u/Famous_Heart1260

I honestly just need to vent because I feel like I’m losing my mind over this.

My parents originally promised me we would stay where we are for 8 years before moving. Then it got changed to 4 years. Now suddenly they’re saying we might move in about a year, and it’s all because of my dad’s job.

I’m still in school and next year is my final year. Like… the last year I get with my friends, my routine, my life here. I was finally feeling stable and excited to finish school in the place I grew up in.

I also have my own basement suite here that I finally made into my space. It’s the only place I really feel like myself. And now they’re basically saying I’ll lose that too.

What hurts the most is that I didn’t choose any of this, but it feels like my entire life is being decided for me anyway. Every time I start getting used to the idea of staying, the timeline changes again, and I’m just expected to adjust like it’s nothing.

My mom also doesn’t have a good relationship with our relatives here, so staying behind isn’t really an option either. And where they want to move (British Columbia) is so expensive for housing that it feels like everything is just stress on top of stress.

I know my dad’s job is the reason, but it doesn’t make it hurt less. It feels like I’m about to lose my home, my last year of school, my independence, and basically everything I’ve built here all at once.

I just feel powerless in my own life right now.

Lately I (21 F) have been feeling really off with my boyfriend (20 M).

The other day I was crying because I thought he was mad at me, and instead of comforting me he said, “I’m not gonna comfort you for something I didn’t even do.” That honestly hurt so much because I wasn’t trying to blame him I just needed reassurance.

Even after we had sex, I tried to cuddle and be close, and he pulled away saying it was too hot and went to the front seat. It made me feel kind of rejected, especially because I just wanted a bit of closeness after.

Whenever I try to bring things up or ask what’s wrong, he gets defensive or mad. It makes me feel like I can’t even communicate without it turning into something negative. Now I feel tense around him, like I have to be careful what I say.

The worst part is I can feel myself changing. I used to be really warm and affectionate, and now I feel like I’m shutting down and becoming more distant just to protect myself.

He did text me after saying “I’m sorry for worrying you, I love you so much,” but it still doesn’t really fix how things feel in the moment.

I don’t know if I’m being too sensitive or if this is actually a problem. I just know I don’t feel as safe or comforted as I want to in a relationship.

Has anyone dealt with something like this? Am I expecting too much or is this a red flag?

Lately I’ve been feeling really off with my boyfriend. The other day I was crying because I thought he was mad at me, and instead of comforting me he said, “I’m not gonna comfort you for something I didn’t even do.” That honestly hurt so much because I wasn’t trying to blame him, I just needed reassurance.

Even after we had sex, I tried to cuddle and be close, and he pulled away saying it was too hot and went to the front seat. It made me feel kind of rejected, especially because I just wanted a bit of closeness after.

Whenever I try to bring things up or ask what’s wrong, he gets defensive or mad. It makes me feel like I can’t even communicate without it turning into something negative. Now I feel tense around him, like I have to be careful what I say.

The worst part is I can feel myself changing. I used to be really warm and affectionate, and now I feel like I’m shutting down and becoming more distant just to protect myself.

He did text me after saying “I’m sorry for worrying you, I love you so much,” but it still doesn’t really fix how things feel in the moment.

I don’t know if I’m being too sensitive or if this is actually a problem. I just know I don’t feel as safe or comforted as I want to in a relationship.

TL;DR: Has anyone dealt with something like this? Am I expecting too much or is this a red flag?

Lately I’ve been feeling really off with my boyfriend. The other day I was crying because I thought he was mad at me, and instead of comforting me he said, “I’m not gonna comfort you for something I didn’t even do.” That honestly hurt so much because I wasn’t trying to blame him I just needed reassurance.

Even after we had sex, I tried to cuddle and be close, and he pulled away saying it was too hot and went to the front seat. It made me feel kind of rejected, especially because I just wanted a bit of closeness after.

Whenever I try to bring things up or ask what’s wrong, he gets defensive or mad. It makes me feel like I can’t even communicate without it turning into something negative. Now I feel tense around him, like I have to be careful what I say.

The worst part is I can feel myself changing. I used to be really warm and affectionate, and now I feel like I’m shutting down and becoming more distant just to protect myself.

He did text me after saying “I’m sorry for worrying you, I love you so much,” but it still doesn’t really fix how things feel in the moment.

I don’t know if I’m being too sensitive or if this is actually a problem. I just know I don’t feel as safe or comforted as I want to in a relationship.

Has anyone dealt with something like this? Am I expecting too much or is this a red flag?

I’m (21F) and my boyfriend is also Indian. I’ve been noticing that his family calls him pretty often when we’re together and expects him to come home or do things right away. Like we’ll be out and he’ll suddenly have to leave because they need him for something.

I get that family is a big deal in our culture, but sometimes it feels like there aren’t really boundaries, and it kind of affects our time together. It also makes me feel a bit weird because I’m not used to that level of involvement.

He says he doesn’t want to cause issues at home, so he just listens and goes, which I understand but it still ends up impacting us.

Is this normal in other Indian households? How do people usually handle this without it turning into a bigger issue?

I’m (21F) and my boyfriend is around the same age. I feel like I’m usually the one initiating anything sexual, and a lot of the time he either isn’t in the mood or kind of shuts it down. It’s starting to make me feel a bit unwanted or like I’m doing something wrong.

I’ve always kind of thought guys have higher sex drives, so this is confusing for me. I don’t expect it all the time, but I do want to feel desired and like he’s into me too.

He says he’s been stressed with school and finding a job, so I don’t know if that’s the main reason or if it’s just how he is.

Is this normal? Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you handle it?