought were my "found family". I take full responsibility for it, but it is so painful and so much grieving.
I only realized how badly I've been taken advantage of in the last 6 months I've regained stability and memories coming back, and stopped the wrong medication.
Before my bipolar disorder presented itself and I had SSRI (anti depressants, in my case Lexapro and then Duoloxtine) induced hypomania for about 1.5 years, was incredibly financially responsible. I had 20k in savings at 22 and I also had a mortgage and was never late on a single payment on the mortgage or HELOC I got after (never should have gotten a HELOC but I digress)
Two separate people who were all I had in New England took advantage of me and I spent a lot of money inadvertently chasing the manic high of pleasing them. I had no idea I was being taken advantage of.
I have cleared four debt accounts, two of which were mortgages. I have this small 13k left and I will do a balance transfer soon, in the next few weeks, so no debt.
It's just so painful to know I'm losing so many hours and money and a life I could have had because no one protected me. I take responsibility, but it is so so painful to do so.
I have level 1 autism spectrum disorder diagnosed and it has been very challenging since moving here alone as I do not have any support system
Does Vancouver have any sort of nonprofit to help adults living independently with mental disabilities?
I am sorry if this is not allowed. I know it's a very emotional post about my personal debt payoffs and financial abuse. And mental illness.
I only realized how badly I've been taken advantage of in the last 6 months I've regained stability and memories coming back, and stopped the wrong medication.
Before my bipolar disorder presented itself and I had SSRI (anti depressants, in my case Lexapro and then Duoloxtine) induced hypomania for about 1.5 years, was incredibly financially responsible. I had 20k in savings at 22 and I also had a mortgage and was never late on a single payment on the mortgage or HELOC I got after (never should have gotten a HELOC but I digress)
Two separate people who were all I had in New England took advantage of me and I spent a lot of money inadvertently chasing the manic high of pleasing them. I had no idea I was being taken advantage of.
I have cleared four debt accounts, two of which were mortgages. I have this small 13k left and I will do a balance transfer soon, in the next few weeks, so no debt.
It's just so painful to know I'm losing so many hours and money and a life I could have had because no one protected me. I take responsibility, but it is so so painful to do so.
Sorry for the long title I just don't know how to know my true BMR when I'm working out so much
Is natural better for us with extreme kp?
Shout out guy who always wears a green shirt and shorts 😩🌸💖
I have been renting an empty room in my landlord's house and someone else finally rented the room next to me.
I have no idea why he chose to move in here knowing that he's living next to a woman, using the same bathroom, and the same shared computer area workspace. I have never seen him brush his teeth and he leaves pee all around the toilet. I think he's testing my boundaries to see if I'll avoid conflict and clean up after him indefinitely. He has already started making passes at me and I've posted about this yesterday.
While I am working he will get into the workspace shares area I've been using for three months since living here and he will start gaming and talking loudly into his headset mic. It's only been a week. The first day I met him was the day he was moving in, and he literally did that to me the first day I was working. And when I joined a call I thought he'd instinctively mute his mic and stop talking but he got even louder. So I now have to work in my bedroom whenever he's home so I can join calls and focus.
I have started bleaching the bathroom shower before every single use. And the toilet.
Today the toilet still had piss and there were skid marks on the back of the seat.
My question is how do I handle this? Do I really have to tell a grown man who is a few years older than me how to do something I learned in kindergarten? I'm aghast
I'm basically thousands further in debt from fake friends and acquatinaces
I wasted an additional two years of my life because those closest to me did not encourage me to get help because I was benefiting them while manic with my time resources and money
Please stop convincing yourself that there is any love with others when they ghost you when your mania ends or if they are using you as a resource (mainly money, but in any way)
I never was able to find a social worker in my rural area but after two years of setting myself back in every way, I was able to move back to a safe area after two years and no more parasites ruining my life
I'm sorry for the dumb question but my credit score was quite bad and after paying my house loans I'm instantly getting offers for balance transfers. I got a 21 month wells fargo offer in the mail for 0% apr with a transfer. I'm going to apply but just wanted to see if anyone has any additional anecdotal info
I'm a straight trans woman and at 26, now that I'm fully medicated from the bipolar episode I had right when I turned 25 and I understand how to manage mania, I am no longer attracted to anyone
I was strictly attracted to men before, but I don't find anyone attractive now that I don't have any dopamine from anything. All I have is a stable baseline and then energy from adderall. No more hypomania or any natural dopamine from anything. It's more a matter of fear driving me to function at this moment in time. Fear of another episode
I should say, Abilify and lamotrogine were both being taken at once by me at one point due to an extreme regimen I was on. Plus max dosages of every SSRI you can think of at different times by terrible doctors. Ugh
I don't know if the lack of romantic interest and libido is because I'm fully transitioned and no more testosterome production or because I have emotionally blunted myself through being medically mistreated with the wrong meds (Abilify and SSRIs that gave me hypomania), depression, and now being properly medicated for ADHD so I don't hyper focus and use romance as escapism anymore
I don't know I've just made so many mistakes from bipolar in the last few years and now that I'm stable I don't think there's any point to date.even though I used to be obsessed with love