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Leg hair- help!!! I have sensory sensitivity and don't like body hair BUT I always get multiple miserable razor cuts. Have tried every single kind of razor and gel. I self care, spray, exfoliate, creams, take my time, warm water, all the things. Waxing requires you to leave your leg hair for like a month first right? I can't do it. Lazer seems ouch and expensive. Please, lay your tips and help on me 🙏💞💞

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Ladies, leg hair- help!!! I have sensory sensitivity and don't like body hair BUT I always get multiple miserable razor cuts. Have tried every single kind of razor and gel. I self care, spray, exfoliate, creams, take my time, warm water, all the things. Waxing requires you to leave your leg hair for like a month first right? I can't do it. Lazer seems ouch and expensive. Please ladies, lay your tips and help on me 🙏💞💞

I’m struggling and don’t know what the best next step is here.

For context, I’ve been withdrawn from my family as my sister cut me out of her life with no warning or reason for the last several years and parents were neutral to backing this decision. My sister is now getting married, and although she has not spoken to me in three years, I wanted to be at her wedding (but felt like there were some significant barriers to attending). ** Please view my original post here: https://www.reddit.com/r/WhatShouldIDo/s/GOw2m0adIv **

I recently sent my parents and sister a carefully thought-out email. I explained that I’m struggling mentally/emotionally with the situation, but that I want to celebrate my sister and was trying to figure out how to attend in a way that felt safe and manageable. I asked for understanding and support in finding a path forward, and for their help. I felt my communication was respectful with a hopeful tone.

Knowing my family, I wasn’t expecting full understanding, but just hoped for some openness, maybe a conversation, maybe even a compromise like attending only the ceremony. Time and time again, they stayed how they want me to do the right thing by attending, how much it would mean to them, and how they love me and want me there. Seems like that was all flowery fake language at this point.

Instead, I got a very brief joint email from my parents and sister saying:

“Dear [ my name], it is clear from your lengthy and heartfelt email that you feel you cannot emotionally, mentally, socially or physically take on being in attendance at [sister’s name] shower and wedding. We accept this to be the case, although you will be missed.”

The problem is that I never actually said couldn’t or wouldn't attend. I said I was trying to process things so I could attend.

Their response was ice to me. I'm shook. I feel really hurt. Just completely ovehrememd and devastated.

Now I don’t know what to do next. Do I send a gift from the nephews, give a short email that I respect their message but was never declining at this juncture, stop engaging full stop, other ideas?

Y'all the only way I can get to sleep, stay asleep, and not have nightmares is to be one percent high and take weed.

It's legal here.

I do the spray.

Am I addicted at this point... Is there such thing as weed withdrawal... Am I screwed

This is not what you think it is.

I was a virgin until I was in my 20s. Then was only with my spouse until the marriage dissolved due to him being abusive.

I joined a dating app to F.

Thinking I would feel sinful and evil OR empowered and amazing... But instead I just kinda felt flat.

I F'd 19 year old jocks and grey foxes and everything in-between, but nothing made me feel super condemned or super elated.

Is there some sort of epiphany I'm supposed to be getting from having a sl** phase??... Caus I'm not having it.

F 36

Don't ask stupid questions.

Stupid questions include anything in the title of my post, and what are you doing.

I'm not going to respond to people who don't introduce themselves. Don't worry cutie, you can give me your fake name but bare minimum say hello with your age and country.

Platonic

19-49

Peace and love vibes

My BF is unavailable.

I feel lonely as have no friends.

Just work and children repeat and rinse.

Help!!!!

I don't care for memes, hunting, fishing, politics, horror, video games, dogs.

There's something special about the chemistry of a good old pal!!!

I don't care where you're from but please converse properly and be 20+.

Peace ✌️💜

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Must be 20+

Must be kind

Platonic

I'm a Momma so if that's a problem, bye bye

I equally enjoy laughter and deep chats.

Was thinking to delete reddit due to overwhelm but I appreciate connection with hopefully a bff.

The world is both vast and tiny.

Do you think we are getting smarter or stupider?

What's your favourite colour?

Peace and love along your way wherever you may be

Must be 20+

Must be kind

Platonic

I'm a Momma so if that's a problem, bye bye

I equally enjoy laughter and deep chats.

Was thinking to delete reddit due to overwhelm but I appreciate connection with hopefully a bff.

The world is both vast and tiny.

Do you think we are getting smarter or stupider?

What's your favourite colour?

Peace and love along your way wherever you may be

My sister cut me entirely out of her life one day several years ago without warning and without reason. (She is F 34, and I F 36).

I had been continuously messaging her, such as with pictures of her nephews, but she kept not responding. I thought she was busy at first, but then it became months and it was clear she was just never going to answer me. Subsequently, I attempted to meet up but she was still ghosting me.

I offered to meet and she can tell me why she ended our relationship so abruptly without reason... Maybe I did something which hurt her deeply either in adult years or as a child and I just don't know. But she refused to meet.

I asked my parents why, and they said it's their value system not to get involved.

We never had a huge fight, nor were there any negative incidents between us.

After not hearing from my sister in basically three years, I got the save the date for her wedding in the mail, followed by an email stating that I was not going to be in her bridal party, despite her being my maid of honour. To which admittedly I didn't respond as I was way too hurt. However, I did send her an engagement gift from the nephews.

Later I received her wedding invitation in the mail.

My sister emailed me to say she needs an answer to her wedding invitation to finalize numbers in a day. I replied to her that I need to have a reason provided as to why she cut me out of her life as that is my major personal barrier in being able to attend her wedding.

My sister did not reply, instead my parents broke their own value system to intercede and reply to me via email that they would like me to attend etc. I then replied to my parents, why is my sister not talking to me directly and that I am awaiting a reply from her.

My parents then emailed me again to state a lot of inaccuracies and that I shouldn't be giving ultimatums and I should suck it up and just attend no matter what.

I am thinking about offering to meet with my sister and a therapist prior to the wedding so I can hopefully have the barrier removed and hear her out with a professional neutral party.

Other than that, I really don't know where to go on this or what to do.

I know you only get one family but I have a lot of trauma and an anxiety disorder. I almost died during my sister's ghosting period, she did not reach out. My child was in the sick kids hospital for a long time, she did not reach out. My parents and her share a very off co-dependency dynamic. For instance, paying for her apartment rental yet her still living at home with them. Or them flying to Europe for their anniversary and my sister joining them there.

Now I'm in a position where my parents are speaking on behalf of my sister demanding an answer in one day.

I really don't feel like I can just show up to her wedding without an answer as to why I was completely cut out and throw on a fake smile after being hurt so deeply, in addition to my anxiety disorder. Yet not going entails my family villainizing me, and potentially releasing a false narrative to family and friends.

Thanks a lot in advance for your help 🙏💕