u/HungryIngenuity7665

Hello cis people. My FTM flatmate has smartly stockpiled his Evil and Dangerous Testosterone, and has extra he wants to share with his FTM boyfriend, who has never had hormones in his body before.

The FTMfriend is on a waiting list for testosterone which will take one bajillion years, so he should just wait.

I know I will never understand gender dysphoria, but how do I tell them not to do it??? I WILL NOT LET THEM RISK HIS LIFE AND SIT IDLY BY AS IT HAPPENS!!!!! Testosterone WILL kill you without a doctor. I’m afraid they will go behind my back!!! Help!!!!

No I have not considered minding my own business. Thank you normals

“”””””””””Boy””””””””” with BOUJAYNA who looks TWELVE YEARS old STUNS service worker making SMALL (like Her) talk by revealing She is a RESEARCH ASSISTANT at UNIVERSITY.

Service worker visibly regrets calling HER “junior” earlier. More at 7

We’re both mostly subs, though I’m the switchier one between us. We are long-term monogamous.

Recently, I’ve requested acts with me submitting that are a lot more intense than they are comfortable with. I’m a masochist, and enjoy physical/emotional pain to feel catharsis. They are not comfortable with hurting me (i.e. giving physical blows or verbally hurting my feelings). They’ve verbally degraded me in scenes to the extent they’re comfortable with, but I always wish it could be more intense.

I won’t push the above any further with them. However, they’re very service-oriented, and I know they would like to fulfill my emotional wants in a scene if they can. I explained “catharsis” to them, but we’re both at a loss for how we can achieve it in a way they’re comfortable with.

I’m just at a loss for what we can try.

TLDR: I like getting beaten up for emotional release, partner isn’t comfortable with that. What are alternatives to get a similar outcome?

Thanks for any advice.

Prefacing by saying I know I messed up and I should have figured this out sooner. I would really just appreciate some honest advice.

I (18M) have been with my partner (19NB) for over two years, without my parents’ knowledge. We became friends during lockdown at 13/14, and most of our communication was online. I was not allowed to have texting apps. Long story short, my parents found out, saw some raunchy messages they sent (as teenagers do), called them “dangerous” for that reason, and banned me from speaking to them.

I never stopped speaking to them or their friends. We started “dating” at 16/17. Most of our relationship has been online, despite living in the same city. However, I’ve seen them behind my parents’ back regularly. I have directly lied to them on several occasions about where I would be and who I was going out with.

I really feel awful about not telling my parents sooner. I was afraid that telling them would end the closest relationship I have. They have nothing against me dating (and have been worried that I “haven’t dated anyone” at my age), but I know they will be devastated to hear it’s been without their knowledge. I regret being so deceitful. My partner and I have discussed marriage after we finish university, if everything works out. I really want to keep this relationship, and stop shutting out my parents.

I don’t drink, don’t party, have two jobs, and I’m set to make the Dean’s List at school. I like to think that I’ve been an ideal kid aside from this one big hiccup.

Is there anything I can do to “soften the blow” of this news? How can I even start with this? Not to avoid getting flack, because I know I deserve it. I just really hope they can come around to this relationship, and I don’t want to continue hurting them with it. Thank you for any help.

Prefacing by saying I know I messed up and I should have figured this out sooner. I would really just appreciate some honest advice.

I (18M) have been with my partner (19NB) for over two years, without my parents’ knowledge. We became friends during lockdown at 13/14, and most of our communication was online. I was not allowed to have texting apps. Long story short, my parents found out, saw some raunchy messages they sent (as teenagers do), called them “dangerous” for that reason, and banned me from speaking to them.

I never stopped speaking to them or their friends. We started “dating” at 16/17. Most of our relationship has been online, despite living in the same city. However, I’ve seen them behind my parents’ back regularly. I have directly lied to them on several occasions about where I would be and who I was going out with.

I really feel awful about not telling my parents sooner. I was afraid that telling them would end the closest relationship I have. They have nothing against me dating (and have been worried that I “haven’t dated anyone” at my age), but I know they will be devastated to hear it’s been without their knowledge. I regret being so deceitful. My partner and I have discussed marriage after we finish university, if everything works out. I really want to keep this relationship, and stop shutting out my parents.

I don’t drink, don’t party, have two jobs, and I’m set to make the Dean’s List at school. I like to think that I’ve been an ideal kid aside from this one big hiccup.

Is there anything I can do to “soften the blow” of this news? How can I even start with this? Not to avoid getting flack, because I know I deserve it. I just really hope they can come around to this relationship, and I don’t want to continue hurting them with it. I would appreciate parents’ perspectives, because I don’t know what would help mine to hear. Thank you for any help.

Much love to anyone who likes the term for themselves. I’m happy for you.

But oh my fucking god, when did it become acceptable to say this to any real person? I was outed by a friend to an acquaintance yesterday because he said this to me. I don’t pass to generally trans-aware people, but at least let the new guy figure it out for himself.

I’m not a “t-boy.” I have never called myself that or been ok with people calling me that. I’m a grown man. I have two jobs. I may be small but I’m sure as hell not dainty. Sure, I have swag, but it’s not because I’m trans.

What happened to just saying “your outfit is cool”?

Hey guys. I’ve been on T for four months, and I’m feeling a lot of relief from my dysphoria so far. I got home from university a couple weeks ago, and have so far been dressing as a “normal guy” around my parents. They’ve been questioning/challenging my need for HRT and my dysphoria, since I like alternative fashion and don’t have super masculine mannerisms. I’m genderfluid as well as a man, but I’ve been repressing that part around them to be taken seriously.

Anyway, I’m trying to build up the confidence to dress more feminine around them. I just hate being undermined like that for it.

Any advice, similar experiences, hell even a small pep talk would be really appreciated. Hoping I’m not alone in this group. Thanks :)